My heart was racing, my palms were sweaty, my voice was shaky and I was completely flustered..
I’d always dreamed of starting a career, at a large, Fortune 500 company with tremendous growth opportunity. And one day, I was granted that opportunity.
I was hired on as a contractor. From day one, I was determined to apply my self, excel and work my way up to the position I want ultimately. I’d prayed, visualized, and EVERY DAY I write out my goal daily. I believe in writing the vision and making it plain. So, every day I write out.. “I am being promoted at *** because I have excelled.” I worked really hard. And, eventually, God blessed me to get hired on as an FTE in April 2020. But, I AM determined to keep going. I was not content, staying where I was. So, I pushed and I excelled. God blessed me to be promoted by the end of October 2020. I’d worked so hard to get this opportunity.. But, that opportunity came with new territory, new responsibilities and new expectations.
I felt the pressure immensely. I became overwhelmed and flirted with the idea of giving up or going back to my prior position. Can you believe it!?
During my training, I began to panic and my anxiety was high. Now, if you know me, you know that when I start something I am passionate about, I am determined to keep going until I win! I don’t like to give up without a fight. I ask myself, how bad do you want it? And, I keep going.
My trainer was working with me 1:1 and was well aware of how anxious I was. Typically, in high stress moments, I’m able to talk my self through.. Practicing deep breathing, mindfulness and positive affirmation. But, I’d reached a point where I just could not seem to ground myself. My trainer did an excellent job of affirming and helping me relax, center and focus on the positives. But, I knew I had to do something.. else.
Now, anxiety and stress is something I have struggled with for a long time. My number one goal for 2020 was to maintain a healthy life balance. A large part of that, for me, has been prioritizing self-care and by implementing the following tips into my daily/weekly routine.
These are all things that work and that I highly recommend doing CONSISTENTLY for the best results. Doing theses things has really helped me, overall, to combat anxiety and stress and even depression. However, the one thing on the list that I was last to implement was.. taking dietary supplements that enhance mood and promote relaxation.
After a few challenging days of training, I decided it was time to face my fear of taking pills and decided to give it a try. And I must say.. they really work! Here’s what I tried. And, here’s how it helped.
If you struggle with stress and anxiety. I get it. I feel you. But be encouraged and know that you are not alone AND that there are things you can do and supplements you can take to help you get through it.
We got BIG goals and we’re chasing BIG dreams, in a pandemic. It’s not easy. But, it is soo worth it. So, don’t stop pursuing your goals and don’t throw the whole dream away. Instead, implement that tips above and watch magic happen!
Thanks for reading! Wishing you a blessed, productive and prosperous week.
One of the realist quotes I’ve ever heard, simply states that reality is a question of perspective. The concept of perspective has become increasingly intriguing to me over the past year. This due to a combination of life experiences and a heightened awareness of my thoughts, emotions and ability to adapt in new and challenging situations.
2 years ago I was struggling with suicidal ideations. I wanted to escape the pain and anxiety I was experiencing. I was depressed, burnt out and felt no one would notice or miss me if I was just suddenly gone. 2 years later, I’m alive, healthy and happy overall. And blessed to be celebrating my 27th birthday today. My birthday shenanigans consist of self reflection, relaxation, mindfulness and writing this blog post of course.
I can’t help but think about EVERYTHING I have and everything that I have become over the years. I am so grateful for life. Because, my perspective of my life and life in general was so negative. I’m thankful not just for the petty and superficial things, but I’m so much more aware of things like.. Peace of mind, creativity and opportunity.
“Your perspective will either become your prison or your passport.”
– Steven Furtick
My entire life has changed over the past 5 years, and even more-so over the past 2 years, because my entire PERSPECTIVE of myself and life has shifted. I always say that MINDSET is everything. Our mindset is really just our perspective of ALL things. The beautiful things about shifting your mindset/perspective is that the things around you will begin to shift as well. How? Because, when your mindset changes, your actions begin to align with that new way of thinking. My life has began to change.. and it’s a beautiful thing.
I have come from a place of wanting to end my life to wanting to LIVE. Not just be present and going through the motions of life, but to really LIVE. To show up and be authentically me, to the fullest without shame or apology. I believe this is how we all should live.
Getting to this place is really a place of mental peace and stability. This is the greatest blessing I have. And, there’s many different levels and things that factored or contributed to this. But, the biggest factor was recognizing, understanding and embracing/accepting who I am AND who GOD has created me to be.
We are more than potential. We were each created on purpose,with purpose. Every challenge, positive and negative challenge we experience in life comes to push and position us, so that we may be in alignment with our purpose. It’s like, if we’re not in the right place at the right time, we’ll miss the OPPORTUNITY to operate in our God given purpose.
Opportunity is not hidden. It is everywhere. It is out in the open. But, often times, we miss opportunities because we are not prepared; we’re not in position. We’re not in alignment. Sometimes we think the opportunities either don’t exist, aren’t for us or are hidden. But, this really isn’t the case at all. Really, it’s just that, figuratively speaking, our heads are turned, looking in the wrong direction, so we just don’t see it. How can we solve this? By shifting our perspective.
The difference between where I was 2 years ago and where I am today is that I have shifted my overall perspective of who I am and why I AM here. And, with that, I have begun to take strategic action that aligns with my LIFE PURPOSE.
I am on a mission to empower creative women to clarify, set and slay their BIG + IMPOSSIBLE looking dreams! I want to help you achieve your goals and live your life operating in your God given purpose. That is my purpose.
What is your life purpose? How can you fulfill your purpose and live your life operating in that purpose, daily?
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During this season we are experiencing uncertain times. Many of us have had to adjust and adapt to a new normal. Although temporary, we are having to practice social distancing and self isolate. For those of us who thrive off of social interaction, this can be a significant challenge. But really, whether you consider yourself to be an introvert, extrovert or ambivert, the whole concept of social distancing and being isolated for extended periods of time can be an extreme challenge and can trigger toxic thoughts and emotions that can lead to depression.
I consider myself to be an ambivert. I enjoy social interaction, being outdoors and staying busy. Thing is, it drains my energy very quickly and I begin to feel burnt out. This is when I enjoy having my “me time” to relax and recharge, alone or with family. During this quarantine I have had to adjust. I’ve began working from home and spending 99% of my time, at home! This has been a major CHALLENGE for me, because I am ALWAYS on the go.. I prefer working out at the gym, working on my blog and sidehustle at coffee shops, I love spending my free time outdoors exploring.. So, now that I’ve had to been indoors for extended periods of time, I’ve had to COMBAT negative thoughts and feeling of depression, hard.
There have been moments when I want to curl up under the covers and hibernate. There have been days when I didn’t want to get out the bed, I just wanted to disappear. Sometimes, I’ve had thoughts of just running off and starting over.. stemming from thoughts of being forgotten, unnoticed or cared for… your thoughts can runaway from you if you’re not self-aware and proactive. I share this with you today, because there are 3 things that I have been doing to help combat depression and that I believe is NECESSARY to combating depression, especially during this quarantine season.
HERE ARE 3 THINGS YOU CAN DO TO COMBAT DEPRESSION DURING QUARANTINE
KEEP A ROUTINE. Make the adjustments that you need to make to your schedule, set a routine and stick with it! This will provide a sense of normalcy and stability and will lessen the shock of this new normal.
STAY SOCIAL. There are many ways to stay social while continuing to practice social distancing and self isolation. You can text or pick up the phone and call family and friends. You can utilize social media and video messaging. You can go for a walk around your apartment complex or neighborhood, smile and say hi, while staying 6 – 10ft apart from those you pass by. Small things like this, we may take for granted, but are beneficial to your overall mental and emotional health.
STAY ACTIVE AND GET SOME SUN. Keep your physical health a priority during this time and well, for always really! Keep your body moving; go for daily walks, jogs, hiking or whatever you enjoy. Spend at least 15 minutes a day outside, getting that natural Vitamin D from sunlight. And, makes sure to take your vitamins daily. Whether or not you stay active and get sunlight regularly will impact your mental and emotional well-being.
BONUS: FEED YOURSELF POSITIVITY. Be mindful of what you allow your self to digest during this time. Listen to positve, uplifing, motivational or educational content via podcasts, social media, YouTube, etc! Invest in yourself, by enhancing your knowledge and skills.
During this time, I want you to know that you my friend are not alone. We are all being impacted by this pandemic is some type of way. We are all having to adjust and adapt in these uncertain times. We may not know how long this will last, but know that you can get through this. Keep working on those big goals and dreams of yours and stay proactive; doing what you can to COMBAT depression.
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In the days we are living in now, it is beneficial, now more than ever before, to have a healthy mindset. Soo many people are dealing with mental health challenges such as depression and anxiety. As a mental health advocate, and someone who has worked in the field with both children, teenagers and adults, I’ve seen how imperative it is to develop healthy habits that will support and influence positive mental and emotional health.
There are things that we all should be doing on a consistent basis to create and maintain a healthy life balance; mental, emotional, physical, spiritual and financial. Today, I want to tackle mental and emotional health.. many of which will have a positive effect on your life physically, spiritually and financially as well.
Today, I am going to share with you 2 things that you can START doing NOW, to reprogram your mind for success in every area of your life. As always, these tips are most effective when you do them consistantly. By reprogramming your mindset, you can: Become more confident, develop a positive success mindset and become more aware and open to opportunities you would be closed off to otherwise.
2 Ways to Start Reprogramming Your Mind Now
Get a sheet of paper and fold it in half, hot dog style. On the left half, MAKE A LIST of your most common/reoccurring negative thoughts about yourself AND about your life.
THEN, for each negative thought or limiting belief, CREATE a positive affirmation and write it directly across from the negative thought, on the right side. READ through your list, first the negative and then the positive, line by line, EVERYDAY. This will help enhance your awareness. After awhile, you will begin to become aware of the thought as soon as it crosses your mind. WHEN this happens, be sure to pause, acknowledge the thought and then replace it with the positive affirmation. SPEAK the affirmation aloud with authority and conviction. You may not believe the affirmation in the beginning, but over time, you will.
A huge part of changing or shifting your mindset, so you can change your life IS shifting your perspective of life’s circumstances. BUT this exercise will help you to SHIFT your perspective of yourself first. And why not? When, you ARE The creator of your reality, as God has blessed you with freedom of choice, right?
LISTEN to positive affirmations while you are asleep. Start by doing a 5 or 10 minute meditation, or longer if you’d like, before you drift off to sleep. After your meditation, set your affirmations to play while you sleep throughout the night.This is great accompanied by binaural beats. Lastly, when you awake, meditate for 5 to 10 minutes.
When doing this step, I encourage you to create a YouTube playlist. That way you can choose specific guided meditations and affirmations to listen to and can put them in the order you like and it will be ready to go when you are. You can always create multiple playlists or add/remove whenever you want, as amazing meditations are added to YouTube often. Also, when you hit play from within the playlist you won’t have to worry about it stopping after the first video finishes.
In our daily lives, we operate using our CONSCIOUS mind. However, our SUBCONSCIOUS mind is the driving force behind what we think and do habitually. So, we want to REPROGRAM our subconsious mind to develope healthy thinking and living habits. By listenting to positive affirmations while you sleep, your subconcious mind is doing all the heavy lifting, reprogramming itself.
These are by far the TOP 2 strategies I recommend when it comes to reprogramming your mindset. You will not only begin to THINK better, but you will begin to FEEL better about yourself and about your life as well. Remember, when you change your mindset, you can change your life!
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As I sit at my favorite Starbucks, sippin’ on my Toasted White Chocolate Mocha, I look around at the people around me and I recognize something instantly… How different we all are. Some faces look vaguely familiar, while others I’ve never seen before. We’re all here for different reasons. However, another thought crosses my mind. We all have something in common.. we’ve each experienced something in our lives that caused us to pause or give up entirely on our dreams.
We all have a dream. We all have an idea of what our ideal life looks like. Even if you’re not clear on what your ideal life looks like or if you’ve never taken time to actually think about it, it still exists. And, what’s even more real, is the sad reality that very few people are living their ideal life. I want to change that. I am passionate about empowering people to dream big, realize that their dream is possible and to then take strategic action to make it happen!
2019 has been one hell of a year for most of us hasn’t it? I’ve seen the comments all up and down my social media timelines. I know it’s been a challenging year. We’ve experienced setbacks and disappointments that has left many of us discouraged about our futures as it concerns our dreams. Many of you paused when life happened unexpectedly and you never pressed play again. How many of you will be honest and admit that you feel stuck right now? That, 2019 didn’t quite go how you wanted or expected it to go?
Moment of transparency: Although I slayed many of my 2019 goals, I still experienced setbacks and disappointments that cause me to feel stuck. And, I say this not to brag, but to make a point.. I am so proud of myself, because THIS time, THIS year, I kept going! I didn’t press pause and just stay there. I’m still running towards my dream at a faster pace than before. Not everybody can say that. I’m thankful that I can and I’m ready to share with you how I did it and how you can to!
One of my top goals this year was to launch my coaching business, do a bit of traveling and speaking. I was hoping that the relationship I was in would progress to the next level and I was hoping I’d get my new job a lot sooner than I did. But, 2019 did not go how I was initially hoping it would go. Instead, it took 9+ months to land a new job, my 2 year relationship ended unexpectedly in heartbreak and immense disappointment and the speaking gig I had fell through. Listen, this has been one hell of a year. This time last year, I wanted to end my life. But, here I sit today at Starbucks, working on my dream and building the foundation for my ideal future. I can’t lie, I’ve been fighting off depression hard – trying not to entertain certain thoughts and distract my mind from triggers that cause me to spiral out of control emotionally when I focus on them to long. It hasn’t been easy at all. In fact, in an attempt to focus on what really matters, I’ve narrowed my focus to the point where I’ve left some people in my life and important things on the back burner.
I share all that to say this: It’s okay to be under construction. It’s okay to be a work in progress, it’s okay to be IN the process of healing and still working on your dreams. And, it IS possible to keep going even when you FEEL stuck. There are memories and emotions that have caused me to PAUSE mentally and emotionally – where I don’t allow myself to focus on certain aspects of my life; for instance, my relationships. Instead, I’ve focused on starting my business. Because, at least that is something I can control right? It’s something you have to GROW through! And, that’s okay.
Before we go, I want to share with you what has helped me KEEP going. To keep going, sometimes, you need to SHIFT your focus onto what is creating positive energy in your life. But, you want to make sure that you’re allowing yourself to heal and cope with life’s setbacks and disappointments in a healthy way. Don’t avoid or cover up what has caused you to pause or stop. Focus on it long enough to deal with it and heal. But, focus MORE your energy on positive people/influences and taking positive Action. Shift your perspective so that you view your setbacks and disappoints as lessons and opportunities to elevate.
Practical things that have helped me keep going is 1) Not procrastinating. Don’t wait to deal with the issue. Deal with it upfront. Focus on finding a solution or alternative, rather than complaining about what didn’t go right. Be solution focused.
2) Practicing mindfulness. I’ll admit, I’m a chronic over thinker, so practicing mindfulness is challenging for me at times. However, meditation, journaling and prayer have worked well for me. I’m not as consistent as I’d like to be, but just getting in the habit of doing it often helps immensely.
3) Maintaining a Positive Success Mindset. This is huge. I’ve worked hard to develop the mindset that I have and it is necessity for me, especially during this time of year. Before I had the mindset I have now, I complained all the time, I easily saw and focused on ALL things negative. I wasn’t solution focused at all. Now that I am, I am able to stay focused on my goals and KEEP going.
4) Remembering my WHY factor. During the most challenging moments of 2019, I remembered my REASON WHY and that was ALL the motivation I needed to KEEP going. There were things that came to an end in 2019, but that didn’t mean I had to stop. Nope, I grieved and am still healing, but I’ve continued making moves, because of my WHY factor!
My friend, you have what it takes to pursue your goals, live your dream and to live your life operating in your God given purpose. I know 2019 was one hell of year, but don’t let that discourage you from chasing after your goals harder than you ever have in 2020. In fact, I encourage you to start NOW. Build momentum, so you can pace yourself come January 1st.
I’ve created an awesome opportunity to help you do just that. My 7 Day Goal Success Challenge is starting on Monday, December 16th! For 7 days I’ll be sharing my 7 Step Strategy to setting & slaying your goals. This strategy can help you KEEP GOING, because you’ll have set the right kind of goal, the right kind of plan and… Well, you’ll have to JOIN the challenge to find out! When you join, you’ll get a FREE Goal Success Checklist, 7 videos (1 for each step) and a FREE Set Goals & Slay Workbook + Planner! CLICK HERE TO JOIN!