This Is Why Your Plan Didn't Work

Failing to plan is planning to fail.

– Benjamin Franklin

It’s early Monday morning.. That dreaded Monday morning… You hear your alarm alerting you that it’s time to wake up and prepare for the day ahead. You hit the snooze button and drift back to sleep. 5 minutes later.. BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP.. or maybe, you’re a little more sophisticated; you’ve got a good ole’ oldie or the latest Pop song as your ringtone.. but even that wasn’t enough to motivate you to get up and start the day.

You hit the snooze button that morning, not once, not twice, but three or four times. Until, finally, you’ve had enough of your sleep being disrupted by reminders that you’ve got to get up now if you wan’t any chance at arriving to work on time. You HATE, no you DESPISE Mondays, because it’s the beginning of another long, boring week of working a job where you are chasing someone else dream, building someone else’s empire.. doing something that you are good at, but are NOT passionate about.

Without that cup of coffee, you would not have made out your front door that morning. But you made it, you showed up with an emotionless smile, You work. You put forth your best effort. And, by the time you clock out, get through the rush-hour traffic and get home.. you feel empty and drained by just the realization, that in just a few hours, you’ll have to get up and do it all over again…

I know how it feels. Because that was me, not that long ago. However, I now work a corporate job I enjoy at a company I love AND I also spend my free time working on my SIDE HUSTLE that allows me to utilize my gifts, passion & purpose to empower others and building an empire and legacy of my own that will generate an income for myself and my family.

In my latest blog, I encouraged you to give yourself permission to DREAM big. Today, I encourage you to take it a step further! Don’t just dream big, but BELIEVE that your BIG dream is possible! If you are struggling to believe that it is possible, identify the limitations and limiting beliefs that are hindering your belief.

Not everyone has a BIG dream. Maybe, you’ve been experiencing an emptiness and longing to do more than work your day job, but you have no clue what you want to do.

OR

You’ve had this really big, impossible dream for awhile now, but you don’t know where you would even start.

OR

You already know that a dream without a plan is just a wish. So, you got to work and created a plan. You worked that plan and began seeing results. You gained momentum and until, suddenly, seemingly out of nowhere, things began to fall apart.

Whatever your story may be, there is one thing I can say that applies to you:

You HAVE a purpose

You CAN do what you ENJOY and generate an income.

You CAN work a corporate job full-time and work your side-hustle too.

Your BIG dream IS possible, but you MUST have a plan.

And, not just any plan. You need to have the RIGHT plan.

The RIGHT plan will:

  • Have you prepared for limitations & limiting beliefs that can cause you to PAUSE or STOP the pursuit of your dream.
  • Have a support system and accountability
  • Have alternatives and solutions already in place

Many people GIVE UP on their BIG DREAMS, because they don’t have the RIGHT plan.

This week, I encourage you to create a plan. Start from where you are. If you don’t know what your dream (passion or purpose) is, then your plan may start with you taking the first steps to discovering what you dream (passion and purpose) is. If you already have that figured out but don’t know how to put it altogether in a way that will allow you to generate an income (build a business or side-hustle) around it, then you can start by taking the first steps to figuring out what you need to do or who you need to find/hire to help you figure it out! I’m telling you, my friend, there are resources out there that are free and many that are willing and ready to help you. No matter where you’ve gotta start, just start!

Now, if you had a plan in 2018 and 2019 that didn’t quite work out, you need a better plan. To get started, you can download my FREE Set Goals & Slay Workbook HERE.

You can also sign up for a 90 minute (+1 30min check-in session) Strategy Session with me to help you get clear on what your dream (passion + purpose), set strategic goals & create a GOAL-SLAYING strategy “plan” to set you up for success! Sign Up HERE.

Are you ready? Let’s work!

4 Things You Can Do Now to Prevent Burnout

Just like 2019 and the years before it, 2020 is off to a rapid start. If you set a new year resolution or goals at the start of the year, now is the time to gain momentum. It may seem strange that I would encourage this so early in the year, but I promise you there’s a purpose to it.

Burnout is real and if you’re not prepared for it beforehand, it will catch you at the very moment you should be picking up speed and pushing towards the finish line, not slowing down! But, it happens right? It happens to the best of us. We start of the year strong and then most individuals do 1 of 2 thing: Give up halfway through or get new the end and fad out because of burnout. But, listen, there is a way to combat burnout. The key is to prepare for it in advance! Get ready and stay ready. Here’s a few tips to help you do just that!

If you want to AVOID BURNOUT, you must prepare for it, even though our desire is to not experience it.

1. Shift Your Mindset – Make a conscious decision that you are going to take strategic action to avoid burnout. Instead of focusing solely on a few of your goals, set a goal for every area of your life and then AIM to have a HEALTH LIFE BALANCE. Approach with a flexible mindset; give yourself some wiggle room to make mistakes and learn from them along the way. If you don’t slay your goal the first time, try something different, keep going. Don’t be afraid of trial and error.

2. Set Goals that Are in Alignment With Your Ideal Lifestyle & Create a Plan of Action – Many people set goals, but then they end up doing a lot of busy work and after awhile, find that they haven’t gotten very far. Zoom Out: Identify what you want your life to look like 5 – 10 – 20 years from now. Then, zoom in: Set goals that are in alignment with your ideal lifestyle. Goals that will help you attain the lifestyle you desire to live. Then, zoom in again: Break down those goals into super specific action steps. Then, move on to step 3.

3. Create a Daily Routine – After you’ve made up your mind that you’re going to take strategic action, you’ll want to develop a strategic plan of action. I encourage you to utilize a daily planner that will allow you to break down your day by the hour. Get specific and identify everything that you intend to do each day of the week. I also advise using a habit tracker as well. Whether you use a printable habit tracker or you download an app on your phone; a habit tracker allows you to identify each goal or step you must take to achieve your goals, and record each day that you take action. You can always add to or take away from the list, but it’s a great way to hold yourself accountable, to see where you’re most consistent and which areas need a more effort.

4. Prioritize Self-Care & Relaxation – When you create your action plans and daily routine, I highly encourage incorporating self-care. If you can make time for self-care every day, do it. If that’s something you can’t afford, do it weekly or monthly. Take yourself on a date. Just you. This is not the same as You and your spouse, you and your bestie, you and your sibling or you and your children. No. This is just you, yourself and you! I know there’s a lot of individuals who often feel guilty about prioritizing themselves. If you’re one of those people, look at this way.. prioritizing self-care will not only benefit you, but it will benefit those you love as well, because YOU will BE A BETTER YOU; mentally, emotionally, spiritually.. A few ways to incorporate self-care into your schedule is to mediate, journal, go for a walk, watch a 30-minute episode of your favorite show, eat at your favorite restaraunt, get a massage, go to the movies by yourself… There are many things you can do. The point is to do something you enjoy BY YOURSELF.

Over the past few years, I have found myself setting goals and pursuing them with consistantcy and determination until September and October hits. Then, I’d begin to slow down and lose momentum. Slowly I’d start to fall off.. I’d stop showing up to work, church, the gym, or for myself (self-care) consistently! It was also around the last few months of the year when I’ve battled with depression and anxiety the most. And, one way that I’d always describe how I was feeling, was “burnt out.” I am determined not experience that this year. And, the tips I’ve shared with you above are the exact steps that I am taking in my own life to ensure I avoid feel the mid year or end of year burnout. I’ve made a conscious decision that I will be consistent this year. I’ve created a plan, meaning, I’ve set my daily routine and utilize tools to hold myself accountable; including taking myself on a date once a month.

If you any tips or ideas to help avoid burnout, share with us in the comments below! And, as always, happy manifesting in 2020!

7 day Goal Success Challenge: Day 3

Welcome to Day 3 of our Goal Success Challenge!

Today we will be setting SMART Goals! In today’s video I will break down what SMART goal looks like.

Here are my best tips for setting a S.M.A.R.T Goals:

🎯 Set a goal that is Specific. Measurable. Achievable. Realistic. and Trackable.

  • Get as specific as possible. The smaller the better.
  • An easy way to determine IF your goal is measurable & trackable is WHEN you are able to break it down into small action steps & set individual dates.
  • Approach goal-setting with the mindset of FLEXIBILITY. The target date may change and that’s okay. The important thing is to set a date to track your progress & hold yourself accountable!

🎯 Write down your goal with a pen and paper.

🎯 Write your goal in the form of “I am or “I have.” After you have clarified your goal and set a date.

Come back for Day 3 as we cover the 3rd step on our Goal Success Checklist. If you haven’t already, be sure to grab your checklist & the Set Goals & Slay Workbook + Planner below!

This Is My Story

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This Time Last Year

This time last year…

It was late one evening that I sat on my living room floor, rocking back and forth. My hands were clammy, and my heart felt as if it was beating outside of my chest. My rapid heartbeat echoed a seemingly off beat cadence in my ears as tears danced down my cheeks. I had what seemed to be a million and one thoughts racing through my mind, but each had the same plot. Three simple words: Just end it.

This time last year, I hit rock bottom. I was in a dark place. I hadn’t been there in a long time. I felt so alone. I was angry at family and those I’d called friend, because no one had noticed the pain in my eyes. No one seemed to notice that everything wasn’t okay. I was just going through the motions and I blamed everyone I knew for not noticing. I cut off a few people I’d considered friends and distanced myself from others, because I blamed them. One specific night I recall, as I sat on my living room floor, I contemplated taking my life. I cried out desperate for courage to just end it. All. I knew I should reach out to someone for help; considering the state of mind I was in. But, in all honesty, I didn’t want to be a burden. I was in a place where I was asking my parents for financial assistance, I was in a relationship that was going downhill.. I just didn’t want to be a burden to anyone. I felt like nobody would notice for days, maybe weeks even, if I just disappeared. If I just ended my life.

I got up from the floor, walked into my kitchen and picked up a knife (and no it wasn’t a plastic or butter knife lol) and began to scream. In that moment, I wished I had the courage to take the knife and split my wrists. But, all I could think about was my faith. I was born and raised in church and was taught that God is the creator of my life and he is the one who determines when my life will come to an end. And, to be a bit more literal; I was taught that suicide is a sin. I felt like I’d suffered enough and didn’t want to burn in hell for eternity in addition to the hell on earth I felt I was experiencing. So, I turned a slammed the knife into the counter and walked away. My thought at that point was, if only God, my religion and my faith didn’t exist, I would have the courage to end my life.

This was the 2nd time in my life I’d dealt with having suicidal ideations. The first time occurred when I was a lot younger. I remember that day pretty vividly as well. I hope that I never find myself in that place ever again. That is where I was, this time last year. The plans I’d had of spending Thanksgiving Day with my, now ex-boyfriend and his family fell through and I didn’t have legitimate plans with my immediate family.. I guess you could say that was the tipping point for me. I had the holiday blues, I was depressed and just felt like I had nothing and nobody to spend the holiday with.. that is, without having to ask. If you know me, you know that I strongly dislike.. okay, I hate bringing extra attention to myself. I don’t like confrontation. So, the last thing I’d want to do is broadcast the fact that I felt alone.

You’re probably wondering, how on earth, someone like me, who is ALL about having a positive mindset would dare share something so NOT positing on today of all days. But, my question to you would be, why not? This purpose of this post is not just to say that I’m thankful that I am not where I was this time last year, but let you know that I am grateful that I was in such a dark place last year. I’ll tell you why. A few days ago, I met one of the reasons why. Yes, you read that right. I met an individual in a parking lot, who was at his breaking point. And, on so many levels, in so many ways I could relate to how he was feeling.. As he shared his story, I was able to do much more than pray. I was able to identify with how he was feeling and was able to express that in a way that allowed him to feel that… He walked away knowing that he is NOT alone and that he is NOT going to be where he was forever. He left knowing that there is hope. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and I was representation of that. I was living proof.

It took healing and a transformed mindset to get to where I am today. Initially, it was the fear factor that held me back from attempting to take my life. But, overall, it was deep down, knowing that I am here for a purpose and that the hurt, pain and disappointment I felt was for a reason that I wasn’t yet able to comprehend in that moment. Today, I am thankful for where I was last year, because it makes being HERE today, so much more beautiful. HERE is healthy – mind, body and soul. HERE is being comfortable, even when I’m alone, with no legitimate plans for the holiday. HERE is knowing my purpose and walking in it. HERE is being in position to share my story and to empower someone else to share there story, because someone, somewhere is depending on it.

This is a poem I wrote shortly after that night, inspired by how I was feeling..

Transparency

He said,
β€œI really don’t want to be on this earth anymore
I’m doing my best to stay here for you but I actually don’t know how much longer I can last
All I ever tried to do was help people. Just remember I told you so.”
I felt that

Sitting here wondering
If anyone would notice that I’m gone
Don’t think they would
Mentally and emotionally I’m already done
No one has even noticed
The pain in my eyes
The struggle in my smile
As I put all my effort into covering up my truth
Physically I’m here
Just going through the motions
Day after day after day

No need to decorate the truth with lies
No need to create illusions with my words
In all transparency
This overwhelming sadness keeps creeping up on me
I’m broken

Trying to hold all the pieces of me together
The last thing I want to do is fall apart and burden somebody else

So I keep fighting
Act like nothing’s wrong
I mean, people ask how you’re doing
But don’t stick around long enough to hear the answer
People appear to look at you
But, don’t realize they’re seeing right through you
People say that they’ll be there for you
But, when you need them, they’re too busy, too occupied
We throw words around like they’re nothing
We say we love but wouldn’t recognize it if it smacked us in the face
I’m just trying to find my place
In this messed up human race

He said, He’s doing his best to stay around for people, whoever they may be
But I will fight and stay around
Not for people who are hardly there or pretend to care
I will do it for myself
Because I deserve better

At some point you got to change the game and do it for you.

Thanks for reading!