How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs That Are Preventing You From Pursuing Your Goals and Manifesting Your Dream

“The only limits you have are the limits you believe.” – Wayne Dyer

The number one thing that holds most people back from pursuing and achieving their goals are limitations and limiting beliefs. A limitation is anyTHING (person, place or circumstance) that prevents you from pursuing your goals. Limiting beliefs are recurring, negative thoughts or false beliefs that prevent you from pursuing your goals.

Do you have a goal that you’ve been wanting to accomplish or dream you desire to manifest, but you haven’t quite gotten around to taking any action steps because of fear, doubt, insecurity? Or, maybe you’ve been procrastinating because you lack the necessary funding, time, education or resources needed to pursue the goal. Anything you can identify as an excuse, a reason for procrastinating, not taking a leap of faith and chasing your dream is a limitation or a limiting belief.

Moment of transparency. One of my goals for 2020 and 2021 has been to build an online audience organically. One thing that is a MUST if you want to be successful in building an online audience is consistency. So, whether it’s going live one month or once a week, you’ve gotta be consistent if you want to generate legitimate, sustainable results. Although I’ve been hanging out in these internet streets for a minute and some change now, I have not been consistent in both showing up and providing value. Sometimes I would show up consistently for a period of time, but I would post just to post without providing any real value. I can give you a list of reasons, or dare I say, excuses, as to why I was not consistent. But, I’ll just share one of them with you.

One reason I was not consistent is because I felt discouraged. I felt discouraged because I did not see overnight results. I would post and post and felt as if I was not being seen or heard. It quickly became about the number of likes and comments, rather than the overall purpose of posting empowering content. I was also trying to copy what I saw other people doing, rather than discovering my own lane and walking in that. Can you relate to this? Have you ever felt discouraged because you felt unnoticed, or as if your hard work or effort wasn’t good enough? Or, maybe that your time, effort, money or energy well spent wasn’t yielding results fast enough, if at all.. There are so many things that can cause us to shy away from taking the next step towards our goals or from ever getting started. But, here’s what I want you to know: Delayed does not mean denied. A slow start does not mean that you won’t finish. And, nothing is wrong with a small beginning. Read that again.

Now, let’s get to the good stuff. The reason you’re really here is to learn what you can do to overcome your limitations and limiting beliefs, so that you can start pursuing your goals and manifesting your dreams! Here we go..

Step 1

Write out and visualize your goals as if you have already achieved them.

Step 2

Identify your WHY Factor. Your Why Factor is your overall reason for pursuing the goal. Think about what will happen once you’ve achieve the goal. Think about who it will impact and how. Also, think about what happens if you never face your fear, step outside of your comfort zone and pursue the goal. As you proceed though, it’s best to focus more on your WHY and all of the amazing things that WILL come as a result of you finding the courage to pursue your goal and manifest your dream rather than what won’t happen.

If your WHY does not motivate you to pursue your goal and to keep going when things get tough, then your WHY is not significant enough.

Step 3

For each goal, make a list of every limitation and limiting belief that you can think of.

Step 4

For each limitation identify and write out an alternate route for reaching your goal OR of baby steps that you can take to work through that limitation.

Step 5

For each limiting belief, come up with a positive affirmation. Whether you have one affirmation, 20 affirmations or something in-between, consider doing any of the following:

  • Get a notebook and dedicate it solely to writing out your affirmations daily. Each day as you write out your affirmations, speak them aloud with authority and conviction.
  • Print or write out your affirmations on sticky notes and post them on your bathroom mirror, front door or in a place that you frequent the most throughout your day.
  • Keep a list of your affirmations in your pocket or purse and whenever the negative thoughts/beliefs begin to bombard your mind, pull out your list and begin to read and quote your affirmations aloud if you can.
  • Memorize your positive affirmations, and recite them multiple throughout your day, daily.
  • Each morning and night, stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eyes and recite your positive affirmations. This is a solid way to boost your self-esteem and build your confidence. I’m speaking from experience too!

As you take these steps and incorporate positive affirmations into your daily routine, remember that it is okay if you don’t FEEL or BELIEVE what you are writing and speaking right away.

The purpose of incorporating affirmations into your daily routine is because it is an effective way of transforming your mindset and therefore, getting rid of those false beliefs. What we are really doing is working to transform your overall self belief system. Because, how you perceive yourself and how you perceive your ability to achieve your goals maters. I believe in you, and I believe that you have what it takes to slay your goal. But, that doesn’t matter if YOU don’t believe in you.

Please note that the affirmation tips above are not just for limiting beliefs that are about you specifically, for example, your physical appearance or your skills. The tips can be used for recurring negative thoughts or beliefs that relate to having a poverty mindset, lack of resources, etc.

Even though I have felt discouraged about reaching one of my goals, I have not given up. I have continued to think positive, speak positive and to take action steps towards my goal. I decided to keep going AFTER I took time to rest, refocus and restart. In fact, I took to find my lane and am forging ahead on a new path, knowing that even thought it might not look like much now, someday, it will manifest into something great!

Remember: It is okay to reset, restart, and refocus as many times as you need to. You have the passion and purpose for a reason, don’t give up on it before you’ve even started. And, if you have started, keep going!

I wish you nothing but Peace, Love, Blessings Wealth & Good Health, Set Goals & Slay Family

This Is Why Your Plan Didn’t Work

Failing to plan is planning to fail.

– Benjamin Franklin

It’s early Monday morning.. That dreaded Monday morning… You hear your alarm alerting you that it’s time to wake up and prepare for the day ahead. You hit the snooze button and drift back to sleep. 5 minutes later.. BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP.. or maybe, you’re a little more sophisticated; you’ve got a good ole’ oldie or the latest Pop song as your ringtone.. but even that wasn’t enough to motivate you to get up and start the day.

You hit the snooze button that morning, not once, not twice, but three or four times. Until, finally, you’ve had enough of your sleep being disrupted by reminders that you’ve got to get up now if you wan’t any chance at arriving to work on time. You HATE, no you DESPISE Mondays, because it’s the beginning of another long, boring week of working a job where you are chasing someone else dream, building someone else’s empire.. doing something that you are good at, but are NOT passionate about.

Without that cup of coffee, you would not have made out your front door that morning. But you made it, you showed up with an emotionless smile, You work. You put forth your best effort. And, by the time you clock out, get through the rush-hour traffic and get home.. you feel empty and drained by just the realization, that in just a few hours, you’ll have to get up and do it all over again…

I know how it feels. Because that was me, not that long ago. However, I now work a corporate job I enjoy at a company I love AND I also spend my free time working on my SIDE HUSTLE that allows me to utilize my gifts, passion & purpose to empower others and building an empire and legacy of my own that will generate an income for myself and my family.

In my latest blog, I encouraged you to give yourself permission to DREAM big. Today, I encourage you to take it a step further! Don’t just dream big, but BELIEVE that your BIG dream is possible! If you are struggling to believe that it is possible, identify the limitations and limiting beliefs that are hindering your belief.

Not everyone has a BIG dream. Maybe, you’ve been experiencing an emptiness and longing to do more than work your day job, but you have no clue what you want to do.

OR

You’ve had this really big, impossible dream for awhile now, but you don’t know where you would even start.

OR

You already know that a dream without a plan is just a wish. So, you got to work and created a plan. You worked that plan and began seeing results. You gained momentum and until, suddenly, seemingly out of nowhere, things began to fall apart.

Whatever your story may be, there is one thing I can say that applies to you:

You HAVE a purpose

You CAN do what you ENJOY and generate an income.

You CAN work a corporate job full-time and work your side-hustle too.

Your BIG dream IS possible, but you MUST have a plan.

And, not just any plan. You need to have the RIGHT plan.

The RIGHT plan will:

  • Have you prepared for limitations & limiting beliefs that can cause you to PAUSE or STOP the pursuit of your dream.
  • Have a support system and accountability
  • Have alternatives and solutions already in place

Many people GIVE UP on their BIG DREAMS, because they don’t have the RIGHT plan.

This week, I encourage you to create a plan. Start from where you are. If you don’t know what your dream (passion or purpose) is, then your plan may start with you taking the first steps to discovering what you dream (passion and purpose) is. If you already have that figured out but don’t know how to put it altogether in a way that will allow you to generate an income (build a business or side-hustle) around it, then you can start by taking the first steps to figuring out what you need to do or who you need to find/hire to help you figure it out! I’m telling you, my friend, there are resources out there that are free and many that are willing and ready to help you. No matter where you’ve gotta start, just start!

Now, if you had a plan in 2018 and 2019 that didn’t quite work out, you need a better plan. To get started, you can download my FREE Set Goals & Slay Workbook HERE.

You can also sign up for a 90 minute (+1 30min check-in session) Strategy Session with me to help you get clear on what your dream (passion + purpose), set strategic goals & create a GOAL-SLAYING strategy “plan” to set you up for success! Sign Up HERE.

Are you ready? Let’s work!

How NOT to Give Up On Your 2020 Goals

“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!”

– Benjamin Franklin

It’s common knowledge that during that at the start of each new year, many people, all over the world set new goals and new year resolutions. It’s also commonly known that most start of strong, but instead of gaining momentum, most people fall off around March and April. Many of us know this to be true and can raise our hand it admittance that we are guilty of this too.. giving up on our goal or resolution. Have you ever stopped to wonder why so many individuals continue to go through the cycle of starting and stopping when it comes to pursuing their goals? Because, if it’s one thing I know, is that LIFE happens to us ALL. No one Is immune to unexpected challenges, roadblocks and setbacks occurring. That’s just life right. Yet, some or should I say ALL of the most successful people in the world have faced multiple challenges at some point in their lives. The difference between them and everyone else is that they kept going!

In 2020, I encourage you to keep going! But, I’m not here to encourage or motivate you. I’m here to empower you to keep going! So, I’ll tell you what you want to know. Let’s face it, it’s easy to give up on our goals when things get tough or uncomfortable. But, how do you NOT give up on your goal? How do you KEEP going?

You plan.

You need to have a plan.

Not just any plan. You need to have a strategic plan.

Having a strategic plan of action means that you have a plan for HOW you will KEEP going WHEN roadblocks and setbacks present themselves.

I promise you, roadblocks and setback will arise. And, that is when many people get discouraged. BUT, when you have a strategic plan, you have a flexible plan that gives you options. Meaning, IF you plan A does not work, you have a plan B, C and D.

You are more likely to keep going when challenges arise when you are prepared in advance.

Don’t have a plan? I’m here to help.

As a certified life, solution-focused and Goal Success Coach, I’m on a mission to empower millennial women to clarify, set & slay their goals! I am now offering Goal Success Strategy sessions where I will help you create a strategic strategy to slay your 2020 goal(s). For more info or to book your discovery call, click HERE.

Another way that I am empowering individuals to clarify, set & slay their goals, is to share tips & strategies to help you do just that.

Yesterday I shared a tip on my social media pages that I will share with you now.

If you want to set yourself apart from the masses and achieve your goal; I encourage you to start here. Start by developing a habit of writing out your goals daily. What I’m sharing with you, is something that I do. Every day! And, I’m telling you, when I first began doing this, about 3 years ago, it wasn’t long before my mindset began to SHIFT & I began to see RESULTS! If that’s what you want to see clearly in 2020, start here!

A few tips for writing out your goals – strategically!

1) Keep a journal specifically for writing out your goals daily.

2) Get as specific as you possibly can.

3) Write your goals as if you already have what you desire to manifest.

4) Connect emotionally to what you are writing. It helps to speak it out loud and to visualize how you’ll feel when you get it! Bring those positive emotions and energy into the present moment.

The benefit of writing your goals daily is that it helps keep you focused, motivated and accountable.

7 Day Goal Success Challenge: Day 6 – Identify Motivating Factors

Welcome to Day 6 of the Goal Succeess Challenge!

Today is all about identifying your motivating factors.

This is not that same concept as your WHY factor. This is where you will identify which specific tools will motivate you.

Your motivating factors should remind you of and reinforce your WHY factor.

Remember, your WHY factor is simply your core reason for pursuing your goal – which should be significant enough to motivate you to keep going, even when the going gets tough.

Your motivating factor(s) are going to be something tangible that will REMIND you of your WHY factor.

There are many things you can use as motivating factors! Here are a few examples I use:

Vision Board

I have 2 vision boards. The one above sits on my dresser directly across from my bed. I usually do my meditations before I go to sleep at night, so its nice having my vision board right there to look at when I’m having difficulty focusing my wandering thoughts.

My best advice would be to place your vision board in a place where you’ll see it the most often! I’m away from home most of the time, but when I’m home, I’m in my office or bedroom the most. So, I have my 1 – 5 yr vision board in my office area and my 1yr vision board in my bedroom.

Journals

I have 3 journals. One, I use for scripting (writing your goals and dreams in presentense, as if is happening in that moment or already has happened!

The 2nd journal is my Gratitude journal.

The 3rd journal I use for writing out my goals. So, back in December of 2016, I attended a 3 day workshop called Publish a Book and Grow Rich! I learned a lot about writing and publishing a book, but I also learned a lot about mindset transformation and manifestation. One of the things I learned, I’ve been doing ever since the day I learned it.. Writing out my goals in the form of “I am” and “I have.” As, it was taught to me, we’re writing out our captains orders “captian & crew. The idea behind that, in short, is tht the act of writing out your goals is your concious mind (the captain) giving direction to your subconscious mind (the crew). Your subconscious mind is what you can call your “higher-self” … but, more on that another time.

A few tips for writing out your goals:

* Hand write your goals daily.

* It’s okay if you miss a day(s) in betweeen. Just get back to it when you can. Keep in mind that consistency is key.

* Record the date each time you write out your goals. It’s a simple way to hold yourself accountable.

* Use a journal thats small enough to fit in your purse or to carry with you on the go. If you’re like me, it’s easy to use business as an excuse – keeping it with eliminates the excuse and allows you to get it in when you can.

* Read them out loud with emotion!

Vision Book

More Ideas:

  • Abundance Wall (Write yourself a check!)
  • Calendar/Planner
  • Habit Tracker Apps

The purpose of identifying motivating factors is to help you stay focused on your WHAT (goal) & your WHY(the reason why you want to achieve your goal). As you can see, I use many different things to reinforce my WHY factor. I encourage you to use 1 or as many as you feel you need. I have found these to be helpful, especially when I’m in traffic… I pull out my vision book and remind myself that even being stuck in traffic is a necessary “unfortunate” but necessary part of the process. And, then I pull out my gratitude journal and jot down a few things that I’m grateful for. When pursuing your goals and manifesting your dreams, it’s important to maintain a positive mindset as much as possible.

Come back for Day 7 as we cover the final step on our Goal Success Checklist. If you haven’t already, be sure to grab your checklist & the Set Goals & Slay Workbook + Planner below!

7 Day Goal Success Challenge: Day 5 – Identify Your Why

Welcome to Day 5 of our Goal Success Challenge!

Today is all about identifying your WHY factor!

This will be the foundation of your goal. Every action step you take should be in alignment with your WHY factor. By identifying your WHY, you are identifying the core reason WHY you want to set, pursue and achieve your goal. Ask yourself the following questions:


* Who do I want to achieve my goal for?

* What will happen when I achieve my goal?

* Who will my achievement benefit and how?

*Why do I want to achieve this goal?

Knowing your WHY is a game changer! Many people give up on their goals because they haven’t set the right kind of goals. Meaning; they did not set a goal that is in alignment with their WHY factor. Your WHY is the driving force behind why you START & WHY you Keep going! Take time to Identify your why by asking yourself the questions above.

Come back for Day 6 as we cover the 6th step on our Goal Success Checklist. If you haven’t already, be sure to grab your checklist & the Set Goals & Slay Workbook + Planner below!