One of the greatest things that brings me joy is seeing people live their best lives. I love to see people happy, successful and thriving in every area of their lives. That is one of the factors that drives my passion for helping ambitious women break through limitations and limiting beliefs that can often hold us back from leveling up in our life. Especially, when it comes to pursuing our life purpose!
That is why I am so passionate about today topic. Not only that, but it is something that I struggle with from time to time. But, what I’d like to do here is share with you what I have learned, so that we can finally stop sleeping on ourselves and go after our goals and dreams with boldness!
Today, we’re going to zero in on Imposter Syndrome because when you break down what imposter syndrome looks like, you’ll find that it covers many many things that are common reasons for either giving up on a goal or simply not starting. So, let’s jump in.
If you have a goal that you have been wanting to pursue but you’ve been putting it off, I encourage you to take this moment to think about why. Ask yourself, what has been holding you back?
When we procrastinate on pursuing our goals, it is usually because there is a limitation or limiting belief holding us back.
A limitation is any THING that holds us back from taking action. Example: Lack of resources, lack of money, lack of time, not knowing how or where to start, lack of support, lack of motivation etc.
A limiting belief is a negative or false BELIEF that holds us back from taking action. Example: I’m not good enough, I’m not ready yet, I don’t have enough experience, Nobody will take me seriously, etc.
Imposter syndrome is loosely defined as doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud.
Signs of Imposter Syndrome:
- Self doubt
- Self criticism
- Down playing your skills and abilities
- Not feeling qualified or worthy
Are you a perfectionist? Do you procrastinate when it comes to launching a new product or service, are you waiting for the right time or until you feel more ready, qualified or worthy to publish your book, apply for your dream job or start your business?
Do you feel guilty when you promote your product or service? Do you hesitate or hold back when sharing your qualifications and experience during an interview? Do you downplay what you really bring to the table?
There are different ways that imposter syndrome can show up. And, when we recognize one of these symptoms are at play, it’s essential that we take time to get to the core of that symptom. Get intentional about discovering WHY that fear, self-doubt, self-sabotage, etcetera exists for you. Because once you understand why, then you can effectively begin to manage it.
For example: If your struggle is with fear, once you understand the route of why you are fearful and what triggers it, then you can move forward in feeling the fear and doing what you gotta do anyway.
I’ll use myself as an example.
The 2 symptoms that I struggle the most with is Fear and Down-playing my skills and abilities.
Now, I have my BA is Psychology, I have 5+ years of experience in the Behavior and Mental Health field. I have experience working with adults and children. I also have had my own mental health challenges. And, apart from a college degree and vocational experience, I have studied a attained 3 certifications for life coaching: Life, Solution-focused and goal success. I have spent hours upon hours reading, learning and applying the knowledge I’ve learned.. I don’t know everything. I’m not the best at everything. HOWEVER, I do have quality to bring to the table.
Even with that.. I’ve still doubted and down-played myself soo many times. I’ve spent a lot time procrastinating and being afraid to create and promote my books, products and services, because I have feared being rejected because someone might think I’m too young and not qualified. I have feared not being taken seriously.
This is an example of imposter syndrome. It may look different for you, but what I want you to know, is that it is possible to overcome.
So, with all that being said, here are a few tips to help you overcome and conquer the imposter syndrome:
Please note: This is not a quick fix. These are things that you may have to do each and every time a symptom of imposter syndrome pops up.
Also, keep in mind that these tips are meant to help transform your mindset over time. Your thought processes, your core beliefs.. that is where the shift must occur, so that you can consistently walk in boldness and perform with confidence – in whatever you set out to do, whatever goals you pursue.
1) Remind yourself of who you are and who God has created you to be.
2) Remind yourself of what you bring to the table.
- Get a notepad and pen and make a list of all of your skills, abilities, talents, gifts and experience
- Make a list of all the reasons WHY you should pursue your goal despite how you feel
3) Detox your circle.
- Who are you following on social media? If they do not motivate, encourage, inspire, teach or challenge you in a positive way – then consider unfollowing them
- Who do you share you goals and dreams with? If they are not a healthy support system, then consider keeping your goals and dreams to yourself. Work in silence – let the results speak for you
- Evaluate the company you keep. If you are the smartest person in the room… change that. If your circle is not like-minded, consider socially distancing
- Get intentional about surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals who will be an positive light on your journey
4) Practice positive self-talk everyday. Not just when your mind is bombarded with negative thoughts.
5) Make a habit of celebrating the small wins. Acknowledge your accomplishments. If you feel like you’d be bragging – angle to share your accomplishment in a way that teaches or inspires someone else on their own journey.
6) Be honest with your self and others about your strengths and weaknesses. BALANCE is key. When you are honest with yourself and others about your strengths AND weaknesses, you won’t feel like a fraud. AUTHENTICITY is the best approach. If you are hesitant to share your weaknesses because you don’t want to look more like your not ready or qualified, this is where you’ll need to focus more on shifting your mindset.
Shifting your mindset requires you to repeatedly shift your focus onto something else.. In this case, that something would be HOW you perceive your weaknesses. It’s beneficial here to perceive your weaknesses ALSO as strengths. So, try thinking of your weaknesses as something that is also as asset to you because it makes you
7) My last tip for you is to simply to Challenge Yourself. One thing I am absolutely ashamed of is that fact that I can’t dance. At all. So, I’ve been pushing myself to get moving a bit here and there on some of the videos I post on Instagram and TikTok. I’ve challenged myself to embrace something that I am insecure about, not to make fun of myself, but because I know it’s pushing me outside of my comfort zone. And when I hit post, I feel soo proud of myself for putting myself out there. That is a small win for me that I celebrate each time. And, I feel more confident in spite of, each time I do it.
Taking small steps – challenging yourself is a great way to enhance your confidence in your ability to do certain things.
By implementing these tips into your daily routine or weekly routine, you can really get the upper hand on imposter syndrome. It takes time, it won’t happen over night, but you can get there.
Be encouraged and know that you are not alone on this journey.
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