How You Can Still Be Successful and Achieve Your Goals in 2021

Happy New Year Set Goals & Slay Family and Friends!

Although we are still recovering from 2020, I am excited about what God is going to do in 2021. 2020 was rough and seemingly unrelenting at times.. And 2021, has already shown a few challenges already.. But, I am optimistic that ALL things are already working together for our good.

As we kick off the New Year, I thought I would share with you my process for setting goals and creating my Success Game-plan for 2021.

I believe that it is soo important for us to set ourselves up for the success that we want to achieve in the upcoming year. In fact, it’s more important that we do, this year, than it was in the previous years, simply because we are experiencing a new normal. And, just because we entered a New Year does not mean that the challenges we faced will suddenly go away. Many people on social media appeared eager to wave goodbye 2020, but neglected to set goals and create a plan for 2021, because 2020 was so disappointing in many ways.

We will face more challenges in 2021. But we still have work to do. God still has a purpose and plan for our lives. And, our DREAMS are still possible. But, it is imperative that we set goals and create a STRATEGY so that we are in prime position to challenge what comes to challenge us and continue on our pursuit!

So, let’s jump in family. This is my how I set myself up for success each year.

At the end of each year and at the end of each quarter, I like to take time to reflect..

▪️ On my goals
▪️ My progress
▪️ Wins and Losses
▪️ Lessons learned

At the start of each New Year and new quarter, I take time to:

▪️ Pray
▪️ Meditate
▪️ Decide what to focus on most
▪️ Map out a strategy

If you have something you want to accomplish in 2021, it is more important now, than ever before that you have a STRATEGY.

I know many individuals, and even myself at one point, have been tempted to shy away from setting goals and creating any kind of game-plan because of how hard we were hit in 2020.

2020 was a challenging year in so many ways. Many of our plans were disrupted and many people were forced to make game-changing decisions that they were not prepared to make.

2020 forced us outside of our comfort zones.

2020 forced us to pivot, and think outside the box.

In order to pivot, your MINDSET must shift first.

Read that again.

Because, anybody who decided they would NOT or could not make adjustments to coexist with the changes occurring in our world, did not have a mindset shift.

Without a mindset shift, you are blinded. You are not open to possible, new opportunities or alternative routes to reaching your goals and manifesting your dreams.

So, in 2021 it is necessary to not only have the right mindset, but also the right strategy.

You need a Strategic game-plan that tells you WHERE you wanna go, HOW you’re gonna get there and WHAT you’re gonna do IF things don’t go as planned.

How many of you had plans that were thrown off track in 2020?

Pretty much everybody right?

I encourage you to create a strategy that incorporates a plan for WHAT you can do IF and WHEN something unexpected happens.

Life often happens when we least expect it. But, that doesn’t mean we should live in fear or never set any goals. Instead, we should PLAN as best as we can in advance. Identify possible limitations & limiting beliefs upfront. Then, identify possible solutions or alternatives.

Giving up is one thing. Not even trying and failing to start is another.

Grab your copy of the Set Goals & Slay Workbook if you need guidance in setting your goals and mapping out your game-plan for 2021.

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I am a firm believer that we should acknowledge God in all of our ways and that He will direct our paths (Reference: Proverbs 3:6). But, I also believe it is important to have a strategic plan of action IF we want to shoot our best shot at slaying our BIG and sometimes impossible looking goals.

Have a Blessed & Productive week (Even if that means resting).

Thank you for reading!

Finding Purpose During the Pandemic

2020 has challenged us all on a social, economic, health and personal level. Many of us have fought battles no one else knew about and have shed silent tears. Some of us have felt like giving up on our goals and some.. on life altogether. We have witnessed so many people lose their peace of mind, their jobs and even their lives. We have watched how this pandemic, continued social injustice and more has flipped the lives of soo many individuals up side down. We are now living in this new normal and many of us are just beginning to admit that, things will never go back to how they were before. Nowadays, peace of mind is the most valuable thing that we have. And, our ability to pivot in challenging situations, specifically inconvenient, unforseen events, is a superpower. It is YOUR superpower.

My friend, what I am about to say, I say with NO intent to disregard any of the souls that are no longer with us. But, I want you to know that YOU are still standing because your marathon is not over. You are still standing, because you still have a purpose to fulfil. You are still standing because, you are not finished yet AND God, is not through with you yet. He still wants to work for you, with you and through you! He still wants to manifest HIS purpose in your life. He will complete what he has started in you, but you must be willing to do your part. You must commit to the process. You must, keep going!

I am stopping by today to encourage you to KEEP going. I know, 2020 did not pan out how you hoped or even how you expected. Listen, we ALL are feeling this way. No one expected the pandemic to occur or to effect all of our lives in the way that is has. But, you’ve got to press on. Don’t give up on your goals, don’t give up on your BIG dreams, don’t give up on God and don’t give up on yourself. Setbacks are temporary, they are not set in stone. Delayed does not mean denied. “No” does not always mean never. Sometimes, it just means not right now. You’ve got to keep going!

You are strong. You are are MORE than a conqueror. You have what it takes to MANIFEST your dreams. It’s up to you to shift your focus and make it so that this pandemic and everything that has resulted from it, inspires you! If you look closely, you’ll see that even in the pandemic, a lot of people have given birth to new dreams! People have been put in positions to where they had to make a decision. Either, they could give up OR they could create something new. People have started their own businesses, others have used the extra time while being on lockdown to start their blogs and podcasts, write their books, invest in online education, read more books, spend more time with their kids and even making their spiritual life and health a priority again. Yes, there are a lot of businesses that have gone under and a lot of other negative things that have happened ALL year long.. But, I’m telling you, there are a lot of positives that have come out of it as well.

I walked into 2020 ready to manifest my dream car, move into my new apartment closer to be closer to my job, get promoted and attain financial freedom through multiple streams of income. I wanted 2020 to be a year of results. But instead, ironically, 2020 brought awareness, clarity, and exposure to some things. My eyes were opened to see things.. 2020! 2020 had other plans. Covid-19 happened, I faced challenges in repairing my credit, I also had to go back to the drawing board and revise my business branding and marketing approach.

In 2020, I even discovered areas where healing was yet needed, I met the love of my life, got promoted at my job with a raise, finished setting up my business website, published my 3rd book: The Set Goals & Slay Workbook, and I completed a 6 month mentorship program. Now, I AM preparing and expecting 2021 to be a year of results. But, those results will only come IF I build off of what I started and what I’ve learned in 2020. 2020 was necessary.

2020 was a lot of things.. But, one thing we can sum it up to be, is an eye-opener. It opened our eyes and enhanced our awareness of reality, pre-existing issues, our purpose and our ability to pivot and adjust. Also, our ability to persevere no matter how great the challenges are that we face. That IS your superpower. Lean in and embrace it. Reflect on what 2020 has shown you, use what you’ve learned and then keep going!

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Oh! Before you go, I invite you to check out my amazing boyfriend and love of my life’s new blog: http://www.cre8inme.wordpress.com ..I promise, you’ll enjoy the words of wisdom and inspiration that he has to share!

Until next time, I wish you all a blessed & prosperous week! Thanks for reading.

Quick Tips for Combating Stress and Anxiety

My heart was racing, my palms were sweaty, my voice was shaky and I was completely flustered..

I’d always dreamed of starting a career, at a large, Fortune 500 company with tremendous growth opportunity. And one day, I was granted that opportunity.

I was hired on as a contractor. From day one, I was determined to apply my self, excel and work my way up to the position I want ultimately. I’d prayed, visualized, and EVERY DAY I write out my goal daily. I believe in writing the vision and making it plain. So, every day I write out.. “I am being promoted at *** because I have excelled.” I worked really hard. And, eventually, God blessed me to get hired on as an FTE in April 2020. But, I AM determined to keep going. I was not content, staying where I was. So, I pushed and I excelled. God blessed me to be promoted by the end of October 2020. I’d worked so hard to get this opportunity.. But, that opportunity came with new territory, new responsibilities and new expectations.

I felt the pressure immensely. I became overwhelmed and flirted with the idea of giving up or going back to my prior position. Can you believe it!?

During my training, I began to panic and my anxiety was high. Now, if you know me, you know that when I start something I am passionate about, I am determined to keep going until I win! I don’t like to give up without a fight. I ask myself, how bad do you want it? And, I keep going.

My trainer was working with me 1:1 and was well aware of how anxious I was. Typically, in high stress moments, I’m able to talk my self through.. Practicing deep breathing, mindfulness and positive affirmation. But, I’d reached a point where I just could not seem to ground myself. My trainer did an excellent job of affirming and helping me relax, center and focus on the positives. But, I knew I had to do something.. else.

Now, anxiety and stress is something I have struggled with for a long time. My number one goal for 2020 was to maintain a healthy life balance. A large part of that, for me, has been prioritizing self-care and by implementing the following tips into my daily/weekly routine.

These are all things that work and that I highly recommend doing CONSISTENTLY for the best results. Doing theses things has really helped me, overall, to combat anxiety and stress and even depression. However, the one thing on the list that I was last to implement was.. taking dietary supplements that enhance mood and promote relaxation.

After a few challenging days of training, I decided it was time to face my fear of taking pills and decided to give it a try. And I must say.. they really work! Here’s what I tried. And, here’s how it helped.

If you struggle with stress and anxiety. I get it. I feel you. But be encouraged and know that you are not alone AND that there are things you can do and supplements you can take to help you get through it.

We got BIG goals and we’re chasing BIG dreams, in a pandemic. It’s not easy. But, it is soo worth it. So, don’t stop pursuing your goals and don’t throw the whole dream away. Instead, implement that tips above and watch magic happen!

Thanks for reading! Wishing you a blessed, productive and prosperous week.

How Bad Do You Want It?

We made it! The fourth Quarter is here! I know 2020 has had many of us feeling like yelling Jumanji when the clock strikes midnight, New Years Eve.. But, the blessed thing is that we are here and we’ve still got 3 months to close this year out strong.

What was your mindset and focus walking into 2020?

I walked into 2020 with MY plans. Plans to get back on stage performing spoken word, traveling and promoting my book at live events and more. All of my plans involved in person socializing, I was very much looking forward to. But.. Covid-19 happened.

Days turned into weeks and weeks into months.. And, like everyone else, I had to pivot.

One thing that makes me really uncomfortable is unexpectedly having to change my plans. But, one thing I’ve learned the value of this year is that:

A key to success is one’s ability to be FLEXIBLE in their approach to achieving goals.

Life happens we least expect it.

Even when it’s uncomfortable, sometimes it will be necessary for us to SHIFT in our approach IF we really want to achieve our goals. That means switching the HOW without changing the WHAT.

Question is, how bad do you want it?

For most of 2020, I have been going back to the drawing board and analyzing my goals and strategy of attack, self-reflection and relaxation. I’ve learned how necessary it is to have and maintain a healthy life BALANCE.

I’ve also learned to be proud and to celebrate the fact that I’ve gotten through emotionally triggering moments in 2020 without spiraling into depression or anxiety attacks, like I did the past 3 years.

I thought I was going to focus 90% of my time and energy on growing my new business, promoting my books and performing poetry. But, instead, my focus has largely been on MY personal growth and development! Oh! And, making sure that have necessary systems in place to effectively grow my business, when it’s time.

I had no idea things were going to go in this direction. It’s been bittersweet and in SOME ways, a blessing in disguise. I mean, I like things to go my way.. But, I’ve learned to appreciate that it won’t always go my way and be okay with that.

I am excited to see how THIS season of unexpected preparation will unfold into something AMAZING.

My friend, whatever challenges that you have faced in 2020 or in life, it came to make you stronger AND to prepare and position YOU for what is to come.

Sometimes, God will step in and initiate CHANGE in our plans. Especially, if they do not ALIGN with HIS plan and purpose for our life.

Even still, God is working it all together for your good. I encourage you today, to trust him with your GOALS, DREAMS and with your LIFE.

Hang in there, we’ve got 3 months left in the year. Let’s finish strong. Let’s set goals & slay!

Why It’s Okay to Have Bad Days (A lesson on Perspective)

It’s okay to sometimes be like, “I’m having a bad day,  I’m not feeling like myself” and just be.

This does not mean that you stay there. The key is being self-aware and mindful. Being able to acknowledge that, “this is where I am, it’s not where I wanted to be and this is not where I will stay, but right now, in this moment, this is where I am, this is how I feel and it is okay. Because I know that I am and that I will be okay.”

I haven’t always thought this way. And, often would disregard the quote that says “It’s okay not to be okay.” I’d think to myself, “what do you mean it’s okay?” But, life experiences has since shifted my perspective on this a bit.

Happiness is a choice..

I wholeheartedly believe that our own personal happiness is a choice. And, that it is up to us, whether or not, we allow people, things and circumstances to influence our overall happiness. This, accompanied by the idea that our ability to maintain a positive success “growth” mindset is key to our overall happiness and success in life. However, I have learned through various experiences over the past few years, that life is made up of a series of processes and levels.

Stick with me..

For those of us who are complex, we may need to be extra patient with ourselves when it comes to our personal growth and development, because an essential part of growth is process. Sometimes, going through the process is uncomfortable. Sometimes, it feels like nothing is happening, or as if no progress is being made. But, to endure, we must understand that it is all a part of the process. And, that process does not look the same for everybody.

Your process might not look like my process and that is okay.

During the process, you may have a moment or even an entire day where you are just not okay. And, it seems like in the world of personal development, that we’re taught that we should do things that will promote positivity and a shift in our emotions or mindset, while we are in a negative mental place. I absolutely agree with this.. However, today, I want to share an idea..

That sometimes, an essential part of our PROCESS may be to do nothing at all, but simply observe.

Be mindful and observe HOW you feel, identify WHY, what or who influenced you to feel some type of way and just be.. in the moment.

Simply observe. Allow yourself to FEEL the emotion.

Acknowledge the feeling, without adding or subtracting it’s value.

Know that the FEELING does not have to last forever if you don’t want it to. Because yes, YOU do have a choice to be or not to be happy. You CAN shift your focus and intentionally focus on things that bring you joy and happiness; to SHIFT your feeling (mood), attitude or perspective.

Remember.. that it is okay, to simply observe.

If it happens to be a part of your process, it’s okay.

Don’t feel as if you have to meditate, chant, or baptize yourself in affirmations IF you feel as if you need a minute to just hit the pause button and simply BE in the moment. Yes, even with the negative feelings/emotions.

I feel as if this take on mindset and dealing with negative emotions is taboo to some, but it’s real. Most times the meditation, prayer, affirmations, etc. will work. But, every now and then, you may discover that you just need to be mindful and ride it out.

In the process, as you observe, you remain open to lessons you can learn and perspective shifts can take place, simply because you are still.

Do This Whenever You Feel Uncomfortable, Unconfident or Inadequate..

For the past couple of weeks I have been taking time to hit the reset button and get some much needed r&r. Usually, I am always on the go and tend to keep going until I hit a wall; where I become physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted.

During my time of rest and relaxation, I have had opportunities to take part in a few activities I haven’t done in a long time and others that I have never done before. Somehow I found myself outside of my comfort zone, at times where I was not expecting to end up there. Maybe you can relate, but I have found myself having to try a little harder to shift my perspective of my comfort zone – or – in this case, lack thereof. I mean, I’ve literally had to pause, walk and talk myself through the process of shifting my mindset.

Many people are comfortable with their negative mindset/perspective. But, to truly grow and evolve as a person, we must be willing to shift our mindsets and adapt; to enable personal growth and development in uncomfortable experiences.

I’ve gotten a really late start, but over the past 3 years, I’ve really come to loooove Marvel and DC movies and shows. I’ve always wished I had a super power.. But, what I am realizing is that WE already have a super power. Like some of our Superhero faves, who did not discover or come to terms with their powers until they were teenagers or young adults; we have a power that many of us have not discovered or come to terms with yet. Our super power is our MIND and our ability to SHIFT.

So what, we can’t shape-shift or run at super human speed? We have a power that literally can change the trajectory of our lives IF we know how to use it.. yes, to our advantage. Often, when I am outside of my comfort zone, naturally, I feel uncomfortable, unconfident and inadequate. But lately, I’ve been pressing pause and walking myself through the process of shifting my mindset, so that I am focusing less on WHAT I can’t do very well and focusing on what I CAN and have done well.

Y’all, I have found myself tripping up and making mistakes on trivial things, things that I have done many times before AND some things that I’ve never done before. The trip up has not necessarily been in the mistake I made or embarrassment it caused, but rather the fact that I was impatient and disappointed in myself for not excelling. Before beating myself up about it mentally, I hit pause and remind myself that..

  1. It’s okay to try hard and still mess up, many things, over and over again
  2. It’s okay to NOT be perfect
  3. It’s okay to be good at SOME things and not everything. OR, one or two things instead of many things
  4. It’s better to be authentically you and stay in your lane, no matter how uncomfortable it may be at times
  5. Your superpower is your mental ability to leverage being comfortable IN uncomfortable situations
  6. Your super is also your imperfection

I’ve literally had to tell myself at times, “So what, you may not be good at a lot of things, but it is super valuable, just the two or three things that you do VERY well.”

When you find yourself feeling uncomfortable, unconfident or inadequate, heres’ what you should do:

  1. Be patient with yourself
  2. Be consistent in going through the process to SHIFT
  3. Celebrate the small wins too!
  4. Give yourself as many pep talks as you need

Use your super power: your mind. It is so much more powerful than you realize. I encourage you to research and study the power of YOUR mind AND your thoughts. Use your mind; and more specifically to change your life; beginning with the negative thoughts you think consistently about uncomfortable things you experience. When a negative thought comes to mind, replace it with a positive thought. Do this, over and over again. Practice mindfulness and meditation, listen to binaural beats as you sleep, detox and eat clean, stay active and surround yourself with positive minded people.. All these things help us to have a more positive perspective of ourselves and of the challenging and uncomfortable situations we experience.

Stay positive minded & stay safe out there. Keep chasing & manifesting those dreams!

The Truth About Perspective

One of the realist quotes I’ve ever heard, simply states that reality is a question of perspective. The concept of perspective has become increasingly intriguing to me over the past year. This due to a combination of life experiences and a heightened awareness of my thoughts, emotions and ability to adapt in new and challenging situations.

2 years ago I was struggling with suicidal ideations. I wanted to escape the pain and anxiety I was experiencing. I was depressed, burnt out and felt no one would notice or miss me if I was just suddenly gone. 2 years later, I’m alive, healthy and happy overall. And blessed to be celebrating my 27th birthday today. My birthday shenanigans consist of self reflection, relaxation, mindfulness and writing this blog post of course.

I can’t help but think about EVERYTHING I have and everything that I have become over the years. I am so grateful for life. Because, my perspective of my life and life in general was so negative. I’m thankful not just for the petty and superficial things, but I’m so much more aware of things like.. Peace of mind, creativity and opportunity.

“Your perspective will either become your prison or your passport.”

– Steven Furtick

My entire life has changed over the past 5 years, and even more-so over the past 2 years, because my entire PERSPECTIVE of myself and life has shifted. I always say that MINDSET is everything. Our mindset is really just our perspective of ALL things. The beautiful things about shifting your mindset/perspective is that the things around you will begin to shift as well. How? Because, when your mindset changes, your actions begin to align with that new way of thinking. My life has began to change.. and it’s a beautiful thing.

I have come from a place of wanting to end my life to wanting to LIVE. Not just be present and going through the motions of life, but to really LIVE. To show up and be authentically me, to the fullest without shame or apology. I believe this is how we all should live.

Getting to this place is really a place of mental peace and stability. This is the greatest blessing I have. And, there’s many different levels and things that factored or contributed to this. But, the biggest factor was recognizing, understanding and embracing/accepting who I am AND who GOD has created me to be.

We are more than potential. We were each created on purpose,with purpose. Every challenge, positive and negative challenge we experience in life comes to push and position us, so that we may be in alignment with our purpose. It’s like, if we’re not in the right place at the right time, we’ll miss the OPPORTUNITY to operate in our God given purpose.

Opportunity is not hidden. It is everywhere. It is out in the open. But, often times, we miss opportunities because we are not prepared; we’re not in position. We’re not in alignment. Sometimes we think the opportunities either don’t exist, aren’t for us or are hidden. But, this really isn’t the case at all. Really, it’s just that, figuratively speaking, our heads are turned, looking in the wrong direction, so we just don’t see it. How can we solve this? By shifting our perspective.

The difference between where I was 2 years ago and where I am today is that I have shifted my overall perspective of who I am and why I AM here. And, with that, I have begun to take strategic action that aligns with my LIFE PURPOSE.

I am on a mission to empower creative women to clarify, set and slay their BIG + IMPOSSIBLE looking dreams! I want to help you achieve your goals and live your life operating in your God given purpose. That is my purpose.

What is your life purpose? How can you fulfill your purpose and live your life operating in that purpose, daily?

Check out my products and services; to see how we can work together to bring your dreams to life!

I love you all. PEACE, BLESSINGS & HAPPY MANIFESTING!

5 Steps to Bouncing Back

For the past 8 days I have felt exhausted; physically, mentally and emotionally.

Not only have I felt exausted, but I’ve felt uninspired and a lack of motivation.

When I experience this, I like to take a step back and rest. I’ve used more hours of PTO than I’d like to admit. But, you know, I’ve been feeling burnt out and like I just need a nice, long vacation. LOL. Haven’t you felt this way before?

Of course, we all have.. Or, will at some point. And, that is why self-care is so important and so necessary. Especially in the high-stress days we are living in now. There are so many things in our world Sometimes you’ll have to walk yourself through the process of shifting your perspective. I rehearse the point of prioritizing self-care on a consistent basis, even as a part of your daily routine, but it helps to combat feeling burnt out.

Step 1

Realize that IT is a feeling and that YOU have control over this feeling.

Step 2

Shut it down. Log off the social media pages, turn off the T.V., put your cellphone on silent or do not disturb and distance yourself from anyone or anything that you consider toxic to your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. It’s time to shut it all done. Temporarily of course.

Step 3

Take a step back. Take time away from your “To – Do List.” And, I put this in quotations, because, maybe you don’t have an actual to-do list written out, but I’m sure you have a schedule or thing that you make sure to get done everyday. Whether it’s someone or something.. If you’ve felt stressed, unmotivated to do a certain task or have found yourself procrastinating, that may be something you want to take a step back from. Hit the pause button and take a moment to rest.

Step 4

Self-care. Self-care doesn’t look the same for everybody. Maybe it’s taking a few days off of work to read, meditate and have a family stay-cation. Or, maybe it’s hopping on a plane and flying out of the country for awhile. Maybe it’s having a spa day by yourself or with family. Maybe it’s turning off the alarm and sleeping all day. Self-care is time that you should use to rest, relax, detox, recharge and reset. TIP: Incorporate acts of self-care into your daily routine. Don’t wait until you feel stressed or burnt out to make self-care a priority. It is essential to your well-being and enhances your ability to bounce back!

Step 5

Take action. If you have gone through the process of taking steps 1 through 4, and you still feel burnt out, you have to make a conscious decision to take action! You can’t sit back and wait until you feel ready or motivated to jump back in. Sometimes, you’ve got to dip your foot in the water and get a taste of what it feels like to do what you love to do. And, once you get going you’ll begin to gain momentum. The key is to get started AND to keep going.

It’s okay to push yourself AFTER you have taken time to rest and recharge.

The passion that was once burning on the inside of you is still lit. It’s still there. But, sometimes, you have to give it a jump start. Sometimes, you will have to jump off the cliff and trust that the parachute will open.

We all experience burn out from time to time. In fact, I write about this topic at least once a year. It reminds me that it’s okay. And, really, it’s just a part of the process of setting and slaying my goals. I’ve been putting in work, chasing my goals, and when you add all the emotional stressors of life.. from the pandemic to protests, and all the challenges in my own business and personal relationships… It can get overwhelming. Sometimes, I have to remind myself that it’s okay to slow down or in fact, hit the pause button and rest. The same goes for you my friend. It’s okay to hit the pause button and rest.

Peace & Blessings to you. Thanks for reading!

How to Silence Your Inner Critic

You’ve heard it before..

That we can be our own worst enemy

And, maybe you’re experiencing it right now

Struggling to turn down or turn off the negative voice inside your heard

Telling you that you aren’t ready, that you aren’t worthy or qualified

Telling you that maybe you just aren’t good enough

Telling you that you don’t have what it takes, that you should give up and try something else.

It sucks having to battle negative thoughts when you’re trying to pursue BIG + IMPOSSIBLE looking dreams. You know it’s possible.. But, then those negative thoughts bombard your mind and you feel like maybe it’s possible for everybody but YOU.

I know what it’s like. I’ve been there so many times. But, one thing I can definitely say, is that it has gotten EASIER to WIN the challenges my inner critic presents to me, because of a few things that I starting doing and continue to do on the regular.

Today, I want to share with you practical things that you can do to silence your inner critic.

“Your inner critic re-affirms untruths about yourself that you have internalized to be true.”

1

Understand your inner critic. Recognize your inner critic for what IS and what it can be. For most people, the inner critic comes as a form of self-sabotage. It can transform into low self-esteem and a lack of confidence. Often, it leaves us feeling unworthy and less than qualified. However, your inner critic CAN be a tool that YOU use to internally CRITIQUE your actions and progress. Use it to your benefit to INVEST in yourself and in your personal growth and development. I believe that we should always remain in a state of humbleness that will allow us to see our failures and mistakes as opportunities to LEARN and therefore grow and evolve as people. Allow your inner critic to work for you rather than against you.

2

Understand the POWER that you have over your inner critic. SHIFT your perspective of your inner critic and use it to you ADVANTAGE. Whenever you make a mistake or identify an imperfection, shift your perspective to see if as a learning opportunity to evolve and grow as person. See, it as an opportunity to attract people, opportunities and experiences to you that are ideal FOR you.

3

Understand WHO you are and who God has created you to be.

Ephesians 2:10

For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.

Psalms 139:14

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

Romans 8:37

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.

Philippians 4:13

 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

4

Affirm yourself – Write and speak positive affirmations daily.

5

Be mindful of what you feed yourself; physically and mentally. What you allow yourself to entertain on a consistent basis is what will water the seeds that have already been planted. It’s up to you to uproot the weeds and plant better seeds. It’s up to you to water them with positivity, which comes in many forms, and is not simply an affirmation.

6

Practice positive self-talk. You are the story you tell yourself. What you tell yourself everyday will either lift you up or tear you down. Empower yourself!

7

Analyze and compare who you compare yourself to. The persons or businesses you may compare yours/yourself to may not be the same as those you look up to, learn from or idolize. If your perception of them causes you to belittle who you are and what you are capable of, it may be toxic to your mindset. You can take action by un-following or limiting the amount of exposure you have to them/it.

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Be patient with yourself. Walk yourself through the process of SHIFTING your mindset by: Redirecting your thoughts which is done by changing what you focus on consistently. And then, practice positive self-talk by affirming yourself. “Respond to it’s (inner critic) grievances from a detached perspective” (Psychology Today, Jenna E Pincott, 3/2019). Even if you’re doubting yourself or don’t FEEL it, speak it aloud – quote the affirmation with conviction and authority! This is how you affirm yourself.

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Keep going! Your inner critic only has the power that YOU give it. So, acknowledge it, use it to your advantage and don’t give up on yourself. Keep going! Learn from the experience and try again.

Make moves to silence your inner critic BEFORE your inner critic presents a challenge.

Implementing and practicing the tips shared above, on a consistent basis, will allow you to more easily and effectively combat your inner critic when it comes to challenge you.

The Art of Getting Started.. Pushing Past Fear and Setting Up a Business

“Fear thrives in a place of inaction. Overcome your anxiety by taking one small step forward.” – Sarah Boyd

It all started back when I was a little girl. I had a wild imagination; I always created my own books, played school, played doctor, ran my own businesses.. All of this, while playing with my toys, as a little girl, in my own little world.

Fast forward to age 25 and thinking about making my big, impossible looking dream, a reality. When I thought of it, my mind became consumed with countless thoughts of insecurity and unworthiness. I did not feel qualified or ready to start my online coaching business.

Fast forward to age 26; I was coming out of a 2 year relationship that shifted my perspective of my future. The breakup was like a turning point.I was done settling for less than I deserved or made me happy and I became determined to BE HAPPY no matter what. Not just in my love life, but in EVERY area of my life. It was time to level up spiritually, mentally, emotionally, financially and time to MANIFEST my big, impossible looking dreams. Including, starting my online coaching business.

So, I finally decided to start my business, but I had no clue where to begin. I watched many YouTube videos, attended seminars, read books and blogs and learned tips from many business startup coaches across the web. I took the long route, and it was challenging figuring out what exactly applied to me and the type of business I wanted to start. As I learned, I began to get things set up. Finally, I had about 85% of what I needed, set up. But mentally, I wasn’t ready to launch. I was afraid.

FEAR is the one thing that stops most people from ever pursuing their goals and living their dreams. They fail to achieve their goals, because they don’t even start. That would’ve been my story, had I not pushed pushed my fear; thoughts of inadequecy and got started anyway. When it comes to pushing past fear, I believe you must do two things:

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You must understand that FEAR is false evidence appearing real. Fear is an illusion. The more we focus on our fears, the greater and more intense it becomes and the more power IT has to prevent us from pursuing our goals. Take back your power, by focusing your attention on the positives: your experience, skills, creativity, and the things that make you unique! That is your leverage. That is your advantage. That is what qualifies YOU and is what will attract your ideal clients to you.

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You must FEEL the fear and do it anyway. Sometimes, the fear won’t go away, even if you do shift your focus to the positives, consistently. You’ve got to continue focusing on the positive as much as possible and take action. As you take action, you will begin to gain momentum. Gain momentum and continue to build!

Because I allowed my fears to dictate my actions; or inaction; I procrastinated and made excuses for a long time, for why I was not yet launching my business. In fact, after I attained my 3 coaching certifications; I began to look for more certifications I could get. Why? Because, I feared that people would think I was not qualified, experienced enough or mature enough to run a coaching business.

To push past the fear, sometimes you’ve got to keep it REAL with yourself. Here’s what I did and what I still do, to push past my fears (the thoughts always come back..!):

  • I sit and write down a list of all my accomplishments: certifications, degrees, life experiences, career experience, etc.
  • When I look in the mirror, I recite positive affirmations! I remind myself who I am and who God has created me to be.
  • I shift my focus to my WHY and remind my self that, my WHY is soo big that my feelings of inadequecy or imperfection doesn’t even matter at this point.
  • I study my vision board and vision book, and I visualize MY future and what it will look like AFTER I take action and pursue my goals and begin to live my life operating in my God given purpose.

I’ll be the first to admit, I don’t have it ALL together. BUT, I was able to START. And, that is a point that many dreamers don’t get to. They fail to get started because of FEAR. Of course, there are other reasons that factor in, but FEAR is one of the most common reasons why. I am on a mission to empower creative women to pursue their big + impossible looking goals, which is why I will be transparent in sharing my journey. I’ve only just begun.

I have officially launched my new website: Setgoalsandslaycoaching.com, where I you’ll find my Set Goals & Slay products and services.

Aside from fear, another reason many people fail to start is simply because they don’t know HOW or where to start. I was able to start, and want to help others get started as well. That is why I created the Set Goals & Slay: Business Guide + Checklist. For a limited time only, you can download this 15 page guide for FREE. This guide includes:

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