5 Keys to Managing Stress and Letting Go of What We Can’t Control

Let’s continue our chat about stress management while pursuing our goals.

I got married 3 weeks ago…

The wedding was absolutely amazing and the honeymoon was wonderful! Since returning home, I’ve had to jump back into the swing of things while making adjustments along the way. My To-Do List has definitely gotten longer. Things like getting my name changed everywhere, 9 to 5 life with OT, prepping for taxes, meetings, events and just adjusting to sharing my space with my significant other… There’s a lot going on.

But today, I’m not here to talk about my wedding and how I’m adjusting to married life.. Actually, I’d like to talk to you about success and managing stress and anxiety.

What does success look like to you?

Right now, for me, success looks like: Not procrastinating, making progress everyday and just getting things done.

For those of us who are goal oriented, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and crushed under the pressure of having many things to do and time. We usually feel most accomplished when we are making progress and getting things done.

5 Keys to Reducing Overwhelm and Stress:

When it comes to reducing stress and overwhelm, it’s helpful that you are intentional about setting the tone for your day and moving at a pace throughout the day that works best for you.

I enjoy have a to-do list, but what causes me stress is having a time-frame to get that to-do list done. Everything about my 9 to 5 is timed. When we are doing something outside of the scheduled time allotted, we are held accountable for it. So, when I clock out for the day, I look forward to being able to set the pace for the rest of my day.

A great way to set the tone for your day is by waking up early. Now, I do not consider myself a morning person. But, what I tend to focus on are the benefits of waking up earlier than usual and that motivates me to kick off the covers and get my day started!

1) Waking up early enough to have time for things like praying, meditating, setting goals/priorities for the day, relax in silence – no TV, no phone, no stressors.

2) Anti-Stress Supplements.

The one I am currently using is the Fast-Acting Stress Relief Gummies by Nature Made. Within 30 minutes, I begin to feel more relaxed. When I am experiencing soreness, aches and tightness in my neck and back, the supplement does not give me relief from that, but my mind (racing thoughts) do relax a bit.

Okay, now let’s chat about the art of letting go!

3) Allow yourself to feel the anxiety and stress IN the moment. THEN release it.

Release your need to control the situation or the stressor. Let go of the need to rapidly feel better. Accept that “it is what it is.” Trust yourself to be patient and get through it. Trust God, to work it altogether for your good.

I can’t be the only one who has struggled with the concept of “letting go.” I’ve always heard people say that we should forgive and let go and my question has always been, how? I want to let go, but how do I do that? I have asked that question so many times and I feel like I am still learning what letting go really means, to this day. But, one thing I have learned about letting go is that it is a process. It doesn’t come immediate for every person, in every situation. However, what has helped me let go of some things or at least begin the process of doing so is by allowing myself to FEEL the negative emotions. That brings me to my next point.

4) Observing – Notice how you feel in those moments of frustration. Maybe you feel tense, back or neck pain, maybe you feel like crying. Notice your thoughts. Notice what thoughts would be better. Healthier.

Observation creates awareness. I was aware of how I felt in those moments and was then able to SHIFT.

Now, the shift does not mean that I immediately felt free of the frustration. And, it does not mean that I found a resolution to the problem. It just means that I was able to not let it affect my ability to progress through my day like it would have in the past.

Before, if something would frustrate me, that was it. My mood would change for the rest of the day. And, in all honesty.. That still happens. A lot. But personal growth and development is a process. Other people may not be patient with you. So, it’s essential that you are patient with yourself!

Observing, having that awareness and mentally walking myself through the process of accepting and releasing my ATTEMPT to control what I can’t control enabled me to feel the frustration and stress for a matter of minutes.

Now, I’m a moody person. Triggers alter my mood fairly easily and quickly. If I’m feeling frustrated, anxious, stressed or hurt.. I get really quiet. No smiles, no laughter, just silence and brewing. That is why letting go is a skill I’m working on.

I share that to say this: I myself am very much a work in progress. However, I love to share what has been working for me because I know I’m not the only one. These are practical, realistic tips that can help you IN those firey moments when you feel like you might crash and burn. Figuratively speaking of course.

Setting the tone for your day, utilizing supplements, allowing yourself to feel the emotions, training yourself to observe and release are keys to managing stress and anxiety when you’ve got a lot going on in your life.


Friday evening my mom told me depressing news. My grandfather passed away Friday evening. That same day, my husband was in pain and I probably got 2 hours of sleep throughout the night and morning at most. My emotions were all over the place. I was trying my best to be there for my husband – it’s hard seeing someone that you love in so much pain and not being able to do much about it. Everything we were trying to relieve the pain wasn’t working and it seemed like our prayers were just hitting brick walls before dissolving into thin air. On top of that, my heart was breaking. I’d just seen my grandfather at my wedding 2 weeks prior. And suddenly, he is gone. I was thinking about my dad, my grandma, my aunts, uncles, cousins and all those affected by this loss and heart was just crumbling. I just kept crying and praying. I felt like I was pouring form an empty cup.

I felt really overwhelmed. I’d been looking forward to having a productive and relaxing weekend and it turned out to be opposite of that. I was grieving and adding other things on top just made me feel so weak. Leading up to Friday, I’d already been feeling like I could use some time to recharge but I just wasn’t able to get that time. And, that is how life is. Life happens when we least expect it. Things won’t always go according to plan. That is why we must learn how to pivot and adjust.

5) Pivot and Adjust. That’s something I’ll have to continue to do in my marriage, on my job, in my business.. in every area of my life! Due to the stress and pain in my arms and back, I haven’t been able to work out like I used to. But, this month I decided to get back in the gym and do what I can. I can’t use weights just yet, but I can work on my lower body and do cardio. I’m doing what I CAN do. And, that is what leads to progress and success.

One of the best abilities to have, to be successful in any area of your life, is the ability to PIVOT. If you can’t pivot and adjust when things don’t go according to Plan A, then you’re likely to give up.

One of my top goals in life is to HELP someone else pursue and achieve their goals. One way of doing that is by not only being transparent about my personal growth and development journey, but by also sharing tips and strategies that will make it LESS likely that you will quit.

You matter. Your goals and dreams matter. Don’t let stress, anxiety and overwhelm hold you back. Utilize these tips to help you get a better handle on them. And, as always, if therapy and medication is needed, do it. All of this just goes to say.. Prioritize your mental health.

There’s a lot of topics to talk about when it comes to success and achieving our goals. Mental health is one of them. Let’s talk about it more.

Thank you for reading Set Goals & Slay Family! Please share this post. You never know who is struggling with stress and anxiety and can use a word of hope and encouragement.

How to Reset and Plan for Success in 2022

2022 is here y’all! How are you feeling?

You know, I’ve been trying to write this post for a few days and let me tell you, I just couldn’t get it done. Not because I didn’t have the time or didn’t know what to say, but because there just seemed to be something.. missing.

Thursday night I attended a virtual vision board party streaming live on YouTube impromptu. I’d heard about it and then eventually I forgot about it. Made no plans to be there. But listen, I love me a good Vision Board party. I just get excited when I imagine the possibilities of the future and what God has for me. I know it won’t all be sunshine and roses. But God has some good things for us among the challenges and thorns life throws at us. This wasn’t just any old vision board party though. This was a faith-based vision board party. And, that my friends is where I found the connecting pieces to finish this post.

As we launch into the New Year, Set Goals & Slay family, I encourage you to take your FAITH with you! Read that again.

Although we are stepping into a New Year, we can expect that we will experience our share of highs an lows. Much like 2021. 2021 was challenging for me. It started off great until.. I loss my aunt and then a month later I loss my grandmother who was a pillar in my life. Both were somewhat unexpected. Not only was she my grandmother, but she was also my pastor for over 20 years. I struggled for most of the year with accepting that she is gone. Not only that, but I had to separate from another individual who was a significant part of my childhood as well. There was much loss, but there was also great gain. On a happier note, God blessed me to get engaged to the love of my life and in less than a month, we’ll be married! The relationships with my siblings have also progressed even when oceans apart and I’ve begun to rebrand Set Goals & Slay and released my new book, Let’s Be Real!

So, even with all of the challenges in experiencing loss, Covid-19, and just navigating our rapidly changing world as it is.. it was still a blessing. There was still a reason to smile and rejoice – found in the midst of it all. And, for that I am grateful! That is exactly how I am entering the New Year. With a heart of gratitude. I encourage you to do the same.

Alright, so let’s get to part you came here for. Here are my Top 7 Tips to Reset for the year ahead:

1) Reflect + Review your 2021 goals and progress. Set aside time to a brain dump. You can do this on your phone or computer, but personally, I enjoy taking out a pen and paper. Jot down EVERYTHING that comes to your mind that you accomplished throughout the year and EVERYTHING you are thankful for. After that, take time to go through your journals and planners/calendars, whether they’re digital or paperback. As you review them, be honest with yourself about the effort you put in, the progress you made and the areas in which you may not have seen as much growth as you’d have liked. Lastly, for this step, enter into a prayer of gratitude. Thank God for what you were able to accomplish and for the areas and ways in which you grew/evolved as a person. Let’s enter the New Year with a heart of gratitude!

2) Brain Dump/Scripting. In step 1, your brain dump was regarding all things gratitude. This time, you’ll want to write freely, without limitation, about your goals and aspirations for 2022. Whatever is in your heart, whatever comes to mind, don’t be shy about it, just jot it down. This is between YOU and God.

3) Set SMART Goals. Okay, now here is one of my favorite parts, because this is where we take those wishes and dreams and begin to breath life into them! This is HOW they can become reality. Now, I encourage you, this year to put emphasis on the dreams that God has put down on the inside of you. You know, the one’s you keep to yourself? The one’s you don’t like to talk about, because a lot of people don’t understand or may be quick to talk you out of pursuing your dream? Friend, I’m talking about the dreams that you have been afraid to pursue. I’m talking about the dreams you’ve been sitting on, for years, waiting.. Waiting for a perfect time, waiting to feel ready, waiting for a table or opportunity to be set before you. Yeah.. that dream! You may just have to build the table yourself.. *read that again*

Take that dream and set a flexible SMART goal. A goal that is: Specific. Measurable. Achievable. Realistic and Trackable. Next, Identify your WHY. Answer this: WHY are you pursuing that goal? WHAT will happen IF you accomplish your goal? WHO will blessed by your courage to pursue and achieve that goal? This is your WHY.

Create your action plan. The most important part of goal-setting is creating your action plan, because this is literally your blueprint. This should tell you HOW, what and when. So, break those goals into small action-steps and set a date.

And, although you are setting a date, keep in mind that it is OKAY to make adjustments. Life happens. Just because we PLAN does not mean that everything will go accordingly.

Nevertheless, it is still beneficial to have a BLUEPRINT that tells you where you are going, how you’re going to get there AND alternate routes you can take WHEN a road is blocked – you might want to read that one again too.

After you’ve set your goal(s) and created your action plan, now it’s time to create your dream board or vision book. If you do this, be sure to include photos of OR representations of your WHY. You don’t need to just see pictures of what you are working for, but also reminders of WHY you are working for it!

Accountability. This is one clutch too. Find an accountability partner OR a method to hold you accountable. There are many ways of doing that – we’ll have to save that for another post.

Wrapping up step 3, I encourage you to not only enter the New Year with gratitude, but to journey through the year with gratitude as well! Every goal we pursue is an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve as people.

Your MINDSET is key. Make up in your mind to prioritize creating and maintaining healthy habits rather than zeroing in on the goals itself. Focus more on the steps you take to the destination and enjoy the journey, rather than focusing solely on the big picture – the final destination.

In my last blog, I shared with you how essential it is to SURRENDER. After you set your goals and create your action plan, it is now time to surrender. Pray over your goals and submit them to God, because ultimately it’s His plan for our lives we should be striving to fulfil. Yes, I want my dream car – a black Jeep Wrangler Unlimited – among other things – but personally, this is not my priority in 2022, like it was in 2021. Nah, I didn’t get my dream car. Yet. I still believe that I will and will put in the work to manifest it, however.. My emphasis this year will be on my goals that will benefit other people in a positive way. My dream car will be a blessing for me and it will come when it’s time. But, the true question is, how can I be a blessing to others in this New Year?

4) Fast/Cleanse/Detox. Our body and our mind is the vehicle used to carry out our life’s purpose. We can take care of ourselves by 1) Taking care of our bodies – eating right, ]exercising/staying active and being mindful of what we INHALE: what we eat, listen to, participate and what we EXHALE: what we speak (speak life), surrendering our will and releasing negativity/toxic thoughts.

One thing I like to do at the start of each year is to do a 3 day fast. One of my priorities during my fast is to surrender my goals to God in prayer and seek him for guidance, wisdom and clarity in my pursuit.

5) Declutter and organize your space. I don’t know all the scientific data and revelations about this.. but I know that there’s something to it. You can research it if you want *smiles* by trying it. It just helps to feel more motivated and as if the New Year is truly a fresh start, a clean slate, a blank canvas.. it’s a New Year and the possibilities are endless!

6) Get started now on those goals. Don’t wait until Jan 1 to begin. Start now.

7) Take your FAITH with you, wherever you go. It’s great that we set our goals and that we are vision focused, but listen, we must remember to take our faith with us. That is, our faith in our creator – the giver of life and of our purpose. Also, faith – that with Him, we can set our goals AND slay them, because He is able to give us strength, send encouragement when we need it most, provide resources even when we don’t know where it will come from. And, faith that even though we might not feel ready, good enough or qualified.. We are STILL chosen and more than capable. So go after your goals with FAITH – don’t try to do it without HIM and don’t try to do it without IT.

That is all Set Goals & Slay Family! I love you all and I appreciate each and every one of you that has supported this blog by reading, likes, sharing and commenting! I’ve seen some growth over the past year in subscribers and I’m super exciting to see what we can achieve in the New Year. I wish you a happy, healthy and safe New Year! Cheers!

Coming up next..

To start of the year, Iets take a deep dive into practical ways to enhance our productivity in the New Year. Most of us have a lot going on and it can be a challenge to juggle the different goals we want to work on in all aspects of our lives. Though it be challenging, it is not impossible. So if you’d like, go ahead and subscribe and stay tuned. I’ve got some helpful tips and strategies coming your way!

The Missing Piece: Goal Setting for the Anxious Mind

As we wrap up 2021, many people have begun to reflect on the year and plan for the next!

As we embark upon a new year and set our goals – it is essential for our success that we set SMART goals. A SMART goal is defined as Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Trackable. If you want to set a goal that you are LESS likely to quit, then you must have a strategy. The best strategy is made up of a SMART goal and an Action Plan. The gamechanger is what the plan contains!

I believe that the best Action Plans are flexible. There is room for growth and change. If the plan is not flexible then you are MORE likely to quit. You are more likely to give up on a goal that is not flexible – because it lacks wiggle room to pivot and adjust when LIFE happens.

Life happens when we least expect it. Although we ARE the CEO’s of our lives – We cannot control every detail of our life experiences. We can only control our actions and attitude in response to what happens.

There is one more aspect of goal-setting that I want to talk about and that is the importance of: SURRENDERING

Lately, I’ve been feeling really anxious. One of the many reasons why is that I am getting married in 1 month and my whole life is about to change – for the better!! I’m really excited that I get to marry and spend the rest of my life with thee love of my life!

Some changes, like starting new chapters in our lives, take us outside of our comfort zones. I’m goal-oriented, I love to plan, it helps me understand what needs to get done and when, helping to reduce my stress & anxiety. I find comfort in knowing the steps needed to get where I’m tryin to go. Of course, it’s beneficial when you’re pursuing SMART goals. But, this next chapter of my life will be a new adventure, with a lot of fill in the blanks. I don’t know where this new path with take me, but I’m both excited and undeniably anxious about the journey ahead!

One thing that generally helps me manage my stress and anxiety is meditation. I highly recommend meditation – if you don’t meditate regularly already. Try it. Be intentional about setting aside time to meditate; practice mindfulness and gratitude. Clear your mind and center your thoughts on good things! Things that you are grateful for. Take a moment to just BE – in the moment.

Now, when it comes to managing stress and anxiety as we pursue or goals, it is necessary that we learn to let go of the fear attached to our desire to control different aspects of how our dreams will manifest. Surrender.

That is part of the adventure of life.

Yes, we set goals and take strategic action to accomplish our goals and bring our dreams to life. But, once we truly surrender – we are no longer stressed about the HOW and the WHEN. If we know the WHAT and the WHY and are taking action steps then we should be able to find peace, knowing that IF it’s meant for me and if it’s meant to be THEN it will be!

Something I learned about myself this is year: One of my greatest fears is losing myself.

Transparent moment..

I have many ideas, goals and dreams – And, ultimately I my goal is to empower people to be and to do everything that God has purposed for them to do. Walking boldly, confidently in their God given purpose. Embracing everything that makes them different, unique – so that God can get the glory out of their lives. I believe that is my life purpose. I had to go through some things to discover this.

But, what if God wants my purpose to manifest differently than how I imagined?

The purpose is the same but what if He’s made some changes to the assignment?

Because people change right? And, our purpose is less about us and always more about helping others in some capacity. So, what if something about the assignment has changed?

This is why being in alignment is so necessary. I cannot be in alignment with my purpose and the giver of my purpose IF I am holding on too tightly to MY expectations of how things should go. That includes the timing, the route taken to get there and the vehicle used to fulfil God’s purpose for our lives. We are vessels, chosen for a unique purpose that extends beyond what our minds can comprehend. That is why the concept of legacies exists. When we are gone, a part of us should still live on.

Sometimes, we may wonder “why me?” Why did I have to go through that? Why am I the way that I am? It has everything to do with your purpose. Discovering that purpose, can be an adventure itself.

Once I found my purpose, I latched onto it tightly. It felt like I finally found my identity. It helped me get through some of the darkest moments of my life, when I wanted to give up on life and my dreams. When I felt worthless, I found my self-worth in knowing that I do have a purpose.

I spent so many years comparing myself to other women, hating myself and what I looked like in the mirror, covering up my curves, wondering why I was so shy, lonely, looked over, forgotten and experiencing heartbreak after heartbreak.. It was all for a purpose! I didn’t understand that back then. So, when I finally found my purpose, I embraced it as my identity.

Discovering my purpose was great and all, but here’s the problem..

While my purpose remains, the assignments can change. Here’s how:

1) The assignment itself can change (The WHAT)

2) There can be a change withIN the assignment (The HOW/WHEN/WHERE)

3) The assignment can be canceled

This is what we should also remember:

1) Even if something happens to the assignment, OUR purpose still remains.

2) Knowing our WHY is key! Knowing our WHY is key! Knowing our WHY is key! Because, knowing your WHY is the very reason why, even if the assignment changes or life happens initiating a change to the assignments, because YOU still have that purpose – God’s purpose for your life will still manifest. A way will be made for that vision to come to life.

Remember how I said one of my fears is losing myself? Well, I met with my mentor the other day and something she told me really stuck with me. It started with this question: “Who are we?”

What she was explaining to me was the reality that, we are not the creator and giver of our purpose. Our creator attached purpose to our lives. It’s His purpose that is to be fulfilled in the earth. We are the vessels he uses. So, He knows and understands and ALLOWS the assignments, seasons and chapters of our lives to change. He knows and understands. Knowing this, that is where we can find peace, knowing that HE will make a way.

I don’t need to worry about losing a special part of what makes Me, me, because if I surrender my will and embrace His will for my life, then the purpose will be fulfilled. And, the assignments.. Sometimes, they change and will manifest in a different way than we imagine or expect.

The lesson now is that, I am not my purpose. My purpose is NOT my identity. My purpose is a gift and a responsibility given by the creator. And, even though I am required to surrender, I can find peace in knowing that if I stay in alignment with the creator and giver of my purpose, then it will be fulfilled. Even when life happens.

So as we prepare for the New Year.. DO: Set your goals, create a strategic plan of action and take action, because FAITH without works is dead. Remember that – surrendering is MORE important than the goal and action plan. If there is no surrender – then your plan is not flexible and you will be more likely to give up on your goal.

Surrendering looks like releasing fear, expectation and control. It’s taking action all while accepting and finding rest in expecting the unexpected. Surrendering allows you to remain at peace when you have to unexpectedly re-route, because things didn’t go as planned and that’s okay.

God knows your heart and He will fight for you. But we may be required to release; to surrender our control so that he can steer us in the direction that HE wants us to go.

Alignment requires surrender.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading! Happy Holiday Set Goals & Slay Family!!❤️💚

Let’s Be Real: The Secrets of My Heart Exposed

Happy Thanksgiving Set Goals & Slay Family! I hope and pray you have a safe and amazing weekend 💕

I have some exciting new to share with you all.

Today I’m doing a Black Friday Book Drop! Let’s Be Real: The Secrets of My Heart Exposed is now LIVE on Amazon in Paperback + E-book format!

This is one of the scariest things I’ve done yet – This is a collection of [free-verse] poetry inspired by the darkest moments of my life to date – depression, anxiety, loneliness, low self-esteem and suicidal ideation to finding my confidence, self-worth in Christ and discovering my God given purpose. Yeah.. I’m sharing it all!

I just pray that sharing my story gives hope to someone else 🙏🏾

This is my story – poetically.

This is my truth – transparency.

These are words of affirmation and breakthrough.

This is my lemons turned into lemonade.

This is evidence that you can face your demons and overcome your challenges.

This is proof that who you were does not have to define who you become and can indeed propel you into your God given purpose.

This is proof that who you were does not have to define who you become and what you are capable of achieving!


E-Book or Paperback for Only $7.97

Please note: Spoken word poetry is written in free verse format with intent to be recited aloud or performed.

The Truth About Your Life Purpose (Do You Understand the Assignment?)

Three essential lessons that I have learned this year thus far are:

1) People’s perspectives are influenced and shaped by their personal experiences in life. When people voice their opinions about things they are looking through lenses that are influenced by their personal experiences. People can unintentionally project their pain, their disappointment, their lack of knowledge or understanding on to your goals, dreams and aspirations.

2) We can unknowingly set ourselves up for disappointment by having unrealistic expectations of other people – Looking for them to support our vision, invest in our dreams and understand our purpose and assignment.

3) We will be tested to see if we understand our assignment.

God created each of us with a gift and a purpose. These are things that no one else can take away from us, unless we give them the power to. It is up to us to find our God given purpose and to pursue it. He has entrusted us with a purpose that can be used to shift atmospheres and change our lives and the lives of other’s for the better. We are responsible for protecting what he has given us. We are all birthed into this world with purpose attached to our lives. We are on assignment.

We are all on assignment. And sadly, many people live and die without fulfilling their purpose and therefore their assignment is incomplete. Someone’s breakthrough, someone’s victory, someone’s healing is attached to your voice, your story, your gift, your magic. The very thing that set’s you apart, that makes you stand out from the crowd is your magic. The struggles and challenges that we face in life are designed to mold and make us into who we need to be so that we can learn, grow and be effective in fulfilling our purpose in the earth.

We will be tested.

I wholeheartedly believe that God will put us through some tests to see if he can trust us with our assignment. And, there are different areas and aspects in which we can be tested. If we want to pass the tests, it is important that 1) We understand our assignment and 2) We understand that our assignment is more important than our limitations and unbelief in the possibility of our purpose being fulfilled and 3) Anybody can have an opinion based off of their perception that is shaped by THEIR life experiences. That is THEIR truth, not yours and should not influence your willingness to pursue your purpose. I believe that those are the very things that we will best tested on.

So, what do we need to have if we want to pass our tests?

1) We need to know what our purpose is.

2) We need to know our WHY.

3) FAITH and to stay connected to our source, our greatest resource, our creator.

Discovering my life purpose saved my life. In the moment’s I’ve most wanted to take my own life, I was reminded of the very reason why I shouldn’t. My purpose is beyond me. It saved my life so that I can change lives. My greatest why is to empower, not just motivate, inspire and encourage, but to give tools and strategies to those who are where I once was to be able to overcome and rise above self-hate, self-doubt, insecurity, etc. To position themselves to go out and pursue and fulfill their God given purpose. My purpose is my reason for living. It is what brings me the most joy and happiness in my life. Seeing other people win, thrive, do what they love, overcome their greatest setbacks and pursuing their purpose is everything to me.

I grew up the shy girl with a creative mind and talent for writing. I never thought that I would have a desire to stand in front of crowds of people and reveal my deepest, darkest secrets through spoken word poetry. I never thought that I would pour my heart out on the blank pages of multiple books that would land in the hands of readers who may need to hear exactly what God has inspired me to say.

It’s a bit blurry, by I still remember the moment my purpose became loud and clear to me. I was a teenager, sitting on my bedroom floor watching someone speaking on TV. I don’t remember who was speaking or what was said, but what I do remember is the voice that spoke clearly in my ear. It was like a flashback moment of my past, a revelation of what I am supposed to do. It was something like a day dream. What I saw wasn’t what was playing on the screen of the TV but rather in my mind. It was of me extending my arm down so that someone could grab ahold as I pulled them up. That’s when I heard something that struck a cord within me that said.. “That is what you are called to do.”

Discovering my purpose did not come with an instruction manual. It also did not come with one particular way in which I am to fulfill the purpose. My job is to keep an open mind and heart so that I am available to take on the next assignment when it arrives.

One thing that I have been challenged with recently is having faith in the vision, dreams and purpose that I believe with all my heart that God has given me. You may ask, how do I know that it was God given? Because 1) It calls me to step outside of my comfort zone over and over and over again and 2) It isn’t about me. It’s all about using my tests, trials and life struggles to help someone else get through theirs. Recently, I have found myself questioning my purpose and more specifically, my assignment.

The purpose attached to your life does not change but the assignment will. You have a purpose and then you’re given an assignment. Once you fulfill that assignment, then you’re given another.

I have found myself questioning whether or not I am meant to carry out the assignment that I am on at the moment because of the thoughts, opinions and perspectives of someone else. I now recognize that I am being tested. I have to remind myself that it was God who attached purpose to my life and trusted me with the assignment. For so long I was scared and I did not take a leap of faith to pursue it until just a month ago. Once I received confirmation I could not deny, that it was GO time, I knew I had to step out on faith and do the work.

I share all of this to say this. It does not matter who does not think that you should write the book, start this business, level up and pursue success in any area of your life. As long as YOU know your purpose, as long as YOU understand the assignment, then what anyone else thinks regarding the pursuit of your purpose should not matter.

Now, if it is someone who is placed in your life to support you, provide constructive feedback, mentorship, coaching, prayerful guidance and things of that nature, then that’s different. But, today, I’m talking about recognizing voices that are challenging you in ways that initiate doubt as it relates to your life purpose. There is a difference. Truth is, most people mean well, but can unknowingly, unintentionally project their opinions and advice on to you to sway you one way or another. It’s essential that we are aware of who we allow to speak into our lives because of this very thing. I have found myself questioning the timing of my assignment. I literally had to remind myself of HOW and WHY I stepped out on faith to pursue this next assignment.

We get a choice. I have a choice. I can either listen to the doubts that maybe this is not the right time. Maybe I should be focused more on other areas of my life. Or, I can remind myself of my WHY and keep going! I can remind myself who gave me the idea and the courage to pursue the dream. I can’t wait for a better time to pursue it, because someone out there needs the very thing I am to release and manifest, now.

We all have a purpose. Your talents, gifts and dreams can be attached to that purpose. Fulfill it. Someone is in need of what YOU have to offer. And, it is not for any other human to determine the what, why or how of that purpose OR assignment. Your family, friends, and even your significant other may not understand the assignment. And, that is OKAY. This can be a tough pill to swallow, because naturally we want their support and understanding. Truth is, that won’t always be the case. Guess what? You’ve got to keep going anyway.

So, my question to you today is, do you truly understand your assignment?

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6 Practical Ways to Prevent and Reduce Stress

I work a 9 to 5 and I live paycheck to paycheck. I also owe over 60k in student loan debt. As the prices continue to rise right before our eyes on the daily, you can imagine how much stress, one money management mistake can create.

I messed up. I acted on impulse and made an investment that I should have waited on. Had I opted to wait 1 month even, this mistake could have been avoided. Instead, I dug myself into a pit and jumped right in – It took a bit of creativity and stepping outside of my comfort zone to pull myself out. However, I was able to resolve the issue without breaking down in the process. I had to work to get to a place where that is even possible for me.

This is the type of circumstance that used to stress me out to a point of having a panic attack. In fact, I’ve gotten caught up in a few stressful situations in my personal life recently and I have navigated through them pretty well, if I may so so myself.

One thing I’ve noticed is that even in the midst of these stressful situations, rather than panic, I have maintained a consistent state of calmness. Knowing that my problems have solutions, I just have to find it. Instead of focusing solely on the problem, I remained solution oriented. I quickly resolved that freaking out over the problem wasn’t going to solve the problem soo, I might as well focus my energy on finding a resolution.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve had a very solution-focused mindset. And, in stressful situations, I keep calm and quickly get to working on finding a solution. I don’t like to dwell too much on problems itself, if it’s not with the purpose of finding a solution. I believe it’s important to acknowledge the problem for what it is and if you are experiencing negative emotions like sadness, defeat and disappointment, it’s okay to stay in that  state for a period of time. Sometimes, I will give myself a day to just have a pity party. But, after that, I tell myself it’s time to move forward and I do just that. I may still feel some of those emotions, but I make a conscious decision to move to a place of productivity. Please note; this applies to everyday stressors. This does not apply to things like grief, long-term or terminal health issues, etc.

The stick-up for me is when I’m looking for solution and end up hitting wall after wall after wall. After awhile, it takes it tole and I begin to succumb under pressure and I panic.

I’ve gone through a few seasons in my life where I’ve gone through that process with ease and I’ve gone through a few season where it has been a real struggle.. High anxiety, panic attacks and depression that often came a horrible attitude to the point where it’s like I’d purposefully try to make those around me miserable because I was miserable.

Stress has long been a frenemy of mine and stress management is something I’ve prioritized for the past 4 to 5 years now. Managing my stress in a healthy way is extremely is essential for me these days. My peace of mind is my main bag. But, I’d be lying if I told you that I get it right every time. I don’t. Some days are more challenging than others. However, the days of flat out panicking and freaking out are far and few in between these days. I am grateful for the progress that I have made and would like to highlight a few tips that have helped me get better at managing my stress.

Stress doesn’t just affect you psychologically but it can take it’s tole on you physically. This is something I’ve struggled with for years and have had to learn how to live a preventive lifestyle doing practical things everyday to reduce the effects of stress. This is what has helped me:

1) Start your day with prayer and meditation. Eat a healthy and fulfilling breakfast. Grab your coffee or tea. start your day with positive affirmations. Set the tone for your day!

2) Don’t forget to take your vitamins, supplements that boost your mood, take a walk, enjoy nature – get some sun.

3) Watch, listen or watch and listen to ASMR on YouTube. If you need to take a quick breather during a stressful day – try ASMR. If you’ve had a stressful, have a lot on your mind and you’re having trouble falling asleep – try ASMR.

4) Intentionally create balance in your day. Instead of overworking yourself, use a planner and schedule your breaks, set and alarm if you need to. Try time-blocking as well. It is a game-changer.

5) Journal. Sit for 15 minutes with a pen and paper and write out everything that is on your mind. This really helps to bring clarity and release.

6) Meditate a minimum of 10 minutes each morning and night. Clear your mind. Release toxic thoughts and energy. Don’t play with your sleep. Prioritize getting a quality night’s rest. This helps your body heal, recover and positions you to be more focused, alert and aligned to face the day’s challenges that may come your way. If you are sleep deprived or hangry even, it’s not as easy to do that right?

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I know some, if not all of these tips may sound unnecessary. But, I’m telling you, when you do most if not all of these things on a consistent basis, not only will you FEEL better, but you will become stronger in your ability to manage your stress effectively, in a healthy way. These tips are things that you can do to be PROACTIVE about your mental health and stress management.

Share any tips that you have in the comments below! What has helped you to manage your stress?

The End: Hope After Wanting to End It All

I just wanted the pain to end.

For weeks, I’d been going through the motions, showing up where I was suppose to, when I was expected to, all the while hoping that someone would notice. I hoped that someone would notice the pain in my eyes or the strain in my smile. My smile was a mask to cover up the hurt and loneliness that I felt within.

The longest relationship I’d been in to date was 2 years. As the relationship began to run it’s course, my ex-boyfriend and I began to see each other and spend quality time together less and less. Other than him, I didn’t really have anyone else in my life that I communicated with on a consistent basis. Sure, I had one or two friends I could call up. But, in all honesty, our friendships became the one’s where you meet up to catch up every once in awhile, but you know they’ll always be there when you need them.

At the time, I was working full-time in a high intensity, often chaotic environment that was incredibly stressful and triggering. I was working the night shift and struggled to get proper rest during the day. My social life consisted of going to church and going to the gym. And, that’s about it. I was becoming drained, burned out and increasingly overwhelmed as time went on. I was slowly drowning in a pool of unhappiness.

One night, I sat in my apartment and I just broke down. I couldn’t stop crying. I began pacing back and forth in my living room until I dropped down on the the floor. With my knees against my chest, arms embracing my legs tightly, I continued rocking back and forth. I began to scream and cry until I got up and went into my kitchen and I grabbed the sharpest knife I could find. I went back into the living room, sat down on the floor, holding the knife in my hand. I continued to cry out and begged for the courage to end it all.

The thoughts that kept circulating through my mind was – why not just end it all? It’s not like anyone will notice you’re gone for a long time. And, when you’re gone, it’s not like anyone will care. Those thoughts really tormented me to the core. I knew that I needed to reach out for help. I knew that I had a pastor I could call, a mom I could call or a hot-line. As much as I knew that I could reach out for help, the tormenting thoughts in my mind carried so much weight that I couldn’t convince myself to seek help. I figured why bother someone with my depression when nobody cared enough to stick around long enough for an answer after casually asking, “how are you doing?” or a quick text to see how I’m doing, because they hadn’t heard from me in awhile. If the people who saw me at work every day and my boyfriend at the time – the person I was most closest to in my life didn’t even notice something was wrong with me, I figured it was because they didn’t care enough to pay attention. To notice that something had shifted in me. Those were my reasonings at the time, for not reaching out for help. What it came down to is the fact that, I just didn’t want to be a burden to anyone.

As you can see, I didn’t do it. I didn’t find the courage to do what I wished I could do, because of this one thing. I was born and raised in church, and so it was instilled in me the teachings that there is a heaven and hell. Let’s just put it this way, I wasn’t convinced that if I took my own life to escape the hell on earth I was experiencing, that I would not in up in a lake of fire for eternity. I’m just being real with you. That was ultimately the deciding factor FOR ME. At the end of the day, it just wasn’t a risk I was willing to take.

I share this in hopes that this will create awareness. You guys, it is essential that we are intentional about surrounding ourselves with family and friends who will love and support you. Prioritize and build those relationships. Because, life is hard, things aren’t getting easier and we truly need each other.

If someone comes to mind throughout the day, that you haven’t spoken to in awhile – don’t hesitate to reach out to them. Make a quick call or send a simple text to say hello and let that person know that they are on your mind. If you notice someone doesn’t quite seem like themselves, maybe their smile seems a little more forced lately, genuinely ask them if they are okay and remind them that they have your full support if they ever need someone to talk to. It might seem little, but those things go a long way.

When someone is depressed or struggling with suicidal ideation, I promise you, the majority of the time, that person IS aware that there are resources for help out there. But, often times, we don’t feel brave or strong enough to reach out for help. No matter how illogical of a thought it may be, we don’t want to be a burden to someone else.

As I look back on this, that I experienced somewhere between 2018 – 2019, I realize that I could have and should have reached out for help. I have people I can call or text. I also realize that I should have made my social life more of a priority by way of showing myself friendly, making new friends, etc. But, at the same time, life happened. I was occupied with work and trying to find some sort of life balance. I am careful that I am not hard on myself, because regardless of what I could have and should have done, the reality is that I didn’t and no excuse is great enough to justify taking my own life.

I am thankful that I am here to share my story. I am thankful that I have the bravery to expose one the secrets of my soul.

I am releasing a new book in December 2021 called Let’s Be Real: The Secrets of My Soul Exposed. This book is a collection of spoken word poetry inspired by my experience with depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and suicidal ideation. In addition to sharing my story, I share how I discovered my purpose and I come through with a word of motivation and empowerment! Click HERE for more information on the book. You can receive updates on new books, blogs and weekly affirmations by texting “iSlay” to (866) 985-4832.

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The Purpose in Your Storm

When I graduated High School, I was so excited to begin my college experience at Grand Canyon University. During the first 2 years, I double majored in Music with an emphasis in voice and Psychology. I was pursuing a career in Music Therapy. After 2 years, I dropped my music courses because I was struggling with my music theory and music history courses and failed more than twice! I lost one of my scholarships and decided to drop my major because, I couldn’t afford to keep retaking courses.

Music had always been my passion but I guess I was meant to go in a different direction. The goal was to graduate in 4 years, but after dropping my music courses, I still struggled immensely with Algebra 1 – 2 and Algebra 3 – 4. That’s 2 semesters that turned into 4 because I kept failing the classes! By then, I’d lost all the scholarships I walked in with, my GPA dropped of course and I took out an additional student loan. I did not want to quit or pause. I was determined to finish what I started. After 5.5 years, I finally graduated with my Bachelors of Science degree in Psychology.

After graduation, I began an internship in Adoption and Foster Care. I had an interest in Social Work but, I knew I couldn’t afford to go back to school and get my Masters. I considered being a Case Manager at an adoption agency, but instead I began my career in the Behavior Health Field. My first stable job was working as a Behavior Health Paraprofessional, working with adult clients diagnosed with Serious Mental Illness. One thing I enjoyed most was facilitating 1:1 and group sessions on various topics, helping my clients to better understand and cope with their diagnosis. After 2 years, I was hired at therapeutic school + home that provides treatment programs, emergency shelter and so much more to girls ages 10 to 18. As a Behavior Health Technician, I learned so much about intervention, trauma informed care and more. However, during all of this, I was fighting my own battles with depression, anxiety, and I one point, suicidal ideation.

In my last blog post, I gave you sneak peak of my childhood. I was super shy, struggled to make friends, struggled with low self -esteem and as a young adult, I had a few heartbreaks along the way. I’d been ghosted, cheated on and had relationships end unexpectedly. I’d had a few childhood friends from my church growing up, that as we got older, we grew apart. So, aside from dating – I was otherwise often alone. I Somewhere in the middle of all of that I discovered my purpose and found my confidence. That is, until I lost it again. More on that later.

During my last year working with adults with SMI, I had a few panic attacks. Often times, I felt under a lot of stress and under pressure from my personal life – dealing with my own toxic thoughts and emotions to work related stress that comes with working in a high-intensity, sometimes chaotic and triggering environment. Stress doesn’t just affect you psychologically but it can take it’s tole on you physically. This is something I’ve struggled with for YEARS and have had to learn how to live a preventive lifestyle doing practical things everyday to reduce the effects of stress.

I typically have panic attacks after I begin to feel the stress physically – like, chest pain and tightness/pressure, muscle stiffness, muscle spasms, as well as nerve sensitivity and pain. When I’d experience these, I’d instantly become anxious, because my mind would jump to the worst conclusions like fear of having a heart attack. Too often, I made the mistake of looking up the symptoms I was experiencing on Doctor Google. You know, WebMD. Big mistake. Listen, my panicking just made the symptoms I was experiencing worse. For me, this led to multiple urgent care and ER trips, EKG’s and x-rays ran that ultimately came back normal. Oh, and of course the medical bills from all of those urgent care trips followed.

Some days, I would interact with clients and would become anxious. I remember having to walk outside trying not to hyperventilate in front of clients and coworkers, and trying to practice deep breathing and grounding exercises to calm down. There were days when I left work early because I was in so much physical pain. One thing each of the clients had was a folder that held their personal treatment plan, details of their triggers and coping skills, etc. You know what I did? I created my own version of a treatment plan for myself. I was educating and supporting clients during the day and going home to my own inner battle.

I stayed for 2 years before starting my job as a BHT working with the girls 10 to 18. That was a change of pace for sure, but exposed me to levels of trauma and treatment that I was eager to learn about. I was also eager to work the nightshift, because I had a special project I was working on. If I wasn’t on an overnight trip at the hospital with a client, then in between walking up and down the halls every 30 minutes doing routine bed-checks, I could be found writing my 3rd book, Empower You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind. Now, if I could summarize this book in 1 word it would be: Empowerment. Today, as I think about it, I am amazed out how I was able to create content as such, when the state of mind throughout the years was opposite of that.

I have always found a way to write about my pain and heartbreak and end it with a word of motivation and empowerment. Writing and poetry has been my preferred outlet for years and since the beginning, I have never been able to simply right about my pain without encouraging someone else too. I found purpose in my pain. I found purpose in my struggle. I was going through my own mess, while working a 9 to 5 that required me to support adults and children going through their valleys. It has never been about me going through just so I can say that I survived. It’s always been about going through so that I can help someone else.

I share this part of my story, because I need you to understand that there is ALWAYS purpose in your pain.

You might have gone through some things and some of you may be going through right now and you may be wondering why you had to go through that situation. You may be searching for the purpose. This might catch you by surprise, but I want to encourage you to stop searching for the reason. If you’ve been searching and wondering and haven’t found it.. Consider this: It could be that the purpose is so that YOU can HELP someone else. Simple as that. There is purpose in YOUR storm – you never have to look too far to find it. We are destined to go THROUGH the storm so that we can effectively HELP someone else get through their storm.

There is purpose in your storm. That means, if you keep going, you’re going to survive your storm. Eventually, you will come out on the other side.

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Remember Who You Are

His name was Christopher. And, every day he was sure to greet me by pinching my skin and stealing my pencils and various school supplies from inside my desk. I would squint my eyes and glare back at him, but I never said a word.

Kindergarten – 2nd grade

Some days it was more than Christopher pinching me and stealing my belongings. Sometimes other classmates joined in on the fun at my expense. I understood that they were just trying to react by talking at best. But, for some reason I never said a word. Not even in self-defense.

Most kids looked forward to recess after lunch, but I never did. That was because Christopher would chase me around the playground, until he’d catch me and pinch me. The few times he caught me, it it was because I’d trip and fall. Every now and then a teacher on lunch duty would finally notice and reprimand him. But, that never put a definite stop to it. And, per usual, I didn’t say word so I had the next day to look forward to the same torture. Many days I went home with scraped knees and bruised elbows. The most I would do to stand up for myself was to run away, attempt to take back my belongings from the inside of Christopher’s desk when he wasn’t watching and to shove him off of me when he got too close. Oh! And to glare with all my might, of course.

To this day, I cannot tell you why I never said a word. It was one thing to be shy, but another to not even open my mouth and alert my teachers of what was going on. Instead of standing up for myself, I kept my mouth shut. And, at one point, my teachers held discussions with my mom about special education classes as an option for me. Although I did not talk on school grounds for years, I was not mute. And, I actually excelled in my studies so, I was never put in Special Ed classes.

I got a fresh start when I reached 3rd grade. My family and I moved to central Phoenix and there I started 3rd grade at a new school. And, guess what! I finally started to talk. Very little. But, at least I bothered to respond when spoken to.

When I got to middle school, I dreaded lunch breaks because I was always alone. I didn’t make any friends. Not until junior high school. In 6th grade I finally made a friend. Her name was Elizabeth. And like me, she was quiet and didn’t hang out with anyone before school or at lunch. We had a few classes together and by default we were often paired together for projects when the teachers let us choose our partners. Neither of us had anyone else soo.. a friendship began to blossom. Outside of answering questions when called upon and reading aloud when it was my turn.. She was the only person I would talk to while at school.

I also didn’t like my voice. I did not like hearing recordings of myself, because I thought I sounded like a boy.

During 7th and 8th grade, I still didn’t have many friends, but things were much better for me. Those days, choir and band became a huge part of my life and I finally began to feel less like an outcast and more like I’d found somewhere I belonged.

I didn’t begin to come out of my shell until high school. I was a loyal member of choir and band all throughout high school and even college. I found a place where I could blend in and be myself.

But it was my junior year of high school that really changed my life. That was a great year for us during marching band season. For the first time we went to competition and ranked. But, that wasn’t the gamechanger for me. It was the day I wrote a poem for a class assignment and won a spot to perform on stage. In preparation for the event, myself and other students from around the valley gathered and.. The details of what happened that day is a blurr this moment.. The moment I was introduced to the art of spoken word poetry. That was the day I found an art form that would allow me to express myself in ways I couldn’t have imagined. Sevan (Apollo Poetry) performed two of his poems, Alphabet Poem and Heart. I was instantly mesmerized by the rhymes, rhythm and flow. I fell in love with spoken word poetry; the definition of painting pictures with words.

I began to write and perform spoken word poetry. I found my voice. I found courage to express myself; to say all of the things I’d once been too afraid to say. For all the days, as I child, that I’d refused to open my mouth and speak..

For years, I wondered why I was the way that I was. It was like there was an invisible muzzle, disabling me from speaking and being myself. And, even when I began to come out of my shell and make a few friends, even then, I never really fit in. Sure I blended in, when we had things in common, but I’ve always been a misfit.

To this day, even knowing and being confident in who God has created me to be, I still identify as a misfit. I’ve always felt like the odd one out.

Often, I think about all the times I’ve felt invisible and forgotten. Always on the outside looking in. There have been a couple times in my life where I contemplated suicide. I felt as if no one would notice that I was gone, so why not just disappear? I figured if anyone really cared, they would have noticed or reached out. I didn’t go to anyone for help, because I did not want to be a burden. The most recent time I battled with suicidal ideation was when I was dating my ex-boyfriend. Even he didn’t notice how depressed I’d been. That reality, sent me spiraling. I couldn’t wrap my mind around how someone so close to me couldn’t see how much mental and emotional turmoil I was in. But I thank God, I’m still here!

I’m still here to share my story. I’m still here to use the voice that God gave me.

I had no idea that the way I was and everything that I was experiencing was for a purpose. On the surface, it doesn’t make sense. But over the years, God has revealed piece by piece, the puzzle of who he has created me to be and what he has created me for. He has shown me my purpose. Even the reason why I was so shy and why I always felt like the odd one out.

So, if you have been wondering why you’ve had to face certain challenges in life and if you’ve ever wondered what your purpose in life is.. If you’ve been wondering how and why you’ve survived the bullying, the abuse, the betrayals, the disappointments, the health scares.. I’m here to tell you that it was all for a purpose. And, when it doesn’t make sense, that’s because it’s bigger than you.

There is purpose attached to your life. The challenges we face in life are meant to prepare and position us to fulfill that purpose. We may lose some friends along the way. We may miss out on some opportunities along the way. That’s because everyone can’t go where you are destined to go. Every open door is not meant for you to walk through.

There is magic on the inside of you. And when I say magic, I mean something there is something unique! Something that can be imitated, but cannot be duplicated. Something that makes you different. Something that makes you stand out from everyone else. Embrace the magic that is on the inside of you. Embrace your story and share it with the world. Someone is need of what you have to offer. Someone’s breakthrough is dependent on your ability to use the gift God has given you.

The poetry I write. The words I speak. It’s meant to do these things: uplift and empower. I understand that everything I’ve gone through was for a purpose. There was even a purpose and blessing in my shyness and loneliness. And honestly, because I am still here, I refuse to let what I have been through and overcome be in vain.

“You have something special. You have greatness within you. You have something no one else has.” He even goes on to say, “You have the ability to do more than you can ever begin to imagine.”

– Les Brown

Remember who you are and embrace it.

A Letter to Those Who Feel Like Giving Up

I know you have been working hard.

And, it seems like nothing is paying off.

I know you feel discouraged.

After so much time, money and energy invested, you’re wondering what’s the point in continuing on. But listen, I need you to remember your WHY. Remember why you started.

This is not the time to stop. This is not the time to slow down. This is the moment to gain momentum and push!

Push through the doubt.

Push past the fear and uncertainty.

Understand that everything isn’t always as it seems. It may look like nothing is happening to the naked eye but, the reality is that regardless of what it looks like, you are making progress with every step you take.

If you needed a sign that you are on that right path, this is it.

You have come too far to give up now.

You have also come too far to forget who you are and who you are created to be.

You have something that no one else has.

You have something that makes you unique, distinguished, set apart.

When you show up as your authentic self and walk in your divine purpose, people then have the luxury to experience your magic! Your magic, your “something special” is the very thing that makes you stand out from every one else. You are Top Tier! You can be imitated but never duplicated.

Today, I come to remind you, that you have a God given purpose attached to your life. And, nothing and no one can ever take that away from you.

Unless you give them the power to.

I know you may be feeling discouraged, you feel like giving up on your goals and dreams. You’re thinking about giving up on that thing that you desire, the one that is burning like a fire within your soul. That thing.. You know it’s your purpose. You know it’s what you’ve been put on this earth to do. But, lately it seems like your every effort is a flop.

You’ve been working hard and putting yourself in position so that you’re prepared for when the door of opportunity opens to you. But, you’ve been chasing the dream for so long now, that you begin to wonder if it’s ever going to happen. You’ve looked around and seen everyone else winning. You wonder, when will it be your turn. I feel you. In fact, in this moment, I’m right there with you. And, as I write this letter to you, I’m also speaking to myself. Reminding myself, that our goals and dreams are worth it. Our God given purpose is worth it.

It’s worth the wait, it’s worth the late nights and early mornings, it’s worth the very moments we feel alone, unmotivated an unsupported. It comes with the responsibility of carrying a purpose that extends beyond our human understanding. Because, the purpose that has been attached to our lives has been given by our creator. And, when we fulfill our purpose, when we walk in our God given purpose.. we make magic. We change lives.

I know it is your goal. I know it’s your dream. And, yes, it’s YOUR purpose. But, the truth is that it’s never been about you. It’s always been about the lives you will touch, the lives you will bless, the souls you will impact and lives you will change WHEN you step out on faith and fulfill your purpose.

The moments I feel like giving up, I remind myself 1) Who I am and who I am created to be (Ref: Psalm 139:14, Proverbs 16:4 and 2) That I am on assignment. (Ref: Ephesians 2:10, Jerimiah 29:11). I must fulfill my purpose. And, when I do that. I will be blessed to bless others. We are blessed to be a blessings. And, our gift will make room for us. So, don’t give up. No matter who is not in your corner cheering you on. No matter who is not liking or sharing your content. No matter who is not investing in your business or leaving you a positive review. You have the ability to speak life over your goals and dreams by positive affirmations and therein lies your power. Never take that forgranted.

I love you. And, I believe in you!

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