How to Unplug and Hit Reset on 2020

You said 2020 was going to be your year . The year you will finally take a leap of faith and pursue your dreams. But so far, most of us wish we could unplug 2020, wait 20 seconds and plug it back in again. I mean, on top of our own excuses, Jan – March alone has given us a few more reason to feel discourage and to procrastinate.

But, I encourage you to consider this..

You CAN unplug and hit the reset button on 2020.

Yes, you read that right. You can unplug and hit the reset button on 2020.. It begins with YOU make a conscious decision to SHIFT your mindset.

You can shift your MINDSET by:

1) Changing your focus. Focus more on the positive things in life and less on the negative .

HOW:

  • Set limits. LIMIT the amount of time you allow yourself to indulge in the news via social media and television.
  • While practicing social distancing, THINK about the individuals and environments in your life that are TOXIC and consider how you have distance yourself from those people or environments even after this current challenge has calmed.
  • JOURNAL daily to help you release, become aware of and to process your thoughts and emotions.
  • MEDITATE daily to help gain CLARITY and CONTROL aka AWARENESS of your thoughts. That way, you will recognize when negative thoughts bombard your mind and then replace it with a positive thought. And then, in that moment, continue to meditate on that positive thought.

Shifting your mindset is really just shifting your focus, by shifting your thoughts, over and over again. It sounds like an easy concept at surface level, but please hear me on this.. It takes work. It takes consistantcy. Sometimes, you have to do the DIRTY work to gain leverage over NEGATIVE thoughts.

If you find yourself struggle with the same negative thoughts/limiting beliefs, here’s what I suggest you do:

  1. Make a list of reoccurring negative thoughts and limiting beliefs
  2. For each thought/belief, write down a positive AFFIRMATION that you will remember. Write out that affirmation EVERY day for the next 21 days.
  3. Every time that negative thought or belief comes to mind, repeat the affirmation to yourself 10 times. When your first starting at, I encourage quoting the affirmation out load when possible. If the negative thought or limiting belief is about YOU specifically, rather than a particular situation/scenario, practice quoting the affirmations to yourself as you look at your reflection in the mirror. Another idea you can try; record yourself repeating the affirmations 10+ times and then listen to the recordings as you meditate (use headphones for best experience).

The more you do this, the EASIER it will become to RECOGNIZE (awareness) the negative thoughts/limiting beliefs and to COMBAT it.

To hit the RESET button on 2020, we must shift our THINKING/PERSPECTIVE of ourselves and of 2020.. IF you shift your mindset, you’ll be able to see the OPPORTUNITIES that may come as a result of the challenges we have and currently are facing. For example, many people have had a SIDE-HUSTLE or business idea that they’ve been wanting to start, but have yet to start because of their limiting belief that they CAN’T because they don’t have enough time. Those who have shifted there focus enough to see an opportunity have already started working on their business idea because they SEE the opportunity of TIME. Even if temporary, they have time NOW to START and to strategize a plan that will allow them to continue their pursuit AFTER things begin to return back to normal.

The fact is, we are living in chaotic, uncomfortable and uncertain times. BUT, even in this there is still HOPE and OPPORTUNITY. If you make the decide to shift your mindset, you will see it.

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Conquer Your Limiting Beliefs

The human mind is a battle field. Every day we are tempted with negative thoughts and challenging situations. Some days we fight and conquer, other days we succumb. Many people live day to day without the realization that it is up to them to fight and conquer their limitations and limiting beliefs.

IF we want to SLAY our goals, we must make the conscious decision to confront and conquer our limitations and limiting beliefs, every day.

I am going to share with you HOW you can begin to SHIFT and TRANSFORM your mindset; from a negative to a positive success “growth” mindset, that will position you to confront and conquer your limitations and limiting belief.

A limitation is anything that serves as an excuse, to justify not taking strategic action to pursue your goals. Example: I don’t have enough time or money to start my business.

Limiting beliefs are negative thoughts that you allow to justify not taking strategic action to pursue your goals. Example: I am not good enough or qualified for people to take me seriously.

Here are the facts about Limitations & Limiting Beliefs:

We ALL battle negative thoughts and challenging situations everyday.

It is within our control to combat negative thoughts and to perceive our challenging situations in a positive way.

It is possible, but it also takes practice to attain and maintain a positive mindset and optimistic perspective in life.

A positive success “growth” mindset and an optimistic perspective in life WILL help you attract and take action (steps) that are in direct alignment with the goals you wish to achieve. It will also help you ATTRACT more positive opportunities and experiences into your life.

No matter how positive/optimistic you are, you will still confront negative thoughts and challenging situations. BUT you will be better equipt to GROW through it, because of the positive success “growth” mindset that you have.

A positive success “growth” mindset will allow you to SEE your challenges (negative situations), setbacks, etc. as a learning opportunity, as a setup in disguise, an opportunity to recalibrate, to realign and more.

You decide, each time you are faced with a negative thought or challenging situation, whether or not you will allow it to control you OR if you will confront and conquer it.

The purpose of this blog post is to present you with practical tips and tools that you can use to CONFRONT and CONQUER your limitations and limiting beliefs.

If you have decided to take strategic action to confront and conquer your limitations and limiting beliefs, congratulations! You have just made a decision that will ultimately change the trajectory of your life. Because now, you are about to WORK to transform your mindset.

By implementing the following tips into your daily routine, you will begin to SEE results in your THINKING and in your overall perspective of your self, you circumstance and life itself.

What can you do to TRANSFORM your Mindset?

Meditation – You can find a number of guided and non-guided, verbal and subliminal an subliminal meditations and visualization exercises on YouTube for a variety of topics such as anxiety, stress, depression, mental or emotional healing, relaxation, energy boosting, self-love and confidence, client attraction and so much more!

Affirm Yourself – Affirmations can be extremely powerful IF you know how to utilize them in a way that will work for YOU. This is important, because many people just think of affirmations as a cliche’ quote that sounds good on the back of a book or as your caption for your Instagram and Facebook post. But, affirmations are so POWERFUL when you put them to work!

Here are a few ways you can get AFFIRMATIONS to work for you:

  • Choose 5 to 10 affirmations to write and speak out loud; with conviction/enthusiasm DAILY
  • Create affirmation Post IT Notes and to stick on your bathroom mirror
  • Download the Sticky Note app & post affirmations on your Laptop and Cellphone screen savers
  • Hack your social media news feeds by follow multiple pages that post multiple affirmations throughout the day
  • Listen to affirmations while meditating AND as you sleep *there are 8 hr affirmations on YouTube* This is a great way to re-program and transform your mind (subliminal) without having to do anything but SLEEP!

Move – Get your body moving! And while you do so, affirm yourself! You can do this a variety of way; but I’ll share what I do: I go to the gym, if I have a lot on my mind and I walk a mile around the track. As I walk, I rehearse the affirmations (goals) that I write out daily as I walk. If I’m feel low confidence, I affirm myself with affirmations specific to confidence. Sometimes I pray as I walk. Prayer is also a form of meditation.

Often times, when I’m battling thoughts of anxiety or depression, I go for a walk in the park and affirm myself. This way, I’m getting that Vitamin D and being around people without having one on one contact or having to socialize helps me during those times vs shutting myself indoors or finding comfort in my bed sheets. All I’m saying is, FIND what works for you and do it consistently.

Journal – This is a great way to clear your mind. You can make a list, you can keep it short or you can keeping writing until you feel a sense of clarity or relief. There doesn’t have to be any particular rule or format to follow. The awesome thing about it, is that it works.

Read self-help, personal growth and development books on Mindset. Authors and Experts I recommend studying are: Brian Tracy, Bob Proctor and Dr Carol Dweck. I also have a book called Empower You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind that is a 70 Day Devotional geared towards shifting and shaping your mindset from a negative mindset to a positive, success “growth” mindset. Inside my book, I include a full list of authors/experts and books on mindset, success and personal development, that I have read and studied. In fact, everything that I share with you is based on what I have learned and applied to my own life.

My best advice is to choose multiple of these to try and begin rotating them throughout your week. Let’s say you choose to start meditating and journaling. You don’t have to meditate or journal every day.

By implementing a few of these activities into your daily routine, I believe that you will begin to not only become more self-aware, but you will develop a greater peace of mind, a positive success “growth” mindset and a more optimistic perspective in life!

Manifestation Day

Before you plan & take action, you need to have a clear vision of where you want to go and what you want to achieve!

If you have dreams & goals that you WANT to achieve, but STRUGGLE to believe that it can happen for you, try this!

Set aside 1 day and call it Manifestation Day. This is the day where you will TEST DRIVE YOUR DREAM.

Take time to write over your goals and pray over them!

Take a look at your vision board and make a short-list of ALL the goals you have that you can test drive. For example: IF you have a photo of your dream car on your vision board, this is the day you will visit the car lot.. learn about the car, touch the car, inhale that new car scent, sit in your car, take it for a spin!

Another example: Your goal is to buy your first home. So, go look at houses! Attend a few open houses. Buy 1 item th you you want to put in your home (like a small home decor item).

I reccomend having a Manifestation Day because it takes visualization to the next level. It can also enhance motivation to TAKE STRATEGIC ACTION to achieve the goal.

Now, let’s say you have goals that aren’t tangible; for instance self-confidence or peace of mind! For theses, I suggest 2 things:

1) Customize your laptop and cellphone screensaver and wallpaper with an image or rotating images that represent (reflects or reminds you of) that goal.

2) Hack your social media feeds! Go follow 5 – 10 pages, at minimum, of pages that reflect your goal. I advise doing this for your tangible goals as well.

Example: My dream car is a Black Jeep Wrangler Unlimited.. So, I’ve followes multiple pages associated with Black Jeep Wranglers and now I see photos of my dream car pretty often as I scroll through my feed.

Another Idea..
Watch videos of or related to your dream/goal on YouTube

Use Pinterest as your virtual vision board!

Last month, I set aside 1 Saturday where I went I wrote out my top goals for 2020, prayed over them and then I took them for a test drive. I went to the car lot and learned about my dream car and took photos beside it.

Another goal of mine is to become a homeowner and to move closer to my job. So, I spent a couple hours house hunting and even found a home where, as soon as I saw it, I yelled “That’s it! That’s the one!” This home literally matched what I imagine in my mind during meditation and visualization exercises! It was an exciting moment.

Here is a photo or that exact home.


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7 Day Goal Success Challenge: Day 6 – Identify Motivating Factors

Welcome to Day 6 of the Goal Succeess Challenge!

Today is all about identifying your motivating factors.

This is not that same concept as your WHY factor. This is where you will identify which specific tools will motivate you.

Your motivating factors should remind you of and reinforce your WHY factor.

Remember, your WHY factor is simply your core reason for pursuing your goal – which should be significant enough to motivate you to keep going, even when the going gets tough.

Your motivating factor(s) are going to be something tangible that will REMIND you of your WHY factor.

There are many things you can use as motivating factors! Here are a few examples I use:

Vision Board

I have 2 vision boards. The one above sits on my dresser directly across from my bed. I usually do my meditations before I go to sleep at night, so its nice having my vision board right there to look at when I’m having difficulty focusing my wandering thoughts.

My best advice would be to place your vision board in a place where you’ll see it the most often! I’m away from home most of the time, but when I’m home, I’m in my office or bedroom the most. So, I have my 1 – 5 yr vision board in my office area and my 1yr vision board in my bedroom.

Journals

I have 3 journals. One, I use for scripting (writing your goals and dreams in presentense, as if is happening in that moment or already has happened!

The 2nd journal is my Gratitude journal.

The 3rd journal I use for writing out my goals. So, back in December of 2016, I attended a 3 day workshop called Publish a Book and Grow Rich! I learned a lot about writing and publishing a book, but I also learned a lot about mindset transformation and manifestation. One of the things I learned, I’ve been doing ever since the day I learned it.. Writing out my goals in the form of “I am” and “I have.” As, it was taught to me, we’re writing out our captains orders “captian & crew. The idea behind that, in short, is tht the act of writing out your goals is your concious mind (the captain) giving direction to your subconscious mind (the crew). Your subconscious mind is what you can call your “higher-self” … but, more on that another time.

A few tips for writing out your goals:

* Hand write your goals daily.

* It’s okay if you miss a day(s) in betweeen. Just get back to it when you can. Keep in mind that consistency is key.

* Record the date each time you write out your goals. It’s a simple way to hold yourself accountable.

* Use a journal thats small enough to fit in your purse or to carry with you on the go. If you’re like me, it’s easy to use business as an excuse – keeping it with eliminates the excuse and allows you to get it in when you can.

* Read them out loud with emotion!

Vision Book

More Ideas:

  • Abundance Wall (Write yourself a check!)
  • Calendar/Planner
  • Habit Tracker Apps

The purpose of identifying motivating factors is to help you stay focused on your WHAT (goal) & your WHY(the reason why you want to achieve your goal). As you can see, I use many different things to reinforce my WHY factor. I encourage you to use 1 or as many as you feel you need. I have found these to be helpful, especially when I’m in traffic… I pull out my vision book and remind myself that even being stuck in traffic is a necessary “unfortunate” but necessary part of the process. And, then I pull out my gratitude journal and jot down a few things that I’m grateful for. When pursuing your goals and manifesting your dreams, it’s important to maintain a positive mindset as much as possible.

Come back for Day 7 as we cover the final step on our Goal Success Checklist. If you haven’t already, be sure to grab your checklist & the Set Goals & Slay Workbook + Planner below!

How to Finally Achieve Your Goals

92% of people who set New Year goals don’t achieve them. That means only 8% do. Are you a part of the 8%? If not, what can you do to change that?

Many people set goals. Not all see them through to completion. I am on a mission to empower as many people as I can, to not just clarify and set their goal, but to pursue it and see it through to completion. Often times, we start out strong but for a variety of reasons we get stuck or give up. We do a good job at focusing on the reasons WHY NOT. But, we don’t put as much energy into identifying a solution. So, I’ve told you that I’m on a mission right? To empower as many people as I can to pursue and achieve their 2020 goals. I will do this by providing an opportunity; an opportunity to learn THEE strategy to clarify, set and achieve your 2020 goals. Once you learn the strategy, you will be able to use it over and over and over again.. No matter how big or small your goal APPEARS to be, the strategy works. How so? Because the strategy I wish to share with you IS flexible. It allows you to embrace trial and error, but provides the support and foundation you need to see your goal through to completion. I am a certified Goal Success Coach. But, I will be the first to tell you that you don’t just need a goal. You need to clarify and set the right kind of goal AND you need a STRATEGY. And, not just any strategy, you need the RIGHT strategy.

I have discovered and outlined a strategy that has worked for me and has allowed me to achieve many of my goals! The reason I say MANY of my goals is because some of my goals are still a work in progress, but I am well on my way to achieving them, because I am still actively pursuing them. The reason many people fail to achieve their goals, is not because it’s impossible, but because they STOP pursuing the goal. The strategy I have outlined will help you keep going when you “feel stuck.” I am ready to share THEE strategy with YOU!

Are you ready? I don’t want to be the only slaying some seemingly impossible – intimidating lookin’ dreams in 2020! 2020 IS going to be THEE year we step outside of our comfort zones and claim all the blessings that have our name on it. We will walk into the New Year with the right goals, the right plan and with the right mindset! I’m goin, whether you come or not. But, I want you to join me! That is why I’ve created a 7 Day Challenge: The 7 Day Goal Slaying Challenge! Note: This challenge is NOT about slaying your goals in 7 Days! It’s about completing 7 Steps that will have you SLAYING your 2020 goals, period. How do I know? Because, these are the 7 Steps that helped me SLAY my goals in 2017 – 2019.

Of course, if you’re anything like me, you are wanting to know what GOALS exactly have I achieved!? To name a few; using my 7 step strategy I’ve been able to:

  • Enhance my confidence + become more comfortable sharing my story, promoting myself and business on social media.
  • Launched, promoted, re-launched and continued promoting and sold many copies of my 3rd book!
  • I got started! Faced fear, broke through limiting beliefs, stepped outside of my comfort zone to.. finish my coaching certification, register & launch my coaching
    business.
  • Left my comfortable job working night shift, where I was miserable and complained all the time and got a NEW job I enjoy with many opportunities for growth! All that, after countless interviews and rejections.
  • Traveled and checked something off my bucket list!
  • Bounced back from a toxic relationship in less than 7 days!
  • Adopted a kitten and became a furr-mom!
  • Paid off 1 of 7 students loans! Some progress is better than no progress.

Last year I..

  • Launched my 3rd book
  • Booked multiple radio/podcast interviews to promote my book

Before 2018 and 2019…

  • Paid off credit card debt in full
  • Graduated with degree in 5 and 1/2 yrs after failing and retaking several courses multiple times, losing scholarships and taking out $60k in student loans
  • Moved out of my parents home into my 1rst apartment paying $900+ just for rent + other expnses while working less than 40 hours a week making $10 an hour
  • Overcame shyness and fear of public speaking
  • Became more confident
  • Learned to manage my depression and anxiety in a healthy way

Listen, it doesn’t matter how small or insignificant your goals may seem to anyone else. If IT matters to you, then it IS a goal worth pursuing and achieving!

I have created a Checklist which you can grab! We’ll be checking our list and checking it twice – cause we’re not playin about these 2020 goals. When you sign up for the 7 Day Challenge, you will be able to download the checklist, my set goals & slay workbook & will have access to a video each day of the challenge, in which I break down each step to enhance understanding and give you a few ideas as well.

I’m looking forward to sharing my GOALS SLAYING STRATEGY with you! If you’re ready COMMENT the word CHALLENGE in the comments OR click on the link in my bio to sign up. Turn on your notifications & subscribe to my page at KeziaMarie.co/blog. Challenge begins December 16th – December 22nd.

Now, you may be wondering why I’d dare to share my strategy so freely, when I’m a coach launching a coaching business. I’ll tell you why. Even with the RIGHT strategy, sometimes you need SUPPORT in the form of a human. Yeah, I said it. Some of us need a coach, mentor, accountability partner.. someone! Not, just some THING to help you on your pursuit. And, I realize that not everybody has somebody in their corner giving the right balance of cheering them on and holding them accountable. As a Goal Success Coach, that is what I’ve been trained to do. So, I’m not worried out THEE Strategy or not so secret “Secret” being out there. Many people will “know” the strategy, but won’t implement the strategy without someone to hold them accountable. With that in mind, stay on the lookout because I will be sharing an amazing opportunity to get that kind of support really soon (HINT: It’s happening SPRING 2020!) Now, let’s go slay some goals!

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