3 Steps to Combating & Conquering Perfectionism: So You Can Stop Waiting and Start Slaying Your Goals

Is perfectionism preventing you from achieving your goal?

Maybe you’ve been wanting to publish your first book or launch your first business. Maybe, you been thinking about starting a podcast or changing careers.

Whatever your dream is, you’ve been putting it off because you don’t feel like you are ready, qualified or good enough. Or, you don’t believe your product or service is PERFECT.

The first thing I want you to know, is that I understand. So, everything I am sharing with you today, comes from a place of personal experience.

I’ve been blessed to write and publish 3 books, start a business and changed careers, less than 1 year ago, all of that, while being an over-thinker. I over think almost EVERYTHING; especially when it comes to potentially LIFE CHANGING decisions.

Not only that, but I love to PLAN. I get almost as much enjoyment in the process of planning as I do, the final result. However, therein lies the opportunity to overthink which for me, often leads to wanting to perfect whatever the task is at hand.

In order to reach the stage of RELEASE, I had to learn to push past my FEARS of IMPERFECTION and release my self and my gifts.

If you want to combat and conquer PERFECTIONISM you are going to RELEASE.

You must give yourself permission to be great. No one can do this for you.

Of course, it’s sounds simple, but there’s a few things you’ll need to do so that you CAN release, combat and conquer!

Tip #1

KNOW YOUR WHY. Here are two questions that you should ask yourself:

What is my WHY factor? (My overall reason for doing what I do)

Is my why BIG enough?

Your WHY should be greater than your insecurities and your limiting belief; any reason you use to justify not taking action… not stepping out on faith, not launching the biz or book, not stepping outside of your comfort zone and going for what you really want.

If your WHY is not big enough, then go back to the drawing board and list ALL the ways that you accomplishing your goal will impact you, those you love AND what will happen IF you do not accomplish your goal.

The benefit of knowing your WHY and having a WHY that is greater than your desire for perfection is that it will motivate you to KEEP GOING. You WHY should motivate you! It should persuade you to take strategic action!

Tip #2

FIND AN ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER. In January, I joined a mentorship program so that I can 1) Be mentored by someone who is already levels above me, doing and succeeding at what I desire to do AND 2) To be surrounded by like-minded individuals, who are more-so on my level, but are striving to higher heights as well. With this mentorship program comes assignments, meetings, deadlines and social interaction. Altogether, this works to hold ME accountable to the goals that I set at the start and am working toward. We hold each other accountable and my mentor, the coach, holds me accountable as well. I share all that to say this, find yourself SOMEONE; be it, a coach, a mentor, a friend or family member.. Find someone to hold you accountable for your actions or non-actions as it pertains to the pursuit of your goals. Find someone who will not only tell you what you WANT to hear, but what you NEED to hear as well. This could be a game-changer for those of you who having been going at your goals without a support system.

Tip # 3

SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE. The ultimate key to combating perfectionism IS shifting your perception of your imperfection.

I know, here I go again talking about shifting your MINDSET. But, literally, I talk about it all the time, because it is the game-changer for just about everything in life. Most importantly, your ability to achieve your goals.

So, what you want to do is shift your perception, so that you see your imperfection, problem or disadvantage for what it can be.

See your disadvantage as an advantage. And advantage to attract YOUR ideal audience or clients. An advantage to be relatable. See it as an ASSET.

It can be the one thing that makes you stand out or noticeable in a crowd or in an oversaturated market. And, it can be what ATTRACTS what is ideal for you, to you… Ideal clients, ideal opportunities, connections, etc.

It CAN be, IF you SHIFT your perception, embrace the flaws and allow it to WORK for you!

Your IMPERFECTION could very well be your superpower.

For more tips & strategies on slaying your goals, I encourage you to read my blog on tackling limiting beliefs. This is beneficial to getting to the root issue of perfectionism and taking steps to conquering it.

Thank you for reading! Share with someone who needs this.

The Beginning of the End

The 3 Days That Changed My Life..

Well, 1/4rth of it anyway!

I was stuck.

I had a dream, but I lacked a plan of action.

I did not have a plan tailored to my needs.

I was winging it and that didn’t work.

But in December of 2015, I attended a 3 day workshop that changed my life.

It changed my life, because it challenged and changed my mindset.

I walked away with new strategies to implement into my daily routine, that not only changed my mindset, but my results.

Change your mindset. Change your life.

I immediately began to insert the strategies that I learned into my daily routine.

I did not see overnight results, but I was consistent.

The biggest win was in my mindset.

I became more positive, more focused and more aware.

I became alert of negativity and I knew how to fight it mentally and emotionally.

In a nutshell, what I began to do is this:

I began to write down my goals is detail.

I began to rewrite those same goals everyday. I began to read those goals aloud every day.

I was consistent. I began to believe.

Initially, I didn’t know how it was going to happen.

Nevertheless, I took my goals and created a plan. That plan did not always work.

So, I would go back and make adjustments until I found a strategy that worked with my work-life balance.

The end result of my new habits were that my “then” goals became my “now” reality!

After two additional semesters of re-taking 1 course, Probability and Statistics, I finally graduated with my Bachelors of Science in Psychology.

I finished writing my 3rd book.

I became a more confident person. I began to love myself, flaws and all.

I moved out of my parents house and into my first apartment.

Despite unforeseen health and financial setbacks, I was able to maintain, overall, a positive mindset.

Not once did I allow myself to think, “Oh, I won’t be able to afford it” (bills, rent, etc.).

That’s because, I’d put in the work to build a positive mindset.

When negative thoughts pop up, I instantly recognize it, kick it to the curb and replace it with positivity.

Like most things, it takes practice and consistency to develop this habit.

This list is not extensive, but each of those accomplishments are huge for me.

Each of those goals I wrote down everyday.

Each of those goals, I spoke aloud as if I’d already achieved it. I did that everyday.

With each of my goals, my faith was tested. Each of those goals saw victory , no matter how long it took.

Again, it did not happen overnight.

I thought, with what I’d begun doing, that I would graduate that first semester.

Nope. I failed the class again (3rd time was a charm). I continued doing what I’d started.

I wrote my goals. I spoke my goals. I followed my plan of action.

Eventually, I saw results.

It doesn’t matter how big or small your goals are.

What matters is that you are strategic, consistent and motivated.

Those three days changed my life, because it initiated a change in the way that I think. And, mindset is everything. So, once you shift your mindset, your whole life can change! 

If you are lacking motivation or struggling to accomplish your goals, I encourage you to check out my new book “Empower You!” Empower You is a 70 day devotional for your mind that will motivate and inspire you to embrace your unique self, discover your passion + purpose and shift your mindset so that you can successfully pursue your goals, live your dream and ultimately live your life operating in your God given purpose. You can get your copy HERE.

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