5 Steps to Bouncing Back

For the past 8 days I have felt exhausted; physically, mentally and emotionally.

Not only have I felt exausted, but I’ve felt uninspired and a lack of motivation.

When I experience this, I like to take a step back and rest. I’ve used more hours of PTO than I’d like to admit. But, you know, I’ve been feeling burnt out and like I just need a nice, long vacation. LOL. Haven’t you felt this way before?

Of course, we all have.. Or, will at some point. And, that is why self-care is so important and so necessary. Especially in the high-stress days we are living in now. There are so many things in our world Sometimes you’ll have to walk yourself through the process of shifting your perspective. I rehearse the point of prioritizing self-care on a consistent basis, even as a part of your daily routine, but it helps to combat feeling burnt out.

Step 1

Realize that IT is a feeling and that YOU have control over this feeling.

Step 2

Shut it down. Log off the social media pages, turn off the T.V., put your cellphone on silent or do not disturb and distance yourself from anyone or anything that you consider toxic to your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. It’s time to shut it all done. Temporarily of course.

Step 3

Take a step back. Take time away from your “To – Do List.” And, I put this in quotations, because, maybe you don’t have an actual to-do list written out, but I’m sure you have a schedule or thing that you make sure to get done everyday. Whether it’s someone or something.. If you’ve felt stressed, unmotivated to do a certain task or have found yourself procrastinating, that may be something you want to take a step back from. Hit the pause button and take a moment to rest.

Step 4

Self-care. Self-care doesn’t look the same for everybody. Maybe it’s taking a few days off of work to read, meditate and have a family stay-cation. Or, maybe it’s hopping on a plane and flying out of the country for awhile. Maybe it’s having a spa day by yourself or with family. Maybe it’s turning off the alarm and sleeping all day. Self-care is time that you should use to rest, relax, detox, recharge and reset. TIP: Incorporate acts of self-care into your daily routine. Don’t wait until you feel stressed or burnt out to make self-care a priority. It is essential to your well-being and enhances your ability to bounce back!

Step 5

Take action. If you have gone through the process of taking steps 1 through 4, and you still feel burnt out, you have to make a conscious decision to take action! You can’t sit back and wait until you feel ready or motivated to jump back in. Sometimes, you’ve got to dip your foot in the water and get a taste of what it feels like to do what you love to do. And, once you get going you’ll begin to gain momentum. The key is to get started AND to keep going.

It’s okay to push yourself AFTER you have taken time to rest and recharge.

The passion that was once burning on the inside of you is still lit. It’s still there. But, sometimes, you have to give it a jump start. Sometimes, you will have to jump off the cliff and trust that the parachute will open.

We all experience burn out from time to time. In fact, I write about this topic at least once a year. It reminds me that it’s okay. And, really, it’s just a part of the process of setting and slaying my goals. I’ve been putting in work, chasing my goals, and when you add all the emotional stressors of life.. from the pandemic to protests, and all the challenges in my own business and personal relationships… It can get overwhelming. Sometimes, I have to remind myself that it’s okay to slow down or in fact, hit the pause button and rest. The same goes for you my friend. It’s okay to hit the pause button and rest.

Peace & Blessings to you. Thanks for reading!

4 Things You Can Do Now to Prevent Burnout

Just like 2019 and the years before it, 2020 is off to a rapid start. If you set a new year resolution or goals at the start of the year, now is the time to gain momentum. It may seem strange that I would encourage this so early in the year, but I promise you there’s a purpose to it.

Burnout is real and if you’re not prepared for it beforehand, it will catch you at the very moment you should be picking up speed and pushing towards the finish line, not slowing down! But, it happens right? It happens to the best of us. We start of the year strong and then most individuals do 1 of 2 thing: Give up halfway through or get new the end and fad out because of burnout. But, listen, there is a way to combat burnout. The key is to prepare for it in advance! Get ready and stay ready. Here’s a few tips to help you do just that!

If you want to AVOID BURNOUT, you must prepare for it, even though our desire is to not experience it.

1. Shift Your Mindset – Make a conscious decision that you are going to take strategic action to avoid burnout. Instead of focusing solely on a few of your goals, set a goal for every area of your life and then AIM to have a HEALTH LIFE BALANCE. Approach with a flexible mindset; give yourself some wiggle room to make mistakes and learn from them along the way. If you don’t slay your goal the first time, try something different, keep going. Don’t be afraid of trial and error.

2. Set Goals that Are in Alignment With Your Ideal Lifestyle & Create a Plan of Action – Many people set goals, but then they end up doing a lot of busy work and after awhile, find that they haven’t gotten very far. Zoom Out: Identify what you want your life to look like 5 – 10 – 20 years from now. Then, zoom in: Set goals that are in alignment with your ideal lifestyle. Goals that will help you attain the lifestyle you desire to live. Then, zoom in again: Break down those goals into super specific action steps. Then, move on to step 3.

3. Create a Daily Routine – After you’ve made up your mind that you’re going to take strategic action, you’ll want to develop a strategic plan of action. I encourage you to utilize a daily planner that will allow you to break down your day by the hour. Get specific and identify everything that you intend to do each day of the week. I also advise using a habit tracker as well. Whether you use a printable habit tracker or you download an app on your phone; a habit tracker allows you to identify each goal or step you must take to achieve your goals, and record each day that you take action. You can always add to or take away from the list, but it’s a great way to hold yourself accountable, to see where you’re most consistent and which areas need a more effort.

4. Prioritize Self-Care & Relaxation – When you create your action plans and daily routine, I highly encourage incorporating self-care. If you can make time for self-care every day, do it. If that’s something you can’t afford, do it weekly or monthly. Take yourself on a date. Just you. This is not the same as You and your spouse, you and your bestie, you and your sibling or you and your children. No. This is just you, yourself and you! I know there’s a lot of individuals who often feel guilty about prioritizing themselves. If you’re one of those people, look at this way.. prioritizing self-care will not only benefit you, but it will benefit those you love as well, because YOU will BE A BETTER YOU; mentally, emotionally, spiritually.. A few ways to incorporate self-care into your schedule is to mediate, journal, go for a walk, watch a 30-minute episode of your favorite show, eat at your favorite restaraunt, get a massage, go to the movies by yourself… There are many things you can do. The point is to do something you enjoy BY YOURSELF.

Over the past few years, I have found myself setting goals and pursuing them with consistantcy and determination until September and October hits. Then, I’d begin to slow down and lose momentum. Slowly I’d start to fall off.. I’d stop showing up to work, church, the gym, or for myself (self-care) consistently! It was also around the last few months of the year when I’ve battled with depression and anxiety the most. And, one way that I’d always describe how I was feeling, was “burnt out.” I am determined not experience that this year. And, the tips I’ve shared with you above are the exact steps that I am taking in my own life to ensure I avoid feel the mid year or end of year burnout. I’ve made a conscious decision that I will be consistent this year. I’ve created a plan, meaning, I’ve set my daily routine and utilize tools to hold myself accountable; including taking myself on a date once a month.

If you any tips or ideas to help avoid burnout, share with us in the comments below! And, as always, happy manifesting in 2020!