Conquer Your Limiting Beliefs

The human mind is a battle field. Every day we are tempted with negative thoughts and challenging situations. Some days we fight and conquer, other days we succumb. Many people live day to day without the realization that it is up to them to fight and conquer their limitations and limiting beliefs.

IF we want to SLAY our goals, we must make the conscious decision to confront and conquer our limitations and limiting beliefs, every day.

I am going to share with you HOW you can begin to SHIFT and TRANSFORM your mindset; from a negative to a positive success “growth” mindset, that will position you to confront and conquer your limitations and limiting belief.

A limitation is anything that serves as an excuse, to justify not taking strategic action to pursue your goals. Example: I don’t have enough time or money to start my business.

Limiting beliefs are negative thoughts that you allow to justify not taking strategic action to pursue your goals. Example: I am not good enough or qualified for people to take me seriously.

Here are the facts about Limitations & Limiting Beliefs:

We ALL battle negative thoughts and challenging situations everyday.

It is within our control to combat negative thoughts and to perceive our challenging situations in a positive way.

It is possible, but it also takes practice to attain and maintain a positive mindset and optimistic perspective in life.

A positive success “growth” mindset and an optimistic perspective in life WILL help you attract and take action (steps) that are in direct alignment with the goals you wish to achieve. It will also help you ATTRACT more positive opportunities and experiences into your life.

No matter how positive/optimistic you are, you will still confront negative thoughts and challenging situations. BUT you will be better equipt to GROW through it, because of the positive success “growth” mindset that you have.

A positive success “growth” mindset will allow you to SEE your challenges (negative situations), setbacks, etc. as a learning opportunity, as a setup in disguise, an opportunity to recalibrate, to realign and more.

You decide, each time you are faced with a negative thought or challenging situation, whether or not you will allow it to control you OR if you will confront and conquer it.

The purpose of this blog post is to present you with practical tips and tools that you can use to CONFRONT and CONQUER your limitations and limiting beliefs.

If you have decided to take strategic action to confront and conquer your limitations and limiting beliefs, congratulations! You have just made a decision that will ultimately change the trajectory of your life. Because now, you are about to WORK to transform your mindset.

By implementing the following tips into your daily routine, you will begin to SEE results in your THINKING and in your overall perspective of your self, you circumstance and life itself.

What can you do to TRANSFORM your Mindset?

Meditation – You can find a number of guided and non-guided, verbal and subliminal an subliminal meditations and visualization exercises on YouTube for a variety of topics such as anxiety, stress, depression, mental or emotional healing, relaxation, energy boosting, self-love and confidence, client attraction and so much more!

Affirm Yourself – Affirmations can be extremely powerful IF you know how to utilize them in a way that will work for YOU. This is important, because many people just think of affirmations as a cliche’ quote that sounds good on the back of a book or as your caption for your Instagram and Facebook post. But, affirmations are so POWERFUL when you put them to work!

Here are a few ways you can get AFFIRMATIONS to work for you:

  • Choose 5 to 10 affirmations to write and speak out loud; with conviction/enthusiasm DAILY
  • Create affirmation Post IT Notes and to stick on your bathroom mirror
  • Download the Sticky Note app & post affirmations on your Laptop and Cellphone screen savers
  • Hack your social media news feeds by follow multiple pages that post multiple affirmations throughout the day
  • Listen to affirmations while meditating AND as you sleep *there are 8 hr affirmations on YouTube* This is a great way to re-program and transform your mind (subliminal) without having to do anything but SLEEP!

Move – Get your body moving! And while you do so, affirm yourself! You can do this a variety of way; but I’ll share what I do: I go to the gym, if I have a lot on my mind and I walk a mile around the track. As I walk, I rehearse the affirmations (goals) that I write out daily as I walk. If I’m feel low confidence, I affirm myself with affirmations specific to confidence. Sometimes I pray as I walk. Prayer is also a form of meditation.

Often times, when I’m battling thoughts of anxiety or depression, I go for a walk in the park and affirm myself. This way, I’m getting that Vitamin D and being around people without having one on one contact or having to socialize helps me during those times vs shutting myself indoors or finding comfort in my bed sheets. All I’m saying is, FIND what works for you and do it consistently.

Journal – This is a great way to clear your mind. You can make a list, you can keep it short or you can keeping writing until you feel a sense of clarity or relief. There doesn’t have to be any particular rule or format to follow. The awesome thing about it, is that it works.

Read self-help, personal growth and development books on Mindset. Authors and Experts I recommend studying are: Brian Tracy, Bob Proctor and Dr Carol Dweck. I also have a book called Empower You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind that is a 70 Day Devotional geared towards shifting and shaping your mindset from a negative mindset to a positive, success “growth” mindset. Inside my book, I include a full list of authors/experts and books on mindset, success and personal development, that I have read and studied. In fact, everything that I share with you is based on what I have learned and applied to my own life.

My best advice is to choose multiple of these to try and begin rotating them throughout your week. Let’s say you choose to start meditating and journaling. You don’t have to meditate or journal every day.

By implementing a few of these activities into your daily routine, I believe that you will begin to not only become more self-aware, but you will develop a greater peace of mind, a positive success “growth” mindset and a more optimistic perspective in life!

Manifestation Day

Before you plan & take action, you need to have a clear vision of where you want to go and what you want to achieve!

If you have dreams & goals that you WANT to achieve, but STRUGGLE to believe that it can happen for you, try this!

Set aside 1 day and call it Manifestation Day. This is the day where you will TEST DRIVE YOUR DREAM.

Take time to write over your goals and pray over them!

Take a look at your vision board and make a short-list of ALL the goals you have that you can test drive. For example: IF you have a photo of your dream car on your vision board, this is the day you will visit the car lot.. learn about the car, touch the car, inhale that new car scent, sit in your car, take it for a spin!

Another example: Your goal is to buy your first home. So, go look at houses! Attend a few open houses. Buy 1 item th you you want to put in your home (like a small home decor item).

I reccomend having a Manifestation Day because it takes visualization to the next level. It can also enhance motivation to TAKE STRATEGIC ACTION to achieve the goal.

Now, let’s say you have goals that aren’t tangible; for instance self-confidence or peace of mind! For theses, I suggest 2 things:

1) Customize your laptop and cellphone screensaver and wallpaper with an image or rotating images that represent (reflects or reminds you of) that goal.

2) Hack your social media feeds! Go follow 5 – 10 pages, at minimum, of pages that reflect your goal. I advise doing this for your tangible goals as well.

Example: My dream car is a Black Jeep Wrangler Unlimited.. So, I’ve followes multiple pages associated with Black Jeep Wranglers and now I see photos of my dream car pretty often as I scroll through my feed.

Another Idea..
Watch videos of or related to your dream/goal on YouTube

Use Pinterest as your virtual vision board!

Last month, I set aside 1 Saturday where I went I wrote out my top goals for 2020, prayed over them and then I took them for a test drive. I went to the car lot and learned about my dream car and took photos beside it.

Another goal of mine is to become a homeowner and to move closer to my job. So, I spent a couple hours house hunting and even found a home where, as soon as I saw it, I yelled “That’s it! That’s the one!” This home literally matched what I imagine in my mind during meditation and visualization exercises! It was an exciting moment.

Here is a photo or that exact home.


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Goal Success Challenge: Day 7 – Identify & Create Positive Reinforcement

Welcome to Day 7 of the Goal Success Challenge!

For 1 week we’ve tackled 7 steps to setting and slaying our goals! We’ve begun to position ourselves for success in 2020!

We began by visualizing what our ideal life looks like. Then, we got clear on what goals we need to set and what steps we need to take to manifest our dream life. After which, we set strategic smart goals and created a plan of action – by breaking down our goal into small goals, identifying limitations and limiting beliefs and identifying possible solutions or alternatives. That eliminates any excuses upfront, for not getting started!

Don’t let 2020 be a repeat of 2019.

And, please, don’t transition into the New Year without a game plan!

Yes, you will face challenges in 2020. Yes, you will have a few disappointments and may experience a few setbacks. That’s life. But, with a positive mindset and a game plan, you can eliminate unnecessary or “extra” negativity from popping up.

Today, we are covering the final step on our Goal Success Checklist. We are going to identify and create positive reinforcement.

Identify WHO and WHAT will hold you accountable, motivate and remind you to pursue your goals.

Examples:

– Find an accountability partner

– Hire a coach or mentor

– Create a vision board/book

Choose/set as many as you need! And remember, what works for me, may not work for you, so choose what works for you!

If you were to be graded on the discipline you have in your life, would you score a 90% or above? Be honest. If the answer is no, then you need some form of accountability in your life.

There are many “smaller” ways to hold yourself accountable. I try to do so, as much as possible. It’s as simple as setting a date for your goals and each individual action step you take or keeping track of your goals and deadlines on a calendar/planner or Habit Tracker App.

Maybe you want to hire a coach or mentor, but don’t know where to look or can’t afford one at the moment. Like any goal, that would be considered a limitation. There is a solution or alternative, even when lack of money is the issue. You can start small. Start with books, YouTube videos by subject matter experts, etc. You may not be able to take the magnitude of steps that you want to right off the bat, but progress is progress. So, as long as you are CONSISTENTLY making moves that are in alignment with your goal, you’re good!

We have reached the end of the goal success challenge! I hope that you feel more prepared to slay your goals in 2020! You have the strategy to slay your goals in 2020. A strategy that works. But, here’s the thing… it WILL NOT work IF you do not have the RIGHT Mindset. This challenge has been all about providing you with the RIGHT GOAL & the RIGHT PLAN. But, my friend, if you don’t have the right minds.. A positive success “growth” mindset that looks for possibility when their appears to be none.. A mindset that is rooted in discipline and consistency.. A mindset where YOU believe that your goal IS possible… it won’t work.

The strategy works, if you make it work. It’s that simple.

Thank you for joining me in this weeks challenge! I look forward to slaying some goals with you in 2020!

P.S. Can you believe we’re entering a new decade!?

7 Day Goal Success Challenge: Day 6 – Identify Motivating Factors

Welcome to Day 6 of the Goal Succeess Challenge!

Today is all about identifying your motivating factors.

This is not that same concept as your WHY factor. This is where you will identify which specific tools will motivate you.

Your motivating factors should remind you of and reinforce your WHY factor.

Remember, your WHY factor is simply your core reason for pursuing your goal – which should be significant enough to motivate you to keep going, even when the going gets tough.

Your motivating factor(s) are going to be something tangible that will REMIND you of your WHY factor.

There are many things you can use as motivating factors! Here are a few examples I use:

Vision Board

I have 2 vision boards. The one above sits on my dresser directly across from my bed. I usually do my meditations before I go to sleep at night, so its nice having my vision board right there to look at when I’m having difficulty focusing my wandering thoughts.

My best advice would be to place your vision board in a place where you’ll see it the most often! I’m away from home most of the time, but when I’m home, I’m in my office or bedroom the most. So, I have my 1 – 5 yr vision board in my office area and my 1yr vision board in my bedroom.

Journals

I have 3 journals. One, I use for scripting (writing your goals and dreams in presentense, as if is happening in that moment or already has happened!

The 2nd journal is my Gratitude journal.

The 3rd journal I use for writing out my goals. So, back in December of 2016, I attended a 3 day workshop called Publish a Book and Grow Rich! I learned a lot about writing and publishing a book, but I also learned a lot about mindset transformation and manifestation. One of the things I learned, I’ve been doing ever since the day I learned it.. Writing out my goals in the form of “I am” and “I have.” As, it was taught to me, we’re writing out our captains orders “captian & crew. The idea behind that, in short, is tht the act of writing out your goals is your concious mind (the captain) giving direction to your subconscious mind (the crew). Your subconscious mind is what you can call your “higher-self” … but, more on that another time.

A few tips for writing out your goals:

* Hand write your goals daily.

* It’s okay if you miss a day(s) in betweeen. Just get back to it when you can. Keep in mind that consistency is key.

* Record the date each time you write out your goals. It’s a simple way to hold yourself accountable.

* Use a journal thats small enough to fit in your purse or to carry with you on the go. If you’re like me, it’s easy to use business as an excuse – keeping it with eliminates the excuse and allows you to get it in when you can.

* Read them out loud with emotion!

Vision Book

More Ideas:

  • Abundance Wall (Write yourself a check!)
  • Calendar/Planner
  • Habit Tracker Apps

The purpose of identifying motivating factors is to help you stay focused on your WHAT (goal) & your WHY(the reason why you want to achieve your goal). As you can see, I use many different things to reinforce my WHY factor. I encourage you to use 1 or as many as you feel you need. I have found these to be helpful, especially when I’m in traffic… I pull out my vision book and remind myself that even being stuck in traffic is a necessary “unfortunate” but necessary part of the process. And, then I pull out my gratitude journal and jot down a few things that I’m grateful for. When pursuing your goals and manifesting your dreams, it’s important to maintain a positive mindset as much as possible.

Come back for Day 7 as we cover the final step on our Goal Success Checklist. If you haven’t already, be sure to grab your checklist & the Set Goals & Slay Workbook + Planner below!

7 Day Goal Success Challenge: Day 2

Welcome to day 2 of our Goal Success Challenge!

Today is all about Identify what you want. And more specifically, getting clear about what you need to do to GET or MANIFEST what you want.

Reflect back to your visualization exercise and identify the following:

  • What was a key part of your life that made it your dream life?
  • What goal did you accomplish in order for that to become your dream life?

In step one, we completed a visualization exercise that allowed us to take a look at the big picture. Step two is where we begin to zoom in and take a look at what goal(s) we need to take to get to the big picture. This is a necessary step to take before we even begin to set our goals. Let’s build the foundation first, by getting really clear about what we want and what we need to do to get there.

Come back for Day 3 as we cover the 3rd step on our Goal Success Checklist. If you haven’t already, be sure to grab your checklist & the Set Goals & Slay Workbook + Planner below!