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These 7 Words Can Change Your Life

I did not know what I wanted to do with my life.

It was my senior year of college and most of my peers seemed to know what their plans were post-graduation. Some planned to go to grad school and others planned to enter the workforce. No matter what path they were choosing, most seemed to know what field of work and career path they wanted to pursue. Some had internships lined up and others were already interviewing for jobs. But not me. Nope, I had no clue what I wanted to do.

I started my college career as a double major; majoring in music with an emphasis in voice and psychology. Half-way through, I decided to drop one of my majors and focus on one. I chose psychology, because although I loved music, I knew that with my lack of knowing what career I really wanted to pursue, majoring in Psychology would give me flexibility to take my time to decide and to go in multiple directions. Well, that worked out well since the 2nd semester of my senior year arrived and I still didn’t have a clue what I would do.

Fast forward to December of 2016 when I attended a 3 day workshop called Publish a Book and Grow Rich. Y’all, I thought I was going to learn about publishing a book and getting rich, and don’t get me wrong, I did learn about that but I walked away with knowledge of something I’d never thought twice about. Not only that, but it was the beginning of me discovering both my passion and purpose in life. I mean when I first arrived at the event, I had no desire to write and publish another book. However, that weekend, the speaker who taught us, provided a lot of life changing information about mindset. Mindset. That was a term I wasn’t really familiar with. Of course I’d heard the word thrown around before, but I never studied it in depth or learned what it really meant, let alone how it worked.

That weekend changed my life. While I learned valuable tools and techniques for developing and transforming your mindset and achieving your goals, it was 7 words that were spoken time and time again. I will never forget those 7 words, because it was those 7 words that changed the trajectory of my life. It gave me a sense of direction and purpose. Those 7 words can change your life as well, IF you really grasp the meaning behind them.

Mindset is one of the most simple yet complex terms I’ve ever come to know. It sounds so simple, that many people don’t think twice about its meaning. Like literally, we have the power to create our future and our realities simply by the thoughts we think and the words we speak. I mean who hasn’t heard cliches like, “be careful what you think, your thoughts run your life,” “words have power” and “death and life is in the power of the tongue.” I mean these are cliche’s that are not only preached in pulpits, but their taught among atheists and agnostics as well. While the concept is biblical, its popular among those who aren’t into religion at all. It’s so cliche’ that we as humanity, just don’t consider it as much as we should. I mean if we did, most of us wouldn’t complain half as much as we do right?

Those 7 words changed my life, because I began to study and train myself to become more aware and careful of the kind of thoughts I allow myself to think consistently. The more I practiced, the easier it became. Oh trust, I still complain and I’m not always positive. But, it’s amazing how far I’ve come and the results that I’ve seen manifest in my life is all the motivation I need to continue. I’ve become so much more confident and happy in life, ever since I took control of my mindset. The key to changing your life, is changing your mindset. Of course, there’s more to it than that. But, your mindset is the best place to start. Take back your power and realize that negative people and situations only have as much power as you allow them to have. They only have power to influence your mindset. You set the limits and determine how it impacts you.

What you think about, you bring about. Let those words change your life. Whatever you think about consistently, that is what you are attracting into your life. Those words changed my life because I changed the thoughts that I was thinking consistently. I began to focus my thoughts on what I wanted in my life and I began to see those things manifest. Seeing how the information I learned at that 3 day workshop impacted my life, inspired me to want to share that life changing information with others – for a living. It inspired my 3rd book, Empower You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind” and my first business ( I’ll tell you about that later!)

This week I challenge you to pull up YouTube on your phone and watch a few videos on Mindset and the power of your thoughts. And, find a way to practice becoming more aware of your thoughts and focus points throughout the day and to practice changing those negative thought patterns to more positive ones. You can do this through meditation and journaling. As always, feel free to share your thoughts below in the comments & share with someone who needs this!

4 Steps to Clarify What You Want in Life

Are you feeling confused about which direction to take in life? Do you know what you really want in life? I am about to share with you the 4 steps that you need to take to clarify what you really want.

Before you set any goal, before you create any plan of action, you first need to identify what it is that you really want. So, I am going to walk you through the steps to clarify what it is that you really want. That way, you don’t waste time taking unnecessary steps or investing in something that you don’t really want to invest in. We only get one life on earth, so let’s make the most of it!

The reason so many people feel stuck and lack a sense of direction in life is because they have not taken time to get clear about what they really want. Sure, they have a few ideas that sound good, but rarely are those ideas their own. Instead, they are ideas that other people have projected onto them, as innocently as “hey, I think you’d be great at such and such..” But, when it’s all said and done, it’s not really what he/she is passionate about. It’s not really what they want to do. So, the real question is, how do you identify exactly what it is that you want to do? What do you want to spend your time doing most? Because, let’s face it, it’s easy to get caught up in what sounds good or looks good on paper, only to soon find yourself unhappy. A common example of this is in the work place. I mean, how many people are really, honestly and truly happy with their career? How many people wake up without dreading what they’re about to spend the next 8 or so hours of their life doing? Not enough.

My hope is that you are not one of them. Not only that, but I want you to know that, that doesn’t have to be your story. It is possible, that you can wake up every day, looking forward to the days endeavors. But first, you’ve got to get clear about what you really want. And then, you can go about setting a goal and creating a plan that will give you the best possible shot at achieving what you want to achieve.

The 1rst step to clarifying what you want is to confront everything you think you want. This includes everything people have told you that you should do and want for yourself, etc. To do this, I encourage you to get in a quiet place, with a note pad (paper or on your cellphone or laptop) and create a list of everything that comes to mind. Try not to think too hard about it. Once you are done creating your list, get up and do something else.. Go wash the dishes, go for a walk, make a phone call.. Just do something else, but keep your mind off of the list. Once you’re done, go back and re-read your list. Accept what is on the list as “what was.” After you’ve done this, either throw away the list or delete it completely. Hopefully, you’ll find that you feel “free” of what you wrote down.

The 2nd step is to meditate. You have several options for this. You can do a meditation on your own, or you can go on YouTube and find a guided meditation to follow. You can also opt to download an app such as Calm or HeadSpace. Also, the meditation doesn’t have to be long. I’d suggest doing 5 to 15 minutes or however long you need. The point of taking this step is to clear your mind and to regain control of your thoughts.

The 3rd step is to complete a visualization exercise. Now, I have a specific visualization exercise that I will be using with my coaching clients. However, you can find many guided visualization exercises on YouTube. One that I recommend using can be found HERE. Completing a visualization exercise is an important step, because this is where you have a blank canvas and begin to dig deep and create your dream life. You, in a sense, use your imagination to create your ideal future, what that that looks like. You envision what you really want in a world where anything is possible and there are no limitations.

Note: In step one, you are confronting limiting thought/beliefs and releasing them. In step two, your’e creating a blank canvas. Step three is where you will discover and create. Then, you should be ready to identify what needs to be done to make your dream become your reality.

Step 4 is to write the vision and make it plain. This is where you transfer what you saw in your imagination onto paper. There are different ways that you can do this, however, two of my favorite ways are 1) Journaling and 2) Scripting. If you choose to journal, you are going to approach this as a freestyle activity. What I mean by this, is that you’re going to write about what you want freely. There is no particular structure to follow. Whereas, with scripting, you’re going to write as if it is happening in that very moment. So, you’ll say things like “I am” and “I have.” And, this is where you’ll begin to manifest what you want. The key to this step, whether you’re journaling or scripting, is to emotionally connect to what it is that you’re writing. Get in touch, using your senses and describe them in your journal/script. And, as you re-read what you’ve written, be sure to feel the emotions as if you already have what you want, as if you’re already living that life.

Once you have completed the 4rth step, you can choose to save or delete what you have written. But, after you’ve re-read it, put it away and walk away. Piggy-backing off of step one, you’ll want to release the desire into the atmosphere and trust God with it. Later, you can come back and set a strategic goal, create a plan of action and begin taking the necessary steps to make it happen!

As always, feel free to share your thoughts below!

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Hi, my name is Kezia Marie and I am your Goal Success Coach.
My mission is to empower you to clarify, set and slay your goals!

I’m Kezia Marie and I am an empowerment author, spoken word poet and Behavior Health Technician. In 2015, I graduated from Grand Canyon University with my Bachelor’s degree in Psychology. I’ve been working in the behavior health field for 3+ years. Initially, I started out working with adults diagnosed with Serious Mental Illness and I’ve worked for the past 2 years with at risk youth ages 10 – 18. I am also a certified life and solution-focused coach. I am the author of Brokennedy (Broken and Needy), Shout out to the World: The Spoken Words of a Floetic Soul and Empower  You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind.

I am launching my mindset & goal success coaching program in the Spring of 2020. However, I am now looking for 4 clients to test drive this new program. And, you know what the best part is? It’s FREE. All that is required is your time & commitment.

There are only 4 spots open. The first 4 clients to enroll will receive a hard copy of my Set Goals & Slay Workbook and up to 8 complimentary coaching sessions. Clients may choose from the following areas: Passion + Purpose, Goal Setting Strategy, Mindset Mentoring or a Laser session. More details about each program can be found at HERE.

Vision of Set Goals & Slay Coaching LLC.

To see women successfully pursue their goals, live their dream and to ultimately live their life operating in their God given purpose.

Mission of Set Goals & Slay Coaching LLC.

To empower women to set goals and slay through mindset and goal success coaching; by way of teaching strategies to: shift mindsets from a negative to a positive success mindset, to identify one’s passion and life purpose, to set strategic goals, to create a plan of action and to identify and breakthrough limiting beliefs.

My mission as a coach is to empower you and assist you in clarifying, setting and achieving your goals.

Coaching Services and Packages

Discovery Call

During this call, we will discuss the clients’ aspirations, passion + purpose and will identify limitations/limiting beliefs. We will discuss the Set Goals & Slay Coaching’s mission, programs and whether or not one the programs is a good fit for the client. We will also discuss whether or not the client would like to move forward with a program.

Passion and Purpose Discovery Sessions

30 minute to 1 hour session(s) in which the client and I will discuss and work through various worksheets, activities and strategies that will guide them in the discovery of his/her passion. Upon the discovery of client’s passion and purpose, we will brainstorm various ways to connect that passion and purpose together. Also, we will identify various volunteer, career and entrepreneurship opportunities that will allow the client to do what they love while generating an income. Additionally, as coach, I will assist each client in creating a plan of action, so that they can begin to pursue their new opportunity of choice. I will be an accountability partner for each client by checking in weekly to discuss progress and to address any concerns that they may have along their journey to living their dream(s).

Goal Setting Sessions

30 minute to 1 hour sessions(s) in which I will work with each client to set strategic goals, create a plan of action, identify and breakthrough limitations and limiting beliefs. I will be an accountability partner for each client by checking in weekly to discuss progress and to address any questions and concerns that they may have along their journey of pursuing their goals and living their dream(s).

Mindset Mentoring

30 minute to 1 hour session(s) in which I will work with each client to develop a positive, success “growth” mindset. I will do this by sharing various strategies that will challenge negative mindsets and provoke change in perception of circumstances, which will have a direct effect on their behavior.

I can’t wait to begin working with you!
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How I Overcame Shyness

Growing up, I was extremely shy. In grade school, I would not say a word to teachers or peers. I would literally nod my head or point in response to a question. Because I refused to talk, I didn’t make friends, so I was always alone. Not only that, but I ended up being bullied by peers, in their attempt to get me to talk. Needless to say, those attempts didn’t work. I simply would run away or physically fight back and after school, sometimes, I would cry.

I didn’t begin to come out of my shell until middle school. By then, I was verbally responsive, making friends and participating in after school clubs. In high school, I was still pretty quiet, but I managed to make a few friends and participated in activities that forced me to speak up. It was during my Sophomore year of high school that I discovered my love for spoken word poetry. I always say that spoken word poetry gave me the courage to say everything I’d been to afraid to say. I went on to perform and tied for 1rst place in the talent show Junior year. I continued to write and perform spoken word as a way to express myself through college and post graduation. It was through that, that I found courage, and discovered my desire to motivate people and a love for socializing and being on stage.

As you can imagine, people who saw me step on stage, performing spoken word for the first time were surprised. That is a common response of those who were used to the shy girl, who never talked. I am blessed to have found the courage to step out and share what I am most passionate about with others. No longer does shyness hold me back from doing what requires me to be social and at the forefront.

If you are shy and find that your shyness is hindering you from putting yourself out there, I want you to know that it is possible to overcome! I want you to know exactly what I did to overcome my shyness.

The way that I was able to overcome my shyness, step on stage and perform spoken word without a hint of nervousness, was by doing this: shifting my mindset. I know, all I talk about it mindset, but hear me out on this one.

It all began with a shift in focus & perspective. When your mindset changes, your perspective “thoughts & beliefs” change. My thoughts and beliefs about me performing poetry that I’d written changed. I focused all of my attention and nervous energy on the message and purpose of the poem and the reason why I wanted to perform spoken word. I wrote poetry to share my story and to inspire people. I knew that in order to do that, I would have to perform at my best. I knew that if I let my nervousness take over, it would distract the audience from really hearing what I had to say. I believed that what I had to say was important and that I had to put shyness, doubt, fear and insecurity to the side. The purpose behind my desire became bigger and more important than my fears. I shifted my mindset and then I took action, leaving no room for negativity. I overcame shyness and found courage to do what I love, by doing THAT every time.

To this day, whenever I have to speak or perform in front of a group of people, I remind myself of the purpose. I focus all of my attention on that! For me, it works like magic. You know what, I tend to be less nervous the larger an audience tends to be. My guess, is that mentally, the sense of urgency increases for me, because there are more people who will hear what I have to say, more people to inspire. If you struggle with shyness, try shifting your focus. Share your thoughts in the comments below!

How to Get Unstuck

Have you ever felt stuck in multiple OR every area of your life ALL at once?

At the beginning of 2019 I set my goals and I was determined to slay each and every of them! And you know what, I started off strong. First 3 months, I was killing it. April came, and I began to lose momentum. May came I began to feel stuck, but kept pushing! And, then June came and well, I’ve just been feeling plain stuck, in every area of my life. Now, if that is not discouraging, I don’t know what is.

Now, there are a variety of things you can do to help you get unstuck. You can exercise, meditate, take a vacation, journal, etc. All of those things can be helpful in getting unstuck. But, what I want to share with you today is that “feeling stuck” is like a symptom to a bigger problem. So, think of the above examples as ways to treat the symptom and what I am about to share with you as a way to treat the root of the issue!

1) You’re feeling stuck. And, that’s okay. Everyone experiences this at some point in their life. The first thing I want you to realize, is that feeling stuck, is just that. It is a feeling. It is not an accurate indication of where you actually are. If you’ve been making moves, putting in work, taking actions steps to achieve your goals, then you are not stuck. Even if you’ve just been going round and round in circles. No matter how it feels, you are not stuck!

2) Okay, so you’re probably thinking, if I’m not stuck then, where am I? You are in transition. You are in unfamiliar territory. You are in route. Regardless of where you are, you are not where you began and if you’re feeling stuck, then you’re likely not where you desire to be. So, you need to make sure that you have a clear vision of where you would like to be. To do this, I would suggest meditation to clear your mind and a visualization exercise to get a clear picture of where you want to be.

3) After you’ve taken time to identify and clarify where you want to be, then it is time to re-create the plan. If you have set goals without an action plan, that could be a reason why you are feeling stuck. If you have a plan, but are struggling to execute the steps along the way, that could be why you are feeling stuck. So, I need you to know that it is okay to stop and re-calibrate. It is okay to re-adjust, to re-create the plan and to align. Go back and see what is not working, why it is not working and try something else! What you do today should be in alignment with what you desire to manifest tomorrow.

4) Do something different. If you keep doing what you’ve always done, chances are, you will continue to generate the same results. The point of re-creating your plan, is to ensure that you do something different. Take a risk. Step outside of your comfort zone. Stop waiting for a perfect time or to feel a certain way and just go for it!

5) Be consistent. Remember that feeling stuck is just a “feeling.” You won’t feel that way forever. Keep moving in the direction of your dreams, and eventually you will get there. And, remember this: Everything is not always as it appears to be on the surface, and if the challenges are increasing, then you’re probably closer than you think!

Share your thoughts below. I’d love to know what you think!