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Hi, my name is Kezia Marie and I am your Goal Success Coach.
My mission is to empower you to clarify, set and slay your goals!

I’m Kezia Marie and I am an empowerment author, spoken word poet and Behavior Health Technician. In 2015, I graduated from Grand Canyon University with my Bachelor’s degree in Psychology. I’ve been working in the behavior health field for 3+ years. Initially, I started out working with adults diagnosed with Serious Mental Illness and I’ve worked for the past 2 years with at risk youth ages 10 – 18. I am also a certified life and solution-focused coach. I am the author of Brokennedy (Broken and Needy), Shout out to the World: The Spoken Words of a Floetic Soul and Empower  You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind.

I am launching my mindset & goal success coaching program in the Spring of 2020. However, I am now looking for 4 clients to test drive this new program. And, you know what the best part is? It’s FREE. All that is required is your time & commitment.

There are only 4 spots open. The first 4 clients to enroll will receive a hard copy of my Set Goals & Slay Workbook and up to 8 complimentary coaching sessions. Clients may choose from the following areas: Passion + Purpose, Goal Setting Strategy, Mindset Mentoring or a Laser session. More details about each program can be found at HERE.

Vision of Set Goals & Slay Coaching LLC.

To see women successfully pursue their goals, live their dream and to ultimately live their life operating in their God given purpose.

Mission of Set Goals & Slay Coaching LLC.

To empower women to set goals and slay through mindset and goal success coaching; by way of teaching strategies to: shift mindsets from a negative to a positive success mindset, to identify one’s passion and life purpose, to set strategic goals, to create a plan of action and to identify and breakthrough limiting beliefs.

My mission as a coach is to empower you and assist you in clarifying, setting and achieving your goals.

Coaching Services and Packages

Discovery Call

During this call, we will discuss the clients’ aspirations, passion + purpose and will identify limitations/limiting beliefs. We will discuss the Set Goals & Slay Coaching’s mission, programs and whether or not one the programs is a good fit for the client. We will also discuss whether or not the client would like to move forward with a program.

Passion and Purpose Discovery Sessions

30 minute to 1 hour session(s) in which the client and I will discuss and work through various worksheets, activities and strategies that will guide them in the discovery of his/her passion. Upon the discovery of client’s passion and purpose, we will brainstorm various ways to connect that passion and purpose together. Also, we will identify various volunteer, career and entrepreneurship opportunities that will allow the client to do what they love while generating an income. Additionally, as coach, I will assist each client in creating a plan of action, so that they can begin to pursue their new opportunity of choice. I will be an accountability partner for each client by checking in weekly to discuss progress and to address any concerns that they may have along their journey to living their dream(s).

Goal Setting Sessions

30 minute to 1 hour sessions(s) in which I will work with each client to set strategic goals, create a plan of action, identify and breakthrough limitations and limiting beliefs. I will be an accountability partner for each client by checking in weekly to discuss progress and to address any questions and concerns that they may have along their journey of pursuing their goals and living their dream(s).

Mindset Mentoring

30 minute to 1 hour session(s) in which I will work with each client to develop a positive, success “growth” mindset. I will do this by sharing various strategies that will challenge negative mindsets and provoke change in perception of circumstances, which will have a direct effect on their behavior.

I can’t wait to begin working with you!
For more information about who I am and why I am qualified to coach you,
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How I Overcame Shyness

Growing up, I was extremely shy. In grade school, I would not say a word to teachers or peers. I would literally nod my head or point in response to a question. Because I refused to talk, I didn’t make friends, so I was always alone. Not only that, but I ended up being bullied by peers, in their attempt to get me to talk. Needless to say, those attempts didn’t work. I simply would run away or physically fight back and after school, sometimes, I would cry.

I didn’t begin to come out of my shell until middle school. By then, I was verbally responsive, making friends and participating in after school clubs. In high school, I was still pretty quiet, but I managed to make a few friends and participated in activities that forced me to speak up. It was during my Sophomore year of high school that I discovered my love for spoken word poetry. I always say that spoken word poetry gave me the courage to say everything I’d been to afraid to say. I went on to perform and tied for 1rst place in the talent show Junior year. I continued to write and perform spoken word as a way to express myself through college and post graduation. It was through that, that I found courage, and discovered my desire to motivate people and a love for socializing and being on stage.

As you can imagine, people who saw me step on stage, performing spoken word for the first time were surprised. That is a common response of those who were used to the shy girl, who never talked. I am blessed to have found the courage to step out and share what I am most passionate about with others. No longer does shyness hold me back from doing what requires me to be social and at the forefront.

If you are shy and find that your shyness is hindering you from putting yourself out there, I want you to know that it is possible to overcome! I want you to know exactly what I did to overcome my shyness.

The way that I was able to overcome my shyness, step on stage and perform spoken word without a hint of nervousness, was by doing this: shifting my mindset. I know, all I talk about it mindset, but hear me out on this one.

It all began with a shift in focus & perspective. When your mindset changes, your perspective “thoughts & beliefs” change. My thoughts and beliefs about me performing poetry that I’d written changed. I focused all of my attention and nervous energy on the message and purpose of the poem and the reason why I wanted to perform spoken word. I wrote poetry to share my story and to inspire people. I knew that in order to do that, I would have to perform at my best. I knew that if I let my nervousness take over, it would distract the audience from really hearing what I had to say. I believed that what I had to say was important and that I had to put shyness, doubt, fear and insecurity to the side. The purpose behind my desire became bigger and more important than my fears. I shifted my mindset and then I took action, leaving no room for negativity. I overcame shyness and found courage to do what I love, by doing THAT every time.

To this day, whenever I have to speak or perform in front of a group of people, I remind myself of the purpose. I focus all of my attention on that! For me, it works like magic. You know what, I tend to be less nervous the larger an audience tends to be. My guess, is that mentally, the sense of urgency increases for me, because there are more people who will hear what I have to say, more people to inspire. If you struggle with shyness, try shifting your focus. Share your thoughts in the comments below!

How to Get Unstuck

Have you ever felt stuck in multiple OR every area of your life ALL at once?

At the beginning of 2019 I set my goals and I was determined to slay each and every of them! And you know what, I started off strong. First 3 months, I was killing it. April came, and I began to lose momentum. May came I began to feel stuck, but kept pushing! And, then June came and well, I’ve just been feeling plain stuck, in every area of my life. Now, if that is not discouraging, I don’t know what is.

Now, there are a variety of things you can do to help you get unstuck. You can exercise, meditate, take a vacation, journal, etc. All of those things can be helpful in getting unstuck. But, what I want to share with you today is that “feeling stuck” is like a symptom to a bigger problem. So, think of the above examples as ways to treat the symptom and what I am about to share with you as a way to treat the root of the issue!

1) You’re feeling stuck. And, that’s okay. Everyone experiences this at some point in their life. The first thing I want you to realize, is that feeling stuck, is just that. It is a feeling. It is not an accurate indication of where you actually are. If you’ve been making moves, putting in work, taking actions steps to achieve your goals, then you are not stuck. Even if you’ve just been going round and round in circles. No matter how it feels, you are not stuck!

2) Okay, so you’re probably thinking, if I’m not stuck then, where am I? You are in transition. You are in unfamiliar territory. You are in route. Regardless of where you are, you are not where you began and if you’re feeling stuck, then you’re likely not where you desire to be. So, you need to make sure that you have a clear vision of where you would like to be. To do this, I would suggest meditation to clear your mind and a visualization exercise to get a clear picture of where you want to be.

3) After you’ve taken time to identify and clarify where you want to be, then it is time to re-create the plan. If you have set goals without an action plan, that could be a reason why you are feeling stuck. If you have a plan, but are struggling to execute the steps along the way, that could be why you are feeling stuck. So, I need you to know that it is okay to stop and re-calibrate. It is okay to re-adjust, to re-create the plan and to align. Go back and see what is not working, why it is not working and try something else! What you do today should be in alignment with what you desire to manifest tomorrow.

4) Do something different. If you keep doing what you’ve always done, chances are, you will continue to generate the same results. The point of re-creating your plan, is to ensure that you do something different. Take a risk. Step outside of your comfort zone. Stop waiting for a perfect time or to feel a certain way and just go for it!

5) Be consistent. Remember that feeling stuck is just a “feeling.” You won’t feel that way forever. Keep moving in the direction of your dreams, and eventually you will get there. And, remember this: Everything is not always as it appears to be on the surface, and if the challenges are increasing, then you’re probably closer than you think!

Share your thoughts below. I’d love to know what you think!

The Secret to Slaying Your Goals

You have goals, dreams and aspirations! Right now, that is all they are. They are not your reality. Not, because you’re unwilling to do what it takes to make it your reality. But, for some reason you just can’t seem to make it happen. Somewhere along the journey to achieving your goals, you get stuck. Your goals, dreams and aspirations matter.. So, it’s time to get unstuck!

About 3 – 4 years ago, I had a lot of goals. I wanted to graduate college, get a better paying job, move into my own apartment, write and publish my 3rd book, deal with my depression, anxiety and suicidal ideations in a healthy way and more!

I wanted to graduate college, but I ended up doing an additional 1 + 1/2 year due to failing and having to re-take multiple courses. That, also resulted in my gpa dropping, losing my scholarships and taking out multiple student loans. After graduation, I was 23 years old and ready to move into my own place, except I was only working 1 job, working less than 40 hours a week, making $10 an hour. By that time, I’d already written and had 2 books published. I had a concept for my 3rd book, however I had writers block and a lack of motivation. And then, there was the depression, panic attacks and suicidal ideations that I battled all the while I was working as a BHT, working with adults with serious mental illness; supporting, advocating and educating clients on coping with their own anxiety and depression.

For every goal, there was a roadblock that initially stood in my way. The good news is that eventually, I achieved each of those goals. Every goal that I’ve been able to accomplish was because of one thing. Once, you know what it is and how to use it to your advantage, then you have a shot at achieving all of your goals!

I do believe that with God, absolutely anything is possible.

Things did not begin to shift in my life, until December of 2016 when I attended a 3 day Writers conference, that changed my life. I went in expecting to learn about writing and publishing a book, and I did. But, that is not what changed my life. What changed my life was the knowledge I gained about Mindset. I went in with one concept for my 3rd book and walked out with a whole new inspiration. Mindset Transformation. My 3rd book, Empower You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind was inspired by my desire to share what I’ve learned with others.

The learning didn’t end at the conference, it was only the beginning. The books, courses, seminars and conferences that I’ve attended since then, have only increased my knowledge. I took what I learned, and began to apply it to my life. That is when I began to achieve my goals. And, I am ready to share with you what I believe IS the secret to slaying your goals!

I have created a FREE webinar in which I will share with you the secret to slaying your goals. You can also download your FREE copy of the Set Goals & Slay: Petty on Purpose Workbook.

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The Fear of Rejection

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Everyday it’s an ongoing battle

I’m at war with myself

With my thoughts

Everyday, haunted with memories and fears

Constantly fighting off negative thoughts

What if this and what if that?

And, what lies beneath it all, I have discovered is fear

Fear of what exactly? 

What is it that I’m afraid of

What am I trying so hard to protect myself from?

Rejection.

I’m afraid of being hurt and rejected

Again

I’m afraid of the tears, the loneliness and heartbreak

I’m afraid of the disappointment 

The worst days of my life were the most painful

I fear feeling how I felt then, again

Memories of those moments, they come back to haunt me

So, everyday I’m fighting off negative thoughts that try to consume me 

And hold me captive to my past

Everyday it’s a fight

Everyday it’s a struggle

And, I want to fight because I can 

But, can I be honest.. I’m tired

I’m tired of having to fight

I’m tired of facing the lingering fear of rejection

Sometimes, I wish someone could fight for me

Or, that I didn’t have to fight at all

Wish I could get rid of this fear once and for all

How do I get this fear under subjection?

Because it accompanies me daily like I’m the object of it’s affection

I’ve become it’s kryptonite

So, I try to be strong

Act like nothing’s wrong

I wasn’t given the spirit of fear

So how do I let it go?

How do I conquer it before it conquers me?

How do I find the motivation to fight daily?

They said to guard my heart

So, I used that to justify putting up a wall

But walls don’t stop you from falling

But, can cause  you to lose everything you’ve ever wanted

Fear distracts and fear destroys if it’s not destroyed first

Fear has it’s place

But, not when it comes to peace of mind

I’m just out here, trying to find mine.

(Spoken Word Poem by Kezia Marie ©) 

 

I’ve struggled with anxiety for awhile now. Most days, I have a good handle on it. But, some days, it gets the best of me. I have come to realize the the underlying cause of my anxiety and stress is fear; a fear of the things that I cannot control. Most of my worrying comes from worrying about the future. This makes sense, when I consider the type of person I am. I am goal oriented and solution focused. I dislike reflecting on the past if its not to learn from past experience with the expectation that I will benefit from it moving forward. I like to be in control, or at least have an awareness of what is going on with me and around me. But, we all know that, that is  not how life works. We don’t get to be in control of everything. Some things happen unexpectedly and by chance. And, while I do love surprises, I like to limit what those kind of surprises can be.

Knowing the type of person I am, clearly, I am like a magnet for anxiety! And, of course, seeing this as a problem, I am quick to look for a solution. How do I solve this problem? How do I conquer my fear without it conquering me? Well, what I can tell you, is that the perfect place to begin is at the root. What is the foundation of my fear? Rejection. This means that something has happened in my past that has caused me to feel certain, negative emotions that initiated the fear factor. My negative emotions are not connected to the event or person itself, but it is to how it made me feel. So, whenever anything happens (trigger) that causes me to feel similar emotions today, I am instantly reminded of those past events and that increases those intense emotions that translates into anxiety. I become anxious, uneasy, unsettled, irritable, I panic. In those moments it becomes difficult to focus on anything but what I consider to be a problem that I can’t gain control of. 

Thursday morning I awoke, feeling mentally and emotionally exhausted, because of what I’d been struggling with. My fear of rejection. I’d been planning to write a blog on this topic for awhile, but 24 days went by and I just had no idea what to say or where to begin. But, that morning, I lay there, knowing how blessed I am to have what I have and who I have in my life, but was yet afraid that my fear could cause me  to forfeit God’s blessings. I ended up writing this poem instead. Normally, my poems are about my personal experiences and typically end with a positive spin or perspective meant to encourage others. Not this time. I felt like I had no answer, when usually, I do. I had no answers. No word of hope. Nothing more to say. Just raw emotion. 

Today is Sunday. And, I still have no answers. But someone dropped a word of encouragement in my inbox the same day, without knowing what I was dealing with prior to. I was reminded of Proverbs 3: 5 – 6 which says to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding: in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your path straight.” This was not only a great answer to my having no answers, but also to my struggle with anxiety. The root of my anxiety is fear, and fear is something that will always present itself. But, whatever the circumstance may be, the answer or solution will always be to trust God no matter what! Regardless of my understanding, I just need to trust him, not rely on my own understanding or inability to understand and to just submit to the process. In Philippians 4:6, we are instructed to be anxious for nothing! He wouldn’t instruct us to do something we aren’t capable of doing or that he is not willing to help us do. Knowing this, I know that I can and will conquer anxiety, so that it does not conquer me! 

 

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