It Happens to Us All

As I sit at my favorite Starbucks, sippin’ on my Toasted White Chocolate Mocha, I look around at the people around me and I recognize something instantly… How different we all are. Some faces look vaguely familiar, while others I’ve never seen before. We’re all here for different reasons. However, another thought crosses my mind. We all have something in common.. we’ve each experienced something in our lives that caused us to pause or give up entirely on our dreams.

We all have a dream. We all have an idea of what our ideal life looks like. Even if you’re not clear on what your ideal life looks like or if you’ve never taken time to actually think about it, it still exists. And, what’s even more real, is the sad reality that very few people are living their ideal life. I want to change that. I am passionate about empowering people to dream big, realize that their dream is possible and to then take strategic action to make it happen!

2019 has been one hell of a year for most of us hasn’t it? I’ve seen the comments all up and down my social media timelines. I know it’s been a challenging year. We’ve experienced setbacks and disappointments that has left many of us discouraged about our futures as it concerns our dreams. Many of you paused when life happened unexpectedly and you never pressed play again. How many of you will be honest and admit that you feel stuck right now? That, 2019 didn’t quite go how you wanted or expected it to go?

Moment of transparency: Although I slayed many of my 2019 goals, I still experienced setbacks and disappointments that cause me to feel stuck. And, I say this not to brag, but to make a point.. I am so proud of myself, because THIS time, THIS year, I kept going! I didn’t press pause and just stay there. I’m still running towards my dream at a faster pace than before. Not everybody can say that. I’m thankful that I can and I’m ready to share with you how I did it and how you can to!

One of my top goals this year was to launch my coaching business, do a bit of traveling and speaking. I was hoping that the relationship I was in would progress to the next level and I was hoping I’d get my new job a lot sooner than I did. But, 2019 did not go how I was initially hoping it would go. Instead, it took 9+ months to land a new job, my 2 year relationship ended unexpectedly in heartbreak and immense disappointment and the speaking gig I had fell through. Listen, this has been one hell of a year. This time last year, I wanted to end my life. But, here I sit today at Starbucks, working on my dream and building the foundation for my ideal future. I can’t lie, I’ve been fighting off depression hard – trying not to entertain certain thoughts and distract my mind from triggers that cause me to spiral out of control emotionally when I focus on them to long. It hasn’t been easy at all. In fact, in an attempt to focus on what really matters, I’ve narrowed my focus to the point where I’ve left some people in my life and important things on the back burner.

I share all that to say this: It’s okay to be under construction. It’s okay to be a work in progress, it’s okay to be IN the process of healing and still working on your dreams. And, it IS possible to keep going even when you FEEL stuck. There are memories and emotions that have caused me to PAUSE mentally and emotionally – where I don’t allow myself to focus on certain aspects of my life; for instance, my relationships. Instead, I’ve focused on starting my business. Because, at least that is something I can control right? It’s something you have to GROW through! And, that’s okay.

Before we go, I want to share with you what has helped me KEEP going. To keep going, sometimes, you need to SHIFT your focus onto what is creating positive energy in your life. But, you want to make sure that you’re allowing yourself to heal and cope with life’s setbacks and disappointments in a healthy way. Don’t avoid or cover up what has caused you to pause or stop. Focus on it long enough to deal with it and heal. But, focus MORE your energy on positive people/influences and taking positive Action. Shift your perspective so that you view your setbacks and disappoints as lessons and opportunities to elevate.

Practical things that have helped me keep going is 1) Not procrastinating. Don’t wait to deal with the issue. Deal with it upfront. Focus on finding a solution or alternative, rather than complaining about what didn’t go right. Be solution focused.

2) Practicing mindfulness. I’ll admit, I’m a chronic over thinker, so practicing mindfulness is challenging for me at times. However, meditation, journaling and prayer have worked well for me. I’m not as consistent as I’d like to be, but just getting in the habit of doing it often helps immensely.

3) Maintaining a Positive Success Mindset. This is huge. I’ve worked hard to develop the mindset that I have and it is necessity for me, especially during this time of year. Before I had the mindset I have now, I complained all the time, I easily saw and focused on ALL things negative. I wasn’t solution focused at all. Now that I am, I am able to stay focused on my goals and KEEP going.

4) Remembering my WHY factor. During the most challenging moments of 2019, I remembered my REASON WHY and that was ALL the motivation I needed to KEEP going. There were things that came to an end in 2019, but that didn’t mean I had to stop. Nope, I grieved and am still healing, but I’ve continued making moves, because of my WHY factor!

My friend, you have what it takes to pursue your goals, live your dream and to live your life operating in your God given purpose. I know 2019 was one hell of year, but don’t let that discourage you from chasing after your goals harder than you ever have in 2020. In fact, I encourage you to start NOW. Build momentum, so you can pace yourself come January 1st.

I’ve created an awesome opportunity to help you do just that. My 7 Day Goal Success Challenge is starting on Monday, December 16th! For 7 days I’ll be sharing my 7 Step Strategy to setting & slaying your goals. This strategy can help you KEEP GOING, because you’ll have set the right kind of goal, the right kind of plan and… Well, you’ll have to JOIN the challenge to find out! When you join, you’ll get a FREE Goal Success Checklist, 7 videos (1 for each step) and a FREE Set Goals & Slay Workbook + Planner! CLICK HERE TO JOIN!

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