Have you ever shared your dreams and plans with someone, only to find yourself defending yourself because you dared to dream big?
There are many reasons why someone may not support the pursuit of your dreams. But, what it really comes down to is.. Mindset. In today’s blog, we’ll be talking about HOW to build and remain confident in the pursuit of your dreams REGARDLESS of who doesn’t support, understand or believe that it IS possible.
Do you believe it is possible to achieve your goals? Or, are you easily swayed and discouraged by the disbelief of others?
Here’s a few steps to help you BUILD your confidence so that you can pursue your dreams with boldness:
1) Check your mindset!
Who are you listening to? Who are you allowing to pour into your life? Whose opinions and beliefs are you allowing to influence you and dictate your actions?
Your ability to achieve your goals has everything to do with your MINDSET. If your mindset is trash, then.. You’ll lose before you’ve even begun.
Success is 80% Mindset and 20% Strategy
Which leads me to step #2..
2) Set a SMART (Specific + Measurable + Achievable, Realistic +Trackable) goal, create a flexible action plan and get to work!
You don’t have to have it altogether and you don’t need to wait for a perfect time to get started.
The best set-up for success is when YOU have defined what success looks like to YOU and then you put in the work. You don’t need to wait for a perfect time. Honestly, there is no perfect time. And, if you’re waiting to perfect yourself.. Remember that the world doesn’t need perfect, it needs YOU to show up as your authentic self!
If you don’t know where to start, start here: Start by setting a goal and breaking it down into action steps. Create a flexible action plan; understanding that if you try to accomplish a step and it doesn’t work out, you can try a different way.
3) Detox your circle and surround yourself with like-minded people.
It is essential that you get with people who are already where you are striving to be and/or who are striving to get from where they are to where they desire to be. Furthermore, you don’t need to remain in an environment, around people who repeatedly speak death over your dreams or try to discourage you from dreaming big and pursuing them simply because they lack the mindset to comprehend your purpose and the possibility of your dreams becoming your reality.
There are people who are super ambitious and have really big dreams. Likewise, there are people who do not and are satisfied with what they have, where they are in life, now. And there is nothing wrong with either of the two. Regardless of what anyone says, you should not feel ashamed for seeing more for yourself and wanting more out of life. And, I must say, if you are content and not striving to have or be more, you should not feel ashamed for that as well.
4) Know your WHY.
Maybe it’s to create a better life for yourself and your family. Maybe, it’s to honor God by fulfilling your God given life purpose. Maybe it’s to change lives and impact generations to come.
Whatever your WHY is, that is what you must focus on and remind your self of consistently. Everything else is secondary. No one else will or should hold your WHY with more value than you do. When you understand this, then it becomes easier to recognize the doubters and naysayers. You must filter out the noise.
There are people who are and will be satisfied with what they have and where they are now. And that is okay. There should be mutual respect on both ends.
I share this because I know how it feels to be called boujiee and extra simply because you dared to dream big. And, because you want more than what you have right now. You see yourself going further than where you’ve been so far.
FAITH + action is the key to manifesting your dreams.
Another thought to consider..
Your network really is your net-worth. And, often times when we hear this, we think of money. But, this doesn’t only relate to money.
See, not only is your money valuable but so is your time. Your energy and your peace of mind is valuable too.
Is there anyone in your life who is causing more damage than good? If so, you can’t continue to surround yourself with individuals who are speaking death over your goals and dreams, simply because they don’t see or understand YOUR vision. You must be intentional about surrounding yourself with like-minded people. People who have a positive, success – growth mindset.
Maybe THEY don’t understand the what, YOUR why or the how. But, you can’t let that discourage you from taking action. It is YOUR dream, your gift, your calling, your purpose to fulfil in the earth. God gave it to YOU. He allowed you to see the vision.
You may not understand it all or fully know the HOW. But, that’s okay. If only you can BELIEVE in the possibility of your dreams.. Because that, my friend, is the pre-requisite of your success. Knowing what success looks like to you and, believing that it is possible!
5) Refrain from sharing your plans and makes sure to celebrate the small wins.
Stay prayerful. Be mindful. Meditate. Journal. Continue to study and learn, grow in knowledge within your area of expertise. Remain humble. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and accept constructive criticism. Learn from your mistakes. Repeat.
The more you do these things, the more confident you will become in yourself and in the possibility of your dreams becoming your reality!
Thank you for reading Set Goals and Family! Like, Comment and Share with someone who needs this message. Until next time.. Much love to you all – Kizzy 💕