How to Unplug and Hit Reset on 2020

You said 2020 was going to be your year . The year you will finally take a leap of faith and pursue your dreams. But so far, most of us wish we could unplug 2020, wait 20 seconds and plug it back in again. I mean, on top of our own excuses, Jan – March alone has given us a few more reason to feel discourage and to procrastinate.

But, I encourage you to consider this..

You CAN unplug and hit the reset button on 2020.

Yes, you read that right. You can unplug and hit the reset button on 2020.. It begins with YOU make a conscious decision to SHIFT your mindset.

You can shift your MINDSET by:

1) Changing your focus. Focus more on the positive things in life and less on the negative .

HOW:

  • Set limits. LIMIT the amount of time you allow yourself to indulge in the news via social media and television.
  • While practicing social distancing, THINK about the individuals and environments in your life that are TOXIC and consider how you have distance yourself from those people or environments even after this current challenge has calmed.
  • JOURNAL daily to help you release, become aware of and to process your thoughts and emotions.
  • MEDITATE daily to help gain CLARITY and CONTROL aka AWARENESS of your thoughts. That way, you will recognize when negative thoughts bombard your mind and then replace it with a positive thought. And then, in that moment, continue to meditate on that positive thought.

Shifting your mindset is really just shifting your focus, by shifting your thoughts, over and over again. It sounds like an easy concept at surface level, but please hear me on this.. It takes work. It takes consistantcy. Sometimes, you have to do the DIRTY work to gain leverage over NEGATIVE thoughts.

If you find yourself struggle with the same negative thoughts/limiting beliefs, here’s what I suggest you do:

  1. Make a list of reoccurring negative thoughts and limiting beliefs
  2. For each thought/belief, write down a positive AFFIRMATION that you will remember. Write out that affirmation EVERY day for the next 21 days.
  3. Every time that negative thought or belief comes to mind, repeat the affirmation to yourself 10 times. When your first starting at, I encourage quoting the affirmation out load when possible. If the negative thought or limiting belief is about YOU specifically, rather than a particular situation/scenario, practice quoting the affirmations to yourself as you look at your reflection in the mirror. Another idea you can try; record yourself repeating the affirmations 10+ times and then listen to the recordings as you meditate (use headphones for best experience).

The more you do this, the EASIER it will become to RECOGNIZE (awareness) the negative thoughts/limiting beliefs and to COMBAT it.

To hit the RESET button on 2020, we must shift our THINKING/PERSPECTIVE of ourselves and of 2020.. IF you shift your mindset, you’ll be able to see the OPPORTUNITIES that may come as a result of the challenges we have and currently are facing. For example, many people have had a SIDE-HUSTLE or business idea that they’ve been wanting to start, but have yet to start because of their limiting belief that they CAN’T because they don’t have enough time. Those who have shifted there focus enough to see an opportunity have already started working on their business idea because they SEE the opportunity of TIME. Even if temporary, they have time NOW to START and to strategize a plan that will allow them to continue their pursuit AFTER things begin to return back to normal.

The fact is, we are living in chaotic, uncomfortable and uncertain times. BUT, even in this there is still HOPE and OPPORTUNITY. If you make the decide to shift your mindset, you will see it.

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Conquer Your Limiting Beliefs

The human mind is a battle field. Every day we are tempted with negative thoughts and challenging situations. Some days we fight and conquer, other days we succumb. Many people live day to day without the realization that it is up to them to fight and conquer their limitations and limiting beliefs.

IF we want to SLAY our goals, we must make the conscious decision to confront and conquer our limitations and limiting beliefs, every day.

I am going to share with you HOW you can begin to SHIFT and TRANSFORM your mindset; from a negative to a positive success “growth” mindset, that will position you to confront and conquer your limitations and limiting belief.

A limitation is anything that serves as an excuse, to justify not taking strategic action to pursue your goals. Example: I don’t have enough time or money to start my business.

Limiting beliefs are negative thoughts that you allow to justify not taking strategic action to pursue your goals. Example: I am not good enough or qualified for people to take me seriously.

Here are the facts about Limitations & Limiting Beliefs:

We ALL battle negative thoughts and challenging situations everyday.

It is within our control to combat negative thoughts and to perceive our challenging situations in a positive way.

It is possible, but it also takes practice to attain and maintain a positive mindset and optimistic perspective in life.

A positive success “growth” mindset and an optimistic perspective in life WILL help you attract and take action (steps) that are in direct alignment with the goals you wish to achieve. It will also help you ATTRACT more positive opportunities and experiences into your life.

No matter how positive/optimistic you are, you will still confront negative thoughts and challenging situations. BUT you will be better equipt to GROW through it, because of the positive success “growth” mindset that you have.

A positive success “growth” mindset will allow you to SEE your challenges (negative situations), setbacks, etc. as a learning opportunity, as a setup in disguise, an opportunity to recalibrate, to realign and more.

You decide, each time you are faced with a negative thought or challenging situation, whether or not you will allow it to control you OR if you will confront and conquer it.

The purpose of this blog post is to present you with practical tips and tools that you can use to CONFRONT and CONQUER your limitations and limiting beliefs.

If you have decided to take strategic action to confront and conquer your limitations and limiting beliefs, congratulations! You have just made a decision that will ultimately change the trajectory of your life. Because now, you are about to WORK to transform your mindset.

By implementing the following tips into your daily routine, you will begin to SEE results in your THINKING and in your overall perspective of your self, you circumstance and life itself.

What can you do to TRANSFORM your Mindset?

Meditation – You can find a number of guided and non-guided, verbal and subliminal an subliminal meditations and visualization exercises on YouTube for a variety of topics such as anxiety, stress, depression, mental or emotional healing, relaxation, energy boosting, self-love and confidence, client attraction and so much more!

Affirm Yourself – Affirmations can be extremely powerful IF you know how to utilize them in a way that will work for YOU. This is important, because many people just think of affirmations as a cliche’ quote that sounds good on the back of a book or as your caption for your Instagram and Facebook post. But, affirmations are so POWERFUL when you put them to work!

Here are a few ways you can get AFFIRMATIONS to work for you:

  • Choose 5 to 10 affirmations to write and speak out loud; with conviction/enthusiasm DAILY
  • Create affirmation Post IT Notes and to stick on your bathroom mirror
  • Download the Sticky Note app & post affirmations on your Laptop and Cellphone screen savers
  • Hack your social media news feeds by follow multiple pages that post multiple affirmations throughout the day
  • Listen to affirmations while meditating AND as you sleep *there are 8 hr affirmations on YouTube* This is a great way to re-program and transform your mind (subliminal) without having to do anything but SLEEP!

Move – Get your body moving! And while you do so, affirm yourself! You can do this a variety of way; but I’ll share what I do: I go to the gym, if I have a lot on my mind and I walk a mile around the track. As I walk, I rehearse the affirmations (goals) that I write out daily as I walk. If I’m feel low confidence, I affirm myself with affirmations specific to confidence. Sometimes I pray as I walk. Prayer is also a form of meditation.

Often times, when I’m battling thoughts of anxiety or depression, I go for a walk in the park and affirm myself. This way, I’m getting that Vitamin D and being around people without having one on one contact or having to socialize helps me during those times vs shutting myself indoors or finding comfort in my bed sheets. All I’m saying is, FIND what works for you and do it consistently.

Journal – This is a great way to clear your mind. You can make a list, you can keep it short or you can keeping writing until you feel a sense of clarity or relief. There doesn’t have to be any particular rule or format to follow. The awesome thing about it, is that it works.

Read self-help, personal growth and development books on Mindset. Authors and Experts I recommend studying are: Brian Tracy, Bob Proctor and Dr Carol Dweck. I also have a book called Empower You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind that is a 70 Day Devotional geared towards shifting and shaping your mindset from a negative mindset to a positive, success “growth” mindset. Inside my book, I include a full list of authors/experts and books on mindset, success and personal development, that I have read and studied. In fact, everything that I share with you is based on what I have learned and applied to my own life.

My best advice is to choose multiple of these to try and begin rotating them throughout your week. Let’s say you choose to start meditating and journaling. You don’t have to meditate or journal every day.

By implementing a few of these activities into your daily routine, I believe that you will begin to not only become more self-aware, but you will develop a greater peace of mind, a positive success “growth” mindset and a more optimistic perspective in life!

7 Day Goal Success Challenge: Day 6 – Identify Motivating Factors

Welcome to Day 6 of the Goal Succeess Challenge!

Today is all about identifying your motivating factors.

This is not that same concept as your WHY factor. This is where you will identify which specific tools will motivate you.

Your motivating factors should remind you of and reinforce your WHY factor.

Remember, your WHY factor is simply your core reason for pursuing your goal – which should be significant enough to motivate you to keep going, even when the going gets tough.

Your motivating factor(s) are going to be something tangible that will REMIND you of your WHY factor.

There are many things you can use as motivating factors! Here are a few examples I use:

Vision Board

I have 2 vision boards. The one above sits on my dresser directly across from my bed. I usually do my meditations before I go to sleep at night, so its nice having my vision board right there to look at when I’m having difficulty focusing my wandering thoughts.

My best advice would be to place your vision board in a place where you’ll see it the most often! I’m away from home most of the time, but when I’m home, I’m in my office or bedroom the most. So, I have my 1 – 5 yr vision board in my office area and my 1yr vision board in my bedroom.

Journals

I have 3 journals. One, I use for scripting (writing your goals and dreams in presentense, as if is happening in that moment or already has happened!

The 2nd journal is my Gratitude journal.

The 3rd journal I use for writing out my goals. So, back in December of 2016, I attended a 3 day workshop called Publish a Book and Grow Rich! I learned a lot about writing and publishing a book, but I also learned a lot about mindset transformation and manifestation. One of the things I learned, I’ve been doing ever since the day I learned it.. Writing out my goals in the form of “I am” and “I have.” As, it was taught to me, we’re writing out our captains orders “captian & crew. The idea behind that, in short, is tht the act of writing out your goals is your concious mind (the captain) giving direction to your subconscious mind (the crew). Your subconscious mind is what you can call your “higher-self” … but, more on that another time.

A few tips for writing out your goals:

* Hand write your goals daily.

* It’s okay if you miss a day(s) in betweeen. Just get back to it when you can. Keep in mind that consistency is key.

* Record the date each time you write out your goals. It’s a simple way to hold yourself accountable.

* Use a journal thats small enough to fit in your purse or to carry with you on the go. If you’re like me, it’s easy to use business as an excuse – keeping it with eliminates the excuse and allows you to get it in when you can.

* Read them out loud with emotion!

Vision Book

More Ideas:

  • Abundance Wall (Write yourself a check!)
  • Calendar/Planner
  • Habit Tracker Apps

The purpose of identifying motivating factors is to help you stay focused on your WHAT (goal) & your WHY(the reason why you want to achieve your goal). As you can see, I use many different things to reinforce my WHY factor. I encourage you to use 1 or as many as you feel you need. I have found these to be helpful, especially when I’m in traffic… I pull out my vision book and remind myself that even being stuck in traffic is a necessary “unfortunate” but necessary part of the process. And, then I pull out my gratitude journal and jot down a few things that I’m grateful for. When pursuing your goals and manifesting your dreams, it’s important to maintain a positive mindset as much as possible.

Come back for Day 7 as we cover the final step on our Goal Success Checklist. If you haven’t already, be sure to grab your checklist & the Set Goals & Slay Workbook + Planner below!

What Are You Going to Do?

2019 was going to be the year that you FINALLY..

✔ Write & Publish your book

✔ Start your side hustle or biz

✔ Go back to back to school

✔ Apply for your dream job

✔ Stop Procrastinating

✔ Step outside of your comfort zone

Whatever your goal OR new year resolution was, 2019 was going to be THEE year to make it happen.. Am I right?

And today, as you look back on 2019, you ask, what happened? What stopped me from achieving my goal?

One of the 🗝 to slaying your goals is to keep going even when you get or “feel” stuck. But, you need to have a strategy or plan of action to help you do that. Not just a plan of what to do, when to do it & how, but a plan of WHAT to do when LIFE happens. Do you have a plan?

IF you need a plan, consider joining my 7 Day Goal Success Challenge!

When you join, you’ll not only learn the 7 Step Strategy I use to Slay my goals, but you also get to:

✅ Subscribe to my blog & get video content. Each day of the challenge I will post 1 video (1 video per step)

✅ Download your FREE 7 Step Goal Success Checklist

✅ Download your FREE Set Goals & Slay Workbook + Planner

JOIN the challenge & get ready to Slay your 2020 goals! 👇

USING MY 7 STEP STRATEGY, I’VE BEEN ABLE TO..

✔ Enhance my confidence and become more comfortable sharing my story, promoting myself and business on social media

✔ Launched, promoted & sold many copies of my 3rd book!

✔ I got started! Faced fear, broke through limiting beliefs, stepped outside of my comfort zone to.. finish my coaching certification, register & launch my coaching business

✔ Left my comfortable job working night shift, where I was miserable and complained all the time and got a NEW job I enjoy with many opportunities for growth! All that, after countless interviews and rejections

✔ Traveled and checked something off my bucket list!

 ✔ Adopted a kitten and became a furr-mom!

 ✔ Paid off 1 of 7 students loans! Some progress is better than no progress

Last year I..

 ✔ Launched my 3rd book!

 ✔ Booked multiple radio/podcast interviews to promote my book

Before 2018 and 2019…

 ✔ Paid off credit card debt in full

 ✔ Graduated with degree in 5 and 1/2 yrs after failing and retaking several courses multiple times, losing scholarships and taking out $60k in student loans

✔ Moved out of my parents home into my 1rst apartment paying $900+ just for rent + other expenses while working less than 40 hours a week making $10 an hour

 ✔ Overcame shyness and fear of public speaking

 ✔ Learned to manage my depression and anxiety in a healthy way

I’ve achieved many of my goals and you can too!

4 Steps to Clarify What You Want in Life

Are you feeling confused about which direction to take in life? Do you know what you really want in life? I am about to share with you the 4 steps that you need to take to clarify what you really want.

Before you set any goal, before you create any plan of action, you first need to identify what it is that you really want. So, I am going to walk you through the steps to clarify what it is that you really want. That way, you don’t waste time taking unnecessary steps or investing in something that you don’t really want to invest in. We only get one life on earth, so let’s make the most of it!

The reason so many people feel stuck and lack a sense of direction in life is because they have not taken time to get clear about what they really want. Sure, they have a few ideas that sound good, but rarely are those ideas their own. Instead, they are ideas that other people have projected onto them, as innocently as “hey, I think you’d be great at such and such..” But, when it’s all said and done, it’s not really what he/she is passionate about. It’s not really what they want to do. So, the real question is, how do you identify exactly what it is that you want to do? What do you want to spend your time doing most? Because, let’s face it, it’s easy to get caught up in what sounds good or looks good on paper, only to soon find yourself unhappy. A common example of this is in the work place. I mean, how many people are really, honestly and truly happy with their career? How many people wake up without dreading what they’re about to spend the next 8 or so hours of their life doing? Not enough.

My hope is that you are not one of them. Not only that, but I want you to know that, that doesn’t have to be your story. It is possible, that you can wake up every day, looking forward to the days endeavors. But first, you’ve got to get clear about what you really want. And then, you can go about setting a goal and creating a plan that will give you the best possible shot at achieving what you want to achieve.

The 1rst step to clarifying what you want is to confront everything you think you want. This includes everything people have told you that you should do and want for yourself, etc. To do this, I encourage you to get in a quiet place, with a note pad (paper or on your cellphone or laptop) and create a list of everything that comes to mind. Try not to think too hard about it. Once you are done creating your list, get up and do something else.. Go wash the dishes, go for a walk, make a phone call.. Just do something else, but keep your mind off of the list. Once you’re done, go back and re-read your list. Accept what is on the list as “what was.” After you’ve done this, either throw away the list or delete it completely. Hopefully, you’ll find that you feel “free” of what you wrote down.

The 2nd step is to meditate. You have several options for this. You can do a meditation on your own, or you can go on YouTube and find a guided meditation to follow. You can also opt to download an app such as Calm or HeadSpace. Also, the meditation doesn’t have to be long. I’d suggest doing 5 to 15 minutes or however long you need. The point of taking this step is to clear your mind and to regain control of your thoughts.

The 3rd step is to complete a visualization exercise. Now, I have a specific visualization exercise that I will be using with my coaching clients. However, you can find many guided visualization exercises on YouTube. One that I recommend using can be found HERE. Completing a visualization exercise is an important step, because this is where you have a blank canvas and begin to dig deep and create your dream life. You, in a sense, use your imagination to create your ideal future, what that that looks like. You envision what you really want in a world where anything is possible and there are no limitations.

Note: In step one, you are confronting limiting thought/beliefs and releasing them. In step two, your’e creating a blank canvas. Step three is where you will discover and create. Then, you should be ready to identify what needs to be done to make your dream become your reality.

Step 4 is to write the vision and make it plain. This is where you transfer what you saw in your imagination onto paper. There are different ways that you can do this, however, two of my favorite ways are 1) Journaling and 2) Scripting. If you choose to journal, you are going to approach this as a freestyle activity. What I mean by this, is that you’re going to write about what you want freely. There is no particular structure to follow. Whereas, with scripting, you’re going to write as if it is happening in that very moment. So, you’ll say things like “I am” and “I have.” And, this is where you’ll begin to manifest what you want. The key to this step, whether you’re journaling or scripting, is to emotionally connect to what it is that you’re writing. Get in touch, using your senses and describe them in your journal/script. And, as you re-read what you’ve written, be sure to feel the emotions as if you already have what you want, as if you’re already living that life.

Once you have completed the 4rth step, you can choose to save or delete what you have written. But, after you’ve re-read it, put it away and walk away. Piggy-backing off of step one, you’ll want to release the desire into the atmosphere and trust God with it. Later, you can come back and set a strategic goal, create a plan of action and begin taking the necessary steps to make it happen!

As always, feel free to share your thoughts below!