Goal Achievement: How to Get Started and Stop Stopping

You’ve got this BIG dream that you’ve been pursuing but for some reason you have not made the progress you were hoping you would’ve by now. It’s May, and you’re beginning to feel a bit discouraged. You want to achieve your goals, but you keep stopping. You started out strong and then along the way you loss momentum, you slowed down and became inconsistent. You’ve reached a point where you’re considering giving up entirely.. You’ve have thoughts like: Maybe I’m just not cut out for this. Maybe it’s not meant for me after all..

I know it doesn’t look good right now! You’ve experienced a setback and it’s hard to envision yourself bouncing back. But hear me on this.. 2020 is still YOUR year! Your GOAL is still worth pursuing. And, you are STILL more than capable! You were created with PURPOSE and God has a divine plan for your life. The Corona-virus or any other setback cannot CANCEL God’s will for your life. He has plans to give you a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29: 11 – 13). The setback you are experiencing in your life is temporary. Delayed does not mean denied. God gave you that passion and assigned purpose to your life. Don’t count yourself out, because you’ve slowed down or contemplated stopping. If you’ve stopped, it’s not too late to begin again.

I’m not here to just motivate or encourage you. I am here to give you practical tips for creating a SHIFT in your life. You don’t have to STOP. Here’s what you can do to KEEP going.

The top reasons people STOP or FAIL to START are:

Fear

Perfectionism

Waiting for a right time

AND

Not having an action plan/strategy

Some of us STOP or fail to get started often because of a combination of reasons. Maybe it’s fear or perfectionism.. But, I believe it is most commonly combined with not having the RIGHT PLAN. Not having the right plan is like having a destination in mind, somewhere you’ve never traveled before and just idoly wandering with no clue as to how you’re going to get there. Here this! YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF TO DO MORE THAN “JUST WINGING IT” when it comes to the pursuit of your dreams.

A real plan is when you have identified where you’re going, what you need to get there, how you’re going to get there and what you will do if/when something doesn’t quite go as plan A.. what is your plan B, C or D. Check out some of my past blog posts where we break down setting strategic goals and creating a plan of action.

You can create a strategy that will help you to STOP stopping OR that will encourage you START!

Here’s how:

1

IF you really want to STOP stopping, the first thing you need to do is go back to the drawing board and ask yourself these questions:

Does my goal reflect my dream?

Remember, your goal(s) are just a break down (steps) leading towards the ultimate dream (the big picture). If your goals are not in alignment with the ultimate dream, then you are just doing “busy work” that will lead to burnout and lack of motivation very quickly.

Is my goal big enough?

What is my WHY factor? (Why do I want to achieve this goal? What will happen if I do not achieve this goal? What will happen/change WHEN I achieve my goal?)

2

Figure out why you keep stopping. Take time to analyze where you are at, why you keep stopping and then for each reason, brainstorm possible alternate routes/solutions. You should never give up on you goals without exploring other options first.

3

Create a support system by:

Getting an accountability partner, coach or mentor.

AND

Utilizing calendars/planers, habit trackers or lists and write out your goals daily, to remind you of your goals and to hold yourself accountable.

In the upcoming blogs, we will tackle the top reasons many people STOP or fail to start, i.e. fear, procrastination, perfectionism, etc.

By completing each of the steps above, you can CREATE a STRATEGY to slay your goals without STOPPING. And, life happens, so if you do stop, if you create the RIGHT plan, you should feel comfortable enough to pick-up where you left off and keep going.

I’m just trying to help someone to KEEP GOING, because I know it gets rough and tough out here sometimes. WE are all experiencing setbacks in these uncertain times and have had to pivot and adjust to what is quickly becoming our new normal.

It may not be easy to start OR to keep going, but I promise you, with the RIGHT strategy you CAN and when you do, it will be worth it!

You don’t have to chase your goals alone! I am here to offer accountability and support as your set and slay your BIG + Impossible looking goals. It is possible IF you have the Right mindset, Right goal and the Right strategy. Ready to create the strategy you need to set goals and slay? Click HERE to learn more about Goal Success Strategy Sessions.

Conquer Your Limiting Beliefs

The human mind is a battle field. Every day we are tempted with negative thoughts and challenging situations. Some days we fight and conquer, other days we succumb. Many people live day to day without the realization that it is up to them to fight and conquer their limitations and limiting beliefs.

IF we want to SLAY our goals, we must make the conscious decision to confront and conquer our limitations and limiting beliefs, every day.

I am going to share with you HOW you can begin to SHIFT and TRANSFORM your mindset; from a negative to a positive success “growth” mindset, that will position you to confront and conquer your limitations and limiting belief.

A limitation is anything that serves as an excuse, to justify not taking strategic action to pursue your goals. Example: I don’t have enough time or money to start my business.

Limiting beliefs are negative thoughts that you allow to justify not taking strategic action to pursue your goals. Example: I am not good enough or qualified for people to take me seriously.

Here are the facts about Limitations & Limiting Beliefs:

We ALL battle negative thoughts and challenging situations everyday.

It is within our control to combat negative thoughts and to perceive our challenging situations in a positive way.

It is possible, but it also takes practice to attain and maintain a positive mindset and optimistic perspective in life.

A positive success “growth” mindset and an optimistic perspective in life WILL help you attract and take action (steps) that are in direct alignment with the goals you wish to achieve. It will also help you ATTRACT more positive opportunities and experiences into your life.

No matter how positive/optimistic you are, you will still confront negative thoughts and challenging situations. BUT you will be better equipt to GROW through it, because of the positive success “growth” mindset that you have.

A positive success “growth” mindset will allow you to SEE your challenges (negative situations), setbacks, etc. as a learning opportunity, as a setup in disguise, an opportunity to recalibrate, to realign and more.

You decide, each time you are faced with a negative thought or challenging situation, whether or not you will allow it to control you OR if you will confront and conquer it.

The purpose of this blog post is to present you with practical tips and tools that you can use to CONFRONT and CONQUER your limitations and limiting beliefs.

If you have decided to take strategic action to confront and conquer your limitations and limiting beliefs, congratulations! You have just made a decision that will ultimately change the trajectory of your life. Because now, you are about to WORK to transform your mindset.

By implementing the following tips into your daily routine, you will begin to SEE results in your THINKING and in your overall perspective of your self, you circumstance and life itself.

What can you do to TRANSFORM your Mindset?

Meditation – You can find a number of guided and non-guided, verbal and subliminal an subliminal meditations and visualization exercises on YouTube for a variety of topics such as anxiety, stress, depression, mental or emotional healing, relaxation, energy boosting, self-love and confidence, client attraction and so much more!

Affirm Yourself – Affirmations can be extremely powerful IF you know how to utilize them in a way that will work for YOU. This is important, because many people just think of affirmations as a cliche’ quote that sounds good on the back of a book or as your caption for your Instagram and Facebook post. But, affirmations are so POWERFUL when you put them to work!

Here are a few ways you can get AFFIRMATIONS to work for you:

  • Choose 5 to 10 affirmations to write and speak out loud; with conviction/enthusiasm DAILY
  • Create affirmation Post IT Notes and to stick on your bathroom mirror
  • Download the Sticky Note app & post affirmations on your Laptop and Cellphone screen savers
  • Hack your social media news feeds by follow multiple pages that post multiple affirmations throughout the day
  • Listen to affirmations while meditating AND as you sleep *there are 8 hr affirmations on YouTube* This is a great way to re-program and transform your mind (subliminal) without having to do anything but SLEEP!

Move – Get your body moving! And while you do so, affirm yourself! You can do this a variety of way; but I’ll share what I do: I go to the gym, if I have a lot on my mind and I walk a mile around the track. As I walk, I rehearse the affirmations (goals) that I write out daily as I walk. If I’m feel low confidence, I affirm myself with affirmations specific to confidence. Sometimes I pray as I walk. Prayer is also a form of meditation.

Often times, when I’m battling thoughts of anxiety or depression, I go for a walk in the park and affirm myself. This way, I’m getting that Vitamin D and being around people without having one on one contact or having to socialize helps me during those times vs shutting myself indoors or finding comfort in my bed sheets. All I’m saying is, FIND what works for you and do it consistently.

Journal – This is a great way to clear your mind. You can make a list, you can keep it short or you can keeping writing until you feel a sense of clarity or relief. There doesn’t have to be any particular rule or format to follow. The awesome thing about it, is that it works.

Read self-help, personal growth and development books on Mindset. Authors and Experts I recommend studying are: Brian Tracy, Bob Proctor and Dr Carol Dweck. I also have a book called Empower You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind that is a 70 Day Devotional geared towards shifting and shaping your mindset from a negative mindset to a positive, success “growth” mindset. Inside my book, I include a full list of authors/experts and books on mindset, success and personal development, that I have read and studied. In fact, everything that I share with you is based on what I have learned and applied to my own life.

My best advice is to choose multiple of these to try and begin rotating them throughout your week. Let’s say you choose to start meditating and journaling. You don’t have to meditate or journal every day.

By implementing a few of these activities into your daily routine, I believe that you will begin to not only become more self-aware, but you will develop a greater peace of mind, a positive success “growth” mindset and a more optimistic perspective in life!

How to Create an Affective Plan You Won’t Quit

A Goal Without a Plan is Just a Wish

It’s 2020 and you’re ready to start slaying your goals that you set at the start of the new year. Now, that you have your goals (destination), it’s time to figure out just how you’re going to get there. First, I want to commend you for taking the time to CREATE a plan. Because, so many people give up on their goals, because LIFE happens and often when we least expect it right? The good news is that with the RIGHT plan or strategy in place, we can no longer have an excuse not to keeping going when those inevitable setbacks and discouragements arise.

The prerequisite for creating an effective plan that you won’t quit is: 1) Knowing exactly what you want to achieve, 2) Setting a SMART goal and breaking it down into small action steps. Once you have done that, it is time to create a goal-slaying strategy.

Here is the breakdown on how to create your strategy.

1) For each goal you set, break it down it to small steps.

Example:

Goal – I have $1,000 saved specifically as spending for my Summer vacation.

Step 1) Create a Budget

Step 2 ) Open a savings account

Step 3) Set-up my bank account to automatically deduct $100 from each upcoming paycheck and deposit into a separate savings account until a total of $1,000 is saved.

2) For each step, identify ANY limitation and limiting belief that you can think of. These are any reasons why YOU would not complete that step.

Example:

Step 1) Limitation – I don’t know how much to set up my account to automatically deduct $100.

Instead of avoiding this step altogether, identify a few solutions or alternatives.

Limiting Belief – I don’t know if I can save enough money in time.

Example:

Possible Solution – Call customer support and ask for assistance setting up the account.

Possible Solution – Google “how to set up my account with (name of bank) to automatically deduct $100 on a recurring date.

Possible Solution – Go to local branch in person and request assistance in getting set up.

Alternative Belief – Write out goal(s) and affirmations daily: I am going on summer vacation with more than enough money to splurge.

Many people give up on their goals NOT because the goal is too big. They give up, because of a STEP that they were required to take along the way. Many of the steps you must take to accomplish your goals may be tangible like the example above. However, others will be much like this limiting belief…

Limiting Belief: I am not good enough OR I am not qualified.

Instead of giving in to the discouragement, let’s identify some solutions to this “problem feeling.”

First, acknowledge that your FEELING is VALID. It is justified. It’s okay to feel “not good enough” or “not qualified.” Then, realize that you can do something about it and decide that you will do something about it. The solutions or alternatives that you identify are the specific things that you can do about it.

Example:

1. Work with a coach or mentor. Can’t afford one? Check out SCORE or coaches who offer coaching pro-bono.

2. Read books written by experts in your field/topic to enhance your knowledge

3. Watch YouTube videos on the topic

4. Take certification courses or go back to school and get a degree

It is my hope that this post has opened your eyes to see opportunity where you may have previously seen setbacks. You CAN achieve your goals and live your dream. But, sometimes we get stuck, because we don’t have the right PLAN. The right plan will have you prepared for possible setbacks and discouragements, before you even begin. And you know what’s great about this type of plan? Whenever a new limitation or limiting belief (thought) presents itself, you can add it to your list and follow the same formula to identify a solution AKA another reason why it IS possible to keep going. If plan A doesn’t work, you move on to B, C, D, etc. until you find what works.

If you’d like help in getting clear on what you want to achieve, setting the right goal and creating the right plan, I am here to help. I have officially launched my Goal Success Strategy Sessions. Click HERE to learn more.

Thanks for reading my friend! Wishing you great success this week. Feel free to share your comments below. Happy Manifesting in 2020!

This Is Why Your Plan Didn’t Work

Failing to plan is planning to fail.

– Benjamin Franklin

It’s early Monday morning.. That dreaded Monday morning… You hear your alarm alerting you that it’s time to wake up and prepare for the day ahead. You hit the snooze button and drift back to sleep. 5 minutes later.. BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP.. or maybe, you’re a little more sophisticated; you’ve got a good ole’ oldie or the latest Pop song as your ringtone.. but even that wasn’t enough to motivate you to get up and start the day.

You hit the snooze button that morning, not once, not twice, but three or four times. Until, finally, you’ve had enough of your sleep being disrupted by reminders that you’ve got to get up now if you wan’t any chance at arriving to work on time. You HATE, no you DESPISE Mondays, because it’s the beginning of another long, boring week of working a job where you are chasing someone else dream, building someone else’s empire.. doing something that you are good at, but are NOT passionate about.

Without that cup of coffee, you would not have made out your front door that morning. But you made it, you showed up with an emotionless smile, You work. You put forth your best effort. And, by the time you clock out, get through the rush-hour traffic and get home.. you feel empty and drained by just the realization, that in just a few hours, you’ll have to get up and do it all over again…

I know how it feels. Because that was me, not that long ago. However, I now work a corporate job I enjoy at a company I love AND I also spend my free time working on my SIDE HUSTLE that allows me to utilize my gifts, passion & purpose to empower others and building an empire and legacy of my own that will generate an income for myself and my family.

In my latest blog, I encouraged you to give yourself permission to DREAM big. Today, I encourage you to take it a step further! Don’t just dream big, but BELIEVE that your BIG dream is possible! If you are struggling to believe that it is possible, identify the limitations and limiting beliefs that are hindering your belief.

Not everyone has a BIG dream. Maybe, you’ve been experiencing an emptiness and longing to do more than work your day job, but you have no clue what you want to do.

OR

You’ve had this really big, impossible dream for awhile now, but you don’t know where you would even start.

OR

You already know that a dream without a plan is just a wish. So, you got to work and created a plan. You worked that plan and began seeing results. You gained momentum and until, suddenly, seemingly out of nowhere, things began to fall apart.

Whatever your story may be, there is one thing I can say that applies to you:

You HAVE a purpose

You CAN do what you ENJOY and generate an income.

You CAN work a corporate job full-time and work your side-hustle too.

Your BIG dream IS possible, but you MUST have a plan.

And, not just any plan. You need to have the RIGHT plan.

The RIGHT plan will:

  • Have you prepared for limitations & limiting beliefs that can cause you to PAUSE or STOP the pursuit of your dream.
  • Have a support system and accountability
  • Have alternatives and solutions already in place

Many people GIVE UP on their BIG DREAMS, because they don’t have the RIGHT plan.

This week, I encourage you to create a plan. Start from where you are. If you don’t know what your dream (passion or purpose) is, then your plan may start with you taking the first steps to discovering what you dream (passion and purpose) is. If you already have that figured out but don’t know how to put it altogether in a way that will allow you to generate an income (build a business or side-hustle) around it, then you can start by taking the first steps to figuring out what you need to do or who you need to find/hire to help you figure it out! I’m telling you, my friend, there are resources out there that are free and many that are willing and ready to help you. No matter where you’ve gotta start, just start!

Now, if you had a plan in 2018 and 2019 that didn’t quite work out, you need a better plan. To get started, you can download my FREE Set Goals & Slay Workbook HERE.

You can also sign up for a 90 minute (+1 30min check-in session) Strategy Session with me to help you get clear on what your dream (passion + purpose), set strategic goals & create a GOAL-SLAYING strategy “plan” to set you up for success! Sign Up HERE.

Are you ready? Let’s work!

The One Thing You Must Sacrifice to Achieve Your Goals & Manifest Your Dreams

Anything is possible, but you have to believe and you have to fight. Anything is possible, and that’s something we should not lose sight of. The inspiration and the permission to dream is huge. Be strong, be fearless, be beautiful.

– Unknown

If you want to achieve your goals and manifest your dreams, you must be willing to sacrifice your comfort zone.

Give Yourself Permission to Dream Big

One of the most common emotions individual experiences when they’ve reached the later years of their lives is regret.

Every day someone leaves this life with unfilled goals and dreams. Today, many people are chasing after someone else’s dream, rather than their own. While others, are waiting for a sign or some sort of feeling that says “you’re qualified” and “it’s time” or “launch now.”

You don’t have live a life of regret. You CAN live your life on your own terms, pursing after your own dreams! You do not have to let someone else pressure you to do what they desire you to do, because they want to LIVE through you.. YOU can give yourself permission to follow your own heart, chase after your own dream.

As long a you live and even after you are gone, someone somewhere will always have an opinion. Their opinions are their truth, not yours! So, don’t let their truth define your own. Free yourself by freeing your mind. You do this by shifting your PERSPECTIVE. When you stop focusing on other people’s opinions or “truth,” and focus on your own, then your actions can align with your truth.

Take Strategic Action

Ask yourself this: Has what I’ve been doing for the past few years been working? Have my actions gotten me any closer to achieving my goals and manifesting my dream? To achieve your BIG + IMPOSSIBLE looking goals & dreams, you MUST take strategic action. Dreaming is the easy part, but making it your reality takes consistent, strategic action. It’s great to have a destination in mind, but make sure that you have a plan of how your going to get there. Not only that, but makes sure your plan includes details on what to do IF something occurs unexpectedly that initiates you to reroute. The difference between having a PLAN and a STRATEGY, or “strategic plan,” is knowing what alternatives you can take if Plan A doesn’t go as planned.

Be Willing to Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone

When you have BIG goals & DREAMS that you want to achieve and manifest, you cannot allow your comfort zone to hold you hostage. Although you may experience feelings of fear, anxiety, insecurity, unpreparedness, etc. you must SHIFT your focus. Rather than focusing on the steps you must take that are outside of your comfort zone, FOCUS on the destination, the end result that you desire. If you’ve set the right kind of goal, your GOAL & DREAM should be bigger than any uncomfortable action you must take to get there.

What you desire is outside of your comfort zone, so shift your focus and execute!