Steps to Building Your Confidence and Pursuing Your Dreams with Boldness

Have you ever shared your dreams and plans with someone, only to find yourself defending yourself because you dared to dream big?

There are many reasons why someone may not support the pursuit of your dreams. But, what it really comes down to is.. Mindset. In today’s blog, we’ll be talking about HOW to build and remain confident in the pursuit of your dreams REGARDLESS of who doesn’t support, understand or believe that it IS possible.

Do you believe it is possible to achieve your goals? Or, are you easily swayed and discouraged by the disbelief of others?

Here’s a few steps to help you BUILD your confidence so that you can pursue your dreams with boldness:

1) Check your mindset!

Who are you listening to? Who are you allowing to pour into your life? Whose opinions and beliefs are you allowing to influence you and dictate your actions?

Your ability to achieve your goals has everything to do with your MINDSET. If your mindset is trash, then.. You’ll lose before you’ve even begun.

Success is 80% Mindset and 20% Strategy

Which leads me to step #2..

2) Set a SMART (Specific + Measurable + Achievable, Realistic +Trackable) goal, create a flexible action plan and get to work!

You don’t have to have it altogether and you don’t need to wait for a perfect time to get started.

The best set-up for success is when YOU have defined what success looks like to YOU and then you put in the work. You don’t need to wait for a perfect time. Honestly, there is no perfect time. And, if you’re waiting to perfect yourself.. Remember that the world doesn’t need perfect, it needs YOU to show up as your authentic self!

If you don’t know where to start, start here: Start by setting a goal and breaking it down into action steps. Create a flexible action plan; understanding that if you try to accomplish a step and it doesn’t work out, you can try a different way.

3) Detox your circle and surround yourself with like-minded people.

It is essential that you get with people who are already where you are striving to be and/or who are striving to get from where they are to where they desire to be. Furthermore, you don’t need to remain  in an environment, around people who repeatedly speak death over your dreams or try to discourage you from dreaming big and pursuing them simply because they lack the mindset to comprehend your purpose and the possibility of your dreams becoming your reality.

There are people who are super ambitious and have really big dreams. Likewise, there are people who do not and are satisfied with what they have, where they are in life, now. And there is nothing  wrong with either of the two. Regardless of what anyone says, you should not feel ashamed for seeing more for yourself and wanting more out of life. And, I must say, if you are content and not striving to have or be more, you should not feel ashamed for that as well.

4) Know your WHY.

Maybe it’s to create a better life for yourself and your family. Maybe, it’s to honor God by fulfilling your God given life purpose. Maybe it’s to change lives and impact generations to come.

Whatever your WHY is, that is what you must focus on and remind your self of consistently. Everything else is secondary. No one else will or should hold your WHY with more value than you do. When you understand this, then it becomes easier to recognize the doubters and naysayers. You must filter out the noise.

There are people who are and will be satisfied with what they have and where they are now. And that is okay. There should be mutual respect on both ends.

I share this because I know how it feels to be called boujiee and extra simply because you dared to dream big. And, because you want more than what you have right now. You see yourself going further than where you’ve been so far.

FAITH + action is the key to manifesting your dreams.

Another thought to consider..

Your network really is your net-worth. And, often times when we hear this, we think of money. But, this doesn’t only relate to money.

See, not only is your money valuable but so is your time. Your energy and your peace of mind is valuable too.

Is there anyone in your life who is causing more damage than good? If so, you can’t continue to surround yourself with individuals who are speaking death over your goals and dreams, simply because they don’t see or understand YOUR vision. You must be intentional about surrounding yourself with like-minded people. People who have a positive, success – growth mindset.

Maybe THEY don’t understand the what, YOUR why or the how. But, you can’t let that discourage you from taking action. It is YOUR dream, your gift, your calling, your purpose to fulfil in the earth. God gave it to YOU. He allowed you to see the vision.

You may not understand it all or fully know the HOW. But, that’s okay.  If only you can BELIEVE in the possibility of your dreams.. Because that, my friend, is the pre-requisite of your success. Knowing what success looks like to you and, believing that it is possible!

5) Refrain from sharing your plans and makes sure to celebrate the small wins.

Stay prayerful. Be mindful. Meditate. Journal. Continue to study and learn, grow in knowledge within your area of expertise. Remain humble. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and accept constructive criticism. Learn from your mistakes. Repeat.

The more you do these things, the more confident you will become in yourself and in the possibility of your dreams becoming your reality!

Thank you for reading Set Goals and Family! Like, Comment and Share with someone who needs this message. Until next time.. Much love to you all – Kizzy 💕

7 Steps to Break the Habit of Inconsistency

For the month of March, I committed to 31 days of working out at home. Absolutely no days off.

I enjoy working out – it helps me stay energized, confident, balanced, strong, improves my mental health and all of the obvious benefits of maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

When the pandemic hit, my gym closed it’s doors temporarily and I began working out from home. My problem was that I did not enjoy working out at home at all. I’ve always felt more enthusiastic and motivated completing my workout in an environment in which I am surrounded by likeminded people and simply put.. I’m not much of a homebody. But, because of social distancing, this was another challenge for me. I did not feel motivated at all, and therefore I was really inconsistent. I would set a goal to work out 4 – 5 days a week. Which is great if you’re disciplined and stick to it. That was not your girl. Nah, I would start off strong, but quickly found myself working out mostly when I felt like it.

The number one thing that has helped me break my habit of inconsistency in various areas of my life has been.. going all in and taking do days off.

Why? Because it helped me build self-discipline first.

It takes discipline to be consistent.

For the month of March, I committed to 31 days of working out at home with absolutely no days off. I started off slow.. doing 5 minuets.. 10 minuets.. 25 and then 30 minuets. Before I knew it, I found myself easily completing and thoroughly enjoying a 45 minute workout from home!

After about 3 weeks, I noticed that I would look forward to completing my workout the next day. I was beginning to develop a genuine joy for it. And, most importantly, it was becoming easier to deny how I was feeling in the moments when I didn’t “feel” like working out, which was everyday for one reason or another. Some days I feel mentally and physically exhausted and just want to hop in the bed, but during this challenge, that was not an option. Skipping a day was not an option. I made a conscious decision to commit to my goal, this challenge. It was a non-negotiable.

As I continued being consistent, putting in work, every day, everyday..

No days off

Then, I began to see results and those results motivated me to keep going!

What prompted me to do the no days off challenge?

I was super inconsistent. I lacked motivation and the discipline necessary to slay my fitness goals.

I decided to challenge myself each month with something new, to build my discipline and challenge my inconsistency.

In April I plan to continue, but will allow myself 1 day of rest each week. Gradually I will move to 2 days of rest each week.  

This strategy works well for those of us who struggle with being inconsistent when they don’t enjoy what they’re doing.

So let’s break it down step by step, here’s what you can do to break the habit of inconsistency in your life.

#NoDaysOffChallenge

1) Identity your goal and action steps.

2) Identify which steps/area(s) where you are inconsistent.

3) Identify why you are inconsistent.

4) Identify your why factor.

5) Identify your motivating factors.

6) Create a plan of action – Take your big goal, break it down into small action steps/tasks, make each task/step that you are struggling to be consistent in doing and make that your goal.

7) For each goal, set a date, attach your why, motivating factors and commit to taking strategic action every day. That means no days off. Make it non-negotiable.

Once you build the discipline to be consistent, pull back and insert day(s) of rest into your routine when appropriate.

This strategy is great for individuals with fitness goals and struggle with being consistent.

If you want to slay your goals, you must be disciplined. You cannot take action only when you feel like it and expect to be successful. Why? Because ,you won’t feel motivated all the time. You won’t be in the mood all the time. You won’t have the support of other people all of the time.

You have to be your biggest fan. You have to clap for yourself.

You have to encourage yourself.

The most effective empowerment comes from within!

Read that one again.

When manifesting your dreams, you have to do more than just believing that it is possible. You have to take action. And some of the action steps you must take to get where you wanna go aren’t always enjoyable. That is why it’s necessary to implement certain strategies that will help you get going and to keep going!

Don’t give up on your dream.

Don’t give up on yourself.

Please note: This strategy is not only for fitness goals. I encourage you to make this challenge your own; manipulate it to fit the goals you have set for other areas of your life.

I wish you an abundance of peace, love & happiness!

The Power of Your Beliefs ┃Manifesting Your Dreams

Who are you?

This is one of the greatest things that you can ever discover about yourself, because WHO you are has everything to do with WHAT you care capable of accomplishing in this life.

What is more powerful, than knowing who you are and what you can do in this life?

You may not be a social media influencer or have the grandest platform, but the magnitude to which you can still be influential and impactful in this world is soo great.

To really live your life operating in your God given purpose and to manifest the life you were destined to live, you must first know who you are.

You are purpose. You are a gift to this world.

You were created in the image of God, the creator of the universe.

The creator of you.

Therefore, you are are creator too.

With your ability to create, you have powers that supersede what you can comprehend on a conscious level.

So much of our creating is done by our subconsious mind.

You give instructions to your subcsious mind via the thoughts that you think.

Like a painter and his paintbrush, you create the masterpiece of your life with the words you speak and the thoughts you think.

What you think about, you bring about.

As a man thinketh, so is he!

Whether you think you can or think you cannot, you are right.

You have soo much power. There are so many possibilities..

Your ability to manifest the life of your dreams and to live your life operating in your God given purpose; fulfilling the purpose and plan God has for your life, lies in your DECSION to or not to believe in yourself and in your dreams.

You may not be where you want to be in life today, but you can some day IF only you believe.

Without faith, it is impossible to please God (Reference Hebrews 11:6). So if God is the ultimate creator, and we were created in his image, then FAITH is required for us to manifest!

God created heaven and earth by speaking things into existence. He said, “Let there be light” and there was light.”(Reference Genesis Chapter 1). We can speak life into our dreams and ideas with our words and manifest with our belief and hard work to bring it into existence.

Discover who you are and what you are capable of. Because, when you understand who you are and what you can do, that is when you can be most effective, influential and impactful in our world. That is when you can have BIG FAITH that is required to make your dreams your reality. But, it all begins with you knowing who you are and what you are capable of. It starts with you daring to dream. It starts with YOU deciding to believe and make faith moves.

Check out my latest YouTube Video below to learn what you can do NOW to transform your mindset and begin creating a life you love!

Wishing you Peace, Love & Blessings Set Goals & Slay Family,

How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs That Are Preventing You From Pursuing Your Goals and Manifesting Your Dream

“The only limits you have are the limits you believe.” – Wayne Dyer

The number one thing that holds most people back from pursuing and achieving their goals are limitations and limiting beliefs. A limitation is anyTHING (person, place or circumstance) that prevents you from pursuing your goals. Limiting beliefs are recurring, negative thoughts or false beliefs that prevent you from pursuing your goals.

Do you have a goal that you’ve been wanting to accomplish or dream you desire to manifest, but you haven’t quite gotten around to taking any action steps because of fear, doubt, insecurity? Or, maybe you’ve been procrastinating because you lack the necessary funding, time, education or resources needed to pursue the goal. Anything you can identify as an excuse, a reason for procrastinating, not taking a leap of faith and chasing your dream is a limitation or a limiting belief.

Moment of transparency. One of my goals for 2020 and 2021 has been to build an online audience organically. One thing that is a MUST if you want to be successful in building an online audience is consistency. So, whether it’s going live one month or once a week, you’ve gotta be consistent if you want to generate legitimate, sustainable results. Although I’ve been hanging out in these internet streets for a minute and some change now, I have not been consistent in both showing up and providing value. Sometimes I would show up consistently for a period of time, but I would post just to post without providing any real value. I can give you a list of reasons, or dare I say, excuses, as to why I was not consistent. But, I’ll just share one of them with you.

One reason I was not consistent is because I felt discouraged. I felt discouraged because I did not see overnight results. I would post and post and felt as if I was not being seen or heard. It quickly became about the number of likes and comments, rather than the overall purpose of posting empowering content. I was also trying to copy what I saw other people doing, rather than discovering my own lane and walking in that. Can you relate to this? Have you ever felt discouraged because you felt unnoticed, or as if your hard work or effort wasn’t good enough? Or, maybe that your time, effort, money or energy well spent wasn’t yielding results fast enough, if at all.. There are so many things that can cause us to shy away from taking the next step towards our goals or from ever getting started. But, here’s what I want you to know: Delayed does not mean denied. A slow start does not mean that you won’t finish. And, nothing is wrong with a small beginning. Read that again.

Now, let’s get to the good stuff. The reason you’re really here is to learn what you can do to overcome your limitations and limiting beliefs, so that you can start pursuing your goals and manifesting your dreams! Here we go..

Step 1

Write out and visualize your goals as if you have already achieved them.

Step 2

Identify your WHY Factor. Your Why Factor is your overall reason for pursuing the goal. Think about what will happen once you’ve achieve the goal. Think about who it will impact and how. Also, think about what happens if you never face your fear, step outside of your comfort zone and pursue the goal. As you proceed though, it’s best to focus more on your WHY and all of the amazing things that WILL come as a result of you finding the courage to pursue your goal and manifest your dream rather than what won’t happen.

If your WHY does not motivate you to pursue your goal and to keep going when things get tough, then your WHY is not significant enough.

Step 3

For each goal, make a list of every limitation and limiting belief that you can think of.

Step 4

For each limitation identify and write out an alternate route for reaching your goal OR of baby steps that you can take to work through that limitation.

Step 5

For each limiting belief, come up with a positive affirmation. Whether you have one affirmation, 20 affirmations or something in-between, consider doing any of the following:

  • Get a notebook and dedicate it solely to writing out your affirmations daily. Each day as you write out your affirmations, speak them aloud with authority and conviction.
  • Print or write out your affirmations on sticky notes and post them on your bathroom mirror, front door or in a place that you frequent the most throughout your day.
  • Keep a list of your affirmations in your pocket or purse and whenever the negative thoughts/beliefs begin to bombard your mind, pull out your list and begin to read and quote your affirmations aloud if you can.
  • Memorize your positive affirmations, and recite them multiple throughout your day, daily.
  • Each morning and night, stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eyes and recite your positive affirmations. This is a solid way to boost your self-esteem and build your confidence. I’m speaking from experience too!

As you take these steps and incorporate positive affirmations into your daily routine, remember that it is okay if you don’t FEEL or BELIEVE what you are writing and speaking right away.

The purpose of incorporating affirmations into your daily routine is because it is an effective way of transforming your mindset and therefore, getting rid of those false beliefs. What we are really doing is working to transform your overall self belief system. Because, how you perceive yourself and how you perceive your ability to achieve your goals maters. I believe in you, and I believe that you have what it takes to slay your goal. But, that doesn’t matter if YOU don’t believe in you.

Please note that the affirmation tips above are not just for limiting beliefs that are about you specifically, for example, your physical appearance or your skills. The tips can be used for recurring negative thoughts or beliefs that relate to having a poverty mindset, lack of resources, etc.

Even though I have felt discouraged about reaching one of my goals, I have not given up. I have continued to think positive, speak positive and to take action steps towards my goal. I decided to keep going AFTER I took time to rest, refocus and restart. In fact, I took to find my lane and am forging ahead on a new path, knowing that even thought it might not look like much now, someday, it will manifest into something great!

Remember: It is okay to reset, restart, and refocus as many times as you need to. You have the passion and purpose for a reason, don’t give up on it before you’ve even started. And, if you have started, keep going!

I wish you nothing but Peace, Love, Blessings Wealth & Good Health, Set Goals & Slay Family

6 Tools You Need to Set, Stay Focused on and Achieve Your 2021 Goals

“Your goals are the road maps that guide you and show you what is possible for your life.”

 — Les Brown

Hey there, Set Goals & Slay Family!

In my last blog post, I shared with you my end of year and quarterly routine for setting my goals and creating my goal slaying strategy.

This week, I am giving you the INSIDE scoop, ALL the details on WHAT tools I use to set and stay focused on my goals all year long!

You ready? Let’s jump in.

6 Tools You Need to Set, Stay Focused on and Achieve Your 2021 Goals:

🖊Affirmations Journal – Write out positive affirmations that reflect your goals. Write them in the form of “I Am..” Write & Speak your affirmations aloud daily.

🗣 Start with ” I am happy and grateful, now that I am…” And, conclude with “And it is so” OR “Asè” which mean “so be it,” “may it be so,” and “so shall it be.” (West Afrikan/Yoruba)

📓Gratitude Journal – Create an ongoing list of ALL things you are thankful for that come to mind. Set aside time daily, weekly or monthly to make your list. Whenever you are feeling down or need a reminder, read through your gratitude journal and be inspired.

🧘🏾‍♀️Mindfulness Journal – Set aside time daily to be still, tonreflect on your goals and on what brings you joy.

📜Scripting Journal – Visualization in written form! Write your vision and desires for your life as if it is happening in that moment. As you write create a movie in your mind and feel the emotion of how you would feel if it was reality.

📖 Bible – Renew your mind, read, study and apply the word daily.

📒Calendar/Planner — A planner is a great way to keep track of your goals, to structure your daily routine and to stay organized. Also, I have create the Set Goals & Slay Workbook Planner — Includes planner templates, Passion + Purpose Discovery worksheets, Goal Setting and Action Planning worksheets and more! This workbook walks you through my EXACT goalsetting and action plan strategy [Get It Here: www.SetGoalsAndSlayCoaching.com]. I will be using the Set Goals & Slay Workbook/Planner to set and strategize a few personal and business goals for 2021.

📈Habit Tracker App — Track Progress toward your goals. This is also a great way to hold yourself accountable.

These are the tools that I have used over the past 4 years and that I will be using this year as I slay my 2021 goals. I know we’ll still face challenges this year, but I feel encouraged knowing that I have tools that will help keep me organized and motivated to keep going!

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How You Can Still Be Successful and Achieve Your Goals in 2021

Happy New Year Set Goals & Slay Family and Friends!

Although we are still recovering from 2020, I am excited about what God is going to do in 2021. 2020 was rough and seemingly unrelenting at times.. And 2021, has already shown a few challenges already.. But, I am optimistic that ALL things are already working together for our good.

As we kick off the New Year, I thought I would share with you my process for setting goals and creating my Success Game-plan for 2021.

I believe that it is soo important for us to set ourselves up for the success that we want to achieve in the upcoming year. In fact, it’s more important that we do, this year, than it was in the previous years, simply because we are experiencing a new normal. And, just because we entered a New Year does not mean that the challenges we faced will suddenly go away. Many people on social media appeared eager to wave goodbye 2020, but neglected to set goals and create a plan for 2021, because 2020 was so disappointing in many ways.

We will face more challenges in 2021. But we still have work to do. God still has a purpose and plan for our lives. And, our DREAMS are still possible. But, it is imperative that we set goals and create a STRATEGY so that we are in prime position to challenge what comes to challenge us and continue on our pursuit!

So, let’s jump in family. This is my how I set myself up for success each year.

At the end of each year and at the end of each quarter, I like to take time to reflect..

▪️ On my goals
▪️ My progress
▪️ Wins and Losses
▪️ Lessons learned

At the start of each New Year and new quarter, I take time to:

▪️ Pray
▪️ Meditate
▪️ Decide what to focus on most
▪️ Map out a strategy

If you have something you want to accomplish in 2021, it is more important now, than ever before that you have a STRATEGY.

I know many individuals, and even myself at one point, have been tempted to shy away from setting goals and creating any kind of game-plan because of how hard we were hit in 2020.

2020 was a challenging year in so many ways. Many of our plans were disrupted and many people were forced to make game-changing decisions that they were not prepared to make.

2020 forced us outside of our comfort zones.

2020 forced us to pivot, and think outside the box.

In order to pivot, your MINDSET must shift first.

Read that again.

Because, anybody who decided they would NOT or could not make adjustments to coexist with the changes occurring in our world, did not have a mindset shift.

Without a mindset shift, you are blinded. You are not open to possible, new opportunities or alternative routes to reaching your goals and manifesting your dreams.

So, in 2021 it is necessary to not only have the right mindset, but also the right strategy.

You need a Strategic game-plan that tells you WHERE you wanna go, HOW you’re gonna get there and WHAT you’re gonna do IF things don’t go as planned.

How many of you had plans that were thrown off track in 2020?

Pretty much everybody right?

I encourage you to create a strategy that incorporates a plan for WHAT you can do IF and WHEN something unexpected happens.

Life often happens when we least expect it. But, that doesn’t mean we should live in fear or never set any goals. Instead, we should PLAN as best as we can in advance. Identify possible limitations & limiting beliefs upfront. Then, identify possible solutions or alternatives.

Giving up is one thing. Not even trying and failing to start is another.

Grab your copy of the Set Goals & Slay Workbook if you need guidance in setting your goals and mapping out your game-plan for 2021.

www.SetGoalsAndSlayCoaching.com

I am a firm believer that we should acknowledge God in all of our ways and that He will direct our paths (Reference: Proverbs 3:6). But, I also believe it is important to have a strategic plan of action IF we want to shoot our best shot at slaying our BIG and sometimes impossible looking goals.

Have a Blessed & Productive week (Even if that means resting).

Thank you for reading!

Finding Purpose During the Pandemic

2020 has challenged us all on a social, economic, health and personal level. Many of us have fought battles no one else knew about and have shed silent tears. Some of us have felt like giving up on our goals and some.. on life altogether. We have witnessed so many people lose their peace of mind, their jobs and even their lives. We have watched how this pandemic, continued social injustice and more has flipped the lives of soo many individuals up side down. We are now living in this new normal and many of us are just beginning to admit that, things will never go back to how they were before. Nowadays, peace of mind is the most valuable thing that we have. And, our ability to pivot in challenging situations, specifically inconvenient, unforseen events, is a superpower. It is YOUR superpower.

My friend, what I am about to say, I say with NO intent to disregard any of the souls that are no longer with us. But, I want you to know that YOU are still standing because your marathon is not over. You are still standing, because you still have a purpose to fulfil. You are still standing because, you are not finished yet AND God, is not through with you yet. He still wants to work for you, with you and through you! He still wants to manifest HIS purpose in your life. He will complete what he has started in you, but you must be willing to do your part. You must commit to the process. You must, keep going!

I am stopping by today to encourage you to KEEP going. I know, 2020 did not pan out how you hoped or even how you expected. Listen, we ALL are feeling this way. No one expected the pandemic to occur or to effect all of our lives in the way that is has. But, you’ve got to press on. Don’t give up on your goals, don’t give up on your BIG dreams, don’t give up on God and don’t give up on yourself. Setbacks are temporary, they are not set in stone. Delayed does not mean denied. “No” does not always mean never. Sometimes, it just means not right now. You’ve got to keep going!

You are strong. You are are MORE than a conqueror. You have what it takes to MANIFEST your dreams. It’s up to you to shift your focus and make it so that this pandemic and everything that has resulted from it, inspires you! If you look closely, you’ll see that even in the pandemic, a lot of people have given birth to new dreams! People have been put in positions to where they had to make a decision. Either, they could give up OR they could create something new. People have started their own businesses, others have used the extra time while being on lockdown to start their blogs and podcasts, write their books, invest in online education, read more books, spend more time with their kids and even making their spiritual life and health a priority again. Yes, there are a lot of businesses that have gone under and a lot of other negative things that have happened ALL year long.. But, I’m telling you, there are a lot of positives that have come out of it as well.

I walked into 2020 ready to manifest my dream car, move into my new apartment closer to be closer to my job, get promoted and attain financial freedom through multiple streams of income. I wanted 2020 to be a year of results. But instead, ironically, 2020 brought awareness, clarity, and exposure to some things. My eyes were opened to see things.. 2020! 2020 had other plans. Covid-19 happened, I faced challenges in repairing my credit, I also had to go back to the drawing board and revise my business branding and marketing approach.

In 2020, I even discovered areas where healing was yet needed, I met the love of my life, got promoted at my job with a raise, finished setting up my business website, published my 3rd book: The Set Goals & Slay Workbook, and I completed a 6 month mentorship program. Now, I AM preparing and expecting 2021 to be a year of results. But, those results will only come IF I build off of what I started and what I’ve learned in 2020. 2020 was necessary.

2020 was a lot of things.. But, one thing we can sum it up to be, is an eye-opener. It opened our eyes and enhanced our awareness of reality, pre-existing issues, our purpose and our ability to pivot and adjust. Also, our ability to persevere no matter how great the challenges are that we face. That IS your superpower. Lean in and embrace it. Reflect on what 2020 has shown you, use what you’ve learned and then keep going!

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Oh! Before you go, I invite you to check out my amazing boyfriend and love of my life’s new blog: http://www.cre8inme.wordpress.com ..I promise, you’ll enjoy the words of wisdom and inspiration that he has to share!

Until next time, I wish you all a blessed & prosperous week! Thanks for reading.

Quick Tips for Combating Stress and Anxiety

My heart was racing, my palms were sweaty, my voice was shaky and I was completely flustered..

I’d always dreamed of starting a career, at a large, Fortune 500 company with tremendous growth opportunity. And one day, I was granted that opportunity.

I was hired on as a contractor. From day one, I was determined to apply my self, excel and work my way up to the position I want ultimately. I’d prayed, visualized, and EVERY DAY I write out my goal daily. I believe in writing the vision and making it plain. So, every day I write out.. “I am being promoted at *** because I have excelled.” I worked really hard. And, eventually, God blessed me to get hired on as an FTE in April 2020. But, I AM determined to keep going. I was not content, staying where I was. So, I pushed and I excelled. God blessed me to be promoted by the end of October 2020. I’d worked so hard to get this opportunity.. But, that opportunity came with new territory, new responsibilities and new expectations.

I felt the pressure immensely. I became overwhelmed and flirted with the idea of giving up or going back to my prior position. Can you believe it!?

During my training, I began to panic and my anxiety was high. Now, if you know me, you know that when I start something I am passionate about, I am determined to keep going until I win! I don’t like to give up without a fight. I ask myself, how bad do you want it? And, I keep going.

My trainer was working with me 1:1 and was well aware of how anxious I was. Typically, in high stress moments, I’m able to talk my self through.. Practicing deep breathing, mindfulness and positive affirmation. But, I’d reached a point where I just could not seem to ground myself. My trainer did an excellent job of affirming and helping me relax, center and focus on the positives. But, I knew I had to do something.. else.

Now, anxiety and stress is something I have struggled with for a long time. My number one goal for 2020 was to maintain a healthy life balance. A large part of that, for me, has been prioritizing self-care and by implementing the following tips into my daily/weekly routine.

These are all things that work and that I highly recommend doing CONSISTENTLY for the best results. Doing theses things has really helped me, overall, to combat anxiety and stress and even depression. However, the one thing on the list that I was last to implement was.. taking dietary supplements that enhance mood and promote relaxation.

After a few challenging days of training, I decided it was time to face my fear of taking pills and decided to give it a try. And I must say.. they really work! Here’s what I tried. And, here’s how it helped.

If you struggle with stress and anxiety. I get it. I feel you. But be encouraged and know that you are not alone AND that there are things you can do and supplements you can take to help you get through it.

We got BIG goals and we’re chasing BIG dreams, in a pandemic. It’s not easy. But, it is soo worth it. So, don’t stop pursuing your goals and don’t throw the whole dream away. Instead, implement that tips above and watch magic happen!

Thanks for reading! Wishing you a blessed, productive and prosperous week.

How Bad Do You Want It?

We made it! The fourth Quarter is here! I know 2020 has had many of us feeling like yelling Jumanji when the clock strikes midnight, New Years Eve.. But, the blessed thing is that we are here and we’ve still got 3 months to close this year out strong.

What was your mindset and focus walking into 2020?

I walked into 2020 with MY plans. Plans to get back on stage performing spoken word, traveling and promoting my book at live events and more. All of my plans involved in person socializing, I was very much looking forward to. But.. Covid-19 happened.

Days turned into weeks and weeks into months.. And, like everyone else, I had to pivot.

One thing that makes me really uncomfortable is unexpectedly having to change my plans. But, one thing I’ve learned the value of this year is that:

A key to success is one’s ability to be FLEXIBLE in their approach to achieving goals.

Life happens we least expect it.

Even when it’s uncomfortable, sometimes it will be necessary for us to SHIFT in our approach IF we really want to achieve our goals. That means switching the HOW without changing the WHAT.

Question is, how bad do you want it?

For most of 2020, I have been going back to the drawing board and analyzing my goals and strategy of attack, self-reflection and relaxation. I’ve learned how necessary it is to have and maintain a healthy life BALANCE.

I’ve also learned to be proud and to celebrate the fact that I’ve gotten through emotionally triggering moments in 2020 without spiraling into depression or anxiety attacks, like I did the past 3 years.

I thought I was going to focus 90% of my time and energy on growing my new business, promoting my books and performing poetry. But, instead, my focus has largely been on MY personal growth and development! Oh! And, making sure that have necessary systems in place to effectively grow my business, when it’s time.

I had no idea things were going to go in this direction. It’s been bittersweet and in SOME ways, a blessing in disguise. I mean, I like things to go my way.. But, I’ve learned to appreciate that it won’t always go my way and be okay with that.

I am excited to see how THIS season of unexpected preparation will unfold into something AMAZING.

My friend, whatever challenges that you have faced in 2020 or in life, it came to make you stronger AND to prepare and position YOU for what is to come.

Sometimes, God will step in and initiate CHANGE in our plans. Especially, if they do not ALIGN with HIS plan and purpose for our life.

Even still, God is working it all together for your good. I encourage you today, to trust him with your GOALS, DREAMS and with your LIFE.

Hang in there, we’ve got 3 months left in the year. Let’s finish strong. Let’s set goals & slay!

Why It’s Okay to Have Bad Days (A lesson on Perspective)

It’s okay to sometimes be like, “I’m having a bad day,  I’m not feeling like myself” and just be.

This does not mean that you stay there. The key is being self-aware and mindful. Being able to acknowledge that, “this is where I am, it’s not where I wanted to be and this is not where I will stay, but right now, in this moment, this is where I am, this is how I feel and it is okay. Because I know that I am and that I will be okay.”

I haven’t always thought this way. And, often would disregard the quote that says “It’s okay not to be okay.” I’d think to myself, “what do you mean it’s okay?” But, life experiences has since shifted my perspective on this a bit.

Happiness is a choice..

I wholeheartedly believe that our own personal happiness is a choice. And, that it is up to us, whether or not, we allow people, things and circumstances to influence our overall happiness. This, accompanied by the idea that our ability to maintain a positive success “growth” mindset is key to our overall happiness and success in life. However, I have learned through various experiences over the past few years, that life is made up of a series of processes and levels.

Stick with me..

For those of us who are complex, we may need to be extra patient with ourselves when it comes to our personal growth and development, because an essential part of growth is process. Sometimes, going through the process is uncomfortable. Sometimes, it feels like nothing is happening, or as if no progress is being made. But, to endure, we must understand that it is all a part of the process. And, that process does not look the same for everybody.

Your process might not look like my process and that is okay.

During the process, you may have a moment or even an entire day where you are just not okay. And, it seems like in the world of personal development, that we’re taught that we should do things that will promote positivity and a shift in our emotions or mindset, while we are in a negative mental place. I absolutely agree with this.. However, today, I want to share an idea..

That sometimes, an essential part of our PROCESS may be to do nothing at all, but simply observe.

Be mindful and observe HOW you feel, identify WHY, what or who influenced you to feel some type of way and just be.. in the moment.

Simply observe. Allow yourself to FEEL the emotion.

Acknowledge the feeling, without adding or subtracting it’s value.

Know that the FEELING does not have to last forever if you don’t want it to. Because yes, YOU do have a choice to be or not to be happy. You CAN shift your focus and intentionally focus on things that bring you joy and happiness; to SHIFT your feeling (mood), attitude or perspective.

Remember.. that it is okay, to simply observe.

If it happens to be a part of your process, it’s okay.

Don’t feel as if you have to meditate, chant, or baptize yourself in affirmations IF you feel as if you need a minute to just hit the pause button and simply BE in the moment. Yes, even with the negative feelings/emotions.

I feel as if this take on mindset and dealing with negative emotions is taboo to some, but it’s real. Most times the meditation, prayer, affirmations, etc. will work. But, every now and then, you may discover that you just need to be mindful and ride it out.

In the process, as you observe, you remain open to lessons you can learn and perspective shifts can take place, simply because you are still.

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