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We all experience moments of self-doubt. And, self-doubt has held and is holding many from:

  • Taking a leap of faith
  • Setting and pursing their goals
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  • Sharing their story
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It’s time to say “NO” to self-doubt. It’s time to put self-doubt in it’s rightful place. It’s time to speak LIFE to our hopes and dreams. It’s time to walk into our future with boldness. It’s time to walk IN our God given purpose with courage. It’s time to know and embrace who God has created us to be!

This journal is composed of 10 questions and journal entries that will guide you in uncovering and understanding what is causing your self-doubt.

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Do You Have Too Many Goals? Steps to Beat the Overwhelm, Organize + Prioritize Your Personal Goals for 2023

Do you have a lot of different goals that you want to pursue in 2023?

Do you have soo many goal, that it’s almost overwhelming to think about?

Do you feel a bit flustered when you think about where to even begin?

Sit tight. This blog post is for… us! Because, I know the feeling!

I mean, is there really a thing as having too many goals?

Yes. However, it is not a bad problem to have! Like many things, it’s all about HOW you manage it.

I get it. I promise you. I also have a lot of goals. Some, I didn’t achieve in 2022, I haven’t given up on. I’ve just carried them over to 2023.

The hack I’m using this year, to stay organized and beat the overwhelm is to:

💎Make a list of ALL of the goals that you want to achieve or work on in 2023

💎Separate the goals into categories: Spiritual, Financial, Career, Health & Fitness, Personal Development, Self-Care, etc.

💎 If you have multiple goals for a specific category, select 1 – 3 of those goals to focus on for the first quarter of the year (Jan – March 31).

💎 For each goal that you achieve by then end of the 1st quarter, replace it with a new goal to work on in quarter 2.

The idea is to replace each goal that you accomplish in one quarter, with another goal in the next. This is helpful, because balance is key! You don’t want to burn out or get so overwhelmed that you give up. If you’ve got too much going on, it is okay to move a goal to the next quarter.

It is better to be effective in pursuit of your goal than to simply be busy.

Bonus Tips

💎 Break each of your goals into small action steps. Identify things that you can daily, weekly and monthly, until you reach your goal.

💎 If you feel like you need to hit pause on a goal and pursue it later, do it. It’s okay. However, I encourage, intentionally, approaching it with the mindset that you are hitting pause until the next quarter. Prior to starting the next quarter, revisit your action plan and see if there are any adjustments you can make that would allow you to still actively work towards the goal in the next quarter, rather than giving up on it or postponing it altogether.

Small steps count. ALL steps matter!

Pause vs Postponing

Pause vs Stopping

Try to focus on making progress rather than racing to the finish line.

When you set your goals, I always recommend setting a date, because it is a great way to hold yourself accountable. Each time you review your goals/action plan and see the date – you can really reflect and measure your progress better. It forces you to be more honest with yourself about how you’re doing and how you’ve been managing your time. However, however, however! IF you feel like like you tend to focus more on achieving the goal by the date more than the action steps and progress made… Then, I recommend NOT setting a date at all. Why? Because, it’s almost symbolic of removing unnecessary pressure. It gives you wiggle room to pivot and make adjustments to your action plan more freely. If you feel like you have to stick to the original plan and constantly thinking of hitting a specific deadline, it can cause unnecessary overwhelm.

Center your focus on enjoying the journey in working towards your goal and who you are becoming in the process, rather than just looking forward to reaching your destination!

I have a family friend who would always say, ” It’s all in the mind.” And, he’s so right. Everything is mindset. It really is all IN the mind. Because, our mindset usually dictates our actions.

Think to pause rather than giving up.

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Aligned for Purpose: How to Align Yourself & Your Goals with Your Purpose

Aligned for Purpose: How to Align Yourself and Your Goals with Your Purpose

We made it y’alll! We survived yet another, challenging year. It’s a blessing to be alive and I am super excited about todays blog topic. We are closing out the year, talking about how to align with our purpose!

We were all created with purpose attached to our lives. We each were created to give and to bring glory to God – we worship with our lives. We are blessed with talent, skills and abilities to help us manifest His purpose for our lives, in the earth, by sharing them with the world. Our purpose will always be something that can benefit another person in a positive way. It’s never just about us. We all have a history, we each have a story and a key part of our purpose is to share our story – even though how we share it may not be in the same way as the next person. One way of sharing your story is not more significant than another. That is why vulnerability and authenticity is so powerful!

I want to see us each living our lives operating aka walking IN our God given purpose with boldness.

As we dive in, there are 3 key areas that we will be zeroing in on:




First and foremost, it beneficial to discover what your life purpose is. Purpose discovery is important because you can spend a lifetime coming to understand what that purpose is as you continue to walk IN it. For instance; I have discovered that my life purpose is to empower individuals to discover and walk in their God given purpose with boldness, to love God and people, to serve, to create, to be fruitful and ultimately to give and to bring glory to God. I was created for His purpose. So with all of my goals and plans, I do my best to pray and surrender them and to seek him for guidance, so that whatever I do is fulfilling His vision, His plan for my life.

So, in order to align with your purpose and for your goals to be aligned with your purpose, it is helpful to:

▪︎ Understand who you are and who God has created you to be.

▪︎ Know what your life purpose/calling is and commit to life-long learning to understand what that purpose is as you grow and evolve each day. This is great to keep in mind, because your purpose or life calling can be fulfilled in more than one way. And, that is where seasons come into play.

Just like how each season – winter, spring, summer and fall each have characteristics that make them unique from the others such as weather and color of the grass and leaves, likewise, in our lives we experiences season – spiritually, mentally/emotionally, physically, financially, etc. Not only that, but the seasons can shift at different times, throughout each area of our lives. You could be excelling in your health while struggling financially. The season can shift to where you gain new employment and generate higher income to where you are no longer struggling financially but you may still continue to struggle with a physical health challenge.

Seasons change and your purpose can manifest in different ways in different seasons as well.

▪︎ Identify your core values. What are your core beliefs about yourself, about the world, about your purpose? What is most important to you?

Common core values include: honesty, integrity, accountability and kindness. When you complete new hire training with a new employer, one of the first things you may learn about the company are their core values. Core values represents what is most important to them and they may also look to hire individuals whose character and experience aligns with those values.

As an example, the core values of Set Goals and Slay LLC. are integrity, ambition and commitment (to doing the work necessary to build one’s confidence, shift one’s mindset and to achieve one’s goals).  My personal core values are passion, ambition, faith and perseverance.

The third key to aligning with your purpose are your goals. Your goals must be in alignment with your purpose! Your purpose remains, but your goals can can change like the four seasons.

To manifest is to display or show, to become apparent to become clear and visible to the eye. The link between wishes and dreams becoming reality are goals. In order for goals to turn those wishes into reality, you must manifest.

Manifesting takes work. It is an action. It is more than writing out your goals and reciting affirmations. It is more than vision boards and vision books. It takes strategic and consistent action. It requires commitment to doing what most people won’t do. It takes follow-through.

What does walking in your purpose look like? What specific things will you do that differentiates actively walking in your purpose vs not walking in your purpose?

Maybe it’s writing a book, maybe its earning a degree or starting a business, maybe it’s volunteering at a local shelter once or twice a month.. Whatever it is, you should have goals and a strategic plan of action mapped out for them. Your goal(s) should be broken down into specific action steps that you can take, some daily, weekly and monthly, until you achieve your goal. For each goal, it is helpful to identify limitations and limiting beliefs that may hinder you from following through on the goal.

Sometimes, we don’t follow through on a goal we’ve set, not because the goal is too hard to reach, but because we have reached a specific step that we must take that we don’t want to, don’t know how to or just can’t. And, suddenly the dream is on pause and on the back burner…

But, now is the time to take our goal and dreams off of the back burner!

Now is the time to place it onto the front burner and to turn the heat up. Set goals, create a plan and start taking strategic action. Stay consistent. Show up and manifest the vision that God has given you. Review your goals routinely to make sure that you are still in alignment with your purpose. Remember that we go through seasons, including seasons of rest. During those seasons of rest, take time to relax, reflect and recharge.

Walk in your God given purpose with boldness in 2023!

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Have blessed week and Happy Holiday!

How to Manage and Overcome Self-Doubt

We were each created uniquely yet equally. While we may come from different races, backgrounds, cultures and experience, there are a few commonalities. We bleed the same color blood and we all have moments of self-doubt. We all face things in life that challenge us to step outside of our comfort zones. There are some things that we are more comfortable and confident doing than others.

While self-doubt can be experienced in all aspects of our lives, right now I want us to center our attention on the self-doubt we feel when it comes to pursuing our goals.

Do you have any goals that you have been wanting to pursue but you’ve been putting it off for awhile now? Or, maybe you have started pursuing your goal, but you’ve reached a step that you’re hesitant to take? If your answer is yes, my question to you is, are you ready to do what it takes to overcome your self-doubt so that you can stop procrastinating and pursue your goal; take that next step?

If you’re ready, let’s dive in!

First, I want you to know that self-doubt is something we ALL struggle with from time to time. Even the most well known, most confident and successful people on earth experience moments of self-doubt. However, the game-changer for many, is knowing how to manage their thoughts and feelings of self-doubt.

In a recent post, we discussed the power of negative self-talk. And, one of the points I shared, is relevant here as well. It is that negative thoughts will always come, we can’t just get rid of them for good. But, that is why we must learn to manage those negative thoughts, because most often our actions align with what our thoughts, beliefs and intents are.

In order to manage your thoughts, you must be self-aware. You want to be alert, to where, when a negative thought pops up, you catch it and correct it. You sit and observe the negative thought or emotion and then you release it. You release it by replacing it with a positive affirmation. This is why I always suggest creating a habit of writing + speaking positive affirmations daily. It helps rewire your thought pattern. So when something that is not in alignment with your positive thought pattern arises, you flag it, catch it and correct it. The more you do it, the more self-aware you become and the easier it becomes to do.

So, what is self-doubt exactly?

Self-doubt is feelings of uncertainty or lack of confidence in your ability to do a specific thing.

If you can identify with any of the signs listed above, you may find this helpful!

Here is a List of Things That Can Help You to Manage and Overcome Self-Doubt

▪︎ Look into discovering the root reason of why

▪︎ Social Media Detox

▪︎ Therapy

▪︎ Journaling

▪︎ Practice positive self-talk

▪︎ Remind yourself of past achievements

▪︎ Avoid comparing yourself to others

▪︎ Challenge yourself routinely to step outside of your comfort zone

▪︎ Focus MORE on WHY you want to pursue a goal and LESS on why you’re not ready, qualified, worthy, good enough etc.

▪︎ Put some R.E.S.P.E.C.T. on your WORTH. Validate yourself and hold that to heart. Work on not allowing your confidence to rise and fall based on the opinions other people have about you! How YOU see yourself is what matters most! If you don’t believe in yourself, if you don’t speak life over your hopes and dreams, if you don’t practice positive self-talk, you’re less likely to even accept validation or compliments from other people anyway.

A good way to gage where you’re at and how you’re doing is by becoming self-aware of how you react when people compliment you. If you have a tendency of denying or brushing off compliments, all the time, this could be a sign that you struggle with self-doubt.

What I would recommend next is to spend some time looking into the root cause of the self-doubt you feel.

If you’re not sure where to start, I encourage answering the following questions as journal entries:

▪︎ How do you feel about yourself, specifically, your ability to puruse and achieve your goals?

▪︎ How long have you felt this way?

▪︎ Is there anyone who has contributed to your beliefs about yourself?

▪︎ Did you experience something in your past that caused you to feel these same feelings of self-doubt?

▪︎ What do you do when you feel self-doubt? (Procrastinate, Avoidance, Anxious, etc.)

▪︎ How would you like to see your negative thoughts about yourself/your abilities change?

▪︎ What do you want to believe about yourself?

▪︎ What do you do/say when people compliment you?

▪︎ How would you like to feel when people compliment you?

▪︎ What can you do to transform your thoughts? (Practice positve self-talk, etc.)

▪︎ What will happen if you don’t change your thought patterns and beliefs about yourself? What will happen if you do change your thought pattern and beliefs about yourself?

Answering these questions should help you get to the root of your self-doubt and to also begin strategizing how you can manage and overcome it. It’s important to get to the root of why you are doubting yourself and where it stems from so that when you do any of the things suggested on the list above, it can be effective.

Also note that if you feel like you’d do better with additional support in working through these questions, therapy or life coaching are great alternatives to just solely going the self-help route.

I hope that this information has been helpful. Thank you for reading!

As 2022 comes to an end, many of us have begun reflecting on the year. If you feel like you have been procrastinating or struggling to take the next steps towards pursuing and achieving your goals, I invite you to learn more about the Set Goals & Slay E:Course designed to help you to align your goals & dreams with the ✅️ mindset and ✅️ game-plan to execute! If you want 2023 to be the year where you finally step outside of your comfort zone and pursue your goals & dreams, this is a great way to start!

The Power of Negative Self-Talk and How to Deal With It, So You Can Stop Procrastinating & Pursue Your Goals

On the blog, lately, we have been diving into the most common things holding may people back from pursuing their goals and dreams. We’re about to dive into another great topic and this one happens to hit home for me. It’s time to talk about negative self-talk!

Negative self-talk is talking negatively to yourself and about yourself.

Negative self-talk is only a symptom of the root cause which is one’s mindset.

Your mindset is influenced by your experiences, which shape your core beliefs and view of yourself, the world and your ability to achieve your goals in this world. If you struggle to speak life over yourself, your goals and dreams, and if you struggle to believe the best about your abilities, gifts and talents, I encourage you to take a look into WHY.

Get in a quiet place, pull out a journal, ask yourself and answer these questions. Be honest with yourself.

📌What do you believe about yourself?

📌How do you see you yourself?

📌How do you think other people see you?

📌What events from your past have shaped your beliefs about yourself today?

Once you have answered these questions, you have a good foundation to build upon.

The next building block is to take strategic action to begin shifting and reshaping your mindset; your thoughts and beliefs about yourself. Because, how you perceive yourself has a lot to do with your self-talk.

Writing and speaking positive affirmations is helpful to reshaping your thought patterns. But, it’s like trying to treat the symptoms of an illness without dealing with the route issue IF you don’t actually identify and deal with the root issue.

It may take therapy, prayer and time. But, I encourage you to be intentional about practicing positive self-talk consistently. Because, what you speak is powerful and it matters, if you want to set goals and slay them. How you talk about yourself, and what you speak to yourself, that no one else can hear, is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. Your actions typically reflect your beliefs. When you get your mindset (belief/perspective of yourself) right, your self-talk will align and so will your actions!

When you believe that you are more than a conqueror, when you believe that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you, your self-talk and your actions should reflect that.

I am preparing to launch my self-care candle line called Align Allure Luxury Candle Bar. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for years, but it was always just a wish or dream. I never seriously considered actually doing it until one day, I got thought of an idea for concept and then it was like… Why not me? And, that was followed by thoughts like, why not now? And, let me tell you, I was able to come up with multiple, valid reason why I should wait or just not ever do it at all. I battled a lot of negative thoughts… About what other people might say, what other people might think, how I don’t have enough time, money or space to pull it off. ALL the things man, all the things, I thought of. And yet, I still did it. After all of that, I went for it anyway.

Even as I began to take action, to bring my dream to life, I kept quiet about it, because I was ashamed. I was ashamed of the fact that I’m using a vendor to hand-pour my candles, even though it was a SOLUTION to my temporary problem of lack of space and time to be hands on in some aspects of my candle business. Even as I type this, I feel the urge to backspace this entire paragraph. But, I’m willing to expose my feelings of shame, because it has led to negative self-talk, which is what we don’t want. As I mentioned, it is important to deal with the root cause.

What is my root cause here? My fear of rejection. There are people, events, things that happened in my past that caused me to develop a fear of rejection. One of the ways I deal with this root cause is by consistently challenging myself to do things that I would otherwise procrastinate on or just not ever do, due to fear of what someone might say or think. The negative thoughts will come, I acknowledge and process them, I speak positive affirmation (I write and speak my affirmations to myself daily) and then I move forward with ACTION. Repeat. That’s the strategy, that’s the formula. Do it over and over and over again.

It’s not a once a day, one a month or one a year ritual. It’s simply a tool to help you WIN that particular battle in your mind and you can do it anytime a negative thought bombards your mind. I’m especially talking about those negative thoughts that pop up daily or every time you think about pursuing your goal.

After you have answered the questions listed above. Think about how you can effectively DEAL with your root issue(s) and HEAL.

Again, it may tike time, prayer AND therapy. Some things, like negative thoughts, will always be around. You just have to learn how to COPE. I hope what I have shared here is helpful for you. Get what you need, do what you need to do, so that you can pursue your goals and dreams and live your life walking in your God given purpose with boldness!

I wish you a blessed week ahead Set Goals & Slay family, thank you for reading!


How to Minimize Distractions So You Can Pursue & Slay Your Goals

Have you been struggling to follow through with your goals because of distractions? If your answer is yes, you’re in the right place. I have some tips to share with you, that I believe will help you to minimize and even eliminate many of the distractions that may be holding you back from pursuing and slaying your goals!

Before we jump into the information, I want you to know that I understand what it is like to have many things to do and not enough time to do it in. I’ve experienced that during my days as a busy college kid, juggling classes, study-time, extracurricular activities (band practice, games, etc.), free-time with family and friends, church and work!

Post-college, I’ve been on a personal mission to attain a healthy life-balance.. Having quality time for everything that matters most to me. It’s not easy, especially when things are constantly changing and evolving around us.. One minute you’re juggling your day to day life when life happens… Your car breaks down, you get sick or Covid-19 happens… Things happen, and it can be tough to manage everything. And, unfortunately as a result, sometimes our goals can get put on the back burner.

My mission is to empower you with tools and strategies to help your pursue and slay your goals!

Time is valuable. So with that in mind, let’s get straight to the info you came here for shall we?

Here are 3 Keys to Minimizing Distractions So You Can Pursue & Slay Your Goals

📌 Be Intentional with your time, energy, money, etc.

📌 Identify the distractions

📌 Identify what you can do to minimize, eliminate OR work with those distractions

To be intentional with your time you need to MANAGE your time.

Start Here: Identify what truly matters to you. Ask yourself, what are your goals, your priorities, the top things you want to focus and invest your time, money, energy into?

Now, I’m going to share with you some helpful tools to help you manage your time. I’ll warn you though, if you’re not a planner-junkie like me, these tips may seem.. unnecessary! However, if you struggle with time-management… These are a game-changer.

Note: You don’t need to use all of these. But, do consider utilizing the one’s that work best for you.

To-Do List A to-do list is a great way to organize and keep track of your top priorities. If you decide to use to-do lists, I encourage using multiple to-do lists. For example: one for business, personal/home-life, shopping list, etc. Now, you don’t need a to-do list for every area of your life. But, I find it helpful to have a to-do list for any areas of your life where you feel you struggle most to keep up important tasks.

Using a pen and paper to keep a to-do list a great but if you’re anything like me, you may have a lot to keep up with and the one thing you rarely lose track of is your cell-phone. So, if you’ve got a smart phone, flirt with a few different apps until you find the digital to-do list that is the best suitor for you!

Here are my top recommendations:

  • Kanban Notion
  • Todoist
  • Google Keep
  • Evernote

Calendar/Planner – Use a calendar/planner that allows you to plan your day, week, month throughout the year. There are different kinds of planners you can use. We will break those down at a different time, but what I recommend is to research the different types of journals (i.e. bullet journal, etc.) and decide which one is the best fit for you. Also, remember that you can decide between having a physical/paper planner, digital or both.

Time-blocking – Use an hourly planner and divide your days into chunks aka time-blocks. Each block of time is dedicated to a specific task(s).

Bonus Tip: Schedule tasks that you are most, not looking forward to tackling at the start of your day rather than the end of your day. Get it done and out of the way and leave the tasks that you most look forward to completing towards the end part of your day so that you have something to look forward too. Just an extra way to motivate yourself throughout your day.

P.S. Don’t forget to schedule time DAILY for R&R. If you can schedule 5 – 15 minute breaks after each time-block, this can help reduce or eliminate stress, overwhelm and burn-out.

Pomodoro Method – This method is great if you are an over-thinker, perfectionist or just struggle with managing your time. It is also really helpful if you work so hard or get caught up with your workflow that you don’t consistently take your breaks. Use this method to help manage your time, focus on quality over quantity and reduce overwhelm.

Here is the breakdown for the Pomodoro Method:

Identify Task

Set a Timer.

Work on the task.

When the timer goes off, take a break (short).

Reset timer, and resume task or move on to the next task.

When timer goes off, take a longer break.

Set the timer to fit your daily schedule as needed. I highly recommend using this method alongside the time-blocking method.

My Top Pomodoro App Recommendations:

  • Focus To-Do
  • Pomo Focus
  • Pomotodo

These apps allows you to set the allotted time you want to work on a task and when the timer goes off… you take a break and then either continue or move on to the next scheduled task.

After that time-block is complete, that’s it for that task. Being intentional goes hand in hand with self-discipline. You’ve got to be disciplined to work during the allotted time, take your breaks and then move on to the next task of the day.

Kanban Boards – I fell in love with Kanban boards this year! I haven’t been using them for long, but it has really been a gamechanger for me. I’m gonna tell you why I use this method. And, if this resonates with you, then download the app quick!

Kanban boards allow you to see your to-do list in a visual form. The boards is made up of 3 sections: Do (To-Do), Doing and Done. If you search Kanban on YouTube, you’ll see examples of how you can create a Kanban board using just your blank wall and sticky notes, you can use a whiteboard or a corkboard. If you enjoy visual interaction, being hands on and creative you may enjoy creating a physical Kanban display board. Or, you may prefer to go the digital route (if not both).

Here are my favorite digital Kanban board Apps:

  • Trello
  • Notion
  • ClickUp
  • My Kanban

Bonus Tip:

When you set goals, you should identify specific action steps that you can take daily, weekly and monthly. As you take action, remember to approach it with a quality over quantity mentality.

If you use time-blocking in your scheduling, the time that you have blocked out for a certain activity – focus on being effective during that time with the tasks at hand RATHER THAN focusing on how much you can get done during that period of time.

This helps with managing your time, because it decreases the chances of you having to go back and correct or re-do that task because you were rushing during that time-block.

Stress, overwhelm, anxiety and burn-out… These can be distractions as well, because they can cause you to not be able to to work on a task or to be effective while working on a task.

That is why it is essential to manage your time well, because it helps decrease stress, overwhelm, anxiety and decrease risk of burn-out. It is one form of stress management etc.

Bonus Tip #2

Schedule time to meditate, practice mindfulness, to exercise, to sit down and eat your meals, to spend time with loved ones (including your pets) etc.

Balance is key and if you can manage your time well, then you can find balance ⚖️

The solution to minimize or eliminate distractions is to be intentional with managing your time.

To do that, you must identify what you want to focus on and then you may find it helpful to use planners, to-do lists, time-blocking and timers etc to help you zero in on your focus points and execute.

It’s up to you to schedule time for what matters most at times when external distractions (i.e. phones, social media, noisy neighbors etc.) are low or non-existent.

Now, I use each of the recommendations that I have shared with you today and have spent time researching the benefits of them as well. So, I do believe that these can be game-changing for you as you work to creating a healthy life-balance, where you are managing your time and taking strategic action to achieve your goals. The key is to find what works best for you and then to do it consistently.

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Get Out of Your Way: 7 Steps to Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

One of the greatest things that brings me joy is seeing people live their best lives. I love to see people happy, successful and thriving in every area of their lives. That is one of the factors that drives my passion for helping ambitious women break through limitations and limiting beliefs that can often hold us back from leveling up in our life. Especially, when it comes to pursuing our life purpose!

That is why I am so passionate about today topic. Not only that, but it is something that I struggle with from time to time. But, what I’d like to do here is share with you what I have learned, so that we can finally stop sleeping on ourselves and go after our goals and dreams with boldness!

Today, we’re going to zero in on Imposter Syndrome because when you break down what imposter syndrome looks like, you’ll find that it covers many many things that are common reasons for either giving up on a goal or simply not starting. So, let’s jump in.

If you have a goal that you have been wanting to pursue but you’ve been putting it off, I encourage you to take this moment to think about why. Ask yourself, what has been holding you back?

When we procrastinate on pursuing our goals, it is usually because there is a limitation or limiting belief holding us back.

A limitation is any THING that holds us back from taking action. Example: Lack of resources, lack of money, lack of time, not knowing how or where to start, lack of support, lack of motivation etc.

A limiting belief is a negative or false BELIEF that holds us back from taking action. Example: I’m not good enough, I’m not ready yet, I don’t have enough experience, Nobody will take me seriously, etc.

Imposter syndrome is loosely defined as doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud.

Signs of Imposter Syndrome:

  • Self-sabotage
  • Self doubt
  • Fear
  • Perfectionism
  • Self criticism
  • Down playing your skills and abilities
  • Not feeling qualified or worthy

Are you a perfectionist? Do you procrastinate when it comes to launching a new product or service, are you waiting for the right time or until you feel more ready, qualified or worthy to publish your book, apply for your dream job or start your business?

Do you feel guilty when you promote your product or service? Do you hesitate or hold back when sharing your qualifications and experience during an interview? Do you downplay what you really bring to the table?

There are different ways that imposter syndrome can show up. And, when we recognize one of these symptoms are at play, it’s essential that we take time to get to the core of that symptom. Get intentional about discovering WHY that fear, self-doubt, self-sabotage, etcetera exists for you. Because once you understand why, then you can effectively begin to manage it.

For example: If your struggle is with fear, once you understand the route of why you are fearful and what triggers it, then you can move forward in feeling the fear and doing what you gotta do anyway.

I’ll use myself as an example.

The 2 symptoms that I struggle the most with is Fear and Down-playing my skills and abilities.

Now, I have my BA is Psychology, I have 5+ years of experience in the Behavior and Mental Health field. I have experience working with adults and children. I also have had my own mental health challenges. And, apart from a college degree and vocational experience, I have studied a attained 3 certifications for life coaching: Life, Solution-focused and goal success. I have spent hours upon hours reading, learning and applying the knowledge I’ve learned.. I don’t know everything. I’m not the best at everything. HOWEVER, I do have quality to bring to the table.

Even with that.. I’ve still doubted and down-played myself soo many times. I’ve spent a lot time procrastinating and being afraid to create and promote my books, products and services, because I have feared being rejected because someone might think I’m too young and not qualified. I have feared not being taken seriously.

This is an example of imposter syndrome. It may look different for you, but what I want you to know, is that it is possible to overcome.

So, with all that being said, here are a few tips to help you overcome and conquer the imposter syndrome:

Please note: This is not a quick fix. These are things that you may have to do each and every time a symptom of imposter syndrome pops up.

Also, keep in mind that these tips are meant to help transform your mindset over time. Your thought processes, your core beliefs.. that is where the shift must occur, so that you can consistently walk in boldness and perform with confidence – in whatever you set out to do, whatever goals you pursue.

1) Remind yourself of who you are and who God has created you to be.

2) Remind yourself of what you bring to the table.

  • Get a notepad and pen and make a list of all of your skills, abilities, talents, gifts and experience
  • Make a list of all the reasons WHY you should pursue your goal despite how you feel

3) Detox your circle.

  • Who are you following on social media? If they do not motivate, encourage, inspire, teach or challenge you in a positive way – then consider unfollowing them
  • Who do you share you goals and dreams with? If they are not a healthy support system, then consider keeping your goals and dreams to yourself. Work in silence – let the results speak for you
  • Evaluate the company you keep. If you are the smartest person in the room… change that. If your circle is not like-minded, consider socially distancing
  • Get intentional about surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals who will be an positive light on your journey

4) Practice positive self-talk everyday. Not just when your mind is bombarded with negative thoughts.

5) Make a habit of celebrating the small wins. Acknowledge your accomplishments. If you feel like you’d be bragging – angle to share your accomplishment in a way that teaches or inspires someone else on their own journey.

6) Be honest with your self and others about your strengths and weaknesses. BALANCE is key. When you are honest with yourself and others about your strengths AND weaknesses, you won’t feel like a fraud. AUTHENTICITY is the best approach. If you are hesitant to share your weaknesses because you don’t want to look more like your not ready or qualified, this is where you’ll need to focus more on shifting your mindset.

Shifting your mindset requires you to repeatedly shift your focus onto something else.. In this case, that something would be HOW you perceive your weaknesses. It’s beneficial here to perceive your weaknesses ALSO as strengths. So, try thinking of your weaknesses as something that is also as asset to you because it makes you

  • human
  • relatable
  • authentic

7) My last tip for you is to simply to Challenge Yourself. One thing I am absolutely ashamed of is that fact that I can’t dance. At all. So, I’ve been pushing myself to get moving a bit here and there on some of the videos I post on Instagram and TikTok. I’ve challenged myself to embrace something that I am insecure about, not to make fun of myself, but because I know it’s pushing me outside of my comfort zone. And when I hit post, I feel soo proud of myself for putting myself out there. That is a small win for me that I celebrate each time. And, I feel more confident in spite of, each time I do it.

Taking small steps – challenging yourself is a great way to enhance your confidence in your ability to do certain things.

By implementing these tips into your daily routine or weekly routine, you can really get the upper hand on imposter syndrome. It takes time, it won’t happen over night, but you can get there.

Be encouraged and know that you are not alone on this journey.

If you’re ready to pursue your goals with confidence, I invite you to check out The Set Goals & Slay e-course. Click HERE for more info.

Hidden Lessons: How to Find Opportunities and Blessings Hiding in Plain Sight!

Last weekend my husband and I drove up north to Prescott, Arizona for an impromptu getaway!

As I sit in my hotel room reflecting on my weekend getaway, I learned a lesson I believe is worthy of sharing.

To start, I’ll give you a little insight on my past as it relates to todays blog.

I was born and raised in the valley of the sun #Aznative.

I started driving when I was 15 and had only driven the freeway 2 or 3 times prior to turning 28 🤦🏾‍♀️ Once I moved from Phoenix and I found myself having to travel back and forth frequently and quickly grew tired of driving the streets. Once I conquered my fear of merging on and off of the freeway, I began to venture out further and further, exploring my home state.

For years..  I mean, ever since I was in middle school, whenever the topic arose, I was quick to tell people that I couldn’t see myself living in AZ long term. I’d dreamt of going to college out of state, to an HBCU and joining a sorority. Also, I’ve always loved beaches and saw myself eventually moving to California or Georgia. As a kid, my family and I took many road trips to California. And, my family on my mom and dad’s side are from California, Texas, Florida, North Carolina and other Eastern and Southern states.

Here I am, now 29 years old… Having ventured here and there around Arizona from 2021 till now, just exploring more cities on my own, I can honestly say that my overall perspective of my home state has shifted. Nobody would be more surprised by this than me, but I would honestly be heart broken if the day comes and I have to move away for one reason or another.

One thing I can say, is that I’m grateful that I have had the chance to discover the diversity that’s been right under my nose the entire time.

Now, you may be wondering how this inspired a blog post. There’s 2 parts to this. Let’s dive in!

Part 1:

Sometimes, we can miss a good thing that’s been right in front of us the whole time because of our perspective. And, sometimes, without realizing it, our perspective of a person, place or thing can be formed and shaped by the influence of other’s perspectives.

Our perspectives are typically shaped by our life experiences.

Now, you can apply this, to relationships, business opportunities, etc.

This is a reminder to myself and for anyone who needs it.

Could you be overlooking something that is quite amazing because you’ve been too busy looking in the opposite direction?

For years, I listened to people saying how boring Arizona is and how awesome our next door neighbor California is in comparison. The irony of that is that now as an adult, I actually hear the exact opposite. I hear complaints about how expensive California is and other complaints beyond that, that took me by surprise.

But that reminded me of this…

How many times do we develop ideas and opinions about things because we’ve been hanging on to the ideas and opinions of other people?

Of course, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But, sometimes we count ourselves out, we skip over opportunities, we disqualify ourselves from things that could actually be the best thing for us or the gateway to.

Now, I’m not staying I’m destined to reside in AZ for life. But, just within the past  year and a half my perspective of my home state has completed shifted. But, this post isn’t about how awesome I think Arizona is now, it’s really about this…

That shift only occurred after I did 2 things:

1) I stopped listening to the negative opinions of other people.

2) I got bored and started to explore things for myself.

By doing this, I put myself in position to experience and develop my own opinion, free from the perceptions and opinions of other people. I’ve visited areas and places in AZ that many AZ residents have yet to explore.

So, I encourage you to look your goals and dreams. What have you given up on or lost hope in and why? If you find that it’s because of lack of support of people, negative opinions, haters, doubters, etc…  You know, it’s easy for us to discourage someone from pursuing a goal or dream because it didn’t work out for us. Sometime, we can innocently just share our story and can unintentionally sow a seed of doubt.. now, I’m not saying don’t share your story – Including our mistakes. But, what I am saying is – remember to share the lesson learned as well. Because, that could be the gamechanger for someone else.

I thought this blog would end here. But, there is a..

Part 2:

As I sat in my hotel room, moments before checkout, I reflected on the lesson learned and I couldn’t shake the feeling that there was something more God wanted me to understand. Today I discovered the connecting piece. This right here really stirred me up today!

While, what I’ve shared with you regarding my new found perspective of my home-state is true, this blog post is far more significant than that. As soon as I saw this post today on social media, something clicked!
This was it. This was the missing piece to the lesson I’d learned from my weekend getaway.

In part one, I share HOW my perspective shifted. Part 2 is all about WHY we should allow ourselves to embrace our journey, embrace the process and allows God to shift our perspective as we pursue or goals and life purpose.

Let’s connect the dots.

When we are in our comfort zones, we are are comfortable because we are familiar with our environment. Our environment does not have to be physical, it could represent a state of mind or a perspective of a person, place, thing or an idea.

Here’s an example. Growing up, if you asked me what my favorite color(s) were, my answer was red and black. Once I began college at Grand Canyon University, where the school colors are white, purple and black, there was a shift. When asked, I’d tell you my favorite color was purple. My dorm room was decorated in purple and I enjoyed wearing my purple gear.

See, even when my favorite color was red and black, there was STILL potential – possibility – opportunity for me to SHIFT – change and favor the color purple. No pun intended. When I declared red and black as my favorite colors, I wanted everything to be in those colors. My bedroom colors were red and black, my wardrobe consisted heavily of black and when given the opportunity to choose something with color options, my go-to was always, red or black.

Things change. People change. Opinions and beliefs change. When it comes to people and our beliefs, change usually occurs when there is a shift in ones focus which then creates a DOORWAY for their perception to change.

The DOOR can be an opportunity that you have been waiting to find or waiting to open. And, that DOOR, very well could have been in front of you this entire time! Your breakthrough, your million dollar idea, whatever it may be… Could it be that it’s already open, ready for you to walk through, but because you’ve been looking in the opposite direction, because you’ve been waiting on God’s blessing to show up in a particular kind of way… You could be missing it even though it has your name on it?!

Don’t miss what God has for you! Remember that, God’s ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts (Reference: Isaiah 55:8-9). That means, we have to have faith and trust in His timing. Understanding, that even when it doesn’t make sense, things are still working together for our good. He has a purpose and plan for each of our lives. We need to trust Him with the purpose He attached to our lives and the gifts and talents that He has given us to bless the lives of others.

I believe that God wants to reveal to us what has only been hidden, because we were not looking in the right direction. The wrong direction can be hinged upon relying on the experiences and opinions of other people. Maybe, someone else’s business failed, maybe someone wrote a book and it didn’t become a bestseller, maybe someone pursued their goal and made a mistake.. But, that is THEIR story. And, your perspective of it should be through the lens of a LESSON.

So, I encourage you to look for and learn the lessons and move forward. Don’t give up on yourself, don’t give up on your dreams and most importantly, don’t give up on God – just because you may be facing the wrong door. It is possible to view one thing, one way for your entire life and to have it turned upside down in a much shorter period of time. You can have your whole life or certain aspects of your life planned out and God can come and turn it upside down just because He wants you to see something differently. His plan for our lives is better the our plans. So, lets allow Him to connect the dots.

15 Steps to Achieving Your Goals and Manifesting Your Dreams in 2022

Have you set the same goals for the past couple of years because you want to achieve it but things just keep getting in the way?

Do you set goal and new year resolutions but struggle to be consistent and follow through?

Are you feeling alone or discouraged on your journey to pursuing your goals?

Then, you’re in the right place!

There are many reasons why we give up on our goals and dreams…

But today, I’m here for those of you who know what you want, have tried to manifest it but it just hasn’t worked out.. yet!

What I am about to share is for those of you who are sick and tired of being sick and tired.

You are ready to achieve your goals and bring your dreams to life!

The Secret to Achieving Your Goals and Other Game-changing Hacks

1. Get clear about what you want, why you want it and write it down.

2. Set a long-term goal.

3. Break your long-term goal into short term-goals.

4. Identify specific action steps you can take quarterly, monthly, weekly and daily.

5. The secret to slaying your goals is to identify potential obstacles. Identify what has gone wrong or what could go wrong. Identify your fears, limiting beliefs, anything that is or could potentially discourage you or hinder you physically, mentally or emotionally from continuing your pursuit. In other words, ask yourself, what has or could possibly stop you from pursuing your goal and what can you do about it. The next step is to brainstorm possible solutions or alternatives. What is another route of getting to your destination? What is another way of accomplishing your goal? If one way didn’t work, if one resource fell through, what else can you do? If you run into something you don’t know, how can you enhance your knowledge instead of giving up altogether?

If you identify these things from the very beginning, you automatically become LESS likely to give up on your goals than the individual who does not.

If you are tired of setting goals, starting and then giving up on them then it’s time to do something about it.

6. Detox your circle. Surround yourself with people who hold you accountable, encourage you and build you up! Hire and fire accordingly.

7. Use planners, journals, to-do lists to help you stay organized.

8. Listen to podcasts, YouTube videos and read books on your nich.. Things that will build you up and expand your knowledge.

9. Take courses, talk to people who already are where you desire to be and if you have questions, ask.

10. Test drive your dream! For example: If it’s a car, dream home, dream job.. Go to a dealership and test drive that car or rent that car for a week, tour your dream home, shadow a business owner, volunteer or intern.

11. Set up motivating factors in your home, office and phone. Motivating factors are things that motivate you. motivating factors can also be a “small” reward that you receive after reaching a milestone or accomplishing a short-term goal.

Motivating factors are also thing that remind you of your goals and help you stay focused. Examples of motivating factors can be: vision boards or books, vision board as the screensaver or wallpaper on a cellphone or computer, sticky notes w/positive affirmations on your bathroom mirror – each time you look in the mirror, recite those affirmations aloud with authority and conviction – speak life over yourself and over your dreams!

12. Habits to help you manifest and stay motivated – journaling, listening to positive affirmations while asleep, meditation in morning and before sleeping, Meta groups for people also in your niche, networking events, etc.

13. Accountability is essential. You must yourself accountable and have at least 1 other person who you trust and will hold you accountable also. This person should not only be your motivator and encourager, but should also be able to give you constructive feedback – not criticism. A few ways that you can find an accountability partner is via Meta groups, in-person events, conferences/seminars in your niche. Ways that you can hold yourself accountable are: setting dates for your short-term and long-term goals,

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14. Take the pressure off! Define what success looks like for you. For some people, success is becoming a millionaire. I’d love to be a millionaire, but for me, success is me operating in my God given purpose.

Focus more on the journey and less on the destination. Enjoy the journey because success is a process. It does not happen overnight.

15. Do your best not to compare yourself or your journey to anyone else’s. This is your life, your journey, your vision, your goals! Though it may be similar, nobody’s journey is the same. Remember to define what success look

And, most importantly, Proverbs 3:5 – 7 says: Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

No one else is supposed to understand your calling. It wasn’t a conference call.

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Do This to Boost Your Confidence!

As a teenager and into my early twenties, I struggled with low self-esteem. I was very insecure. When I looked in the mirror, I could hardly make eye contact with myself. I hated what I saw.

I struggled to love myself because I was too busy comparing myself to other young women around me.

It wasn’t until I began to shift the focus on myself and began my self-love journey that things improved. Some days I still struggle to believe the best about myself. Sometimes, I compare myself to others. Sometimes, I wish that I was further along in my entrepreneurial endeavors than I am. I dream big, I’m goal oriented and sometimes I’m just too hard on myself.

These steps that I am about to share with you have really helped me to boost my self-esteem EACH time I have felt really low about myself, my goals and ability to succeed. If you are struggling with your confidence, in any area of your life, you may find these helpful ❤️

4 Steps to Boost Your Confidence!

Step 1 Remind yourself of how your creator sees you. He created you on purpose for a purpose. He knows and understands you better than you do yourself. Study the scriptures to see how He sees you. Because He loves you – flaws and all. He looks beyond our imperfection and mistakes.

Step 2 Write out a list of all your accomplishments and positive qualities. Everything you’ve overcome, everything you bring to the table, every table you’ve built. Take a moment to brag about it. Remind yourself of how far you’ve already come!!

Step 3 Every time you are in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eye and begin to speak life over yourself and over your goals/dreams. Practice positive self talk.

The more your quote the positive affirmations and scriptures about who God says you are and what He says you can do through Him – the more self-aware you will become when the negative thoughts hit. And, you’ll automatically start combating those negative thoughts with affirmations and scripture.

Even if you don’t believe what you’re saying initially, if you are consistent, your perspective of yourself will begin to shift over time!

Talk to yourself!! Hype yourself up!! Remind yourself that you are a Queen. You are a King. You were created in the image of the one true God and you were born with purpose. People can’t give you that.

People can’t assign purpose to your life. So, remind yourself that you are called and you are worthy. The world is ready and waiting to hear your voice and your story. Someone’s breakthrough depends on it.

You are deserving of the happiness you enjoy in your life. You have sown in tears, you have labored and you have waited. When what you’ve worked so hard for manifests, don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it.

Be careful not to look down on and talk down to yourself. The conversations you have with yourself are thee most important conversations you will ever partake in. Adjust your crown. Walk humbly, but confidently knowing that it is a privilege for people to be in your presence!

Step 4 Be patient with yourself. Go on a self-love journey and learn to love yourself again. Fall in love with the new you! We are always changing, growing and evolving as individuals. We are not the exact same person we were years ago. So, sometimes we have to learn to love who we’ve become and make peace with where we are in life, now.

If you haven’t heard it in awhile, know that YOU are such an amazing person. I’m glad you’re here. And, the world would not be the same without you!!

Thank you for taking time to read this blog! Please share this post. You never know who may need to hear a word of encouragement today.

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. If you or someone you know is in need, remember that help is available. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Hours – Available 24 hours Phone#: (800) 273 – 8255

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