8 Things to Help You Get Your Whole Life Together

Hi, My name is Kezia (Kizzy-uh)

I am a goal success “life” coach.

And I don’t have all my sh*t together.

For so long, I thought that to be a life coach, you had to have your whole life together, not realizing how unrealistic that is. I set expectations for my own self that really wasn’t fair. As a goal success coach, I’ve studied the art of setting SMART goals, which requires your goal to be realistic and attainable. Nobody is perfect. Not even the most successful and wealthy life coach in existence.

Over the past few years, I’ve learned a lot of tips and strategies to enhance personal growth and development. I’ve taken a lot of what I’ve learned and have implemented in into my daily routine and have seen results. But, here I am 4 years later, still trying to get my life ALL the way together. Of course, life will throw you a few surprises here and there AND it is inevitable that we will experience setbacks and disappointments. Many of them in fact. But, what I’ve realized is that the past few years, I’ve allowed my setbacks and disappointments to literally hold me back. Instead of pushing through and growing through the growing pains, I would just stop. Days, weeks and sometimes months would go by before I would get back on track .

December 31st, like most of the world, I turned over a new leaf. I don’t know what it is about 2020, but it just felt like I was being provided a clean slate by God & the universe. It’s like, I was given another chance to start over. And, let me tell you I have been going strong so far. We’re only two months in, but I’ve already experienced some amazing wins and a few setbacks as well. But, I’m proud of myself, because I have practiced what I preach. I have kept going!

8 Things I’m Doing That is Helping Me to Keep Going:

  1. Prayer
  2. Meditation
  3. Journaling
  4. Prioritizing self-care
  5. Cut back on eating fast food and caffeine
  6. Not being too hard on myself. If I make a mistake, it’s okay. If I miss a day, it’s okay.
  7. Not giving myself time to entertain excuses.
  8. Utilize Mel Robbins’ 5 Second Rule: Countdown from 5 and just do it! This is a great strategy to begin training your mind to shift focus from negative thoughts (excuses) and to focus on the positive instead.

There is one thing that has made all 8 so powerful for me. Consistantcy! The fact that I have done all 8 consistently has helped to:

  • Feel level-headed
  • Manage stress better
  • Get more things done!
  • Feel emotionally lighter & happier!
  • My prayer life/relationship with God is getting stronger
  • Manifested some amazing things already! (God blessed that I got a raise on my job in less than 6 months, I’ve added weights at the gym, I’ve checked something off my bucket list and had my first discovery call with a potential client!)

The key to getting YOUR whole life together is to do something different and to be consistent!

If you feel stuck or like 2020 is not starting off so great, I encourage you to try something different and to stick with it for awhile. Don’t give up on it so soon. And, when you accomplish a goal, or even a step.. celebrate. It’s okay to be proud of yourself & celebrate. But even so, the key is to KEEP GOING!

That being said, I can’t wait to see what else is to come in 2020!

7 Day Goal Success Challenge: Day 4 – Create an Action Plan

Welcome to Day 4 of our Goal Success Challenge!

Today is all about creating a plan of action!

To create your action plan, you’ll want to break down your goal into small action steps. Break it down into as many steps as possible. For each step, identify any limitation or limiting beliefs that you can think of. Then, for each limitation and limiting belief identify a possible solution (Plan B, C, D, etc.) or alternative. Set a date for each step if possible.

When you create your plan, approach it with the mindset of “flexibility.” The purpose of setting a date is to hold yourself accountable and serves as a way to track your progress. However, don’t be too hard on yourself, if circumstances arise that cause you to extend the date. Leave yourself a little wiggle room. We’re only human, things happen. The fact that you are identifying possible limitations and limiting beliefs and creating solutions or alternatives for them upfront is setting you up for success. You are giving yourself a much better shot at achieving your goal vs someone who will set a new year resolution and has no game plan at all. The benefit of having a flexible approach is that you can adjust and adapt as needed. Individuals who fail to do so, are more likely to give up on the pursuit of their goals.

Haven’t joined the challenge? You can still join us! Scroll down to get caught up on Days 1, 2 and 3. And, grab your checklist and the Set Goals & Slay workbook + planner below!

7 Day Goal Success Challenge: Day 2

Welcome to day 2 of our Goal Success Challenge!

Today is all about Identify what you want. And more specifically, getting clear about what you need to do to GET or MANIFEST what you want.

Reflect back to your visualization exercise and identify the following:

  • What was a key part of your life that made it your dream life?
  • What goal did you accomplish in order for that to become your dream life?

In step one, we completed a visualization exercise that allowed us to take a look at the big picture. Step two is where we begin to zoom in and take a look at what goal(s) we need to take to get to the big picture. This is a necessary step to take before we even begin to set our goals. Let’s build the foundation first, by getting really clear about what we want and what we need to do to get there.

Come back for Day 3 as we cover the 3rd step on our Goal Success Checklist. If you haven’t already, be sure to grab your checklist & the Set Goals & Slay Workbook + Planner below!

7 Day Goal Success Challenge: Day 1

Thank you for joining the 7 Day Challenge, where we are positioning ourselves for success in 2020!

This challenge is all about getting clear about what we want, setting strategic goals & creating an action plan that will give us our best shot at achieving our goal!

We don’t have to set goals and give up on them half way through. Many people set goals in January and by March, they’ve already given up on them. Maybe that was your story in 2019, but 2020 does not have to be a repeat.

Take the next seven days to get clear, get focused, to get motivated and prepared to slay some goals! Take a look at today’s video and grab your 7 Step Strategy Checklist & the Set Goals & Slay Workbook if you haven’t already!

Visualize what your life looks like AS IF you already have achieved or attained what you desire. Practice visualization through meditation, journaling or scripting (journaling in the present tense as if you HAVE IT now). While you visualize; ask yourself: How does it feel? What do I see? What do I hear, taste or smell? Tap in and connect with what you desire. Try to feel the emotions AS IF you already have it. As if IT IS already yours!

Come back for tomorrows video as we cover step 2 of our 7 Step Goal Success Strategy Checklist.

How to Get Unstuck: Successfully Pursue and Achieve your Goals!

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Did you make a resolution or set a goal(s) at the beginning of the year? If so, where are you now? Are you currently working towards your goal or have you already thrown in the towel? According to research, 80% of New Years resolutions fall through by February! Why is that?

Let’s be real, most goals come with its own set of challenges. It can be an uphill battle. But, I will tell you this.. The difference between those who successfully reach their goal and those who do not, is their mindset! They’re mindset is different. Different how? Glad you asked. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “mindset is everything” countless times already. So much so, that it’s probably just another cliché’ to you. But, many cliché’s hold a whole lot of truth. As does this one. Your mindset determines whether or not you will be successful in life or not. A lot of times we place the blame, for our lack of success or consistency on luck, circumstances or other people. But, the truth is, we have more control than most realize. You have more control over your results/outcome than you realize.  People and circumstances, both the good, bad and the ugly, only have the power to influence. Influence what exactly? Our actions or inaction. How we react to the people and things that happen in our lives is what defines us. It’s not the event that defines who we are; it’s our reaction to it that defines who we are and determines our success or failure.

If you have found yourself giving up and throwing in the towel, when it comes to accomplishing your goals, then you may agree that you got stuck along the way. It’s not that the desire to reach that goal has dissipated. It’s just that life happened and influenced your inaction. Your inaction is a direct effect of your mindset.  In my new book, Empower You, I talk a lot about developing a positive, success mindset. This kind of mindset is the kind of mindset that will enable you to keep going, despite a lack of motivation, a lack of support, etc. If you’d like to learn more about developing a success mindset that will help you successfully pursue your goals, then I invite you to grab your copy of my book! Just click HERE.

I am sure that you set your goal for a reason. So, if you’ve temporarily put the pursuit of your goal on hold, then I encourage you to learn how to get unstuck! Too many people have lived and died, without going after their dreams. And, I am certain that a good amount of those individuals did not have a positive, success mindset and likely gave up when they got stuck , assuming that they tried at all. I’m just saying. With all that being said, I don’t want you to ever feel like you won’t ever be able to reach your goals because you feel stuck. Understand that pursuing your goal is a process. And, depending on the goal, it likely won’t happen overnight. Feeling stuck is a part of the process. Your success is dependent on your ability to overcome setbacks, overwhelm and feelings like feeling stuck! Here are 3 things that you can do to get unstuck!

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1) Unwind. Take time to relax and unwind. Do something that is unrelated to your goals and dreams, but is something that you thoroughly enjoy. Go on a staycation or vacation if possible. Do something or go somewhere that will allow for a change of scenery. I suggest doing this, because often times, getting a change of scenery and a change of pace can help to de-clutter your mind and relax mentally and emotionally. Relax your body and your mind should begin to relax as well. Try yoga, meditation or prayer. Try detoxing or going on a fast or cleanse. Sometimes, giving your physical body rest and re-boot can have a direct effect on your mentality as well. Put yourself in position to start fresh.

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2) Embrace where you are. Be honest with yourself about where you stand in the pursuit of your goals. Take full responsibility for your actions or inaction. Acknowledge the problem or mistake. Instead of placing the blame on other people and circumstances, shine the light on yourself. Instead of deflecting and avoiding your reality and what it is that you really want to have or where you desire to be, face it. Embrace every experience that has led you to this moment in time, right here, right now. Accept it for what it is. A learning opportunity. Make up in your mind that you are going to move forward. Decide that you are going to keep going!

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3) Shift your perspective. As mentioned before, mindset is everything! Your mindset is the sum of your attitude/beliefs about something or someone. How do you perceive your goal and your ability to pursue and accomplish that goal? If you are feeling like your goal is difficult to reach, then I suggest a do-over. Go back and re-write that goal and ensure that you have constructed a SMART goal. A SMART goal is specific, measurable, achievable, relevant or realistic and trackable! Check out my Set Goals & Slay Starter pack for help in setting strategic goals for success! (Click HERE)

It’s okay to feel stuck. It is a part of the process. It is common. But, it is up to you to decide not to stay there. Getting stuck is often inevitable, but staying stuck is a choice! You have more control, more say-so in the matter than you may have realized initially. No one can pursue your dream for you. Don’t give people or circumstances more power over your goals and dreams than they really have. They only have as much power as you allow them to have. Really, they only have the power to influence your action or inaction.

Take back your power! Don’t stay stuck! Take action!

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