This Is Why Your Plan Didn't Work

Failing to plan is planning to fail.

– Benjamin Franklin

It’s early Monday morning.. That dreaded Monday morning… You hear your alarm alerting you that it’s time to wake up and prepare for the day ahead. You hit the snooze button and drift back to sleep. 5 minutes later.. BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP.. or maybe, you’re a little more sophisticated; you’ve got a good ole’ oldie or the latest Pop song as your ringtone.. but even that wasn’t enough to motivate you to get up and start the day.

You hit the snooze button that morning, not once, not twice, but three or four times. Until, finally, you’ve had enough of your sleep being disrupted by reminders that you’ve got to get up now if you wan’t any chance at arriving to work on time. You HATE, no you DESPISE Mondays, because it’s the beginning of another long, boring week of working a job where you are chasing someone else dream, building someone else’s empire.. doing something that you are good at, but are NOT passionate about.

Without that cup of coffee, you would not have made out your front door that morning. But you made it, you showed up with an emotionless smile, You work. You put forth your best effort. And, by the time you clock out, get through the rush-hour traffic and get home.. you feel empty and drained by just the realization, that in just a few hours, you’ll have to get up and do it all over again…

I know how it feels. Because that was me, not that long ago. However, I now work a corporate job I enjoy at a company I love AND I also spend my free time working on my SIDE HUSTLE that allows me to utilize my gifts, passion & purpose to empower others and building an empire and legacy of my own that will generate an income for myself and my family.

In my latest blog, I encouraged you to give yourself permission to DREAM big. Today, I encourage you to take it a step further! Don’t just dream big, but BELIEVE that your BIG dream is possible! If you are struggling to believe that it is possible, identify the limitations and limiting beliefs that are hindering your belief.

Not everyone has a BIG dream. Maybe, you’ve been experiencing an emptiness and longing to do more than work your day job, but you have no clue what you want to do.

OR

You’ve had this really big, impossible dream for awhile now, but you don’t know where you would even start.

OR

You already know that a dream without a plan is just a wish. So, you got to work and created a plan. You worked that plan and began seeing results. You gained momentum and until, suddenly, seemingly out of nowhere, things began to fall apart.

Whatever your story may be, there is one thing I can say that applies to you:

You HAVE a purpose

You CAN do what you ENJOY and generate an income.

You CAN work a corporate job full-time and work your side-hustle too.

Your BIG dream IS possible, but you MUST have a plan.

And, not just any plan. You need to have the RIGHT plan.

The RIGHT plan will:

  • Have you prepared for limitations & limiting beliefs that can cause you to PAUSE or STOP the pursuit of your dream.
  • Have a support system and accountability
  • Have alternatives and solutions already in place

Many people GIVE UP on their BIG DREAMS, because they don’t have the RIGHT plan.

This week, I encourage you to create a plan. Start from where you are. If you don’t know what your dream (passion or purpose) is, then your plan may start with you taking the first steps to discovering what you dream (passion and purpose) is. If you already have that figured out but don’t know how to put it altogether in a way that will allow you to generate an income (build a business or side-hustle) around it, then you can start by taking the first steps to figuring out what you need to do or who you need to find/hire to help you figure it out! I’m telling you, my friend, there are resources out there that are free and many that are willing and ready to help you. No matter where you’ve gotta start, just start!

Now, if you had a plan in 2018 and 2019 that didn’t quite work out, you need a better plan. To get started, you can download my FREE Set Goals & Slay Workbook HERE.

You can also sign up for a 90 minute (+1 30min check-in session) Strategy Session with me to help you get clear on what your dream (passion + purpose), set strategic goals & create a GOAL-SLAYING strategy “plan” to set you up for success! Sign Up HERE.

Are you ready? Let’s work!

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I am on a journey.. actively pursuing my DREAM. And yes, this post is a part of it. IF I can motivate & inspire 1 person to step outside of their comfort zone & pursue their passion ON purpose WITH purpose..I’m happy! I believe thats a part of MY purpose.

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Goal Success Challenge: Day 7 – Identify & Create Positive Reinforcement

Welcome to Day 7 of the Goal Success Challenge!

For 1 week we’ve tackled 7 steps to setting and slaying our goals! We’ve begun to position ourselves for success in 2020!

We began by visualizing what our ideal life looks like. Then, we got clear on what goals we need to set and what steps we need to take to manifest our dream life. After which, we set strategic smart goals and created a plan of action – by breaking down our goal into small goals, identifying limitations and limiting beliefs and identifying possible solutions or alternatives. That eliminates any excuses upfront, for not getting started!

Don’t let 2020 be a repeat of 2019.

And, please, don’t transition into the New Year without a game plan!

Yes, you will face challenges in 2020. Yes, you will have a few disappointments and may experience a few setbacks. That’s life. But, with a positive mindset and a game plan, you can eliminate unnecessary or “extra” negativity from popping up.

Today, we are covering the final step on our Goal Success Checklist. We are going to identify and create positive reinforcement.

Identify WHO and WHAT will hold you accountable, motivate and remind you to pursue your goals.

Examples:

– Find an accountability partner

– Hire a coach or mentor

– Create a vision board/book

Choose/set as many as you need! And remember, what works for me, may not work for you, so choose what works for you!

If you were to be graded on the discipline you have in your life, would you score a 90% or above? Be honest. If the answer is no, then you need some form of accountability in your life.

There are many “smaller” ways to hold yourself accountable. I try to do so, as much as possible. It’s as simple as setting a date for your goals and each individual action step you take or keeping track of your goals and deadlines on a calendar/planner or Habit Tracker App.

Maybe you want to hire a coach or mentor, but don’t know where to look or can’t afford one at the moment. Like any goal, that would be considered a limitation. There is a solution or alternative, even when lack of money is the issue. You can start small. Start with books, YouTube videos by subject matter experts, etc. You may not be able to take the magnitude of steps that you want to right off the bat, but progress is progress. So, as long as you are CONSISTENTLY making moves that are in alignment with your goal, you’re good!

We have reached the end of the goal success challenge! I hope that you feel more prepared to slay your goals in 2020! You have the strategy to slay your goals in 2020. A strategy that works. But, here’s the thing… it WILL NOT work IF you do not have the RIGHT Mindset. This challenge has been all about providing you with the RIGHT GOAL & the RIGHT PLAN. But, my friend, if you don’t have the right minds.. A positive success “growth” mindset that looks for possibility when their appears to be none.. A mindset that is rooted in discipline and consistency.. A mindset where YOU believe that your goal IS possible… it won’t work.

The strategy works, if you make it work. It’s that simple.

Thank you for joining me in this weeks challenge! I look forward to slaying some goals with you in 2020!

P.S. Can you believe we’re entering a new decade!?

7 Day Goal Success Challenge: Day 4 – Create an Action Plan

Welcome to Day 4 of our Goal Success Challenge!

Today is all about creating a plan of action!

To create your action plan, you’ll want to break down your goal into small action steps. Break it down into as many steps as possible. For each step, identify any limitation or limiting beliefs that you can think of. Then, for each limitation and limiting belief identify a possible solution (Plan B, C, D, etc.) or alternative. Set a date for each step if possible.

When you create your plan, approach it with the mindset of “flexibility.” The purpose of setting a date is to hold yourself accountable and serves as a way to track your progress. However, don’t be too hard on yourself, if circumstances arise that cause you to extend the date. Leave yourself a little wiggle room. We’re only human, things happen. The fact that you are identifying possible limitations and limiting beliefs and creating solutions or alternatives for them upfront is setting you up for success. You are giving yourself a much better shot at achieving your goal vs someone who will set a new year resolution and has no game plan at all. The benefit of having a flexible approach is that you can adjust and adapt as needed. Individuals who fail to do so, are more likely to give up on the pursuit of their goals.

Haven’t joined the challenge? You can still join us! Scroll down to get caught up on Days 1, 2 and 3. And, grab your checklist and the Set Goals & Slay workbook + planner below!

It Happens to Us All

As I sit at my favorite Starbucks, sippin’ on my Toasted White Chocolate Mocha, I look around at the people around me and I recognize something instantly… How different we all are. Some faces look vaguely familiar, while others I’ve never seen before. We’re all here for different reasons. However, another thought crosses my mind. We all have something in common.. we’ve each experienced something in our lives that caused us to pause or give up entirely on our dreams.

We all have a dream. We all have an idea of what our ideal life looks like. Even if you’re not clear on what your ideal life looks like or if you’ve never taken time to actually think about it, it still exists. And, what’s even more real, is the sad reality that very few people are living their ideal life. I want to change that. I am passionate about empowering people to dream big, realize that their dream is possible and to then take strategic action to make it happen!

2019 has been one hell of a year for most of us hasn’t it? I’ve seen the comments all up and down my social media timelines. I know it’s been a challenging year. We’ve experienced setbacks and disappointments that has left many of us discouraged about our futures as it concerns our dreams. Many of you paused when life happened unexpectedly and you never pressed play again. How many of you will be honest and admit that you feel stuck right now? That, 2019 didn’t quite go how you wanted or expected it to go?

Moment of transparency: Although I slayed many of my 2019 goals, I still experienced setbacks and disappointments that cause me to feel stuck. And, I say this not to brag, but to make a point.. I am so proud of myself, because THIS time, THIS year, I kept going! I didn’t press pause and just stay there. I’m still running towards my dream at a faster pace than before. Not everybody can say that. I’m thankful that I can and I’m ready to share with you how I did it and how you can to!

One of my top goals this year was to launch my coaching business, do a bit of traveling and speaking. I was hoping that the relationship I was in would progress to the next level and I was hoping I’d get my new job a lot sooner than I did. But, 2019 did not go how I was initially hoping it would go. Instead, it took 9+ months to land a new job, my 2 year relationship ended unexpectedly in heartbreak and immense disappointment and the speaking gig I had fell through. Listen, this has been one hell of a year. This time last year, I wanted to end my life. But, here I sit today at Starbucks, working on my dream and building the foundation for my ideal future. I can’t lie, I’ve been fighting off depression hard – trying not to entertain certain thoughts and distract my mind from triggers that cause me to spiral out of control emotionally when I focus on them to long. It hasn’t been easy at all. In fact, in an attempt to focus on what really matters, I’ve narrowed my focus to the point where I’ve left some people in my life and important things on the back burner.

I share all that to say this: It’s okay to be under construction. It’s okay to be a work in progress, it’s okay to be IN the process of healing and still working on your dreams. And, it IS possible to keep going even when you FEEL stuck. There are memories and emotions that have caused me to PAUSE mentally and emotionally – where I don’t allow myself to focus on certain aspects of my life; for instance, my relationships. Instead, I’ve focused on starting my business. Because, at least that is something I can control right? It’s something you have to GROW through! And, that’s okay.

Before we go, I want to share with you what has helped me KEEP going. To keep going, sometimes, you need to SHIFT your focus onto what is creating positive energy in your life. But, you want to make sure that you’re allowing yourself to heal and cope with life’s setbacks and disappointments in a healthy way. Don’t avoid or cover up what has caused you to pause or stop. Focus on it long enough to deal with it and heal. But, focus MORE your energy on positive people/influences and taking positive Action. Shift your perspective so that you view your setbacks and disappoints as lessons and opportunities to elevate.

Practical things that have helped me keep going is 1) Not procrastinating. Don’t wait to deal with the issue. Deal with it upfront. Focus on finding a solution or alternative, rather than complaining about what didn’t go right. Be solution focused.

2) Practicing mindfulness. I’ll admit, I’m a chronic over thinker, so practicing mindfulness is challenging for me at times. However, meditation, journaling and prayer have worked well for me. I’m not as consistent as I’d like to be, but just getting in the habit of doing it often helps immensely.

3) Maintaining a Positive Success Mindset. This is huge. I’ve worked hard to develop the mindset that I have and it is necessity for me, especially during this time of year. Before I had the mindset I have now, I complained all the time, I easily saw and focused on ALL things negative. I wasn’t solution focused at all. Now that I am, I am able to stay focused on my goals and KEEP going.

4) Remembering my WHY factor. During the most challenging moments of 2019, I remembered my REASON WHY and that was ALL the motivation I needed to KEEP going. There were things that came to an end in 2019, but that didn’t mean I had to stop. Nope, I grieved and am still healing, but I’ve continued making moves, because of my WHY factor!

My friend, you have what it takes to pursue your goals, live your dream and to live your life operating in your God given purpose. I know 2019 was one hell of year, but don’t let that discourage you from chasing after your goals harder than you ever have in 2020. In fact, I encourage you to start NOW. Build momentum, so you can pace yourself come January 1st.

I’ve created an awesome opportunity to help you do just that. My 7 Day Goal Success Challenge is starting on Monday, December 16th! For 7 days I’ll be sharing my 7 Step Strategy to setting & slaying your goals. This strategy can help you KEEP GOING, because you’ll have set the right kind of goal, the right kind of plan and… Well, you’ll have to JOIN the challenge to find out! When you join, you’ll get a FREE Goal Success Checklist, 7 videos (1 for each step) and a FREE Set Goals & Slay Workbook + Planner! CLICK HERE TO JOIN!

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