How Bad Do You Want It?

We made it! The fourth Quarter is here! I know 2020 has had many of us feeling like yelling Jumanji when the clock strikes midnight, New Years Eve.. But, the blessed thing is that we are here and we’ve still got 3 months to close this year out strong.

What was your mindset and focus walking into 2020?

I walked into 2020 with MY plans. Plans to get back on stage performing spoken word, traveling and promoting my book at live events and more. All of my plans involved in person socializing, I was very much looking forward to. But.. Covid-19 happened.

Days turned into weeks and weeks into months.. And, like everyone else, I had to pivot.

One thing that makes me really uncomfortable is unexpectedly having to change my plans. But, one thing I’ve learned the value of this year is that:

A key to success is one’s ability to be FLEXIBLE in their approach to achieving goals.

Life happens we least expect it.

Even when it’s uncomfortable, sometimes it will be necessary for us to SHIFT in our approach IF we really want to achieve our goals. That means switching the HOW without changing the WHAT.

Question is, how bad do you want it?

For most of 2020, I have been going back to the drawing board and analyzing my goals and strategy of attack, self-reflection and relaxation. I’ve learned how necessary it is to have and maintain a healthy life BALANCE.

I’ve also learned to be proud and to celebrate the fact that I’ve gotten through emotionally triggering moments in 2020 without spiraling into depression or anxiety attacks, like I did the past 3 years.

I thought I was going to focus 90% of my time and energy on growing my new business, promoting my books and performing poetry. But, instead, my focus has largely been on MY personal growth and development! Oh! And, making sure that have necessary systems in place to effectively grow my business, when it’s time.

I had no idea things were going to go in this direction. It’s been bittersweet and in SOME ways, a blessing in disguise. I mean, I like things to go my way.. But, I’ve learned to appreciate that it won’t always go my way and be okay with that.

I am excited to see how THIS season of unexpected preparation will unfold into something AMAZING.

My friend, whatever challenges that you have faced in 2020 or in life, it came to make you stronger AND to prepare and position YOU for what is to come.

Sometimes, God will step in and initiate CHANGE in our plans. Especially, if they do not ALIGN with HIS plan and purpose for our life.

Even still, God is working it all together for your good. I encourage you today, to trust him with your GOALS, DREAMS and with your LIFE.

Hang in there, we’ve got 3 months left in the year. Let’s finish strong. Let’s set goals & slay!

8 Things to Help You Get Your Whole Life Together

Hi, My name is Kezia (Kizzy-uh)

I am a goal success “life” coach.

And I don’t have all my sh*t together.

For so long, I thought that to be a life coach, you had to have your whole life together, not realizing how unrealistic that is. I set expectations for my own self that really wasn’t fair. As a goal success coach, I’ve studied the art of setting SMART goals, which requires your goal to be realistic and attainable. Nobody is perfect. Not even the most successful and wealthy life coach in existence.

Over the past few years, I’ve learned a lot of tips and strategies to enhance personal growth and development. I’ve taken a lot of what I’ve learned and have implemented in into my daily routine and have seen results. But, here I am 4 years later, still trying to get my life ALL the way together. Of course, life will throw you a few surprises here and there AND it is inevitable that we will experience setbacks and disappointments. Many of them in fact. But, what I’ve realized is that the past few years, I’ve allowed my setbacks and disappointments to literally hold me back. Instead of pushing through and growing through the growing pains, I would just stop. Days, weeks and sometimes months would go by before I would get back on track .

December 31st, like most of the world, I turned over a new leaf. I don’t know what it is about 2020, but it just felt like I was being provided a clean slate by God & the universe. It’s like, I was given another chance to start over. And, let me tell you I have been going strong so far. We’re only two months in, but I’ve already experienced some amazing wins and a few setbacks as well. But, I’m proud of myself, because I have practiced what I preach. I have kept going!

8 Things I’m Doing That is Helping Me to Keep Going:

  1. Prayer
  2. Meditation
  3. Journaling
  4. Prioritizing self-care
  5. Cut back on eating fast food and caffeine
  6. Not being too hard on myself. If I make a mistake, it’s okay. If I miss a day, it’s okay.
  7. Not giving myself time to entertain excuses.
  8. Utilize Mel Robbins’ 5 Second Rule: Countdown from 5 and just do it! This is a great strategy to begin training your mind to shift focus from negative thoughts (excuses) and to focus on the positive instead.

There is one thing that has made all 8 so powerful for me. Consistantcy! The fact that I have done all 8 consistently has helped to:

  • Feel level-headed
  • Manage stress better
  • Get more things done!
  • Feel emotionally lighter & happier!
  • My prayer life/relationship with God is getting stronger
  • Manifested some amazing things already! (God blessed that I got a raise on my job in less than 6 months, I’ve added weights at the gym, I’ve checked something off my bucket list and had my first discovery call with a potential client!)

The key to getting YOUR whole life together is to do something different and to be consistent!

If you feel stuck or like 2020 is not starting off so great, I encourage you to try something different and to stick with it for awhile. Don’t give up on it so soon. And, when you accomplish a goal, or even a step.. celebrate. It’s okay to be proud of yourself & celebrate. But even so, the key is to KEEP GOING!

That being said, I can’t wait to see what else is to come in 2020!

7 Day Goal Success Challenge: Day 4 – Create an Action Plan

Welcome to Day 4 of our Goal Success Challenge!

Today is all about creating a plan of action!

To create your action plan, you’ll want to break down your goal into small action steps. Break it down into as many steps as possible. For each step, identify any limitation or limiting beliefs that you can think of. Then, for each limitation and limiting belief identify a possible solution (Plan B, C, D, etc.) or alternative. Set a date for each step if possible.

When you create your plan, approach it with the mindset of “flexibility.” The purpose of setting a date is to hold yourself accountable and serves as a way to track your progress. However, don’t be too hard on yourself, if circumstances arise that cause you to extend the date. Leave yourself a little wiggle room. We’re only human, things happen. The fact that you are identifying possible limitations and limiting beliefs and creating solutions or alternatives for them upfront is setting you up for success. You are giving yourself a much better shot at achieving your goal vs someone who will set a new year resolution and has no game plan at all. The benefit of having a flexible approach is that you can adjust and adapt as needed. Individuals who fail to do so, are more likely to give up on the pursuit of their goals.

Haven’t joined the challenge? You can still join us! Scroll down to get caught up on Days 1, 2 and 3. And, grab your checklist and the Set Goals & Slay workbook + planner below!

7 Day Goal Success Challenge: Day 2

Welcome to day 2 of our Goal Success Challenge!

Today is all about Identify what you want. And more specifically, getting clear about what you need to do to GET or MANIFEST what you want.

Reflect back to your visualization exercise and identify the following:

  • What was a key part of your life that made it your dream life?
  • What goal did you accomplish in order for that to become your dream life?

In step one, we completed a visualization exercise that allowed us to take a look at the big picture. Step two is where we begin to zoom in and take a look at what goal(s) we need to take to get to the big picture. This is a necessary step to take before we even begin to set our goals. Let’s build the foundation first, by getting really clear about what we want and what we need to do to get there.

Come back for Day 3 as we cover the 3rd step on our Goal Success Checklist. If you haven’t already, be sure to grab your checklist & the Set Goals & Slay Workbook + Planner below!

7 Day Goal Success Challenge: Day 1

Thank you for joining the 7 Day Challenge, where we are positioning ourselves for success in 2020!

This challenge is all about getting clear about what we want, setting strategic goals & creating an action plan that will give us our best shot at achieving our goal!

We don’t have to set goals and give up on them half way through. Many people set goals in January and by March, they’ve already given up on them. Maybe that was your story in 2019, but 2020 does not have to be a repeat.

Take the next seven days to get clear, get focused, to get motivated and prepared to slay some goals! Take a look at today’s video and grab your 7 Step Strategy Checklist & the Set Goals & Slay Workbook if you haven’t already!

Visualize what your life looks like AS IF you already have achieved or attained what you desire. Practice visualization through meditation, journaling or scripting (journaling in the present tense as if you HAVE IT now). While you visualize; ask yourself: How does it feel? What do I see? What do I hear, taste or smell? Tap in and connect with what you desire. Try to feel the emotions AS IF you already have it. As if IT IS already yours!

Come back for tomorrows video as we cover step 2 of our 7 Step Goal Success Strategy Checklist.