How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs That Are Preventing You From Pursuing Your Goals and Manifesting Your Dream

“The only limits you have are the limits you believe.” – Wayne Dyer

The number one thing that holds most people back from pursuing and achieving their goals are limitations and limiting beliefs. A limitation is anyTHING (person, place or circumstance) that prevents you from pursuing your goals. Limiting beliefs are recurring, negative thoughts or false beliefs that prevent you from pursuing your goals.

Do you have a goal that you’ve been wanting to accomplish or dream you desire to manifest, but you haven’t quite gotten around to taking any action steps because of fear, doubt, insecurity? Or, maybe you’ve been procrastinating because you lack the necessary funding, time, education or resources needed to pursue the goal. Anything you can identify as an excuse, a reason for procrastinating, not taking a leap of faith and chasing your dream is a limitation or a limiting belief.

Moment of transparency. One of my goals for 2020 and 2021 has been to build an online audience organically. One thing that is a MUST if you want to be successful in building an online audience is consistency. So, whether it’s going live one month or once a week, you’ve gotta be consistent if you want to generate legitimate, sustainable results. Although I’ve been hanging out in these internet streets for a minute and some change now, I have not been consistent in both showing up and providing value. Sometimes I would show up consistently for a period of time, but I would post just to post without providing any real value. I can give you a list of reasons, or dare I say, excuses, as to why I was not consistent. But, I’ll just share one of them with you.

One reason I was not consistent is because I felt discouraged. I felt discouraged because I did not see overnight results. I would post and post and felt as if I was not being seen or heard. It quickly became about the number of likes and comments, rather than the overall purpose of posting empowering content. I was also trying to copy what I saw other people doing, rather than discovering my own lane and walking in that. Can you relate to this? Have you ever felt discouraged because you felt unnoticed, or as if your hard work or effort wasn’t good enough? Or, maybe that your time, effort, money or energy well spent wasn’t yielding results fast enough, if at all.. There are so many things that can cause us to shy away from taking the next step towards our goals or from ever getting started. But, here’s what I want you to know: Delayed does not mean denied. A slow start does not mean that you won’t finish. And, nothing is wrong with a small beginning. Read that again.

Now, let’s get to the good stuff. The reason you’re really here is to learn what you can do to overcome your limitations and limiting beliefs, so that you can start pursuing your goals and manifesting your dreams! Here we go..

Step 1

Write out and visualize your goals as if you have already achieved them.

Step 2

Identify your WHY Factor. Your Why Factor is your overall reason for pursuing the goal. Think about what will happen once you’ve achieve the goal. Think about who it will impact and how. Also, think about what happens if you never face your fear, step outside of your comfort zone and pursue the goal. As you proceed though, it’s best to focus more on your WHY and all of the amazing things that WILL come as a result of you finding the courage to pursue your goal and manifest your dream rather than what won’t happen.

If your WHY does not motivate you to pursue your goal and to keep going when things get tough, then your WHY is not significant enough.

Step 3

For each goal, make a list of every limitation and limiting belief that you can think of.

Step 4

For each limitation identify and write out an alternate route for reaching your goal OR of baby steps that you can take to work through that limitation.

Step 5

For each limiting belief, come up with a positive affirmation. Whether you have one affirmation, 20 affirmations or something in-between, consider doing any of the following:

  • Get a notebook and dedicate it solely to writing out your affirmations daily. Each day as you write out your affirmations, speak them aloud with authority and conviction.
  • Print or write out your affirmations on sticky notes and post them on your bathroom mirror, front door or in a place that you frequent the most throughout your day.
  • Keep a list of your affirmations in your pocket or purse and whenever the negative thoughts/beliefs begin to bombard your mind, pull out your list and begin to read and quote your affirmations aloud if you can.
  • Memorize your positive affirmations, and recite them multiple throughout your day, daily.
  • Each morning and night, stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eyes and recite your positive affirmations. This is a solid way to boost your self-esteem and build your confidence. I’m speaking from experience too!

As you take these steps and incorporate positive affirmations into your daily routine, remember that it is okay if you don’t FEEL or BELIEVE what you are writing and speaking right away.

The purpose of incorporating affirmations into your daily routine is because it is an effective way of transforming your mindset and therefore, getting rid of those false beliefs. What we are really doing is working to transform your overall self belief system. Because, how you perceive yourself and how you perceive your ability to achieve your goals maters. I believe in you, and I believe that you have what it takes to slay your goal. But, that doesn’t matter if YOU don’t believe in you.

Please note that the affirmation tips above are not just for limiting beliefs that are about you specifically, for example, your physical appearance or your skills. The tips can be used for recurring negative thoughts or beliefs that relate to having a poverty mindset, lack of resources, etc.

Even though I have felt discouraged about reaching one of my goals, I have not given up. I have continued to think positive, speak positive and to take action steps towards my goal. I decided to keep going AFTER I took time to rest, refocus and restart. In fact, I took to find my lane and am forging ahead on a new path, knowing that even thought it might not look like much now, someday, it will manifest into something great!

Remember: It is okay to reset, restart, and refocus as many times as you need to. You have the passion and purpose for a reason, don’t give up on it before you’ve even started. And, if you have started, keep going!

I wish you nothing but Peace, Love, Blessings Wealth & Good Health, Set Goals & Slay Family

How to Create an Affective Plan You Won’t Quit

A Goal Without a Plan is Just a Wish

It’s 2020 and you’re ready to start slaying your goals that you set at the start of the new year. Now, that you have your goals (destination), it’s time to figure out just how you’re going to get there. First, I want to commend you for taking the time to CREATE a plan. Because, so many people give up on their goals, because LIFE happens and often when we least expect it right? The good news is that with the RIGHT plan or strategy in place, we can no longer have an excuse not to keeping going when those inevitable setbacks and discouragements arise.

The prerequisite for creating an effective plan that you won’t quit is: 1) Knowing exactly what you want to achieve, 2) Setting a SMART goal and breaking it down into small action steps. Once you have done that, it is time to create a goal-slaying strategy.

Here is the breakdown on how to create your strategy.

1) For each goal you set, break it down it to small steps.

Example:

Goal – I have $1,000 saved specifically as spending for my Summer vacation.

Step 1) Create a Budget

Step 2 ) Open a savings account

Step 3) Set-up my bank account to automatically deduct $100 from each upcoming paycheck and deposit into a separate savings account until a total of $1,000 is saved.

2) For each step, identify ANY limitation and limiting belief that you can think of. These are any reasons why YOU would not complete that step.

Example:

Step 1) Limitation – I don’t know how much to set up my account to automatically deduct $100.

Instead of avoiding this step altogether, identify a few solutions or alternatives.

Limiting Belief – I don’t know if I can save enough money in time.

Example:

Possible Solution – Call customer support and ask for assistance setting up the account.

Possible Solution – Google “how to set up my account with (name of bank) to automatically deduct $100 on a recurring date.

Possible Solution – Go to local branch in person and request assistance in getting set up.

Alternative Belief – Write out goal(s) and affirmations daily: I am going on summer vacation with more than enough money to splurge.

Many people give up on their goals NOT because the goal is too big. They give up, because of a STEP that they were required to take along the way. Many of the steps you must take to accomplish your goals may be tangible like the example above. However, others will be much like this limiting belief…

Limiting Belief: I am not good enough OR I am not qualified.

Instead of giving in to the discouragement, let’s identify some solutions to this “problem feeling.”

First, acknowledge that your FEELING is VALID. It is justified. It’s okay to feel “not good enough” or “not qualified.” Then, realize that you can do something about it and decide that you will do something about it. The solutions or alternatives that you identify are the specific things that you can do about it.

Example:

1. Work with a coach or mentor. Can’t afford one? Check out SCORE or coaches who offer coaching pro-bono.

2. Read books written by experts in your field/topic to enhance your knowledge

3. Watch YouTube videos on the topic

4. Take certification courses or go back to school and get a degree

It is my hope that this post has opened your eyes to see opportunity where you may have previously seen setbacks. You CAN achieve your goals and live your dream. But, sometimes we get stuck, because we don’t have the right PLAN. The right plan will have you prepared for possible setbacks and discouragements, before you even begin. And you know what’s great about this type of plan? Whenever a new limitation or limiting belief (thought) presents itself, you can add it to your list and follow the same formula to identify a solution AKA another reason why it IS possible to keep going. If plan A doesn’t work, you move on to B, C, D, etc. until you find what works.

If you’d like help in getting clear on what you want to achieve, setting the right goal and creating the right plan, I am here to help. I have officially launched my Goal Success Strategy Sessions. Click HERE to learn more.

Thanks for reading my friend! Wishing you great success this week. Feel free to share your comments below. Happy Manifesting in 2020!