3 Steps to Combating & Conquering Perfectionism: So You Can Stop Waiting and Start Slaying Your Goals

Is perfectionism preventing you from achieving your goal?

Maybe you’ve been wanting to publish your first book or launch your first business. Maybe, you been thinking about starting a podcast or changing careers.

Whatever your dream is, you’ve been putting it off because you don’t feel like you are ready, qualified or good enough. Or, you don’t believe your product or service is PERFECT.

The first thing I want you to know, is that I understand. So, everything I am sharing with you today, comes from a place of personal experience.

I’ve been blessed to write and publish 3 books, start a business and changed careers, less than 1 year ago, all of that, while being an over-thinker. I over think almost EVERYTHING; especially when it comes to potentially LIFE CHANGING decisions.

Not only that, but I love to PLAN. I get almost as much enjoyment in the process of planning as I do, the final result. However, therein lies the opportunity to overthink which for me, often leads to wanting to perfect whatever the task is at hand.

In order to reach the stage of RELEASE, I had to learn to push past my FEARS of IMPERFECTION and release my self and my gifts.

If you want to combat and conquer PERFECTIONISM you are going to RELEASE.

You must give yourself permission to be great. No one can do this for you.

Of course, it’s sounds simple, but there’s a few things you’ll need to do so that you CAN release, combat and conquer!

Tip #1

KNOW YOUR WHY. Here are two questions that you should ask yourself:

What is my WHY factor? (My overall reason for doing what I do)

Is my why BIG enough?

Your WHY should be greater than your insecurities and your limiting belief; any reason you use to justify not taking action… not stepping out on faith, not launching the biz or book, not stepping outside of your comfort zone and going for what you really want.

If your WHY is not big enough, then go back to the drawing board and list ALL the ways that you accomplishing your goal will impact you, those you love AND what will happen IF you do not accomplish your goal.

The benefit of knowing your WHY and having a WHY that is greater than your desire for perfection is that it will motivate you to KEEP GOING. You WHY should motivate you! It should persuade you to take strategic action!

Tip #2

FIND AN ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER. In January, I joined a mentorship program so that I can 1) Be mentored by someone who is already levels above me, doing and succeeding at what I desire to do AND 2) To be surrounded by like-minded individuals, who are more-so on my level, but are striving to higher heights as well. With this mentorship program comes assignments, meetings, deadlines and social interaction. Altogether, this works to hold ME accountable to the goals that I set at the start and am working toward. We hold each other accountable and my mentor, the coach, holds me accountable as well. I share all that to say this, find yourself SOMEONE; be it, a coach, a mentor, a friend or family member.. Find someone to hold you accountable for your actions or non-actions as it pertains to the pursuit of your goals. Find someone who will not only tell you what you WANT to hear, but what you NEED to hear as well. This could be a game-changer for those of you who having been going at your goals without a support system.

Tip # 3

SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE. The ultimate key to combating perfectionism IS shifting your perception of your imperfection.

I know, here I go again talking about shifting your MINDSET. But, literally, I talk about it all the time, because it is the game-changer for just about everything in life. Most importantly, your ability to achieve your goals.

So, what you want to do is shift your perception, so that you see your imperfection, problem or disadvantage for what it can be.

See your disadvantage as an advantage. And advantage to attract YOUR ideal audience or clients. An advantage to be relatable. See it as an ASSET.

It can be the one thing that makes you stand out or noticeable in a crowd or in an oversaturated market. And, it can be what ATTRACTS what is ideal for you, to you… Ideal clients, ideal opportunities, connections, etc.

It CAN be, IF you SHIFT your perception, embrace the flaws and allow it to WORK for you!

Your IMPERFECTION could very well be your superpower.

For more tips & strategies on slaying your goals, I encourage you to read my blog on tackling limiting beliefs. This is beneficial to getting to the root issue of perfectionism and taking steps to conquering it.

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Goal Achievement: How to Get Started and Stop Stopping

You’ve got this BIG dream that you’ve been pursuing but for some reason you have not made the progress you were hoping you would’ve by now. It’s May, and you’re beginning to feel a bit discouraged. You want to achieve your goals, but you keep stopping. You started out strong and then along the way you loss momentum, you slowed down and became inconsistent. You’ve reached a point where you’re considering giving up entirely.. You’ve have thoughts like: Maybe I’m just not cut out for this. Maybe it’s not meant for me after all..

I know it doesn’t look good right now! You’ve experienced a setback and it’s hard to envision yourself bouncing back. But hear me on this.. 2020 is still YOUR year! Your GOAL is still worth pursuing. And, you are STILL more than capable! You were created with PURPOSE and God has a divine plan for your life. The Corona-virus or any other setback cannot CANCEL God’s will for your life. He has plans to give you a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29: 11 – 13). The setback you are experiencing in your life is temporary. Delayed does not mean denied. God gave you that passion and assigned purpose to your life. Don’t count yourself out, because you’ve slowed down or contemplated stopping. If you’ve stopped, it’s not too late to begin again.

I’m not here to just motivate or encourage you. I am here to give you practical tips for creating a SHIFT in your life. You don’t have to STOP. Here’s what you can do to KEEP going.

The top reasons people STOP or FAIL to START are:

Fear

Perfectionism

Waiting for a right time

AND

Not having an action plan/strategy

Some of us STOP or fail to get started often because of a combination of reasons. Maybe it’s fear or perfectionism.. But, I believe it is most commonly combined with not having the RIGHT PLAN. Not having the right plan is like having a destination in mind, somewhere you’ve never traveled before and just idoly wandering with no clue as to how you’re going to get there. Here this! YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF TO DO MORE THAN “JUST WINGING IT” when it comes to the pursuit of your dreams.

A real plan is when you have identified where you’re going, what you need to get there, how you’re going to get there and what you will do if/when something doesn’t quite go as plan A.. what is your plan B, C or D. Check out some of my past blog posts where we break down setting strategic goals and creating a plan of action.

You can create a strategy that will help you to STOP stopping OR that will encourage you START!

Here’s how:

1

IF you really want to STOP stopping, the first thing you need to do is go back to the drawing board and ask yourself these questions:

Does my goal reflect my dream?

Remember, your goal(s) are just a break down (steps) leading towards the ultimate dream (the big picture). If your goals are not in alignment with the ultimate dream, then you are just doing “busy work” that will lead to burnout and lack of motivation very quickly.

Is my goal big enough?

What is my WHY factor? (Why do I want to achieve this goal? What will happen if I do not achieve this goal? What will happen/change WHEN I achieve my goal?)

2

Figure out why you keep stopping. Take time to analyze where you are at, why you keep stopping and then for each reason, brainstorm possible alternate routes/solutions. You should never give up on you goals without exploring other options first.

3

Create a support system by:

Getting an accountability partner, coach or mentor.

AND

Utilizing calendars/planers, habit trackers or lists and write out your goals daily, to remind you of your goals and to hold yourself accountable.

In the upcoming blogs, we will tackle the top reasons many people STOP or fail to start, i.e. fear, procrastination, perfectionism, etc.

By completing each of the steps above, you can CREATE a STRATEGY to slay your goals without STOPPING. And, life happens, so if you do stop, if you create the RIGHT plan, you should feel comfortable enough to pick-up where you left off and keep going.

I’m just trying to help someone to KEEP GOING, because I know it gets rough and tough out here sometimes. WE are all experiencing setbacks in these uncertain times and have had to pivot and adjust to what is quickly becoming our new normal.

It may not be easy to start OR to keep going, but I promise you, with the RIGHT strategy you CAN and when you do, it will be worth it!

You don’t have to chase your goals alone! I am here to offer accountability and support as your set and slay your BIG + Impossible looking goals. It is possible IF you have the Right mindset, Right goal and the Right strategy. Ready to create the strategy you need to set goals and slay? Click HERE to learn more about Goal Success Strategy Sessions.

3 Ways to Combat Depression During Quarantine

During this season we are experiencing uncertain times. Many of us have had to adjust and adapt to a new normal. Although temporary, we are having to practice social distancing and self isolate. For those of us who thrive off of social interaction, this can be a significant challenge. But really, whether you consider yourself to be an introvert, extrovert or ambivert, the whole concept of social distancing and being isolated for extended periods of time can be an extreme challenge and can trigger toxic thoughts and emotions that can lead to depression.

I consider myself to be an ambivert. I enjoy social interaction, being outdoors and staying busy. Thing is, it drains my energy very quickly and I begin to feel burnt out. This is when I enjoy having my “me time” to relax and recharge, alone or with family. During this quarantine I have had to adjust. I’ve began working from home and spending 99% of my time, at home! This has been a major CHALLENGE for me, because I am ALWAYS on the go.. I prefer working out at the gym, working on my blog and sidehustle at coffee shops, I love spending my free time outdoors exploring.. So, now that I’ve had to been indoors for extended periods of time, I’ve had to COMBAT negative thoughts and feeling of depression, hard.

There have been moments when I want to curl up under the covers and hibernate. There have been days when I didn’t want to get out the bed, I just wanted to disappear. Sometimes, I’ve had thoughts of just running off and starting over.. stemming from thoughts of being forgotten, unnoticed or cared for… your thoughts can runaway from you if you’re not self-aware and proactive. I share this with you today, because there are 3 things that I have been doing to help combat depression and that I believe is NECESSARY to combating depression, especially during this quarantine season.

HERE ARE 3 THINGS YOU CAN DO TO COMBAT DEPRESSION DURING QUARANTINE

TIP #1

KEEP A ROUTINE. Make the adjustments that you need to make to your schedule, set a routine and stick with it! This will provide a sense of normalcy and stability and will lessen the shock of this new normal.

TIP #2

STAY SOCIAL. There are many ways to stay social while continuing to practice social distancing and self isolation. You can text or pick up the phone and call family and friends. You can utilize social media and video messaging. You can go for a walk around your apartment complex or neighborhood, smile and say hi, while staying 6 – 10ft apart from those you pass by. Small things like this, we may take for granted, but are beneficial to your overall mental and emotional health.

TIP #3

STAY ACTIVE AND GET SOME SUN. Keep your physical health a priority during this time and well, for always really! Keep your body moving; go for daily walks, jogs, hiking or whatever you enjoy. Spend at least 15 minutes a day outside, getting that natural Vitamin D from sunlight. And, makes sure to take your vitamins daily. Whether or not you stay active and get sunlight regularly will impact your mental and emotional well-being.

BONUS: FEED YOURSELF POSITIVITY. Be mindful of what you allow your self to digest during this time. Listen to positve, uplifing, motivational or educational content via podcasts, social media, YouTube, etc! Invest in yourself, by enhancing your knowledge and skills.

During this time, I want you to know that you my friend are not alone. We are all being impacted by this pandemic is some type of way. We are all having to adjust and adapt in these uncertain times. We may not know how long this will last, but know that you can get through this. Keep working on those big goals and dreams of yours and stay proactive; doing what you can to COMBAT depression.

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How to Reprogram Your Mind for Success

In the days we are living in now, it is beneficial, now more than ever before, to have a healthy mindset. Soo many people are dealing with mental health challenges such as depression and anxiety. As a mental health advocate, and someone who has worked in the field with both children, teenagers and adults, I’ve seen how imperative it is to develop healthy habits that will support and influence positive mental and emotional health.

There are things that we all should be doing on a consistent basis to create and maintain a healthy life balance; mental, emotional, physical, spiritual and financial. Today, I want to tackle mental and emotional health.. many of which will have a positive effect on your life physically, spiritually and financially as well.

Today, I am going to share with you 2 things that you can START doing NOW, to reprogram your mind for success in every area of your life. As always, these tips are most effective when you do them consistantly. By reprogramming your mindset, you can: Become more confident, develop a positive success mindset and become more aware and open to opportunities you would be closed off to otherwise.

2 Ways to Start Reprogramming Your Mind Now

1

Get a sheet of paper and fold it in half, hot dog style. On the left half, MAKE A LIST of your most common/reoccurring negative thoughts about yourself AND about your life.

THEN, for each negative thought or limiting belief, CREATE a positive affirmation and write it directly across from the negative thought, on the right side. READ through your list, first the negative and then the positive, line by line, EVERYDAY. This will help enhance your awareness. After awhile, you will begin to become aware of the thought as soon as it crosses your mind. WHEN this happens, be sure to pause, acknowledge the thought and then replace it with the positive affirmation. SPEAK the affirmation aloud with authority and conviction. You may not believe the affirmation in the beginning, but over time, you will.

A huge part of changing or shifting your mindset, so you can change your life IS shifting your perspective of life’s circumstances. BUT this exercise will help you to SHIFT your perspective of yourself first. And why not? When, you ARE The creator of your reality, as God has blessed you with freedom of choice, right?

2

LISTEN to positive affirmations while you are asleep. Start by doing a 5 or 10 minute meditation, or longer if you’d like, before you drift off to sleep. After your meditation, set your affirmations to play while you sleep throughout the night.This is great accompanied by binaural beats. Lastly, when you awake, meditate for 5 to 10 minutes.

When doing this step, I encourage you to create a YouTube playlist. That way you can choose specific guided meditations and affirmations to listen to and can put them in the order you like and it will be ready to go when you are. You can always create multiple playlists or add/remove whenever you want, as amazing meditations are added to YouTube often. Also, when you hit play from within the playlist you won’t have to worry about it stopping after the first video finishes.

In our daily lives, we operate using our CONSCIOUS mind. However, our SUBCONSCIOUS mind is the driving force behind what we think and do habitually. So, we want to REPROGRAM our subconsious mind to develope healthy thinking and living habits. By listenting to positive affirmations while you sleep, your subconcious mind is doing all the heavy lifting, reprogramming itself.

These are by far the TOP 2 strategies I recommend when it comes to reprogramming your mindset. You will not only begin to THINK better, but you will begin to FEEL better about yourself and about your life as well. Remember, when you change your mindset, you can change your life!

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How to Adjust to Your New Normal, Without Quitting Your Goals

This pandemic has effected us in so many ways. It has forced us as to adjust to a new normal. Even though our new normal is temporary, it’s safe to say, there are some aspects of our day to day living that will never be the same. Right now, most of us are living outside of our comfort zones, because we have to. Some of us have found ourselves in scenarios where we have to think outside of the box. We are all being impacted by Covid-19 in some type of way.

Aside from the obvious impacts economically, physically and socially, this pandemic has impacted individuals as it relates to their goals. Many of us began the year off feeling motivated and optimistic about the exciting opportunities 2020 would bring! However, many of us are now looking at our dreams and feel hopeless, because of everything that is going on in our world today. And while, even I, as a Goal Success Coach harp on how essential it is to anticipate and plan for potential setbacks upfront, none of us could have anticipated such a disturbance such as this coronavirus. I get it. I’m in this thing too. I came into 2020 with high hopes and big dreams and this pandemic as definitely disrupted my plans and has had me feeling a little.. lost.

Despite how discouraged this setback has caused me to feel at times, I am not giving up on my 2020 goals and I encourage you not to as well. Instead of giving up on your dreams, pivot.. You can get to your destination, but you’re going to have to take another route. My friend, there is opportunity in taking an alternative route. Even if it’s the long way, that simply means there’s more opportunities to learn and grow from. Shift your focus so that you can see this as a blessing in disguise.

Don’t give up on your 2020 Goals.. Instead, Pivot. Take time to shift your mindset and focus your attention on your action plan. This will allow you to become aware of opportunities that you would not see otherwise.

Step 1: Pause. Be still and breath. Allow yourself to feel the emotions; cry if you need, scream if you need to. Just be in the moment and feel. Feel the frustration, the discouragement, the anxiety.. Accept the moment for what it is.. A moment, that will eventually pass, making way for more positive and enjoyable emotions. A great way to pause is by meditating or practicing mindfulness.

Step 2: Identify alternative routes; solutions and resources. Go back to the drawing board.. that’s your vision board, your vision book, your written goals and plan of action. Explore different options, see what you need to adjust. Don’t give up on your goal just because plan A didn’t go as planned.

Take time re-adjust. Re-adjust your attitude, your mindset and your plan!

Going forward, when you set your goals and create your action plans, create in with FLEXIBILITY in mind. Meaning that you identify possible limitations and limiting beliefs upfront. Identify possible solutions, alternative and resources that may come in handy. Anticipate possible setbacks and disruptions so that your plan of action is setback and disruption-proof!

Don’t give up on your 2020 goals! We still have 3 quarters left in the year. This is the time where you should be reflecting on quarter 1 and re-adjusting as needed, anyway!

Wishing you a happy and productive week! Stay prayerful, stay safe, stay healthy. Blessings to you all!

How to Unplug and Hit Reset on 2020

You said 2020 was going to be your year . The year you will finally take a leap of faith and pursue your dreams. But so far, most of us wish we could unplug 2020, wait 20 seconds and plug it back in again. I mean, on top of our own excuses, Jan – March alone has given us a few more reason to feel discourage and to procrastinate.

But, I encourage you to consider this..

You CAN unplug and hit the reset button on 2020.

Yes, you read that right. You can unplug and hit the reset button on 2020.. It begins with YOU make a conscious decision to SHIFT your mindset.

You can shift your MINDSET by:

1) Changing your focus. Focus more on the positive things in life and less on the negative .

HOW:

  • Set limits. LIMIT the amount of time you allow yourself to indulge in the news via social media and television.
  • While practicing social distancing, THINK about the individuals and environments in your life that are TOXIC and consider how you have distance yourself from those people or environments even after this current challenge has calmed.
  • JOURNAL daily to help you release, become aware of and to process your thoughts and emotions.
  • MEDITATE daily to help gain CLARITY and CONTROL aka AWARENESS of your thoughts. That way, you will recognize when negative thoughts bombard your mind and then replace it with a positive thought. And then, in that moment, continue to meditate on that positive thought.

Shifting your mindset is really just shifting your focus, by shifting your thoughts, over and over again. It sounds like an easy concept at surface level, but please hear me on this.. It takes work. It takes consistantcy. Sometimes, you have to do the DIRTY work to gain leverage over NEGATIVE thoughts.

If you find yourself struggle with the same negative thoughts/limiting beliefs, here’s what I suggest you do:

  1. Make a list of reoccurring negative thoughts and limiting beliefs
  2. For each thought/belief, write down a positive AFFIRMATION that you will remember. Write out that affirmation EVERY day for the next 21 days.
  3. Every time that negative thought or belief comes to mind, repeat the affirmation to yourself 10 times. When your first starting at, I encourage quoting the affirmation out load when possible. If the negative thought or limiting belief is about YOU specifically, rather than a particular situation/scenario, practice quoting the affirmations to yourself as you look at your reflection in the mirror. Another idea you can try; record yourself repeating the affirmations 10+ times and then listen to the recordings as you meditate (use headphones for best experience).

The more you do this, the EASIER it will become to RECOGNIZE (awareness) the negative thoughts/limiting beliefs and to COMBAT it.

To hit the RESET button on 2020, we must shift our THINKING/PERSPECTIVE of ourselves and of 2020.. IF you shift your mindset, you’ll be able to see the OPPORTUNITIES that may come as a result of the challenges we have and currently are facing. For example, many people have had a SIDE-HUSTLE or business idea that they’ve been wanting to start, but have yet to start because of their limiting belief that they CAN’T because they don’t have enough time. Those who have shifted there focus enough to see an opportunity have already started working on their business idea because they SEE the opportunity of TIME. Even if temporary, they have time NOW to START and to strategize a plan that will allow them to continue their pursuit AFTER things begin to return back to normal.

The fact is, we are living in chaotic, uncomfortable and uncertain times. BUT, even in this there is still HOPE and OPPORTUNITY. If you make the decide to shift your mindset, you will see it.

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Conquer Your Limiting Beliefs

The human mind is a battle field. Every day we are tempted with negative thoughts and challenging situations. Some days we fight and conquer, other days we succumb. Many people live day to day without the realization that it is up to them to fight and conquer their limitations and limiting beliefs.

IF we want to SLAY our goals, we must make the conscious decision to confront and conquer our limitations and limiting beliefs, every day.

I am going to share with you HOW you can begin to SHIFT and TRANSFORM your mindset; from a negative to a positive success “growth” mindset, that will position you to confront and conquer your limitations and limiting belief.

A limitation is anything that serves as an excuse, to justify not taking strategic action to pursue your goals. Example: I don’t have enough time or money to start my business.

Limiting beliefs are negative thoughts that you allow to justify not taking strategic action to pursue your goals. Example: I am not good enough or qualified for people to take me seriously.

Here are the facts about Limitations & Limiting Beliefs:

We ALL battle negative thoughts and challenging situations everyday.

It is within our control to combat negative thoughts and to perceive our challenging situations in a positive way.

It is possible, but it also takes practice to attain and maintain a positive mindset and optimistic perspective in life.

A positive success “growth” mindset and an optimistic perspective in life WILL help you attract and take action (steps) that are in direct alignment with the goals you wish to achieve. It will also help you ATTRACT more positive opportunities and experiences into your life.

No matter how positive/optimistic you are, you will still confront negative thoughts and challenging situations. BUT you will be better equipt to GROW through it, because of the positive success “growth” mindset that you have.

A positive success “growth” mindset will allow you to SEE your challenges (negative situations), setbacks, etc. as a learning opportunity, as a setup in disguise, an opportunity to recalibrate, to realign and more.

You decide, each time you are faced with a negative thought or challenging situation, whether or not you will allow it to control you OR if you will confront and conquer it.

The purpose of this blog post is to present you with practical tips and tools that you can use to CONFRONT and CONQUER your limitations and limiting beliefs.

If you have decided to take strategic action to confront and conquer your limitations and limiting beliefs, congratulations! You have just made a decision that will ultimately change the trajectory of your life. Because now, you are about to WORK to transform your mindset.

By implementing the following tips into your daily routine, you will begin to SEE results in your THINKING and in your overall perspective of your self, you circumstance and life itself.

What can you do to TRANSFORM your Mindset?

Meditation – You can find a number of guided and non-guided, verbal and subliminal an subliminal meditations and visualization exercises on YouTube for a variety of topics such as anxiety, stress, depression, mental or emotional healing, relaxation, energy boosting, self-love and confidence, client attraction and so much more!

Affirm Yourself – Affirmations can be extremely powerful IF you know how to utilize them in a way that will work for YOU. This is important, because many people just think of affirmations as a cliche’ quote that sounds good on the back of a book or as your caption for your Instagram and Facebook post. But, affirmations are so POWERFUL when you put them to work!

Here are a few ways you can get AFFIRMATIONS to work for you:

  • Choose 5 to 10 affirmations to write and speak out loud; with conviction/enthusiasm DAILY
  • Create affirmation Post IT Notes and to stick on your bathroom mirror
  • Download the Sticky Note app & post affirmations on your Laptop and Cellphone screen savers
  • Hack your social media news feeds by follow multiple pages that post multiple affirmations throughout the day
  • Listen to affirmations while meditating AND as you sleep *there are 8 hr affirmations on YouTube* This is a great way to re-program and transform your mind (subliminal) without having to do anything but SLEEP!

Move – Get your body moving! And while you do so, affirm yourself! You can do this a variety of way; but I’ll share what I do: I go to the gym, if I have a lot on my mind and I walk a mile around the track. As I walk, I rehearse the affirmations (goals) that I write out daily as I walk. If I’m feel low confidence, I affirm myself with affirmations specific to confidence. Sometimes I pray as I walk. Prayer is also a form of meditation.

Often times, when I’m battling thoughts of anxiety or depression, I go for a walk in the park and affirm myself. This way, I’m getting that Vitamin D and being around people without having one on one contact or having to socialize helps me during those times vs shutting myself indoors or finding comfort in my bed sheets. All I’m saying is, FIND what works for you and do it consistently.

Journal – This is a great way to clear your mind. You can make a list, you can keep it short or you can keeping writing until you feel a sense of clarity or relief. There doesn’t have to be any particular rule or format to follow. The awesome thing about it, is that it works.

Read self-help, personal growth and development books on Mindset. Authors and Experts I recommend studying are: Brian Tracy, Bob Proctor and Dr Carol Dweck. I also have a book called Empower You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind that is a 70 Day Devotional geared towards shifting and shaping your mindset from a negative mindset to a positive, success “growth” mindset. Inside my book, I include a full list of authors/experts and books on mindset, success and personal development, that I have read and studied. In fact, everything that I share with you is based on what I have learned and applied to my own life.

My best advice is to choose multiple of these to try and begin rotating them throughout your week. Let’s say you choose to start meditating and journaling. You don’t have to meditate or journal every day.

By implementing a few of these activities into your daily routine, I believe that you will begin to not only become more self-aware, but you will develop a greater peace of mind, a positive success “growth” mindset and a more optimistic perspective in life!

Manifestation Day

Before you plan & take action, you need to have a clear vision of where you want to go and what you want to achieve!

If you have dreams & goals that you WANT to achieve, but STRUGGLE to believe that it can happen for you, try this!

Set aside 1 day and call it Manifestation Day. This is the day where you will TEST DRIVE YOUR DREAM.

Take time to write over your goals and pray over them!

Take a look at your vision board and make a short-list of ALL the goals you have that you can test drive. For example: IF you have a photo of your dream car on your vision board, this is the day you will visit the car lot.. learn about the car, touch the car, inhale that new car scent, sit in your car, take it for a spin!

Another example: Your goal is to buy your first home. So, go look at houses! Attend a few open houses. Buy 1 item th you you want to put in your home (like a small home decor item).

I reccomend having a Manifestation Day because it takes visualization to the next level. It can also enhance motivation to TAKE STRATEGIC ACTION to achieve the goal.

Now, let’s say you have goals that aren’t tangible; for instance self-confidence or peace of mind! For theses, I suggest 2 things:

1) Customize your laptop and cellphone screensaver and wallpaper with an image or rotating images that represent (reflects or reminds you of) that goal.

2) Hack your social media feeds! Go follow 5 – 10 pages, at minimum, of pages that reflect your goal. I advise doing this for your tangible goals as well.

Example: My dream car is a Black Jeep Wrangler Unlimited.. So, I’ve followes multiple pages associated with Black Jeep Wranglers and now I see photos of my dream car pretty often as I scroll through my feed.

Another Idea..
Watch videos of or related to your dream/goal on YouTube

Use Pinterest as your virtual vision board!

Last month, I set aside 1 Saturday where I went I wrote out my top goals for 2020, prayed over them and then I took them for a test drive. I went to the car lot and learned about my dream car and took photos beside it.

Another goal of mine is to become a homeowner and to move closer to my job. So, I spent a couple hours house hunting and even found a home where, as soon as I saw it, I yelled “That’s it! That’s the one!” This home literally matched what I imagine in my mind during meditation and visualization exercises! It was an exciting moment.

Here is a photo or that exact home.


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It’s That Time of Year..

Can you believe it!? It’s already that time of year!! This is that time of year where most people are 1) Gaining Momentum OR 2) Giving Up on their goals.

Studies have shown that by February, 80% of Americans QUIT their New Year Resolutions! Only 8% of Americans KEEP their goal ALL year. AND check this! By January 12th, post people QUIT their goals… It’s March.. So, Imagine how many have already given up..

IF you are still going.. sis, I’m proud of you! Keep going! 👑

IF you have already given up.. it’s okay to START over! Be encouraged 👑

IF you have NOT started yet, because of fear, doubt, insecurity, etc… Focus your attention & energy on your WHY and START. NOW is the PERFECT time to begin! I’m rooting for you. You got this! 👑

8 Things to Help You Get Your Whole Life Together

Hi, My name is Kezia (Kizzy-uh)

I am a goal success “life” coach.

And I don’t have all my sh*t together.

For so long, I thought that to be a life coach, you had to have your whole life together, not realizing how unrealistic that is. I set expectations for my own self that really wasn’t fair. As a goal success coach, I’ve studied the art of setting SMART goals, which requires your goal to be realistic and attainable. Nobody is perfect. Not even the most successful and wealthy life coach in existence.

Over the past few years, I’ve learned a lot of tips and strategies to enhance personal growth and development. I’ve taken a lot of what I’ve learned and have implemented in into my daily routine and have seen results. But, here I am 4 years later, still trying to get my life ALL the way together. Of course, life will throw you a few surprises here and there AND it is inevitable that we will experience setbacks and disappointments. Many of them in fact. But, what I’ve realized is that the past few years, I’ve allowed my setbacks and disappointments to literally hold me back. Instead of pushing through and growing through the growing pains, I would just stop. Days, weeks and sometimes months would go by before I would get back on track .

December 31st, like most of the world, I turned over a new leaf. I don’t know what it is about 2020, but it just felt like I was being provided a clean slate by God & the universe. It’s like, I was given another chance to start over. And, let me tell you I have been going strong so far. We’re only two months in, but I’ve already experienced some amazing wins and a few setbacks as well. But, I’m proud of myself, because I have practiced what I preach. I have kept going!

8 Things I’m Doing That is Helping Me to Keep Going:

  1. Prayer
  2. Meditation
  3. Journaling
  4. Prioritizing self-care
  5. Cut back on eating fast food and caffeine
  6. Not being too hard on myself. If I make a mistake, it’s okay. If I miss a day, it’s okay.
  7. Not giving myself time to entertain excuses.
  8. Utilize Mel Robbins’ 5 Second Rule: Countdown from 5 and just do it! This is a great strategy to begin training your mind to shift focus from negative thoughts (excuses) and to focus on the positive instead.

There is one thing that has made all 8 so powerful for me. Consistantcy! The fact that I have done all 8 consistently has helped to:

  • Feel level-headed
  • Manage stress better
  • Get more things done!
  • Feel emotionally lighter & happier!
  • My prayer life/relationship with God is getting stronger
  • Manifested some amazing things already! (God blessed that I got a raise on my job in less than 6 months, I’ve added weights at the gym, I’ve checked something off my bucket list and had my first discovery call with a potential client!)

The key to getting YOUR whole life together is to do something different and to be consistent!

If you feel stuck or like 2020 is not starting off so great, I encourage you to try something different and to stick with it for awhile. Don’t give up on it so soon. And, when you accomplish a goal, or even a step.. celebrate. It’s okay to be proud of yourself & celebrate. But even so, the key is to KEEP GOING!

That being said, I can’t wait to see what else is to come in 2020!