These 7 Words Can Change Your Life

I did not know what I wanted to do with my life.

It was my senior year of college and most of my peers seemed to know what their plans were post-graduation. Some planned to go to grad school and others planned to enter the workforce. No matter what path they were choosing, most seemed to know what field of work and career path they wanted to pursue. Some had internships lined up and others were already interviewing for jobs. But not me. Nope, I had no clue what I wanted to do.

I started my college career as a double major; majoring in music with an emphasis in voice and psychology. Half-way through, I decided to drop one of my majors and focus on one. I chose psychology, because although I loved music, I knew that with my lack of knowing what career I really wanted to pursue, majoring in Psychology would give me flexibility to take my time to decide and to go in multiple directions. Well, that worked out well since the 2nd semester of my senior year arrived and I still didn’t have a clue what I would do.

Fast forward to December of 2016 when I attended a 3 day workshop called Publish a Book and Grow Rich. Y’all, I thought I was going to learn about publishing a book and getting rich, and don’t get me wrong, I did learn about that but I walked away with knowledge of something I’d never thought twice about. Not only that, but it was the beginning of me discovering both my passion and purpose in life. I mean when I first arrived at the event, I had no desire to write and publish another book. However, that weekend, the speaker who taught us, provided a lot of life changing information about mindset. Mindset. That was a term I wasn’t really familiar with. Of course I’d heard the word thrown around before, but I never studied it in depth or learned what it really meant, let alone how it worked.

That weekend changed my life. While I learned valuable tools and techniques for developing and transforming your mindset and achieving your goals, it was 7 words that were spoken time and time again. I will never forget those 7 words, because it was those 7 words that changed the trajectory of my life. It gave me a sense of direction and purpose. Those 7 words can change your life as well, IF you really grasp the meaning behind them.

Mindset is one of the most simple yet complex terms I’ve ever come to know. It sounds so simple, that many people don’t think twice about its meaning. Like literally, we have the power to create our future and our realities simply by the thoughts we think and the words we speak. I mean who hasn’t heard cliches like, “be careful what you think, your thoughts run your life,” “words have power” and “death and life is in the power of the tongue.” I mean these are cliche’s that are not only preached in pulpits, but their taught among atheists and agnostics as well. While the concept is biblical, its popular among those who aren’t into religion at all. It’s so cliche’ that we as humanity, just don’t consider it as much as we should. I mean if we did, most of us wouldn’t complain half as much as we do right?

Those 7 words changed my life, because I began to study and train myself to become more aware and careful of the kind of thoughts I allow myself to think consistently. The more I practiced, the easier it became. Oh trust, I still complain and I’m not always positive. But, it’s amazing how far I’ve come and the results that I’ve seen manifest in my life is all the motivation I need to continue. I’ve become so much more confident and happy in life, ever since I took control of my mindset. The key to changing your life, is changing your mindset. Of course, there’s more to it than that. But, your mindset is the best place to start. Take back your power and realize that negative people and situations only have as much power as you allow them to have. They only have power to influence your mindset. You set the limits and determine how it impacts you.

What you think about, you bring about. Let those words change your life. Whatever you think about consistently, that is what you are attracting into your life. Those words changed my life because I changed the thoughts that I was thinking consistently. I began to focus my thoughts on what I wanted in my life and I began to see those things manifest. Seeing how the information I learned at that 3 day workshop impacted my life, inspired me to want to share that life changing information with others – for a living. It inspired my 3rd book, Empower You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind” and my first business ( I’ll tell you about that later!)

This week I challenge you to pull up YouTube on your phone and watch a few videos on Mindset and the power of your thoughts. And, find a way to practice becoming more aware of your thoughts and focus points throughout the day and to practice changing those negative thought patterns to more positive ones. You can do this through meditation and journaling. As always, feel free to share your thoughts below in the comments & share with someone who needs this!

4 Steps to Clarify What You Want in Life

Are you feeling confused about which direction to take in life? Do you know what you really want in life? I am about to share with you the 4 steps that you need to take to clarify what you really want.

Before you set any goal, before you create any plan of action, you first need to identify what it is that you really want. So, I am going to walk you through the steps to clarify what it is that you really want. That way, you don’t waste time taking unnecessary steps or investing in something that you don’t really want to invest in. We only get one life on earth, so let’s make the most of it!

The reason so many people feel stuck and lack a sense of direction in life is because they have not taken time to get clear about what they really want. Sure, they have a few ideas that sound good, but rarely are those ideas their own. Instead, they are ideas that other people have projected onto them, as innocently as “hey, I think you’d be great at such and such..” But, when it’s all said and done, it’s not really what he/she is passionate about. It’s not really what they want to do. So, the real question is, how do you identify exactly what it is that you want to do? What do you want to spend your time doing most? Because, let’s face it, it’s easy to get caught up in what sounds good or looks good on paper, only to soon find yourself unhappy. A common example of this is in the work place. I mean, how many people are really, honestly and truly happy with their career? How many people wake up without dreading what they’re about to spend the next 8 or so hours of their life doing? Not enough.

My hope is that you are not one of them. Not only that, but I want you to know that, that doesn’t have to be your story. It is possible, that you can wake up every day, looking forward to the days endeavors. But first, you’ve got to get clear about what you really want. And then, you can go about setting a goal and creating a plan that will give you the best possible shot at achieving what you want to achieve.

The 1rst step to clarifying what you want is to confront everything you think you want. This includes everything people have told you that you should do and want for yourself, etc. To do this, I encourage you to get in a quiet place, with a note pad (paper or on your cellphone or laptop) and create a list of everything that comes to mind. Try not to think too hard about it. Once you are done creating your list, get up and do something else.. Go wash the dishes, go for a walk, make a phone call.. Just do something else, but keep your mind off of the list. Once you’re done, go back and re-read your list. Accept what is on the list as “what was.” After you’ve done this, either throw away the list or delete it completely. Hopefully, you’ll find that you feel “free” of what you wrote down.

The 2nd step is to meditate. You have several options for this. You can do a meditation on your own, or you can go on YouTube and find a guided meditation to follow. You can also opt to download an app such as Calm or HeadSpace. Also, the meditation doesn’t have to be long. I’d suggest doing 5 to 15 minutes or however long you need. The point of taking this step is to clear your mind and to regain control of your thoughts.

The 3rd step is to complete a visualization exercise. Now, I have a specific visualization exercise that I will be using with my coaching clients. However, you can find many guided visualization exercises on YouTube. One that I recommend using can be found HERE. Completing a visualization exercise is an important step, because this is where you have a blank canvas and begin to dig deep and create your dream life. You, in a sense, use your imagination to create your ideal future, what that that looks like. You envision what you really want in a world where anything is possible and there are no limitations.

Note: In step one, you are confronting limiting thought/beliefs and releasing them. In step two, your’e creating a blank canvas. Step three is where you will discover and create. Then, you should be ready to identify what needs to be done to make your dream become your reality.

Step 4 is to write the vision and make it plain. This is where you transfer what you saw in your imagination onto paper. There are different ways that you can do this, however, two of my favorite ways are 1) Journaling and 2) Scripting. If you choose to journal, you are going to approach this as a freestyle activity. What I mean by this, is that you’re going to write about what you want freely. There is no particular structure to follow. Whereas, with scripting, you’re going to write as if it is happening in that very moment. So, you’ll say things like “I am” and “I have.” And, this is where you’ll begin to manifest what you want. The key to this step, whether you’re journaling or scripting, is to emotionally connect to what it is that you’re writing. Get in touch, using your senses and describe them in your journal/script. And, as you re-read what you’ve written, be sure to feel the emotions as if you already have what you want, as if you’re already living that life.

Once you have completed the 4rth step, you can choose to save or delete what you have written. But, after you’ve re-read it, put it away and walk away. Piggy-backing off of step one, you’ll want to release the desire into the atmosphere and trust God with it. Later, you can come back and set a strategic goal, create a plan of action and begin taking the necessary steps to make it happen!

As always, feel free to share your thoughts below!

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Hi, my name is Kezia Marie and I am your Goal Success Coach.
My mission is to empower you to clarify, set and slay your goals!

I’m Kezia Marie and I am an empowerment author, spoken word poet and Behavior Health Technician. In 2015, I graduated from Grand Canyon University with my Bachelor’s degree in Psychology. I’ve been working in the behavior health field for 3+ years. Initially, I started out working with adults diagnosed with Serious Mental Illness and I’ve worked for the past 2 years with at risk youth ages 10 – 18. I am also a certified life and solution-focused coach. I am the author of Brokennedy (Broken and Needy), Shout out to the World: The Spoken Words of a Floetic Soul and Empower  You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind.

I am launching my mindset & goal success coaching program in the Spring of 2020. However, I am now looking for 4 clients to test drive this new program. And, you know what the best part is? It’s FREE. All that is required is your time & commitment.

There are only 4 spots open. The first 4 clients to enroll will receive a hard copy of my Set Goals & Slay Workbook and up to 8 complimentary coaching sessions. Clients may choose from the following areas: Passion + Purpose, Goal Setting Strategy, Mindset Mentoring or a Laser session. More details about each program can be found at HERE.

Vision of Set Goals & Slay Coaching LLC.

To see women successfully pursue their goals, live their dream and to ultimately live their life operating in their God given purpose.

Mission of Set Goals & Slay Coaching LLC.

To empower women to set goals and slay through mindset and goal success coaching; by way of teaching strategies to: shift mindsets from a negative to a positive success mindset, to identify one’s passion and life purpose, to set strategic goals, to create a plan of action and to identify and breakthrough limiting beliefs.

My mission as a coach is to empower you and assist you in clarifying, setting and achieving your goals.

Coaching Services and Packages

Discovery Call

During this call, we will discuss the clients’ aspirations, passion + purpose and will identify limitations/limiting beliefs. We will discuss the Set Goals & Slay Coaching’s mission, programs and whether or not one the programs is a good fit for the client. We will also discuss whether or not the client would like to move forward with a program.

Passion and Purpose Discovery Sessions

30 minute to 1 hour session(s) in which the client and I will discuss and work through various worksheets, activities and strategies that will guide them in the discovery of his/her passion. Upon the discovery of client’s passion and purpose, we will brainstorm various ways to connect that passion and purpose together. Also, we will identify various volunteer, career and entrepreneurship opportunities that will allow the client to do what they love while generating an income. Additionally, as coach, I will assist each client in creating a plan of action, so that they can begin to pursue their new opportunity of choice. I will be an accountability partner for each client by checking in weekly to discuss progress and to address any concerns that they may have along their journey to living their dream(s).

Goal Setting Sessions

30 minute to 1 hour sessions(s) in which I will work with each client to set strategic goals, create a plan of action, identify and breakthrough limitations and limiting beliefs. I will be an accountability partner for each client by checking in weekly to discuss progress and to address any questions and concerns that they may have along their journey of pursuing their goals and living their dream(s).

Mindset Mentoring

30 minute to 1 hour session(s) in which I will work with each client to develop a positive, success “growth” mindset. I will do this by sharing various strategies that will challenge negative mindsets and provoke change in perception of circumstances, which will have a direct effect on their behavior.

I can’t wait to begin working with you!
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How I Overcame Shyness

Growing up, I was extremely shy. In grade school, I would not say a word to teachers or peers. I would literally nod my head or point in response to a question. Because I refused to talk, I didn’t make friends, so I was always alone. Not only that, but I ended up being bullied by peers, in their attempt to get me to talk. Needless to say, those attempts didn’t work. I simply would run away or physically fight back and after school, sometimes, I would cry.

I didn’t begin to come out of my shell until middle school. By then, I was verbally responsive, making friends and participating in after school clubs. In high school, I was still pretty quiet, but I managed to make a few friends and participated in activities that forced me to speak up. It was during my Sophomore year of high school that I discovered my love for spoken word poetry. I always say that spoken word poetry gave me the courage to say everything I’d been to afraid to say. I went on to perform and tied for 1rst place in the talent show Junior year. I continued to write and perform spoken word as a way to express myself through college and post graduation. It was through that, that I found courage, and discovered my desire to motivate people and a love for socializing and being on stage.

As you can imagine, people who saw me step on stage, performing spoken word for the first time were surprised. That is a common response of those who were used to the shy girl, who never talked. I am blessed to have found the courage to step out and share what I am most passionate about with others. No longer does shyness hold me back from doing what requires me to be social and at the forefront.

If you are shy and find that your shyness is hindering you from putting yourself out there, I want you to know that it is possible to overcome! I want you to know exactly what I did to overcome my shyness.

The way that I was able to overcome my shyness, step on stage and perform spoken word without a hint of nervousness, was by doing this: shifting my mindset. I know, all I talk about it mindset, but hear me out on this one.

It all began with a shift in focus & perspective. When your mindset changes, your perspective “thoughts & beliefs” change. My thoughts and beliefs about me performing poetry that I’d written changed. I focused all of my attention and nervous energy on the message and purpose of the poem and the reason why I wanted to perform spoken word. I wrote poetry to share my story and to inspire people. I knew that in order to do that, I would have to perform at my best. I knew that if I let my nervousness take over, it would distract the audience from really hearing what I had to say. I believed that what I had to say was important and that I had to put shyness, doubt, fear and insecurity to the side. The purpose behind my desire became bigger and more important than my fears. I shifted my mindset and then I took action, leaving no room for negativity. I overcame shyness and found courage to do what I love, by doing THAT every time.

To this day, whenever I have to speak or perform in front of a group of people, I remind myself of the purpose. I focus all of my attention on that! For me, it works like magic. You know what, I tend to be less nervous the larger an audience tends to be. My guess, is that mentally, the sense of urgency increases for me, because there are more people who will hear what I have to say, more people to inspire. If you struggle with shyness, try shifting your focus. Share your thoughts in the comments below!

How to Get Unstuck

Have you ever felt stuck in multiple OR every area of your life ALL at once?

At the beginning of 2019 I set my goals and I was determined to slay each and every of them! And you know what, I started off strong. First 3 months, I was killing it. April came, and I began to lose momentum. May came I began to feel stuck, but kept pushing! And, then June came and well, I’ve just been feeling plain stuck, in every area of my life. Now, if that is not discouraging, I don’t know what is.

Now, there are a variety of things you can do to help you get unstuck. You can exercise, meditate, take a vacation, journal, etc. All of those things can be helpful in getting unstuck. But, what I want to share with you today is that “feeling stuck” is like a symptom to a bigger problem. So, think of the above examples as ways to treat the symptom and what I am about to share with you as a way to treat the root of the issue!

1) You’re feeling stuck. And, that’s okay. Everyone experiences this at some point in their life. The first thing I want you to realize, is that feeling stuck, is just that. It is a feeling. It is not an accurate indication of where you actually are. If you’ve been making moves, putting in work, taking actions steps to achieve your goals, then you are not stuck. Even if you’ve just been going round and round in circles. No matter how it feels, you are not stuck!

2) Okay, so you’re probably thinking, if I’m not stuck then, where am I? You are in transition. You are in unfamiliar territory. You are in route. Regardless of where you are, you are not where you began and if you’re feeling stuck, then you’re likely not where you desire to be. So, you need to make sure that you have a clear vision of where you would like to be. To do this, I would suggest meditation to clear your mind and a visualization exercise to get a clear picture of where you want to be.

3) After you’ve taken time to identify and clarify where you want to be, then it is time to re-create the plan. If you have set goals without an action plan, that could be a reason why you are feeling stuck. If you have a plan, but are struggling to execute the steps along the way, that could be why you are feeling stuck. So, I need you to know that it is okay to stop and re-calibrate. It is okay to re-adjust, to re-create the plan and to align. Go back and see what is not working, why it is not working and try something else! What you do today should be in alignment with what you desire to manifest tomorrow.

4) Do something different. If you keep doing what you’ve always done, chances are, you will continue to generate the same results. The point of re-creating your plan, is to ensure that you do something different. Take a risk. Step outside of your comfort zone. Stop waiting for a perfect time or to feel a certain way and just go for it!

5) Be consistent. Remember that feeling stuck is just a “feeling.” You won’t feel that way forever. Keep moving in the direction of your dreams, and eventually you will get there. And, remember this: Everything is not always as it appears to be on the surface, and if the challenges are increasing, then you’re probably closer than you think!

Share your thoughts below. I’d love to know what you think!

The Secret to Slaying Your Goals

You have goals, dreams and aspirations! Right now, that is all they are. They are not your reality. Not, because you’re unwilling to do what it takes to make it your reality. But, for some reason you just can’t seem to make it happen. Somewhere along the journey to achieving your goals, you get stuck. Your goals, dreams and aspirations matter.. So, it’s time to get unstuck!

About 3 – 4 years ago, I had a lot of goals. I wanted to graduate college, get a better paying job, move into my own apartment, write and publish my 3rd book, deal with my depression, anxiety and suicidal ideations in a healthy way and more!

I wanted to graduate college, but I ended up doing an additional 1 + 1/2 year due to failing and having to re-take multiple courses. That, also resulted in my gpa dropping, losing my scholarships and taking out multiple student loans. After graduation, I was 23 years old and ready to move into my own place, except I was only working 1 job, working less than 40 hours a week, making $10 an hour. By that time, I’d already written and had 2 books published. I had a concept for my 3rd book, however I had writers block and a lack of motivation. And then, there was the depression, panic attacks and suicidal ideations that I battled all the while I was working as a BHT, working with adults with serious mental illness; supporting, advocating and educating clients on coping with their own anxiety and depression.

For every goal, there was a roadblock that initially stood in my way. The good news is that eventually, I achieved each of those goals. Every goal that I’ve been able to accomplish was because of one thing. Once, you know what it is and how to use it to your advantage, then you have a shot at achieving all of your goals!

I do believe that with God, absolutely anything is possible.

Things did not begin to shift in my life, until December of 2016 when I attended a 3 day Writers conference, that changed my life. I went in expecting to learn about writing and publishing a book, and I did. But, that is not what changed my life. What changed my life was the knowledge I gained about Mindset. I went in with one concept for my 3rd book and walked out with a whole new inspiration. Mindset Transformation. My 3rd book, Empower You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind was inspired by my desire to share what I’ve learned with others.

The learning didn’t end at the conference, it was only the beginning. The books, courses, seminars and conferences that I’ve attended since then, have only increased my knowledge. I took what I learned, and began to apply it to my life. That is when I began to achieve my goals. And, I am ready to share with you what I believe IS the secret to slaying your goals!

I have created a FREE webinar in which I will share with you the secret to slaying your goals. You can also download your FREE copy of the Set Goals & Slay: Petty on Purpose Workbook.

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The Fear of Rejection

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Everyday it’s an ongoing battle

I’m at war with myself

With my thoughts

Everyday, haunted with memories and fears

Constantly fighting off negative thoughts

What if this and what if that?

And, what lies beneath it all, I have discovered is fear

Fear of what exactly? 

What is it that I’m afraid of

What am I trying so hard to protect myself from?

Rejection.

I’m afraid of being hurt and rejected

Again

I’m afraid of the tears, the loneliness and heartbreak

I’m afraid of the disappointment 

The worst days of my life were the most painful

I fear feeling how I felt then, again

Memories of those moments, they come back to haunt me

So, everyday I’m fighting off negative thoughts that try to consume me 

And hold me captive to my past

Everyday it’s a fight

Everyday it’s a struggle

And, I want to fight because I can 

But, can I be honest.. I’m tired

I’m tired of having to fight

I’m tired of facing the lingering fear of rejection

Sometimes, I wish someone could fight for me

Or, that I didn’t have to fight at all

Wish I could get rid of this fear once and for all

How do I get this fear under subjection?

Because it accompanies me daily like I’m the object of it’s affection

I’ve become it’s kryptonite

So, I try to be strong

Act like nothing’s wrong

I wasn’t given the spirit of fear

So how do I let it go?

How do I conquer it before it conquers me?

How do I find the motivation to fight daily?

They said to guard my heart

So, I used that to justify putting up a wall

But walls don’t stop you from falling

But, can cause  you to lose everything you’ve ever wanted

Fear distracts and fear destroys if it’s not destroyed first

Fear has it’s place

But, not when it comes to peace of mind

I’m just out here, trying to find mine.

(Spoken Word Poem by Kezia Marie ©) 

 

I’ve struggled with anxiety for awhile now. Most days, I have a good handle on it. But, some days, it gets the best of me. I have come to realize the the underlying cause of my anxiety and stress is fear; a fear of the things that I cannot control. Most of my worrying comes from worrying about the future. This makes sense, when I consider the type of person I am. I am goal oriented and solution focused. I dislike reflecting on the past if its not to learn from past experience with the expectation that I will benefit from it moving forward. I like to be in control, or at least have an awareness of what is going on with me and around me. But, we all know that, that is  not how life works. We don’t get to be in control of everything. Some things happen unexpectedly and by chance. And, while I do love surprises, I like to limit what those kind of surprises can be.

Knowing the type of person I am, clearly, I am like a magnet for anxiety! And, of course, seeing this as a problem, I am quick to look for a solution. How do I solve this problem? How do I conquer my fear without it conquering me? Well, what I can tell you, is that the perfect place to begin is at the root. What is the foundation of my fear? Rejection. This means that something has happened in my past that has caused me to feel certain, negative emotions that initiated the fear factor. My negative emotions are not connected to the event or person itself, but it is to how it made me feel. So, whenever anything happens (trigger) that causes me to feel similar emotions today, I am instantly reminded of those past events and that increases those intense emotions that translates into anxiety. I become anxious, uneasy, unsettled, irritable, I panic. In those moments it becomes difficult to focus on anything but what I consider to be a problem that I can’t gain control of. 

Thursday morning I awoke, feeling mentally and emotionally exhausted, because of what I’d been struggling with. My fear of rejection. I’d been planning to write a blog on this topic for awhile, but 24 days went by and I just had no idea what to say or where to begin. But, that morning, I lay there, knowing how blessed I am to have what I have and who I have in my life, but was yet afraid that my fear could cause me  to forfeit God’s blessings. I ended up writing this poem instead. Normally, my poems are about my personal experiences and typically end with a positive spin or perspective meant to encourage others. Not this time. I felt like I had no answer, when usually, I do. I had no answers. No word of hope. Nothing more to say. Just raw emotion. 

Today is Sunday. And, I still have no answers. But someone dropped a word of encouragement in my inbox the same day, without knowing what I was dealing with prior to. I was reminded of Proverbs 3: 5 – 6 which says to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding: in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your path straight.” This was not only a great answer to my having no answers, but also to my struggle with anxiety. The root of my anxiety is fear, and fear is something that will always present itself. But, whatever the circumstance may be, the answer or solution will always be to trust God no matter what! Regardless of my understanding, I just need to trust him, not rely on my own understanding or inability to understand and to just submit to the process. In Philippians 4:6, we are instructed to be anxious for nothing! He wouldn’t instruct us to do something we aren’t capable of doing or that he is not willing to help us do. Knowing this, I know that I can and will conquer anxiety, so that it does not conquer me! 

 

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How to Get Unstuck: Successfully Pursue and Achieve your Goals!

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Did you make a resolution or set a goal(s) at the beginning of the year? If so, where are you now? Are you currently working towards your goal or have you already thrown in the towel? According to research, 80% of New Years resolutions fall through by February! Why is that?

Let’s be real, most goals come with its own set of challenges. It can be an uphill battle. But, I will tell you this.. The difference between those who successfully reach their goal and those who do not, is their mindset! They’re mindset is different. Different how? Glad you asked. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “mindset is everything” countless times already. So much so, that it’s probably just another cliché’ to you. But, many cliché’s hold a whole lot of truth. As does this one. Your mindset determines whether or not you will be successful in life or not. A lot of times we place the blame, for our lack of success or consistency on luck, circumstances or other people. But, the truth is, we have more control than most realize. You have more control over your results/outcome than you realize.  People and circumstances, both the good, bad and the ugly, only have the power to influence. Influence what exactly? Our actions or inaction. How we react to the people and things that happen in our lives is what defines us. It’s not the event that defines who we are; it’s our reaction to it that defines who we are and determines our success or failure.

If you have found yourself giving up and throwing in the towel, when it comes to accomplishing your goals, then you may agree that you got stuck along the way. It’s not that the desire to reach that goal has dissipated. It’s just that life happened and influenced your inaction. Your inaction is a direct effect of your mindset.  In my new book, Empower You, I talk a lot about developing a positive, success mindset. This kind of mindset is the kind of mindset that will enable you to keep going, despite a lack of motivation, a lack of support, etc. If you’d like to learn more about developing a success mindset that will help you successfully pursue your goals, then I invite you to grab your copy of my book! Just click HERE.

I am sure that you set your goal for a reason. So, if you’ve temporarily put the pursuit of your goal on hold, then I encourage you to learn how to get unstuck! Too many people have lived and died, without going after their dreams. And, I am certain that a good amount of those individuals did not have a positive, success mindset and likely gave up when they got stuck , assuming that they tried at all. I’m just saying. With all that being said, I don’t want you to ever feel like you won’t ever be able to reach your goals because you feel stuck. Understand that pursuing your goal is a process. And, depending on the goal, it likely won’t happen overnight. Feeling stuck is a part of the process. Your success is dependent on your ability to overcome setbacks, overwhelm and feelings like feeling stuck! Here are 3 things that you can do to get unstuck!

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1) Unwind. Take time to relax and unwind. Do something that is unrelated to your goals and dreams, but is something that you thoroughly enjoy. Go on a staycation or vacation if possible. Do something or go somewhere that will allow for a change of scenery. I suggest doing this, because often times, getting a change of scenery and a change of pace can help to de-clutter your mind and relax mentally and emotionally. Relax your body and your mind should begin to relax as well. Try yoga, meditation or prayer. Try detoxing or going on a fast or cleanse. Sometimes, giving your physical body rest and re-boot can have a direct effect on your mentality as well. Put yourself in position to start fresh.

Embrace Where You Are

2) Embrace where you are. Be honest with yourself about where you stand in the pursuit of your goals. Take full responsibility for your actions or inaction. Acknowledge the problem or mistake. Instead of placing the blame on other people and circumstances, shine the light on yourself. Instead of deflecting and avoiding your reality and what it is that you really want to have or where you desire to be, face it. Embrace every experience that has led you to this moment in time, right here, right now. Accept it for what it is. A learning opportunity. Make up in your mind that you are going to move forward. Decide that you are going to keep going!

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3) Shift your perspective. As mentioned before, mindset is everything! Your mindset is the sum of your attitude/beliefs about something or someone. How do you perceive your goal and your ability to pursue and accomplish that goal? If you are feeling like your goal is difficult to reach, then I suggest a do-over. Go back and re-write that goal and ensure that you have constructed a SMART goal. A SMART goal is specific, measurable, achievable, relevant or realistic and trackable! Check out my Set Goals & Slay Starter pack for help in setting strategic goals for success! (Click HERE)

It’s okay to feel stuck. It is a part of the process. It is common. But, it is up to you to decide not to stay there. Getting stuck is often inevitable, but staying stuck is a choice! You have more control, more say-so in the matter than you may have realized initially. No one can pursue your dream for you. Don’t give people or circumstances more power over your goals and dreams than they really have. They only have as much power as you allow them to have. Really, they only have the power to influence your action or inaction.

Take back your power! Don’t stay stuck! Take action!

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You Don’t Have to Wait..

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Ugghh! I use to HATE hearing people say that “happiness is a choice.” I hated it. I didn’t understand how that was possible.

For 90% of my childhood, I was the shy, lonely, nerd who was just unhappy. Throughout my teenage years, I was miserable. Struggled with low self-esteem, depression.. And most of the time, I felt invisible. Sure, I laughed & smiled but deep down I wasn’t happy. So yeah, I didn’t get how happiness could possibly be a choice. I wanted to be happy. I just didn’t realize that I could be.

As a teen, I was the queen of negativity! I murmured & complained about anything and everything. I struggled to see the good in people and situations. I made MY mediocre problems bigger than they really were. I can’t pinpoint exactly when a shift occurred, but I can tell you that once the shift happened, my whole life changed.

The shift was in my mindset. Once that changed, my perspective of everything going on in my life changed. My perspective shifted & I began to see things through a more positive lense. The people & situations didn’t change, but the way I perceived them did!!

Regardless of what was going on, I became happier. I became content. I discovered my worth, passion and purpose. I found a genuine reason to be happy that wasn’t based on a particular person or thing 🙌

It’s true when they say, you can’t live a positive life with a negative mind… Check out my latest blog post for 4 ways you can transform your mindset in order to become a more positive person.

I have a new book out called Empower You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind! It is a great read for those who are struggling with negative thinking or lack motivation. Empower You  will help you get motivated, get focused, slay your goals & to strategically align yourself with what you desire & with what you’ve been created to do in life! You can grab your copy today by clicking the link below. 

4 Steps to Bounce Back

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Your setback is a setup for your comeback!

For a good chunk of my childhood, I was not allowed to watch TV. Seriously. I mean, my family did not own a TV set, we did not have cable for the longest time. I didn’t get to indulge in what was a normal part of daily entertainment for most people. So, it’s no surprise that I tend to get the side eye and a mixed look of humor, confusion and pity, when people discover that I am oblivious to many of the “must see” movies and TV shows that were popular in the 90’s. When comparing my lack of knowledge of TV shows and movies to other 24 year old’s, you’d probably assume that I just lived under a rock for most of my childhood. Yeah, so, it’s also no surprise that my love for Superhero movies did not develop until, well, this year actually.

Yes, I confess: I love superhero movies. By no means am I a fanatic, but I just might pick one over a romantic comedy any day. The reason I’ve taken to these movies so quickly, is the whole concept of having skills and abilities that no one else has. Being a game-changer. Having an IT factor. Something that separates you from everybody else. Let’s just say, superheros may have just become my new inspiration. And, I might add, this began before the debut of Black Panther! #WakandaForever .. Nevertheless, I have found inspiration, in the fact that Batman, Superman, Wonder Woman, Black Panther, Spider-Man, Deadpool, Aquaman, Thor, the list goes on, may have similar or differing powers, but they share something in common… The ability to bounce back!

As cheesy as it may sound, I honestly believe that we should all operate as if we have the mindset of a superhero. We all have something unique about us that sets us apart from everybody else that goes way beyond our fingerprint. We all have an IT factor. We are all game changers. But, it’s up to us to discover what our IT factor is, to embrace it and use it to change the game. And, whenever you decide to step out on faith and change the game, to make a difference in this world, to leave and imprint and a legacy.. You will experience setbacks. That is non-negotiable. But, like a superhero, we have the ability to bounce back.

For every action, there is a reaction. For every problem, there is a solution. For every setback, there is a comeback. It’s up to you to execute!

Let’s be honest, bouncing back is easier said than done. So, here are 4 steps that you can take to bounce back.

Have a Pity Party

1) Have a Pity Party! Allow yourself time to embrace/accept what has happened. Literally, set aside time to do just that. You can also use this time to reflect. Ask yourself, what can you learn from the experience? Every experience is an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve as a person.

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2) Live in the moment! Stop Reflecting on the Past. You’ve already done that. Now it’s time to move forward.So, stop worrying about the future, which you can’t change. And, don’t worry about the future, because your attitude and actions NOW is what will affect your LATER. Just be in the moment. Embrace the moment. Accept it for what it is and just breathe.

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3) Relax. Rest. Sleep..  Studies have show that feeling emotionally or mentally fatigued can cause perceived physical exhaustion. Sometimes it pays to be selfish, go into hibernation and just relax, recharge and revive your energy!

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4) Jump off a cliff! Okay, not literally. But, Do get back out there. Do keep going and don’t look back. Don’t wait for the perfect moment to begin again, because there is no perfect moment. If you wait until you feel comfortable, you may end up waiting for forever. Sometimes, you have to just go for it.. jump back in and see what happens.

Take the necessary steps to bounce back. And, always remember, it is a process. 

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